newly diagnoised

October 19, 2006

I never posted before to any group- but after reading many of the

other posts everyone seems to be caring. My husband is in total

denial and insists that I do not have cancer- the doctor called it

pre-cancerous.I was just diagnoiaed with DCIS-intermediate grade at

the beginning of the month. Surgery is this Monday. The doctors all

said that I am a classic case of early detection- this showed up on a

yearly mamo. The area is on the top right side of my right breast and

so small that two opinions said that all I would need is removal of

the area which would be not much more than a surgical biopsy.

Radiation and medication would be determined from the pathology

reports. After reading the posts- I am now wondering did I make the

right choice for a lumptectomy or should I go for more removal?

Everyone thinks that I am making a mountain out of a moe hill- but I

don't want this thing returning. I am going to tell the doctor to

take out as much as he need to for clean margins- but I am scared of

what is down the road. I can't even tell my parents who are elderly

for fear that it would make them sick- I am an only child, but I am

52. I do have friends for support, but they never had this. I lost

two friends form cancer. There is no history of breast cancer in my

family but I got my period at 10 and still get it monthly (lucky me)

The last time I had surgery was for c-sections. Thanks for letting me

vent.

October 19, 2006

Hi Eileen,

It sounds like you have made the right decision. After they do the lumpectomy

you will have a lot more information than you do right now. You've taken the

simplest and most conservative step first. If the new information suggests

another course of action, you'll make those decisions then. That is certainly

what I had to do. When I had my lumpectomy and rads I did not know I was BRCA2

positive. When I discovered that I spent several months considering what my next

step should be. Take your time and trust your instincts. You'll do very well.

Regards,

Maya

---- eileenmp2000 wrote:

> I never posted before to any group- but after reading many of the

> other posts everyone seems to be caring. My husband is in total

> denial and insists that I do not have cancer- the doctor called it

> pre-cancerous.I was just diagnoiaed with DCIS-intermediate grade at

> the beginning of the month. Surgery is this Monday. The doctors all

> said that I am a classic case of early detection- this showed up on a

> yearly mamo. The area is on the top right side of my right breast and

> so small that two opinions said that all I would need is removal of

> the area which would be not much more than a surgical biopsy.

> Radiation and medication would be determined from the pathology

> reports. After reading the posts- I am now wondering did I make the

> right choice for a lumptectomy or should I go for more removal?

> Everyone thinks that I am making a mountain out of a moe hill- but I

> don't want this thing returning. I am going to tell the doctor to

> take out as much as he need to for clean margins- but I am scared of

> what is down the road. I can't even tell my parents who are elderly

> for fear that it would make them sick- I am an only child, but I am

> 52. I do have friends for support, but they never had this. I lost

> two friends form cancer. There is no history of breast cancer in my

> family but I got my period at 10 and still get it monthly (lucky me)

> The last time I had surgery was for c-sections. Thanks for letting me

> vent.

>

October 19, 2006

I had a lumpectomy 10 years ago that was stage 1

and I can remember DCIS means Ductal Carcinoma in situ

(sleeping cancer in Latin) which some people call

stage 0. In any case I can remember wishing the

pathology report said DCIS. In any case I had

the little lumpectomy which was remarkably painless

and went back to work in 1 week. Since it was

stage 1 I needed radiation and chemo and was

lucky enough to tolerate them so well I worked through

them.

I took took tamoxifen for 5 years and had a little

papalomatosis (pre stage 0 and in some cases does

not turn into cancer) on the other side.

This was treated with another little lumpectomy

but no radiation or chemo.

I think you made the right choice.

Hope this helps and welcome to the group.

Cindy

--- eileenmp2000 wrote:

> I never posted before to any group- but after

> reading many of the

> other posts everyone seems to be caring. My husband

> is in total

> denial and insists that I do not have cancer- the

> doctor called it

> pre-cancerous.I was just diagnoiaed with

> DCIS-intermediate grade at

> the beginning of the month. Surgery is this Monday.

> The doctors all

> said that I am a classic case of early detection-

> this showed up on a

> yearly mamo. The area is on the top right side of my

> right breast and

> so small that two opinions said that all I would

> need is removal of

> the area which would be not much more than a

> surgical biopsy.

> Radiation and medication would be determined from

> the pathology

> reports. After reading the posts- I am now wondering

> did I make the

> right choice for a lumptectomy or should I go for

> more removal?

> Everyone thinks that I am making a mountain out of a

> moe hill- but I

> don't want this thing returning. I am going to tell

> the doctor to

> take out as much as he need to for clean margins-

> but I am scared of

> what is down the road. I can't even tell my parents

> who are elderly

> for fear that it would make them sick- I am an only

> child, but I am

> 52. I do have friends for support, but they never

> had this. I lost

> two friends form cancer. There is no history of

> breast cancer in my

> family but I got my period at 10 and still get it

> monthly (lucky me)

> The last time I had surgery was for c-sections.

> Thanks for letting me

> vent.

>

__________________________________________________

October 19, 2006

I had a lumpectomy 10 years ago that was stage 1

and I can remember DCIS means Ductal Carcinoma in situ

(sleeping cancer in Latin) which some people call

stage 0. In any case I can remember wishing the

pathology report said DCIS. In any case I had

the little lumpectomy which was remarkably painless

and went back to work in 1 week. Since it was

stage 1 I needed radiation and chemo and was

lucky enough to tolerate them so well I worked through

them.

I took took tamoxifen for 5 years and had a little

papalomatosis (pre stage 0 and in some cases does

not turn into cancer) on the other side.

This was treated with another little lumpectomy

but no radiation or chemo.

I think you made the right choice.

Hope this helps and welcome to the group.

Cindy

--- eileenmp2000 wrote:

> I never posted before to any group- but after

> reading many of the

> other posts everyone seems to be caring. My husband

> is in total

> denial and insists that I do not have cancer- the

> doctor called it

> pre-cancerous.I was just diagnoiaed with

> DCIS-intermediate grade at

> the beginning of the month. Surgery is this Monday.

> The doctors all

> said that I am a classic case of early detection-

> this showed up on a

> yearly mamo. The area is on the top right side of my

> right breast and

> so small that two opinions said that all I would

> need is removal of

> the area which would be not much more than a

> surgical biopsy.

> Radiation and medication would be determined from

> the pathology

> reports. After reading the posts- I am now wondering

> did I make the

> right choice for a lumptectomy or should I go for

> more removal?

> Everyone thinks that I am making a mountain out of a

> moe hill- but I

> don't want this thing returning. I am going to tell

> the doctor to

> take out as much as he need to for clean margins-

> but I am scared of

> what is down the road. I can't even tell my parents

> who are elderly

> for fear that it would make them sick- I am an only

> child, but I am

> 52. I do have friends for support, but they never

> had this. I lost

> two friends form cancer. There is no history of

> breast cancer in my

> family but I got my period at 10 and still get it

> monthly (lucky me)

> The last time I had surgery was for c-sections.

> Thanks for letting me

> vent.

>

__________________________________________________

October 20, 2006

& Eileen;

There is a book out by a breast cancer husband (I

think his name is Mark Silver) that looks like it might

be pretty good - I don't know if either of your husbands

would be interested, but it's a thought. Mine called

Cancer Treatment Center of America's hotline in the

middle of the night right after I was diagnosed (I was

sound asleep : ) and talked to them. They were

very helpful and have called to check on us several

times since even though I did not seek my

treatments there.

Breast cancer seems to be another of " someone

else's crisis " like car wrecks and lightening strikes

(you just never think it's going to be you until...) Don't

you wish it worked this way with the lottery???

- Jen : )

Stage 1c, Grade 3, ER- HER2+

Lumpectomy, SLNB, Mastectomy

Diagnosed: 7/2006 (1st Mammo)

On Thu, 19 Oct 2006 19:18:33 -0700 (PDT) nancy abecassis

writes:

> I wish you the best of luck with your surgery. I am also newly

> diagnosed. I had a biopsy on October 3 that came out positive for

> invasive ductal carcinoma. I had an MRI and Pet/Cat scan on

> Tuesday, I am going for the results tomorrow . Depending on what

> that shows I will get a treatment plan. I also have not told my

> parents as I don't think they could handle the stress. I am 44

> years old and my husband is also in denial. It seems like we have a

> lot in common.

>

> eileenmp2000 wrote:

> I never posted before to any group- but after reading many

> of the

> other posts everyone seems to be caring. My husband is in total

> denial and insists that I do not have cancer- the doctor called it

> pre-cancerous.I was just diagnoiaed with DCIS-intermediate grade at

> the beginning of the month. Surgery is this Monday. The doctors all

> said that I am a classic case of early detection- this showed up on

> a

> yearly mamo. The area is on the top right side of my right breast

> and

> so small that two opinions said that all I would need is removal of

> the area which would be not much more than a surgical biopsy.

> Radiation and medication would be determined from the pathology

> reports. After reading the posts- I am now wondering did I make the

> right choice for a lumptectomy or should I go for more removal?

> Everyone thinks that I am making a mountain out of a moe hill- but I

>

> don't want this thing returning. I am going to tell the doctor to

> take out as much as he need to for clean margins- but I am scared of

>

> what is down the road. I can't even tell my parents who are elderly

> for fear that it would make them sick- I am an only child, but I am

> 52. I do have friends for support, but they never had this. I lost

> two friends form cancer. There is no history of breast cancer in my

> family but I got my period at 10 and still get it monthly (lucky me)

>

> The last time I had surgery was for c-sections. Thanks for letting

> me

> vent.

>

> L. Abecassis

>

> ---------------------------------

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>

October 20, 2006

I had to send this note because I too have a husband who works very

hard but who expects me to handle things like this by myself. My

husband has his own farming business so that means that if he didn't

have to sleep, he would work 24/7. We have been married for six

years. I had a lumpectomy in August and have the second appt. with

the oncologist on Monday.

ne

>

> HI Eileen...my husband is the same way...i was first told cuz it

was painful and moveable that it was probably a cyst dont worry

cancer usually doesnt hurt..then the biopsy came back benign but they

opted to take the lump out and guess what???? invasive ductal

carcinoma yayy for me huh...stage 11 because it was2 cm no lymph node

involvement...I was on a rollercoaster ride and my husband left the

building so to speak (mindwise) He didnt go with me to any of the

appts. or surgeries he threw himself more into his work these past

months ( nothing really new but he is a good man) ive learned to do

things alone...i got the lumpectomy and lymph node removal (sentinel

node and a few more ) margins were clear but not enough so opted to

go back in for reexcision for a bit more and no residual cancer so i

didnt do a maschectomy after getting 3 doctors opinions...my lymph

nodes were negative..after the reexcision i got a terrible infection

but it cleared up...go step by step and see

> what the pathology report suggest and see how you feel inside

about what to do..

>

> As i said b4 i have learned in this marraige ( married 12

together 18 or so lost count!) to do things and handle things alone

when it comes to stuff like this..but you know i realized i couldnt

handle this alone it kicked my butt so my father sent me this site

(who never emails me cuz we see each other often..meant to be...you

guys were sent from above ty ty ty) i have learned to vent and reach

out the past month as i am starting and now going thru this

journey...best of luck on your journey and we will all be here for

you anytime anyday...hugs and take care Kassy.

>

> ---------------------------------

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Great rates starting at 1¢/min.

>

October 20, 2006

Hi ne....Yes my husband has a large moving company and he too

if not for sleep would be working 24/7..ive been able to handle most

things alone but this is wearing me down so here i vent and write

for help.. lean on me ill do whatever i can to help..im just a few

weeks ahead of you in this journey....its to damn hard to do it

alone..emotions run wild....and its darn scary...i will always

answer..hugs take care and good luck with your appt. on

monday...Kassy

> >

> > HI Eileen...my husband is the same way...i was first told cuz it

> was painful and moveable that it was probably a cyst dont worry

> cancer usually doesnt hurt..then the biopsy came back benign but

they

> opted to take the lump out and guess what???? invasive ductal

> carcinoma yayy for me huh...stage 11 because it was2 cm no lymph

node

> involvement...I was on a rollercoaster ride and my husband left

the

> building so to speak (mindwise) He didnt go with me to any of the

> appts. or surgeries he threw himself more into his work these past

> months ( nothing really new but he is a good man) ive learned to

do

> things alone...i got the lumpectomy and lymph node removal

(sentinel

> node and a few more ) margins were clear but not enough so opted

to

> go back in for reexcision for a bit more and no residual cancer so

i

> didnt do a maschectomy after getting 3 doctors opinions...my lymph

> nodes were negative..after the reexcision i got a terrible

infection

> but it cleared up...go step by step and see

> > what the pathology report suggest and see how you feel inside

> about what to do..

> >

> > As i said b4 i have learned in this marraige ( married 12

> together 18 or so lost count!) to do things and handle things

alone

> when it comes to stuff like this..but you know i realized i

couldnt

> handle this alone it kicked my butt so my father sent me this site

> (who never emails me cuz we see each other often..meant to

be...you

> guys were sent from above ty ty ty) i have learned to vent and

reach

> out the past month as i am starting and now going thru this

> journey...best of luck on your journey and we will all be here for

> you anytime anyday...hugs and take care Kassy.

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Talk is cheap. Use Yahoo! Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls.

> Great rates starting at 1¢/min.

> >

October 20, 2006

Hi ne....Yes my husband has a large moving company and he too

if not for sleep would be working 24/7..ive been able to handle most

things alone but this is wearing me down so here i vent and write

for help.. lean on me ill do whatever i can to help..im just a few

weeks ahead of you in this journey....its to damn hard to do it

alone..emotions run wild....and its darn scary...i will always

answer..hugs take care and good luck with your appt. on

monday...Kassy

> >

> > HI Eileen...my husband is the same way...i was first told cuz it

> was painful and moveable that it was probably a cyst dont worry

> cancer usually doesnt hurt..then the biopsy came back benign but

they

> opted to take the lump out and guess what???? invasive ductal

> carcinoma yayy for me huh...stage 11 because it was2 cm no lymph

node

> involvement...I was on a rollercoaster ride and my husband left

the

> building so to speak (mindwise) He didnt go with me to any of the

> appts. or surgeries he threw himself more into his work these past

> months ( nothing really new but he is a good man) ive learned to

do

> things alone...i got the lumpectomy and lymph node removal

(sentinel

> node and a few more ) margins were clear but not enough so opted

to

> go back in for reexcision for a bit more and no residual cancer so

i

> didnt do a maschectomy after getting 3 doctors opinions...my lymph

> nodes were negative..after the reexcision i got a terrible

infection

> but it cleared up...go step by step and see

> > what the pathology report suggest and see how you feel inside

> about what to do..

> >

> > As i said b4 i have learned in this marraige ( married 12

> together 18 or so lost count!) to do things and handle things

alone

> when it comes to stuff like this..but you know i realized i

couldnt

> handle this alone it kicked my butt so my father sent me this site

> (who never emails me cuz we see each other often..meant to

be...you

> guys were sent from above ty ty ty) i have learned to vent and

reach

> out the past month as i am starting and now going thru this

> journey...best of luck on your journey and we will all be here for

> you anytime anyday...hugs and take care Kassy.

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Talk is cheap. Use Yahoo! Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls.

> Great rates starting at 1¢/min.

> >

October 20, 2006

Thanks Kasey -

ne

> > >

> > > HI Eileen...my husband is the same way...i was first told cuz

it

> > was painful and moveable that it was probably a cyst dont worry

> > cancer usually doesnt hurt..then the biopsy came back benign but

> they

> > opted to take the lump out and guess what???? invasive ductal

> > carcinoma yayy for me huh...stage 11 because it was2 cm no lymph

> node

> > involvement...I was on a rollercoaster ride and my husband left

> the

> > building so to speak (mindwise) He didnt go with me to any of the

> > appts. or surgeries he threw himself more into his work these

past

> > months ( nothing really new but he is a good man) ive learned to

> do

> > things alone...i got the lumpectomy and lymph node removal

> (sentinel

> > node and a few more ) margins were clear but not enough so opted

> to

> > go back in for reexcision for a bit more and no residual cancer

so

> i

> > didnt do a maschectomy after getting 3 doctors opinions...my

lymph

> > nodes were negative..after the reexcision i got a terrible

> infection

> > but it cleared up...go step by step and see

> > > what the pathology report suggest and see how you feel inside

> > about what to do..

> > >

> > > As i said b4 i have learned in this marraige ( married 12

> > together 18 or so lost count!) to do things and handle things

> alone

> > when it comes to stuff like this..but you know i realized i

> couldnt

> > handle this alone it kicked my butt so my father sent me this

site

> > (who never emails me cuz we see each other often..meant to

> be...you

> > guys were sent from above ty ty ty) i have learned to vent and

> reach

> > out the past month as i am starting and now going thru this

> > journey...best of luck on your journey and we will all be here

for

> > you anytime anyday...hugs and take care Kassy.

> > >

> > > ---------------------------------

> > > Talk is cheap. Use Yahoo! Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls.

> > Great rates starting at 1¢/min.

> > >

October 20, 2006

Thanks Kasey -

ne

> > >

> > > HI Eileen...my husband is the same way...i was first told cuz

it

> > was painful and moveable that it was probably a cyst dont worry

> > cancer usually doesnt hurt..then the biopsy came back benign but

> they

> > opted to take the lump out and guess what???? invasive ductal

> > carcinoma yayy for me huh...stage 11 because it was2 cm no lymph

> node

> > involvement...I was on a rollercoaster ride and my husband left

> the

> > building so to speak (mindwise) He didnt go with me to any of the

> > appts. or surgeries he threw himself more into his work these

past

> > months ( nothing really new but he is a good man) ive learned to

> do

> > things alone...i got the lumpectomy and lymph node removal

> (sentinel

> > node and a few more ) margins were clear but not enough so opted

> to

> > go back in for reexcision for a bit more and no residual cancer

so

> i

> > didnt do a maschectomy after getting 3 doctors opinions...my

lymph

> > nodes were negative..after the reexcision i got a terrible

> infection

> > but it cleared up...go step by step and see

> > > what the pathology report suggest and see how you feel inside

> > about what to do..

> > >

> > > As i said b4 i have learned in this marraige ( married 12

> > together 18 or so lost count!) to do things and handle things

> alone

> > when it comes to stuff like this..but you know i realized i

> couldnt

> > handle this alone it kicked my butt so my father sent me this

site

> > (who never emails me cuz we see each other often..meant to

> be...you

> > guys were sent from above ty ty ty) i have learned to vent and

> reach

> > out the past month as i am starting and now going thru this

> > journey...best of luck on your journey and we will all be here

for

> > you anytime anyday...hugs and take care Kassy.

> > >

> > > ---------------------------------

> > > Talk is cheap. Use Yahoo! Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls.

> > Great rates starting at 1¢/min.

> > >

October 20, 2006

Thanks Kasey -

ne

> > >

> > > HI Eileen...my husband is the same way...i was first told cuz

it

> > was painful and moveable that it was probably a cyst dont worry

> > cancer usually doesnt hurt..then the biopsy came back benign but

> they

> > opted to take the lump out and guess what???? invasive ductal

> > carcinoma yayy for me huh...stage 11 because it was2 cm no lymph

> node

> > involvement...I was on a rollercoaster ride and my husband left

> the

> > building so to speak (mindwise) He didnt go with me to any of the

> > appts. or surgeries he threw himself more into his work these

past

> > months ( nothing really new but he is a good man) ive learned to

> do

> > things alone...i got the lumpectomy and lymph node removal

> (sentinel

> > node and a few more ) margins were clear but not enough so opted

> to

> > go back in for reexcision for a bit more and no residual cancer

so

> i

> > didnt do a maschectomy after getting 3 doctors opinions...my

lymph

> > nodes were negative..after the reexcision i got a terrible

> infection

> > but it cleared up...go step by step and see

> > > what the pathology report suggest and see how you feel inside

> > about what to do..

> > >

> > > As i said b4 i have learned in this marraige ( married 12

> > together 18 or so lost count!) to do things and handle things

> alone

> > when it comes to stuff like this..but you know i realized i

> couldnt

> > handle this alone it kicked my butt so my father sent me this

site

> > (who never emails me cuz we see each other often..meant to

> be...you

> > guys were sent from above ty ty ty) i have learned to vent and

> reach

> > out the past month as i am starting and now going thru this

> > journey...best of luck on your journey and we will all be here

for

> > you anytime anyday...hugs and take care Kassy.

> > >

> > > ---------------------------------

> > > Talk is cheap. Use Yahoo! Messenger to make PC-to-Phone calls.

> > Great rates starting at 1¢/min.

> > >

October 20, 2006

Hi Kassy,

I'm sorry your husband isn't more supportive. That was very sweet of

your father to find this site for you and let you know about us. Please

know that we're here to help you along.

take care,

October 20, 2006

Hi Kassy,

I'm sorry your husband isn't more supportive. That was very sweet of

your father to find this site for you and let you know about us. Please

know that we're here to help you along.

take care,

October 20, 2006

Hi Kassy,

I'm sorry your husband isn't more supportive. That was very sweet of

your father to find this site for you and let you know about us. Please

know that we're here to help you along.

take care,

October 20, 2006

ITS HARD TO WALK THAT ROAD ALONE - IT HELPS TO HAVE OUR LOVE ONE BY OUR SIDE AS

WE GO THRU THE WAITING AND ANXIETY. TO BE THERE FOR ENCOURAGEMENT. BUT NO MATTER

WHAT - WHEN ITS TIME FOR THE TESTS OR THE OPERATION WE DO WALK IT ALONE HUMANLY

BUT WITH OUR LORD HOLDING OUR HAND. YOU LADIES ARE TRULY STRONG AND I ADMIRE

THAT - I HOPE THAT I CAN BE THAT WAY IF NEED TO.

THE CALL JUST CAME AND IT IS INVASIVE DUCTAL - 1 CENTIMETER HAVE TO HAVE

SURGERY AND HAVE MY LYMPH NODES CHECKED AND CHEST EXRAY I PRAY THAT IT HAS NOT

SPREAD OUTSIDE OF MY BREAST AND THAT NO LYMPH NODES ARE INVOLVED GOSH I AM SO

SCARED

adrianne222000 wrote: