Re: CONCERNED ABOUT PREG/BABY

[Guest guest]

hello to all the ladies,

i am 16 weeks preg now and i have a doctor's appoint. next wed. i saw

the ob almost a month ago. i am writing to share my insanity...maybe i feel

better by talking about it...i feel like i am going nuts here. every day i

think that my baby is dead inside me. because i used to be 367 pounds (now 200)

i

have all this space in the are where my uterus is and therefore i cannt see

too much that i am showing. i know my abdomen is larger because i cant fit in

my size 16 jeans comfortably. but it is not enough reassurance. i have wanted

to have a baby for so long and i have had 2 painful miscarriages already. i

have been married for 12 years and my hubby and i would really love it if we

could start our family. it is now 3 am or so and i am awake....this is a sleep

patter that started soon after i found out i was pregnant at about 6 weeks.

i am worried all the time and i just dont know how and if i could causing my ba

by stress or affecting it in some way. also, my dreams are so vivid that

they are very scary. i am sorry if i make u guys feel weird about what i am

about to say, but i am looking to hear if someone has experienced anything like

me. i watch plenty of real detective work on court tv, A&E, discovery, and TLC

and sometimes i dream about investigating very brutal muder cases. i have

seen myself very vividly in morgues and in hospitals.....and when i wake up i am

sooooo scared. i love the shows but i am a real chicken. when i watch when

hubby isnt home and if i have to go to the bathroom, i go and come back so

fast because i am affraid. i bet u guys think i am nuts...its ok, sometimes i

think i am too! i just wish there was something i could do to help me sleep

even if i watch those detective shows.....milk does not work for me and someone

mentioned chamomile tea, but i dont know if its safe now. also, i worry about

what those shows can do to the psychiatric development of my baby...is it

possible to affect it or influence it in a negative way???? i wonder...any

thought

on this are appreciated. for now i just wish i could feel that my baby is

fine until my next appointment. it is so hard to wait a month for an ob app.

in regard to spotting.....i had an episode of bleeding red for 24 hours...the

baby was fine and i stoped bleeding. but 2 weeks after i started to have very

light brown spotting......it has been 4 weeks and it has not stoped. but ob

says not to worry...its hard not to. i just dont know what could be wrong.

any ideas? thanks ladies, i appoligize for the long post. any of your

responses is of great help to my and my baby. take good care.

sylvia

367-200 RNY 5/01

EDD- 3/1/04

[Guest guest]

congrats! how wonderful, to have a healthy baby growing inside you, I too had

a m/c and am trying to get pregnant again and i know the fear of what if's.

hopefully all will go well sounds like you deserve it, as far as spotting there

could be a number of reasons but since its old blood thats a good sign, and

trust me you will feel that baby moving around soon and it'll be more wonderful

than you ever dreamed of. as far as the dreams I have no clue but i know our

body's have a strange way of operating especially when we are pregnant. good

luck dear.

apryl

[Guest guest]

I used to be very much like you as far as staying up not being able to sleep,

watching the same shows too, lol, I think you just have a very busy

imagination and also you are a thinker, I cannot sleep at night because I stay

awake

and think about every stupid thing that could possibly keep me awake. I hope

this passes soon for you. I don't know what you could take to make you sleep but

I would try warm baths and absolutely NO CAFFEINE. Good Luck and I bet the

Baby is just fine. I worried both pregnancies until I was like 7 months along,

It

is scary and I think next month when you are farther along and see the doctor

again you will feel more at ease. The farther along you get the easier it is.

HUGS, ROBIN, NY

Age- 41

TTC#4 -

OPEN RNY

10-18-02

378/246/170???

DR.EDWARD HIXSON

SARANAC LAKE, NY

Mom to:

&

7 1/2 year twin boys and

Madison age 4 1/2 yrs.

Miscarraige August 2001

Miscarraige August 2003

Married to Pup:

15 years this

Halloween : )

[Guest guest]

Sylvia,

First let me congratulate you on the baby growing inside of you!! I

know exactly how you feel, you are not going crazy! I was told for 15

years that I could not have children. When I first had surgery I was

380 lbs I got pregnant when I was 11 months out of surgery and down

to 222 lbs. I had spotting up until my 5th month. I watch all those

shows you talk about and find myself learning what to look for

sometimes so much so that I drive my husband crazy! It has gotten to

the point that if he is home, he will not let me watch those shows.

The Ob/Gyn dr that I have now says that I am high risk due to my

surgery and my age...I am 35, but I feel that I dont have nearly as

much bloodwork or U/S's done as most of the women in this group. In a

weird way it is comforting to me that my doctor is treating me as

a " normal " pregnant woman. As you can also tell I have become

somewhat of a night owl! The baby pretty much has me on her schedule!

I am up every 3 hours or so for about an hour and back to bed. It was

easier to relax with this pregnancy when I got to about 5 months and

the spotting stopped and the baby started moving around all the time.

Now I am more freaked out about the whole birthing process!!! So of

course I watch all those baby shows to " learn " what is going to

happen next!! I have totally driven my husband out of his mind! He

used to be a volunteer paramedic, so he has been a great pillar of

support for me through this whole thing. He is always telling me that

everything is going to be great and to stop worrying and fretting! He

talks to the baby and keeps telling her the same phrase over and

over... " Silly Mommy " . I have told him that if she comes out and that

is her first sentence he is in for it!. Well long story long...You

are perfectly normal!! Brown spotting means that it is old blood it

will happen after you exert yourself too much or even after

relations..Relax and just enjoy the fact that this little person is

thriving in your body. When you go for your next appt and hear the

heartbeat and soon after start feeling him move constantly all of

this worrying will leave you.

ka

edd 10/31/03 Amy Leigh

> hello to all the ladies,

> i am 16 weeks preg now and i have a doctor's appoint. next

wed. i saw

> the ob almost a month ago. i am writing to share my

insanity...maybe i feel

> better by talking about it...i feel like i am going nuts here.

every day i

> think that my baby is dead inside me. because i used to be 367

pounds (now 200) i

> have all this space in the are where my uterus is and therefore i

cannt see

> too much that i am showing. i know my abdomen is larger because i

cant fit in

> my size 16 jeans comfortably. but it is not enough reassurance. i

have wanted

> to have a baby for so long and i have had 2 painful miscarriages

already. i

> have been married for 12 years and my hubby and i would really love

it if we

> could start our family. it is now 3 am or so and i am

awake....this is a sleep

> patter that started soon after i found out i was pregnant at about

6 weeks.

> i am worried all the time and i just dont know how and if i could

causing my ba

> by stress or affecting it in some way. also, my dreams are so

vivid that

> they are very scary. i am sorry if i make u guys feel weird about

what i am

> about to say, but i am looking to hear if someone has experienced

anything like

> me. i watch plenty of real detective work on court tv, A&E,

discovery, and TLC

> and sometimes i dream about investigating very brutal muder cases.

i have

> seen myself very vividly in morgues and in hospitals.....and when i

wake up i am

> sooooo scared. i love the shows but i am a real chicken. when i

watch when

> hubby isnt home and if i have to go to the bathroom, i go and come

back so

> fast because i am affraid. i bet u guys think i am nuts...its ok,

sometimes i

> think i am too! i just wish there was something i could do to help

me sleep

> even if i watch those detective shows.....milk does not work for me

and someone

> mentioned chamomile tea, but i dont know if its safe now. also, i

worry about

> what those shows can do to the psychiatric development of my

baby...is it

> possible to affect it or influence it in a negative way???? i

wonder...any thought

> on this are appreciated. for now i just wish i could feel that my

baby is

> fine until my next appointment. it is so hard to wait a month for

an ob app.

> in regard to spotting.....i had an episode of bleeding red for 24

hours...the

> baby was fine and i stoped bleeding. but 2 weeks after i started

to have very

> light brown spotting......it has been 4 weeks and it has not

stoped. but ob

> says not to worry...its hard not to. i just dont know what could

be wrong.

> any ideas? thanks ladies, i appoligize for the long post. any of

your

> responses is of great help to my and my baby. take good care.

> sylvia

> 367-200 RNY 5/01

> EDD- 3/1/04

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