Re: *sigh*

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In a message dated 8/3/03 1:16:31 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

angel_of_mercy_911@... writes:

> How much at risk am I for genetic birth defects as an *elderly

> gravida*?

What is elderly gravida?

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sorry Shoshannah,

when I got an itemized statement from my OB, he had listed me as

an " elderly multigravida " (which IRKED me!!)

it means that I am (was) pregnant, over age 35 and I have previously

been pregnant.

What a shame in the obstetrical world, women are considered elderly

after age 35.

*sad sad sad*

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> In a message dated 8/3/03 1:16:31 PM Eastern

Daylight Time,

> angel_of_mercy_911@... writes:

>

>

> > How much at risk am I for genetic birth defects as

an *elderly

> > gravida*?

>

> What is elderly gravida?

>

it's an " old pregnant woman " .

The risk depends on your age...your ethneticity....your

family background..many different things.

it's a good question to bring to a geneticist, though...

Soderblom CCCE CD(DONA) CLD

Student Midwife - Mesa, AZ

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Owner: Birth Story Diaries - real births, real photos

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[Guest guest]

Elderly Gravida! Ugh!

I am turning 35 this month, and my obstetrician refers to over-35

pregnancy as " advanced maternal age " . At least it sounds better than

Elderly! My OB also re-assured me that it is not that big of a

deal. She had two children herself after she was 35.

Signed, another elderly multi-gravida

Lynn

> sorry Shoshannah,

>

> when I got an itemized statement from my OB, he had listed me

as

> an " elderly multigravida " (which IRKED me!!)

>

> it means that I am (was) pregnant, over age 35 and I have

previously

> been pregnant.

>

> What a shame in the obstetrical world, women are considered elderly

> after age 35.

> *sad sad sad*

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yes, Lynn lol

In my chart, my OB put down in my problem list as AMA... as a nurse

in a hospital it means leaving Against Medical Advice so when I

first saw this I thought, what is he talking about? I've never left

here AMA (or anywhere for that matter). When I asked him what it was

for, he told me advance maternal age...lol

of course, I can recall in my early teens, I considered 30 OLD!!!

All the while never thinking I'd ever turn 30!!!! lol

Sheila,

elderly @ 37

[Guest guest]

I don't care how old we are (speaking at 38, will be 39 at birth),

our bodies may be older but my husband and i feel so much wiser at

this age having our 3rd child.

which by the way the U/S tech says she leans to it being a little

girl (yipee).

and i don't think you can spoil a child enough with love.

if you teach it to love the new baby with as much love as you have

for him and the new one,, everyone benefits especially since you

have that much more experience at our ages.

best to you,

Garlyn

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In a message dated 8/3/03 10:16:43 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

angel_of_mercy_911@... writes:

> should we try again? If you feel in your heart you want another baby then

> YES, TRY, TRY again until it happens....

> are we ready for another baby so soon? or at all? If your HEart is ready

> then you are

> Will Christian be as spoiled as much with another baby? Most Certainly, More

> to spoil too. When I had the twins I never thought I could get prego again

> and I never went on the pill or anything and when they were almost 2 I decided

> to do Clomid with IUI and she was a first time. It was great to have so many

> to love and care for and SPOIL and they all still are, LOL...

> More importantly, will he feel jealous of our attention to another

> baby.....NO, Just include him in. Have him help mommy get a diaper or a

> blankie to wrap " HIS " baby is. He will love it. The twins thought Madison was

> theirs and they were 2 1/2 when she was born, all still in diapers too : )

> Are we too old to become parents again? NO, I am prego now and will be 41

> nexzt month. Iw ent for a full physical first and talked it over with my

> fertility doctor first who also is a weight loss patient fromseveral years

ago. She

> said " GO FOR IT " .

> How much at risk am I for genetic birth defects as an *elderly

> gravida*? Not as much as you think. Think of it this way, if there is a 5 %

> chance for a defect there is a 95 % chance for none. There is always risks

> with pregnancy regardless of your age anyways. If you really want a baby, read

> up on the chances and talk it over with hubby and go from there. I prayed to

> God that if I could handle another baby and still be a good mom to the ones I

> have then please let me have another and if I could not handle it and care

> for the all like they should be then don't give me one and here I am pregnant

> so he must think I can handle it. I never even got to take my Clomid either

> so he must really think I can handle it : ) I really believe in prayer and

> think you should pray and pray some more until you feel comfortable with your

> decisions.

> Will the next pregnancy be smoother than the previous one or will I

> feel as if I am dying again? They are all different. The boys were a breeze

> but my labor for Madison was pure torture for 4 days on Pitocin. I found out

> the reason I had such severe back pain is because I have a degenerative disk

> disease in my lower back and it hurts like heck. I am not looking forward to

> the labor again but I am sure will get over it after.

Good Luck Sheila and God Bless you and your family,

HUGS, ROBIN, NY

TTC#4 - I DID IT, YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!

OPEN RNY

10-18-02

378/254/170???

DR.EDWARD HIXSON

SARANAC LAKE, NY

Mom to:

&

7 year twin boys and

Madison age 4

Married to Pup:

15 years this

Halloween : )

[Guest guest]

Shelia,

Did you really feel like you were dying?? What did that " feel " like? The

reason I ask is that I am having a terrible time. I went through a period

of time prior to my wls when I KNEW I was dying... and I was given less

than six months to live. I don't feel like I did then, but I feel pretty

terrible... and am worrying about my heart. It is doing funky things... I

have talked to my doc about it, and we are keeping an eye on my heart,

but... I just feel so WEIRD!

I feel like I have a gerbil trapped in my belly button and in my lower

right ovary area. It is constantly pinching, biting, twisting and hurting

me... am i just overly sensitive or what?? I am now 8 weeks pregnant,

first pregnancy, and while I am not terrified, it is concerning me. I know

that being pregnant is going to be and is vastly different from any

expecations I may have had in the past, but to hurt this much? Am I

normal? Am I overly sensitive? Am I being a big baby myself?? LOL! Gee, so

much WEIRD stuff is happening to me, I feel all out of sorts, out of wack,

exhausted, understimulated, overstimulated, and way out of wack.

Struggling to stay sane during all this, AND keep food down! LOL!

Thanks for listening!

Sharon

angel_of_mercy_911 said:

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> Will the next pregnancy be smoother than the previous one or will I

> feel as if I am dying again?

>

>

> stay tuned for the next episode of..... " As The Hormones

> Fluctuate "

> lol

>

> Sheila

>