Re: What would of you said?

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sorry, doesnt really bother me, i am kind of laid back

On 9/24/07, megs188 <kathryne@...> wrote:

Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a busy day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping ect. When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable, with her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man would not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look and he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you are staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter with her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated I

could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off and kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am just so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks and rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this is, and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with the band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go through this for their entire life. -- SC SAHM to , , and

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I was lucky and didn't have too many comments. My husband ran into a woman in an elevator who told her daughter that my son was wearing a helmet to protect himself from hitting the walls with his head. And she declared herself a nurse. So basically I think there are some people who wonder and are too afraid to ask so they just look, those who try to come up with what is the cause, and then those who either know or don't care or have been through it. At first I was very scared but about it but then I decided that my son wearing the DOC band would be a good opportunity for me to teach others about it and I started to take pride in going out with him in it. It made people happy to know what was actually going on and I tried to make light of people who had no clue what it was for or came up with weird ideas. Luckily your child will never know that people are looking. Good luck. I know this is a really rough period at times. At the

end you will look back and think how it flew by and how you can't believe it is over. And just remember what it's doing for your child. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about it!!!! Durocher <funwith4@...> wrote: sorry, doesnt really bother me, i am kind of laid back On 9/24/07, megs188 <kathrynehotmail> wrote: Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a busy day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping ect. When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable, with her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man would not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look and he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you are staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter with her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated I could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off and kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a gorgeous

baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am just so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks and rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this is, and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with the band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go through this for their entire life. -- SC SAHM to , , and www.joeysmanicmelon.blogspot.comwww.midscbwers.blogspot.com"We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today." ~Stacia Tauscher

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I too was very concerned the first couple of times that I took Tyler out in his band. I also thought that the people were being rude. But after the first few people inquired, I realized that they were concerned not judgemental. (Maybe this guy who was staring just didn't know how to correctly verbalize what he was thinking.) If I saw someone looking at Tyler, I would say isn't he cute or he's such a good boy to start up a conversation. After I turned my attitude around about it, I had more people comment on my son and the stickers on his band. In the past week, I've actually had 2 people bring their child over and say that they had a band too!

JackieMom to Tyler, Starlight Band 07/19/2007

What would of you said?

Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a busy day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping ect. When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable, with her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man would not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look and he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you are staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter with her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated I could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off and kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am just so fed up with the

looks. How do you deal with the funny looks and rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this is, and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with the band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go through this for their entire life.

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Hello, we are new to the hemet too! We have only had it a week and I don't mind going out in public b/c I don't know those people. Children seem to be the ones who speek up the most to us. So I just say "oh yeah that's her hemet, we are training her to ride a skateboard" it is problably not as funny as I hope it to be. Now when we went to church this weekend I was feeling very valunerable! My two year old just broke her collar bone and is in a sling, and we have a 6m old in a helmet. We look great in public at this point! But anyway some of the older ladies with not so well established tack said a few things that bothered me. I think it is because even if i don't know everyone at

church personally we at least see them on a regular basis. in short if an adult askes i just tell them it is to re-shape her head. Ussually they are not bold enough to say anything else. I hope this is helpful and I would like to see what others say too!

What would of you said?

Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a busy day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping ect. When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable, with her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man would not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look and he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you are staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter with her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated I could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off and kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am just so fed up with the

looks. How do you deal with the funny looks and rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this is, and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with the band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go through this for their entire life.

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Hi Alison,

Since most people are pretty ignorant about helmets., maybe you can

say that your 2 year old broke her collarbone hitting the baby over

the head.

I do know how you feel though. My daughter wore a starband for 5 mo.

Some days I would be perfectly comfortable with it, and not notice or

mind people's looks. but somedays I would feel very sad that people

would think there was something wrong with her, and not see my real

baby - perfect.

After a while I found that most of the time if someone stared I would

smile at them right away, to sort of deflect their attention. Then

sometimes I would offer " she has a flat spot on her head, and the

helmet is fixing it " . It seemed easier than getting confrontational or

upset about it. Sometimes I would address the comment to my daughter

like " your head will be so much rounder when we're done with this " ,

and give her a kiss.

There is some funny attention you get too. For example people want to

know where they can buy one, since their baby/grandbaby is bumping

their head a lot.

take care. -christine

sydney 20 mo starband grad

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> Hello, we are new to the hemet too! We have only had it a week and

I don't mind going out in public b/c I don't know those people.

Children seem to be the ones who speek up the most to us. So I just

say " oh yeah that's her hemet, we are training her to ride a

skateboard " it is problably not as funny as I hope it to be. Now when

we went to church this weekend I was feeling very valunerable! My two

year old just broke her collar bone and is in a sling, and we have a

6m old in a helmet. We look great in public at this point! But anyway

some of the older ladies with not so well established tack said a few

things that bothered me. I think it is because even if i don't know

everyone at church personally we at least see them on a regular basis.

in short if an adult askes i just tell them it is to re-shape her

head. Ussually they are not bold enough to say anything else. I hope

this is helpful and I would like to see what others say too!

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> What would of you said?

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> Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a busy

> day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping ect.

> When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable, with

> her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was

> getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were

> recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man would

> not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look and

> he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you are

> staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter with

> her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated I

> could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off and

> kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a

> gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am just

> so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks and

> rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this is,

> and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with the

> band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go through

> this for their entire life.

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Fortunately we never got any rude stares or comments but I always thought

that if I did and if they asked about it I would just say that I dropped my

son on his head :>) If people asked nicely I would briefly explain that the

band was rounding out his head because it was flat on one side. I found it

helpful to have my son's name on the front of his band. It seemed to break

the ice when people saw him and they could address him by name.

Molly

California

Nicolas, 23.5 months, tort & plagio, STARband 4/25/06-9/12/06, Graduate!

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What would of you said?

Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a busy

day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping ect.

When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable, with

her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was

getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were

recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man would

not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look and

he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you are

staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter with

her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated I

could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off and

kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a

gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am just

so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks and

rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this is,

and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with the

band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go through

this for their entire life.

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