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Hi,

I ampretty new to this my 5 month old was just dianosised with

Positional Plagiocephaly. It was explained to me thats is the way my

son also put his head in the same position. Which makes me feel like

it's my fualt. I feel as if I moved him arounf more this wouldnt have

happiend. He had " tummy time 2-3 times a day for 30 mins at least and

I am left hand and my husbands right so he was alway getting feed and

changed in different directions. Just wondering if anyone else feel

this was.

Thanks

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Hi,

I would say most of us moms feel guilty, especially at the beginning.

But honestly I didn't know anything about this when my daughter was

born, and when I asked about her head at 2 mo I was told " don't

worry " . Bad advice, but I didn't know. the bottom line is that you are

doing something now. Also 5 mo is a great time to start. You should

see very good results.

take care. -christine

sydney 20 mo starband grad

>

> Hi,

> I ampretty new to this my 5 month old was just dianosised with

> Positional Plagiocephaly. It was explained to me thats is the way my

> son also put his head in the same position. Which makes me feel

like

> it's my fualt. I feel as if I moved him arounf more this wouldnt

have

> happiend. He had " tummy time 2-3 times a day for 30 mins at least

and

> I am left hand and my husbands right so he was alway getting feed

and

> changed in different directions. Just wondering if anyone else feel

> this was.

>

> Thanks

>

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I know how you feel. My son was diagnosed

with Plagiocephaly when he was about 2 months old and I was told he would just

grow out of it. I have been doing all of the repositioning that is practicable,

tons of tummy time, no seats except the bumbo, etc., and his head shape has

just been getting worse. So I feel terrible –like I must not have been

doing enough, and I should have been more pro-active about getting better

medical advice (3rd opinions) sooner. The doctors, the

physiotherapists, and the chiropractor have all been telling me that he will

grow out of it. And I have finally hit the point where I just don’t

believe that anymore, and now feel guilty that I didn’t come to this

conclusion faster. At the moment I am pretty much making it my job to understand

this condition and get it treated in the best way possible. And I am just

hoping that 5 months isn’t too late to start, although at the rate things

are moving I am afraid he will be 6 months before he actually gets a helmet.

Anyway, thank you, thank you, thank you to everyone in this group that has been

so helpful. The community on this site is just fantastic – what a relief

to know I am not alone.

From: Plagiocephaly

[mailto:Plagiocephaly ] On

Behalf Of litcheri

Sent: Monday, September 17, 2007

1:40 PM

Plagiocephaly

Subject: Feeling guilty

Hi,

I ampretty new to this my 5 month old was just dianosised with

Positional Plagiocephaly. It was explained to me thats is the way my

son also put his head in the same position. Which makes me feel like

it's my fualt. I feel as if I moved him arounf more this wouldnt have

happiend. He had " tummy time 2-3 times a day for 30 mins at least and

I am left hand and my husbands right so he was alway getting feed and

changed in different directions. Just wondering if anyone else feel

this was.

Thanks

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I know how you feel as well. We noticed a flat side on my daughter's head when she was about 2 months old. At every visit, her ped told us that it would round out once she started sitting and rolling. She always turned her head to the right when sleeping & we constantly tried to turn it to the left. We also did tummy time a lot and held her instead of carrying her in her car seat.

Our dr kept telling us that it was fine & that she'd have hair soon to "cover it up". Finally at her 6 month appt, our ped told us to go to see a specialist. We should have decided this on our own months earlier, but to be honest, I didn't know that it was an issue...we were told it was just cosmetic & not a big deal...not to worry. So, I worried but did nothing except kept her off of her head as much as I could:(

We saw a specialist & she was diagnosed with moderate to severe plagio. He said that it was nothing that we did or didn't do. He could tell that this "flat spot" happened in utero b/c of her position. Even with that being known, I still feel so guilty & mad.

She got her starband helmet on 9/7/07 at 7.5 months and is doing really well with it so far! It is great to have this correspondence with families in the same boat!

I hope we all find some way to not feel as guilty and upset as we are.

-

Plagiocephaly From: nancy@...Date: Mon, 17 Sep 2007 22:52:54 +1000Subject: RE: Feeling guilty

I know how you feel. My son was diagnosed with Plagiocephaly when he was about 2 months old and I was told he would just grow out of it. I have been doing all of the repositioning that is practicable, tons of tummy time, no seats except the bumbo, etc., and his head shape has just been getting worse. So I feel terrible –like I must not have been doing enough, and I should have been more pro-active about getting better medical advice (3rd opinions) sooner. The doctors, the physiotherapists, and the chiropractor have all been telling me that he will grow out of it. And I have finally hit the point where I just don’t believe that anymore, and now feel guilty that I didn’t come to this conclusion faster. At the moment I am pretty much making it my job to understand this condition and get it treated in the best way possible. And I am just hoping that 5 months isn’t too late to start, although at the rate things are moving I am afraid he will be 6 months before he actually gets a helmet. Anyway, thank you, thank you, thank you to everyone in this group that has been so helpful. The community on this site is just fantastic – what a relief to know I am not alone.

From: Plagiocephaly [mailto:Plagiocephaly ] On Behalf Of litcheriSent: Monday, September 17, 2007 1:40 PMPlagiocephaly Subject: Feeling guilty

Hi,I ampretty new to this my 5 month old was just dianosised with Positional Plagiocephaly. It was explained to me thats is the way my son also put his head in the same position. Which makes me feel like it's my fualt. I feel as if I moved him arounf more this wouldnt have happiend. He had "tummy time 2-3 times a day for 30 mins at least and I am left hand and my husbands right so he was alway getting feed and changed in different directions. Just wondering if anyone else feel this was.Thanks

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The fact that you're so worried about what you could have done, or not

done, is testament to the fact that you're clearly a diligent and

attentive mother. Really...it's hard to tell up to five months what

way their head is....they're so fatty-ish at that age. Also, does he

have torticollis...if so there was pretty much nothing you could

achieve without employing physical therapy techniques and such....if

he doesn't have tort...then you'll get a helmet and he'll make great

progress starting at such a young age. If he does have tort...be sure

to find an experienced PT.

Really, the onus is on the pediatricians who should take this more

seriously. Unless you have a medical degree or had experience with

plagio...there is no way you could see this coming. Your Ped should

have seen this and made you aware of it....9 out of 10 times on this

site women are writing about how their ped either didn't bring it to

their attention or didn't think there was anything to worry about and

I honestly think that if there was a shift in " their " education or

" approach " to this condition it would reduce the number of cases

dramatically. Don't blame yourself, you're doing what you can with the

information available to you, and by the sounds of you, I bet you'll

make sure your son achieves a very effect recovery.

> >

> > Hi,

> > I ampretty new to this my 5 month old was just dianosised with

> > Positional Plagiocephaly. It was explained to me thats is the way my

> > son also put his head in the same position. Which makes me feel

> like

> > it's my fualt. I feel as if I moved him arounf more this wouldnt

> have

> > happiend. He had " tummy time 2-3 times a day for 30 mins at least

> and

> > I am left hand and my husbands right so he was alway getting feed

> and

> > changed in different directions. Just wondering if anyone else feel

> > this was.

> >

> > Thanks

> >

>

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I feel the same way. Jack has been in his helmet for 6 months now and I

keep second guessing the past. I talked with his peds and they all said

he would grow out of it. If it were not for my sisters persistence and

her finding out info on the web I would of kept listening to the Dr. He

had Torticollis so all of the repostioning did nothing for him. I hope

that my guilty feelings will eventually go away as for now I tell my

little man that I love his silly head no matter what.

mom to

Jack starband 4/02/03

>

> Hi,

> I ampretty new to this my 5 month old was just dianosised with

> Positional Plagiocephaly. It was explained to me thats is the way my

> son also put his head in the same position. Which makes me feel like

> it's my fualt. I feel as if I moved him arounf more this wouldnt

have

> happiend. He had " tummy time 2-3 times a day for 30 mins at least and

> I am left hand and my husbands right so he was alway getting feed and

> changed in different directions. Just wondering if anyone else feel

> this was.

>

> Thanks

>

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You should not feel guilty. It is so ingrained in our minds to put the kids

on their back to sleep to prevent SIDS. That is a good thing. I think

lots of times, the damage is done so early on that it is hard to reverse

with repositioning alone. We tried all sort of repositioning before the

helmet. Repositioning does not always work well and fast enough. Expect to

feel very conflicted about the whole thing. One ped in our practice

recommended the helmet, another thought maybe and the old school doctor

didn't think we should bother. Yet, my son is " moderate to severe " .

The good news is after 3 weeks my son went down from 14 to 11.

mother of Kurt, Hanger helmet

>From: " christineashok " <christineashok@...>

>Reply-Plagiocephaly

>Plagiocephaly

>Subject: Re: Feeling guilty

>Date: Mon, 17 Sep 2007 06:10:57 -0000

>

>Hi,

>I would say most of us moms feel guilty, especially at the beginning.

>But honestly I didn't know anything about this when my daughter was

>born, and when I asked about her head at 2 mo I was told " don't

>worry " . Bad advice, but I didn't know. the bottom line is that you are

>doing something now. Also 5 mo is a great time to start. You should

>see very good results.

>take care. -christine

>sydney 20 mo starband grad

>

>

> >

> > Hi,

> > I ampretty new to this my 5 month old was just dianosised with

> > Positional Plagiocephaly. It was explained to me thats is the way my

> > son also put his head in the same position. Which makes me feel

>like

> > it's my fualt. I feel as if I moved him arounf more this wouldnt

>have

> > happiend. He had " tummy time 2-3 times a day for 30 mins at least

>and

> > I am left hand and my husbands right so he was alway getting feed

>and

> > changed in different directions. Just wondering if anyone else feel

> > this was.

> >

> > Thanks

> >

>

>

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