Re: General Poll/Question about eating...

[Guest guest]

Seems someone was reading my mind, I can so relate to all of this..

I too have issues with my mom... I was put on a diet at 10 years old.. and that is when it all started... losing gaining gaining losing. up down up down etc ... etc... that was my life.... over and over and over again... I can tell you every time I messed up on each diet I was on... I can count all of my failures.. My mother wanted a certain type of daughter and that is not me... She loves me ..I love her.. but.. I had a far better relationship with my dad.. Dad wanted me to drop the weight all my life.. BUT never the less he accepted me for the person I was and am... I too have had to come to terms with my mom.. and I have had to accept that I did not turn out or do the things she wanted me too... I spent a lot of time floundering around.. lost.. emotionally... and food was the blanket of comfort .. It never yelled at me, it never told me I was a dissapointment, it never made me feel worthless... It gave me safety...

Nearly 2 years ago my dad was killed in an auto accident.. I had just successfully lost nearly 40 pounds.. on WW.. I was really happy ... My mother was in the accident to and suffered injuries.. I was the daughter that was there.. my other 2 sisters.. well.. they do what they do best and became very self involved.. ie losing dad and all .. they did not have to do nearly the things I did..I handled it all .. with my boyfriends help... but alas I lost myself again , turned to the food .. the great protector of me... then my BF had a bout of cancer.. You can bet .. I kidded myself that I was dieting when I was truely over eating again.. food equaled comfort... I gained all my weight back plus...

Going on 3 weeks now.... MY BF and started Ww online.. he has lost 12 pounds and i have lost a little over 7 now... Doing this together has been so helpful.. and I am finding I can depend on someone .. mostly I have learned I can depend on myself.. and can turn to myself for the emotional support that I needed and need... I also have a wonderful group of friends online that totally relate to me and understand the struggles of making life time changes.. no longer dieting.. but changing old habits and becoming a stronger individual..

Good luck to us all

Honi

Honi

[Guest guest]

Seems someone was reading my mind, I can so relate to all of this..

I too have issues with my mom... I was put on a diet at 10 years old.. and that is when it all started... losing gaining gaining losing. up down up down etc ... etc... that was my life.... over and over and over again... I can tell you every time I messed up on each diet I was on... I can count all of my failures.. My mother wanted a certain type of daughter and that is not me... She loves me ..I love her.. but.. I had a far better relationship with my dad.. Dad wanted me to drop the weight all my life.. BUT never the less he accepted me for the person I was and am... I too have had to come to terms with my mom.. and I have had to accept that I did not turn out or do the things she wanted me too... I spent a lot of time floundering around.. lost.. emotionally... and food was the blanket of comfort .. It never yelled at me, it never told me I was a dissapointment, it never made me feel worthless... It gave me safety...

Nearly 2 years ago my dad was killed in an auto accident.. I had just successfully lost nearly 40 pounds.. on WW.. I was really happy ... My mother was in the accident to and suffered injuries.. I was the daughter that was there.. my other 2 sisters.. well.. they do what they do best and became very self involved.. ie losing dad and all .. they did not have to do nearly the things I did..I handled it all .. with my boyfriends help... but alas I lost myself again , turned to the food .. the great protector of me... then my BF had a bout of cancer.. You can bet .. I kidded myself that I was dieting when I was truely over eating again.. food equaled comfort... I gained all my weight back plus...

Going on 3 weeks now.... MY BF and started Ww online.. he has lost 12 pounds and i have lost a little over 7 now... Doing this together has been so helpful.. and I am finding I can depend on someone .. mostly I have learned I can depend on myself.. and can turn to myself for the emotional support that I needed and need... I also have a wonderful group of friends online that totally relate to me and understand the struggles of making life time changes.. no longer dieting.. but changing old habits and becoming a stronger individual..

Good luck to us all

Honi

Honi

[Guest guest]

Barb I think in life.. or rather the major part of life is growing and coming to terms with things.. I do not know if I mentioned that my BF is fine now... he had prostate cancer , had the surgery and is doing wonderful.. thank God... so that hurtle is over... I have also learned that when there is a crisis.. that it is imperative to find another outlet rather than a food blanket.. Reality being as it is.. I am only hurting myself by eating pain away... facing pain takes bravery and courage.. and that my friend is something we have to strive to maintain on a daily basis.. Realizing that the same old habits put us in the same old places.. New habits open a whole new world..

have a great nite

honi

Honi

[Guest guest]

Wow, Honi, I was moved by your sharing. Oh, how I relate to the turning to eating when things in our lives become overwhelming, when we find ourselves taking care of others and in the process stifling our own needs. Food sometimes seems such a familiar comforter, always there to soothe, seemingly asking nothing of us. But of course it is a false comfort in the end.

How wonderful that you are coming to terms with all this and making changes. I am so glad you shared this with us. I admire your strength and persistence.

Barb

[Guest guest]

Honi wrote: "I am only hurting myself by eating pain away... facing pain takes bravery and courage.. and that my friend is something we have to strive to maintain on a daily basis.. Realizing that the same old habits put us in the same old places.. New habits open a whole new world."

Honi, you said that so well. I should start every day by reading that to myself as a reminder!

Barb

[Guest guest]

Wow. Great to hear your turn-around!

I found something really useful, and maybe this will make

sense to you: I really feel VERY thankful for my weight, and

I love myself with all the extra weight, because on the one

hand it saved my life. It made me bear life, it comforted me

- all the things you said! I wouldnt have gotten through without

it!

Now that I've healed my old pain (and continue to do so. I'm

not sure that we're ever fully free from it, but it definitely

gets better, with time, with counseling, with love, with

various support, etc), I no longer need it, and it sounds

like you're very strong as well!

Goodbye extra pounds! Hello, World!

*hugs*Elissa

Re: General Poll/Question about eating...

Seems someone was reading my mind, I can so relate to all of this..

I too have issues with my mom... I was put on a diet at 10 years old.. and that is when it all started... losing gaining gaining losing. up down up down etc ... etc... that was my life.... over and over and over again... I can tell you every time I messed up on each diet I was on... I can count all of my failures.. My mother wanted a certain type of daughter and that is not me... She loves me ..I love her.. but.. I had a far better relationship with my dad.. Dad wanted me to drop the weight all my life.. BUT never the less he accepted me for the person I was and am... I too have had to come to terms with my mom.. and I have had to accept that I did not turn out or do the things she wanted me too... I spent a lot of time floundering around.. lost.. emotionally... and food was the blanket of comfort .. It never yelled at me, it never told me I was a dissapointment, it never made me feel worthless... It gave me safety...

Nearly 2 years ago my dad was killed in an auto accident.. I had just successfully lost nearly 40 pounds.. on WW.. I was really happy ... My mother was in the accident to and suffered injuries.. I was the daughter that was there.. my other 2 sisters.. well.. they do what they do best and became very self involved.. ie losing dad and all .. they did not have to do nearly the things I did..I handled it all .. with my boyfriends help... but alas I lost myself again , turned to the food .. the great protector of me... then my BF had a bout of cancer.. You can bet .. I kidded myself that I was dieting when I was truely over eating again.. food equaled comfort... I gained all my weight back plus...

Going on 3 weeks now.... MY BF and started Ww online.. he has lost 12 pounds and i have lost a little over 7 now... Doing this together has been so helpful.. and I am finding I can depend on someone .. mostly I have learned I can depend on myself.. and can turn to myself for the emotional support that I needed and need... I also have a wonderful group of friends online that totally relate to me and understand the struggles of making life time changes.. no longer dieting.. but changing old habits and becoming a stronger individual..

Good luck to us all

Honi

Honi

[Guest guest]

Wow. Great to hear your turn-around!

I found something really useful, and maybe this will make

sense to you: I really feel VERY thankful for my weight, and

I love myself with all the extra weight, because on the one

hand it saved my life. It made me bear life, it comforted me

- all the things you said! I wouldnt have gotten through without

it!

Now that I've healed my old pain (and continue to do so. I'm

not sure that we're ever fully free from it, but it definitely

gets better, with time, with counseling, with love, with

various support, etc), I no longer need it, and it sounds

like you're very strong as well!

Goodbye extra pounds! Hello, World!

*hugs*Elissa

Re: General Poll/Question about eating...

Seems someone was reading my mind, I can so relate to all of this..

I too have issues with my mom... I was put on a diet at 10 years old.. and that is when it all started... losing gaining gaining losing. up down up down etc ... etc... that was my life.... over and over and over again... I can tell you every time I messed up on each diet I was on... I can count all of my failures.. My mother wanted a certain type of daughter and that is not me... She loves me ..I love her.. but.. I had a far better relationship with my dad.. Dad wanted me to drop the weight all my life.. BUT never the less he accepted me for the person I was and am... I too have had to come to terms with my mom.. and I have had to accept that I did not turn out or do the things she wanted me too... I spent a lot of time floundering around.. lost.. emotionally... and food was the blanket of comfort .. It never yelled at me, it never told me I was a dissapointment, it never made me feel worthless... It gave me safety...

Nearly 2 years ago my dad was killed in an auto accident.. I had just successfully lost nearly 40 pounds.. on WW.. I was really happy ... My mother was in the accident to and suffered injuries.. I was the daughter that was there.. my other 2 sisters.. well.. they do what they do best and became very self involved.. ie losing dad and all .. they did not have to do nearly the things I did..I handled it all .. with my boyfriends help... but alas I lost myself again , turned to the food .. the great protector of me... then my BF had a bout of cancer.. You can bet .. I kidded myself that I was dieting when I was truely over eating again.. food equaled comfort... I gained all my weight back plus...

Going on 3 weeks now.... MY BF and started Ww online.. he has lost 12 pounds and i have lost a little over 7 now... Doing this together has been so helpful.. and I am finding I can depend on someone .. mostly I have learned I can depend on myself.. and can turn to myself for the emotional support that I needed and need... I also have a wonderful group of friends online that totally relate to me and understand the struggles of making life time changes.. no longer dieting.. but changing old habits and becoming a stronger individual..

Good luck to us all

Honi

Honi

[Guest guest]

Wow. Great to hear your turn-around!

I found something really useful, and maybe this will make

sense to you: I really feel VERY thankful for my weight, and

I love myself with all the extra weight, because on the one

hand it saved my life. It made me bear life, it comforted me

- all the things you said! I wouldnt have gotten through without

it!

Now that I've healed my old pain (and continue to do so. I'm

not sure that we're ever fully free from it, but it definitely

gets better, with time, with counseling, with love, with

various support, etc), I no longer need it, and it sounds

like you're very strong as well!

Goodbye extra pounds! Hello, World!

*hugs*Elissa

Re: General Poll/Question about eating...

Seems someone was reading my mind, I can so relate to all of this..

I too have issues with my mom... I was put on a diet at 10 years old.. and that is when it all started... losing gaining gaining losing. up down up down etc ... etc... that was my life.... over and over and over again... I can tell you every time I messed up on each diet I was on... I can count all of my failures.. My mother wanted a certain type of daughter and that is not me... She loves me ..I love her.. but.. I had a far better relationship with my dad.. Dad wanted me to drop the weight all my life.. BUT never the less he accepted me for the person I was and am... I too have had to come to terms with my mom.. and I have had to accept that I did not turn out or do the things she wanted me too... I spent a lot of time floundering around.. lost.. emotionally... and food was the blanket of comfort .. It never yelled at me, it never told me I was a dissapointment, it never made me feel worthless... It gave me safety...

Nearly 2 years ago my dad was killed in an auto accident.. I had just successfully lost nearly 40 pounds.. on WW.. I was really happy ... My mother was in the accident to and suffered injuries.. I was the daughter that was there.. my other 2 sisters.. well.. they do what they do best and became very self involved.. ie losing dad and all .. they did not have to do nearly the things I did..I handled it all .. with my boyfriends help... but alas I lost myself again , turned to the food .. the great protector of me... then my BF had a bout of cancer.. You can bet .. I kidded myself that I was dieting when I was truely over eating again.. food equaled comfort... I gained all my weight back plus...

Going on 3 weeks now.... MY BF and started Ww online.. he has lost 12 pounds and i have lost a little over 7 now... Doing this together has been so helpful.. and I am finding I can depend on someone .. mostly I have learned I can depend on myself.. and can turn to myself for the emotional support that I needed and need... I also have a wonderful group of friends online that totally relate to me and understand the struggles of making life time changes.. no longer dieting.. but changing old habits and becoming a stronger individual..

Good luck to us all

Honi

Honi