Guest guest Posted April 17, 1999 Report Share Posted April 17, 1999 " I need an e-mail support group for people re-joining the dating scene. I am finding this whole experience extremely weird and awkward. " ... Jessie-- even though I have not lost weight yet (just gaining it pre-op, darn it !) and I do have a boyfriend (5 months last wendsday !!!), I would really like to read more about this too, as I know our relationship is bound to change... .... and a big ouchie on the wax thinige... do I know what you mean !! ~ Dorit in Israel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 1999 Report Share Posted April 17, 1999 I need an e-mail support group for people re-joining the dating scene. I am finding this whole experience extremely weird and awkward. I thought it was awkward when I was a teenager but this is even worse. I was seeking advice from my neighbor and asked her: What about this man who has not paid any attention to me for the last two years while I was fat and suddenly is asking me out all the time - she said that sounds like a normal male to me. I had to laugh because I know she is right. It is not this one person that couldn't see through the fat -- it is all of society. I am being treated so much differently now (and I am still pretty plump). I know some of it is my new found confidence and improved attitude but lots of it comes from the way other people view you too. Anyway, I burned myself with the bikini wax so I will not be consummating this relationship this weekend as I am too embarrassed. If it's not fat it is something else. Damn! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 1999 Report Share Posted April 17, 1999 Ah Jessie, that made me laugh. Yes men don't notice fat women exist until they lose weight. One of life's little, shall we say " mysteries " . I am invisible when I am fat and very noticeable when I am slim. Yet I am the same person. I have not changed except for my outward appearance. My views on life are the same and I treat people the way I used to, it's just that now people see me instead of the fat. Fat isn't and never will be acceptable. It is an unfortunate fact of life. At 18:17 17/04/1999 -0700, you wrote: > > >I need an e-mail support group for people re-joining the dating scene. >I am finding this whole experience extremely weird and awkward. I >thought it was awkward when I was a teenager but this is even worse. > >I was seeking advice from my neighbor and asked her: > >What about this man who has not paid any attention to me for the last >two years while I was fat and suddenly is asking me out all the time - >she said that sounds like a normal male to me. >I had to laugh because I know she is right. It is not this one person >that couldn't see through the fat -- it is all of society. I am being >treated so much differently now (and I am still pretty plump). I know >some of it is my new found confidence and improved attitude but lots of >it comes from the way other people view you too. > >Anyway, I burned myself with the bikini wax so I will not be >consummating this relationship this weekend as I am too embarrassed. If >it's not fat it is something else. Damn! > > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Did you know that knowledge is power? >http://www.ONElist.com >Join a new ONElist e-mail community and strengthen your mind! > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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