RE:AD>jbf - Sally

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Sally:

I've not been able to get on here very much for the last week. It's been one

thing or another this last week. I did get on and read your posting on your

mother, and had started to send you a note, but didn't get to finish it

before I got to send it. I wanted to tell you, that you had no other course

but to do for your mother what you did. I don't know if you remember me

telling you about my friend who's mother had AD and was just like your

mother. She was unable to care for her, it was just to much. Her father also

had AD but he was different then her mother. You could talk to him and he

would understand, but not her mother. She even had her in two different

places before she found the last place, the other's homes asked her to please

take her somewhere else because they couldn't handle her and it was hard on

the other living there. The last home that she put her mother in, wasn't as

clean as the other's, but her mother was completely a different person there.

They would get her to do things, play games and do crafts , just took the

time to show that they cared about her. If she got sick they would let my

friend know about it, the other homes took no time to let her know. One day

she had even gone into one of these other homes and found her mother on the

floor, she had gotten out of bed by going over the rail and broke her leg

doing it, she had been calling someone, but they wouldn't come. What I'm

trying to say Sally and taking forever to do it, is that sometimes we would

love to keep them at home with us, and we'd love life to be easy, but that

doesn't alway happen. I know it hasn't been easy for you and you've been a

trouper and taken on so much, but it's time that you did what is right for

you and your mother. Who care what the other's think, you've been doing it

all. If they have all the answers then let them run with the ball and do it.

You take care of you.

Hugs

Vera