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Hi

When I sleep, I dream a lot. Some other suggestions for your calendar. I

did like all the suggestions that people wrote in also of 's.

You could have a picture of a woman sitting on a chair with a cup of tea

looking outside when it is raining. A caption " fear is the unknown "

A picture of a " rely walk " that so many cities do and have pictures of the

women and men with T-shirts with the pink ribbon.

Maybe a couple sitting together holding hands in a Dr's office.

Well, I have a bunch, but don't want to fill up the group's message.

When I found out I had BC in 1998 I listened to the Dr. and I just knew I

was going to get BC because my grandmother had it. (my mom's mom). She had

it in 1977 and they did a mastectomy, radiation and chemo. Then it went to

her other breast another mastectomy etc. Then a year later she died. I

always had the fear of BC. When my Surgeon told me that it was BC I said

" okay, thanks for telling me. " Got my coat. He said: " Lynn, you need

radiation, and I just sat down and cried like a baby. "

When my son came home from a soccer game he was all so happy etc. they won.

I sat him down and told him that I had BC and will have to go in for lymph

node surgery. His comment " so..you had it, they got it out, they are going

to see if it spread..get over it. " He was 16 at the time.

My husband was out of town, and I called him and he was so upset. But when

he came home he said the same. " Well get over it, you HAD it. " He couldn't

understand why I needed lymph node surgery.

When the day came to have my lymph node surgery, my parents from FL came and

my brother and sister-in-law came from IN. I even made a joke saying " Well

I really don't have to have surgery; I only wanted a family reunion. "

(Because we never get together any more.) That is when my sister-in-law

said I should make a joke of any of this. (Her mother died 1 week before my

grandmother, of BC that traveled to her brain.)

Well, after the surgery and when I found out no cancer, I was so happy I

cried. When every body was leaving they all said " Keep your chin up Lynn,

you are ONLY getting radiation. "

Radiation left me burnt and it hurt. But I got over it. I held my chin up.

Neighbors didn't talk to me, because they didn't know what to say, or else

they thought they were going to catch what I had.

I tried a support group, and all they talked about was how bad their cancer

was. I told them they caught mine in time, and that is when I realized.

" They caught it in time. " I didn't belong in this support group.

I was a survivor, I am a survivor, and I do hold my chin up. But it hurts

when I see so many women getting BC, getting sick of chemo etc.

There was a post this morning, I believe it was to Betty. Keep a journal,

write your feelings down. You don't have to show it to anyone. I have, to

get my feelings out.

During my BC my husband and I were going through a bad time in our marriage.

He is a verbal abuser, mental abuser and a emotional abuser, he still is,

but I deal with it. But I believe that when anyone goes through BC, be

their friend, listen to them. Hug them. Take them out to lunch. (If they

feel up to it.) Make a little basket of things, like soap, candles, a good

book etc.

I only wish someone would have hugged me and said " I am here to listen

Lynn. " Instead of telling me to " get over it. " Or " you HAD BC it is over. "

They don't realize I still have another breast. They don't realize what a

person goes through, unless they have walked in their shoes.

To all of you, I wish I could hug all of you and listen to all of you. But

through modern technology we have this computer, so consider yourselves

HUGGED by me, and I will listen.

Sincerely

Lynn

South Carolina

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Lynn we are ALWAYS here to listen to you. You can share, vent, etc. anytime and

we won't judge you. You are in my prayers.

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Hi

When I sleep, I dream a lot. Some other suggestions for your calendar. I

did like all the suggestions that people wrote in also of 's.

You could have a picture of a woman sitting on a chair with a cup of tea

looking outside when it is raining. A caption " fear is the unknown "

A picture of a " rely walk " that so many cities do and have pictures of the

women and men with T-shirts with the pink ribbon.

Maybe a couple sitting together holding hands in a Dr's office.

Well, I have a bunch, but don't want to fill up the group's message.

When I found out I had BC in 1998 I listened to the Dr. and I just knew I

was going to get BC because my grandmother had it. (my mom's mom). She had

it in 1977 and they did a mastectomy, radiation and chemo. Then it went to

her other breast another mastectomy etc. Then a year later she died. I

always had the fear of BC. When my Surgeon told me that it was BC I said

" okay, thanks for telling me. " Got my coat. He said: " Lynn, you need

radiation, and I just sat down and cried like a baby. "

When my son came home from a soccer game he was all so happy etc. they won.

I sat him down and told him that I had BC and will have to go in for lymph

node surgery. His comment " so..you had it, they got it out, they are going

to see if it spread..get over it. " He was 16 at the time.

My husband was out of town, and I called him and he was so upset. But when

he came home he said the same. " Well get over it, you HAD it. " He couldn't

understand why I needed lymph node surgery.

When the day came to have my lymph node surgery, my parents from FL came and

my brother and sister-in-law came from IN. I even made a joke saying " Well

I really don't have to have surgery; I only wanted a family reunion. "

(Because we never get together any more.) That is when my sister-in-law

said I should make a joke of any of this. (Her mother died 1 week before my

grandmother, of BC that traveled to her brain.)

Well, after the surgery and when I found out no cancer, I was so happy I

cried. When every body was leaving they all said " Keep your chin up Lynn,

you are ONLY getting radiation. "

Radiation left me burnt and it hurt. But I got over it. I held my chin up.

Neighbors didn't talk to me, because they didn't know what to say, or else

they thought they were going to catch what I had.

I tried a support group, and all they talked about was how bad their cancer

was. I told them they caught mine in time, and that is when I realized.

" They caught it in time. " I didn't belong in this support group.

I was a survivor, I am a survivor, and I do hold my chin up. But it hurts

when I see so many women getting BC, getting sick of chemo etc.

There was a post this morning, I believe it was to Betty. Keep a journal,

write your feelings down. You don't have to show it to anyone. I have, to

get my feelings out.

During my BC my husband and I were going through a bad time in our marriage.

He is a verbal abuser, mental abuser and a emotional abuser, he still is,

but I deal with it. But I believe that when anyone goes through BC, be

their friend, listen to them. Hug them. Take them out to lunch. (If they

feel up to it.) Make a little basket of things, like soap, candles, a good

book etc.

I only wish someone would have hugged me and said " I am here to listen

Lynn. " Instead of telling me to " get over it. " Or " you HAD BC it is over. "

They don't realize I still have another breast. They don't realize what a

person goes through, unless they have walked in their shoes.

To all of you, I wish I could hug all of you and listen to all of you. But

through modern technology we have this computer, so consider yourselves

HUGGED by me, and I will listen.

Sincerely

Lynn

South Carolina