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Shirley , your letter could have been written by my dear sister in

law. It is hard for me to relate to her interpretation of literal

terms. I love her dearly, but she is most often offended when she is

stressed, believing that each word is to be a literal affront to her

personally. Sadly, we are only related through my deceased brother,

I love her dearly. During my brothers last days, every thing I said

took a meaning of its own in her ears. I would fondly reminence

about fun days, she was afraid I could not see the mportance of her

situation. Because of her own grieving process, she chose to move

far away and not leave anyone her new address. Through diligent

searching I located her over a year later, I called to let her know

I cared, I still love her, she did not understand what took so long

to locate her. Then she called one day later to let me know that

because I had hunted her down, she felt violated, I have not called

or sent a letter since. This is especially sad because she is one of

the very last strands of what family I have. So Shirley, as I read

your post I did understand where you were coming from, however, if

we do not know your pain, we can not begin to understand your

heart. " nother and nutters are two totally different words, neither

spoken to ever hurt anyones feelings. I wrote about a week ago on

this board that the process for psyc, evaluations changed and that

as long as my PC doctor didn't think I was " crackers " I could

basically " pass go " and move onto the next phase. I meant no offense

by that remark , and none was taken. Gentle hugs for your wounded

heart, and know that we all care about everyone on the board and its

better to let us know that something is going on than to get hurt by

words. Not having " slang " on the board is like not having aroma in a

garden, you miss so much beauty.

Sue