Re: What would of you said?

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You know it really bothers my husband. But for me I don't even notice

if they are staring at her. If they do look at her I assume it is

because she is a cute baby. If your band looks cute people will look

at the decorations. I swear alot of people think it is a bike helmet.

I am not kidding. Really the bands don't look that funny considering

how many kids peoaple do see with helmets on for bike riding, roller

blading, scooters.

>

> Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a

busy

> day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping

ect.

> When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable,

with

> her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was

> getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were

> recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man

would

> not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look

and

> he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you

are

> staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter

with

> her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated I

> could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off

and

> kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a

> gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am

just

> so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks and

> rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this

is,

> and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with

the

> band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go

through

> this for their entire life.

>

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I am really sorry aout your frustration. and I dont think your email is too long or selfish! That is how alot of mom's feel aout it I am sure. I get my sons helmet this friday and I am very nervous about that. Normally I get comments about how cute and pleasant my son is.. and I am worried about the focus being on the weird helmet on his head and getting stares. But I have heard mom's say that they look at it as an opportunity to be able to tell people why they are wearing it and get awareness out there for other babies that they know in their life. SO many people dont know about the helmet, tummy time, etc and sometimes it can be too late for a child before a parent can get help for it. I also heard one mom who would give people a little handout sheet about it when people asked... she probably got tired of explaining it.. just an idea... Tricia Hayden (12 ms plageo and tort)timkris724

<timkris724@...> wrote: You know it really bothers my husband. But for me I don't even notice if they are staring at her. If they do look at her I assume it is because she is a cute baby. If your band looks cute people will look at the decorations. I swear alot of people think it is a bike helmet. I am not kidding. Really the bands don't look that funny considering how many kids peoaple do see with helmets on for bike riding, roller blading, scooters. >> Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a busy > day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping ect. > When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable, with > her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was > getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were > recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man would > not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look and > he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you are > staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter with > her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated I > could barely say

anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off and > kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a > gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am just > so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks and > rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this is, > and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with the > band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go through > this for their entire life.> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><>

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I've stared back before. That's always a fun way to deal with it.

You could say, " Nothing's wrong with her. What's wrong with you? "

or " Didn't your mother ever teach you that staring is rude? "

I found these really cute bibs for plagio. We have one that

says, " It's called Plagiocephaly. Look it up. " And we had another

that said " Helmet laws stink. " There are some really great ones at

this web site: http://www.cafepress.com/preciousbambino/114453.

My husband and I were thinking of clever answers, and one of his

suggestions was, " We're not sure what it is, but the doctors say

it's VERY contagious. " Maybe that would've gotten rid of that rude

guy.

Sorry you're going through this. After a few months with my

daughter's helmet, I just got used to people staring everywhere we

went. It's crazy how some people never learned simple etiquette. The

main thing to remember is - you shouldn't care what anyone thinks.

You're doing what's best for your baby, and that's all that matters.

Good luck, and God bless you all!

- Amy, mommy to 16-month-old right tort/left plagio Starband grad

Chloe, and to 3-yr-old former right tort Eli

>

> Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a

busy

> day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping

ect.

> When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable,

with

> her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was

> getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were

> recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man

would

> not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look

and

> he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you

are

> staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter

with

> her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated

I

> could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off

and

> kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a

> gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am

just

> so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks

and

> rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this

is,

> and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with

the

> band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go

through

> this for their entire life.

>

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I'm so sorry to hear about your negative experience. I had one similar to that at Target, the cashier said, "what's wrong with your baby", and I replied, "nothing, what is wrong with you?". Needless to say, I didn't keep my cool like you did. In fact, I didn't go back to Target for a week!

But after that, if I noticed someone staring I would kiss my son's helmet and say to them, "aren't these starbands amazing?" or something like that. It usually struck up a conversation. Hope it all gets better and don't worry- some people are just idiots!

Laurel A. Garner

Chattahoochee Elementary

Fifth Grade

You're happiest while you're making the greatest contribution. F. Kennedy

Re: What would of you said?

You know it really bothers my husband. But for me I don't even notice if they are staring at her. If they do look at her I assume it is because she is a cute baby. If your band looks cute people will look at the decorations. I swear alot of people think it is a bike helmet. I am not kidding. Really the bands don't look that funny considering how many kids peoaple do see with helmets on for bike riding, roller blading, scooters. >> Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a busy > day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping ect. > When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable, with > her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about

noon I was > getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were > recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man would > not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look and > he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you are > staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter with > her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated I > could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off and > kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a > gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am just > so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks and > rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this is, > and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with

the > band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go through > this for their entire life.>

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I agree, at first I was the one scared to go out in public bwecause I didn't

know how or what my reaction would be when someone stared at her. BUT to my

surprise, she has been wearing her DOCband for a month today, and the looks

have been " nice looks " ....someone looks at her because of course they see

this little person with a helmet, but they look more at the " decoration " of

the helmet, and when I catch them looking they smile and say shes pretty and

then if I show them attention they ask " what happened? did she fall? "

.....and then I explain to them and thats it.....

The only ones that DO stare sometimes are the older kids.... but I pay no

attention to them.

>From: " timkris724 " <timkris724@...>

>Reply-Plagiocephaly

>Plagiocephaly

>Subject: Re: What would of you said?

>Date: Mon, 24 Sep 2007 12:57:06 -0000

>

>You know it really bothers my husband. But for me I don't even notice

>if they are staring at her. If they do look at her I assume it is

>because she is a cute baby. If your band looks cute people will look

>at the decorations. I swear alot of people think it is a bike helmet.

>I am not kidding. Really the bands don't look that funny considering

>how many kids peoaple do see with helmets on for bike riding, roller

>blading, scooters.

>

>

>

>

> >

> > Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a

>busy

> > day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping

>ect.

> > When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable,

>with

> > her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was

> > getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were

> > recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man

>would

> > not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look

>and

> > he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you

>are

> > staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter

>with

> > her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated I

> > could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off

>and

> > kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a

> > gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am

>just

> > so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks and

> > rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this

>is,

> > and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with

>the

> > band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go

>through

> > this for their entire life.

> >

>

>

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I totally know what you mean. It makes me crazy when people

blatantly stare at her. I bite my tongue, for the most part. I only

said something once when a young couple started laughing. I stop

myself almost on a daily basis from saying " are you getting a good

enough look " . I mean it. I literally stop myself from saying

anything. I just remind myself that there's nothing wrong with my

beautiful little girl. Most people think that she wears it because

I'm overprotective and don't want her to bump her head. I think

that's hilarious. I do have to say that she's been wearing it for a

month now and I honestly forget about it. We'll be walking and I'll

think " why are those women staring at us " .

The worst part is that before the band, we couldn't walk by someone

without them commenting on how beautiful Jess is. Now, people just

ignore us andor stare. It's only a few months, like you said. Some

days are worse than others. It's only normal to want to protect your

child and the defensiveness that we feel is just that. We have to

remember that there's nothing to protect them from. It's a fricken

helmet to make their heads round. It oculd be so much worse.

Jen.

>

> Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a

busy

> day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping

ect.

> When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable,

with

> her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was

> getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were

> recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man

would

> not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look

and

> he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you

are

> staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter

with

> her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated I

> could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off

and

> kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a

> gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am

just

> so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks and

> rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this

is,

> and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with

the

> band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go

through

> this for their entire life.

>

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It bothered me, too. I finally decided to turn a negative into a

positive by using the helmet as a teaching tool. I modified one of

the handouts on this site (in the files section) to tell my

daughter's story and then handed these " flyers " out when someone

would stare or inquire. I decided that if they were rude enough to

stare or make dumb comments, I would be forward enough to try and

educate them. Just an idea!

Lori

Mom to , 8 1/2 months

DOC Band grad July 07

>

> Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a

busy

> day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping

ect.

> When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable,

with

> her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was

> getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were

> recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man

would

> not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look

and

> he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you

are

> staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter

with

> her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated

I

> could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off

and

> kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a

> gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am

just

> so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks

and

> rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this

is,

> and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with

the

> band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go

through

> this for their entire life.

>

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I know how you feel, and it's sad that some people seem to act

insensitive about this. I think it'd be more appreciated if they

just went ahead and asked nicely rather than stare at our kids

endlessly and have us guess what's on their mind.

My son just recently started with the DOC band and I've taken him to

places as well, and while I do notice a lot of stares, I do try my

best to ignore them. So far I've only encountered one case where a

couple of male teenagers were looking at my son and were smiling -

couldn't tell if they were making fun of him or they think he was

cute for being in the football-season-mood. Anyway I just looked at

them and pretended they didn't exist.

This has so far been my approach to the situation - not to mind the

stares and go with our business like no one else existed but us.

Since my son is pretty chatty for a 15-mo old and likes to say " hi " ,

others say hi and play back with him the same way as when he didn't

have the helmet.

In my opinion - it's better to just go out there with an attitude

knowing that your child is cute with or without it, and that having

the helmet on her only proves how much you care for her well-being.

I think other parents have flyers or little notes that they hand-out

to those ignorant, curious onlookers so they can be educated.

Donna

>

> Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a

busy

> day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping

ect.

> When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable,

with

> her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was

> getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were

> recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man

would

> not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look

and

> he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you

are

> staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter

with

> her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated

I

> could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off

and

> kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a

> gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am

just

> so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks

and

> rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this

is,

> and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with

the

> band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go

through

> this for their entire life.

>

[Guest guest]

Btw, we were at Whole Foods this early evening and a uniformed guy

(looks like the Security Guard) approached us and asked about why my

child was wearing a helmet. I told him what it was for, and he asked

where he could get one?!? Apparently he has a 12 month old who keeps

banging his head and was concerned & needed protection. He said

their doctor recommended those sports helmets, but I guess they

don't make them small enough for tinier tots. Just thought of

sharing this experience since it's not the usual question I expect

to get asked .

doctor

> >

> > Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had

a

> busy

> > day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change,

shopping

> ect.

> > When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable,

> with

> > her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I

was

> > getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we

were

> > recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man

> would

> > not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty

look

> and

> > he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed

you

> are

> > staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the

matter

> with

> > her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so

frustrated

> I

> > could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band

off

> and

> > kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a

> > gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I

am

> just

> > so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks

> and

> > rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this

> is,

> > and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal

with

> the

> > band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go

> through

> > this for their entire life.

> >

>

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glad I am not the only one lol, I had 2 ppl just on sunday alone ask if any child could get them and what a great idea it was and then I informed them what it was really for and sure I bet any kid could get them but they are 3 grand lol.

If someone asks though you can get a pretective helmet on onestepahead.com I was laughinga bout it last year when I saw it thinking of how overprotective youd have to be but I must say the band is nice for that lol

On 9/25/07, donna antonio <dawnnah@...> wrote:

Btw, we were at Whole Foods this early evening and a uniformed guy (looks like the Security Guard) approached us and asked about why my child was wearing a helmet. I told him what it was for, and he asked

where he could get one?!? Apparently he has a 12 month old who keeps banging his head and was concerned & needed protection. He said their doctor recommended those sports helmets, but I guess they don't make them small enough for tinier tots. Just thought of sharing this experience since it's not the usual question I expect to get asked .doctor > >> > Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a > busy > > day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping > ect. > > When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable, > with > > her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was > > getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were > > recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man > would > > not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look > and > > he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you > are > > staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter > with > > her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated > I > > could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off > and > > kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a > > gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am > just > > so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks > and > > rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this > is, > > and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with > the > > band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go > through > > this for their entire life.> >>

-- SC SAHM to , , and

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People seem to ask a lot of questions but they really just are curious. I have never had anyone be rude. The strangest comment I got was from an older woman that said the helmets were a great idea for ever protection in the car. I always just smile and offer explanation when it seems appropriate.

Only once did someone seem rude when they wanted to know what was wrong with the "girl baby". I just said "nothing, she is fine" and let it be.

Try not to let it get to you.

Plagiocephaly From: funwith4@...Date: Tue, 25 Sep 2007 11:19:35 -0400Subject: Re: Re: What would of you said?

glad I am not the only one lol, I had 2 ppl just on sunday alone ask if any child could get them and what a great idea it was and then I informed them what it was really for and sure I bet any kid could get them but they are 3 grand lol.

If someone asks though you can get a pretective helmet on onestepahead.com I was laughinga bout it last year when I saw it thinking of how overprotective youd have to be but I must say the band is nice for that lol

On 9/25/07, donna antonio <dawnnahgmail> wrote:

Btw, we were at Whole Foods this early evening and a uniformed guy (looks like the Security Guard) approached us and asked about why my child was wearing a helmet. I told him what it was for, and he asked where he could get one?!? Apparently he has a 12 month old who keeps banging his head and was concerned & needed protection. He said their doctor recommended those sports helmets, but I guess they don't make them small enough for tinier tots. Just thought of sharing this experience since it's not the usual question I expect to get asked .doctor > >> > Today was an especially rough day for my daughter and I. We had a > busy > > day running errands all over, grocery store, oil change, shopping > ect. > > When we left in the morning, I had my daughter dressed adorable, > with > > her outfit matching her DOC band decorations. By about noon I was > > getting really upset about all the stares and funny looks we were > > recieving. While waiting in line at the grocery store this man > would > > not stop blatanly staring at my daughter. I gave him a dirty look > and > > he continued to stare! So finally I said excuse me, I noticed you > are > > staring at my daughter. And he says well yes, what is the matter > with > > her? I said nothing is the matter with her! I was so frustrated > I > > could barely say anything else. I wanted to rip the DOC band off > and > > kind of proof to him and all the other rude people that she is a > > gorgeous baby that is perfectly normal. Ofcourse I did not, I am > just > > so fed up with the looks. How do you deal with the funny looks > and > > rude people? Any whitty sayings? I apologize for how long this > is, > > and I feel somewhat selfish writing this, I know we will deal with > the > > band for such a short time, many parents and people have to go > through > > this for their entire life.> >>

-- SC SAHM to , , and www.joeysmanicmelon.blogspot.comwww.midscbwers.blogspot.com"We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today." ~Stacia Tauscher Can you find the hidden words?  Take a break and play Seekadoo! Play now!