Guest guest Posted January 17, 2001 Report Share Posted January 17, 2001 , Do you have a tub for ? I always put in her tub in the shower with me (it's a tub/shower set-up). I was in the way of the water, and R specialized in going to sleep. This was also how she got her baths until she could sit-up unassisted. Amy Lynn mother to 1-25-98 and 2-10-00 Want great toys? Non-violent, educational, fun! check out www.discoverytoysinc.com, or e-mail me privately for a catalog Re: Showers > I can tell right now none of you has ever been blessed with a high need > baby=) If I want a shower I have to wait till my moms here or I take her in > with me becase she becomes hysterical if I leave her alone. Reminds me I > forgot to take a shower tonight and moms leaving early and wont have time to > watch =( wahhhh I want my shower! > > > 8.13.00 > > ps: waiting till she's asleep doesent work, I swear that kid has radar! > > > Give the Gift of Life Breastfeed! > http://www.lactivist.com > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2001 Report Share Posted January 17, 2001 Hi, Today I tried leaving on my bed while I showered. I had to cut the shower short because I had a wailing baby. Is it unusual for a 3-week-old baby to spend most of his awake time either eating or crying? There's a great article in Parenting mag about what the different cries mean. I tried to put it into practice, but it seems that the ONLY thing I can offer to soothe him when he cries, is a breast. I feel that sometimes he's just tired, but have no clue how to help him sleep. He often suckles himself to sleep but then wakes up to spit a bunch of it up. Anyway, I guess some of this is normal new-mom stuff. I hope it gets better soon, and his cries become easier for me to understand and act on. I sure did feel bad when I heard him wailing while I was in the shower, though. Naturally, by the time I got rinsed, dried and to him, he stopped crying. I felt like the worst mother! :< Well, thanks for listening! Yesterday and the day before, I got in a shower before my husband came home from work, and felt like I'd accomplished a lot. But this crying is really starting to get to me! What am I doing wrong? 12/29/2000 ===== Our Gang: http://members.home.net/leecookson/ ------------------------------------------------------ " We will either find a way, or make one! " -- Hannibal __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2001 Report Share Posted January 17, 2001 >There's a great article in Parenting mag about what >the different cries mean. I tried to put it into >practice, but it seems that the ONLY thing I can offer > to soothe him when he cries, is a breast. I >feel that sometimes he's just tired, but have no clue >how to help him sleep. He often suckles himself to >sleep but then wakes up to spit a bunch of it up Do exactly that. Nurse him whenever he cries at 3 weeks. He's probably hit a growth spurt and needs to up your supply. There is NOTHING wrong with it!! Love, Mommy to since 10-5-98 and Cameron since 8-10-00 jackpot@... http://users.pld.com/jackpot/kidspage/kids.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2001 Report Share Posted January 17, 2001 --two words--growth spurt--wait a week before trying the advice in parenting magazine. this week nurse, nurse, nurse.--Amy Lynn mother to 1-25-98 and 2-10-00 Want great toys? Non-violent, educational, fun! check out www.discoverytoysinc.com, or e-mail me privately for a catalog Re: showers > Hi, > > Today I tried leaving on my bed while I > showered. I had to cut the shower short because I had > a wailing baby. Is it unusual for a 3-week-old baby > to spend most of his awake time either eating or > crying? > > There's a great article in Parenting mag about what > the different cries mean. I tried to put it into > practice, but it seems that the ONLY thing I can offer > to soothe him when he cries, is a breast. I > feel that sometimes he's just tired, but have no clue > how to help him sleep. He often suckles himself to > sleep but then wakes up to spit a bunch of it up. > > Anyway, I guess some of this is normal new-mom stuff. > I hope it gets better soon, and his cries become > easier for me to understand and act on. I sure did > feel bad when I heard him wailing while I was in the > shower, though. Naturally, by the time I got rinsed, > dried and to him, he stopped crying. I felt like the > worst mother! :< > > Well, thanks for listening! Yesterday and the day > before, I got in a shower before my husband came home > from work, and felt like I'd accomplished a lot. But > this crying is really starting to get to me! What am > I doing wrong? > > > 12/29/2000 > > ===== > Our Gang: http://members.home.net/leecookson/ > > ------------------------------------------------------ > " We will either find a way, or make one! " -- Hannibal > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2001 Report Share Posted January 17, 2001 , it sounds to me like you are doing just fine. Some babies cry more than others. Lucas is a very demanding baby, he spent most of his first months at the breast. Babies nurse for many reasons, only one of which is hunger. Lucas is now a happy almost 6 month old who loves being carried around by his sisters, laying on the floor with toys, etc. While we aim to respond to our babies cries as soon as possible, crying for a few minutes while you finish your shower or a needed task will not harm him. Relax and enjoy! The first weeks are a big adjustment for baby, he's used to never feeling hunger and always being warm and snug inside you, it takes some time for the to adjust to the outside world. Sue At 05:21 PM 1/17/01 -0800, you wrote: >Hi, > >Today I tried leaving on my bed while I >showered. I had to cut the shower short because I had >a wailing baby. Is it unusual for a 3-week-old baby >to spend most of his awake time either eating or >crying? > >Anyway, I guess some of this is normal new-mom stuff. >I hope it gets better soon, and his cries become >easier for me to understand and act on. I sure did >feel bad when I heard him wailing while I was in the >shower, though. Naturally, by the time I got rinsed, >dried and to him, he stopped crying. I felt like the >worst mother! :< > >Well, thanks for listening! Yesterday and the day >before, I got in a shower before my husband came home >from work, and felt like I'd accomplished a lot. But >this crying is really starting to get to me! What am >I doing wrong? > > > 12/29/2000 > >===== Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2001 Report Share Posted January 17, 2001 I FEEL FOR YOU!!! It probably is just a growth spurt. I know all of you guys who do AP are going to really get after me for this, but sometimes babies just need to cry. I have three now and I let them all set their own schedules, and they did seta schedule for themselves. But I noticed that when they would get tired nothing would seem to calm them down, I would lay them in their bed or in the swing and let them cry it out (this is after I had tried EVERYTHING else even holding and rocking) they would eventually fall asleep. This would happen at the same time every day, and it was their way of developing a nap time. Katelyn still does it when she decides to change her schedule. does it now at 10:30 every morning! He is now down to nursing and then just fussing a bit until he gets himself to sleep. One thing is for sure my kids sleep very well and they actually like their nap time (except Blake LOL) In my oh so humble opinion ) You are not a bad mother if your child cries while you are in the shower, you need time for yourself as well because if you are stressed out and tense he will feel it and be even more upset. Just relax and go with the flow! Mom to:Blake 1-19-96, Katelyn 10-16-99 and Chase 10-21-00http://communities.msn.com/DaveandsFamilyPhotos Re: showers Hi,Today I tried leaving on my bed while Ishowered. I had to cut the shower short because I hada wailing baby. Is it unusual for a 3-week-old babyto spend most of his awake time either eating orcrying? There's a great article in Parenting mag about whatthe different cries mean. I tried to put it intopractice, but it seems that the ONLY thing I can offer to soothe him when he cries, is a breast. Ifeel that sometimes he's just tired, but have no cluehow to help him sleep. He often suckles himself tosleep but then wakes up to spit a bunch of it up. Anyway, I guess some of this is normal new-mom stuff. I hope it gets better soon, and his cries becomeeasier for me to understand and act on. I sure didfeel bad when I heard him wailing while I was in theshower, though. Naturally, by the time I got rinsed,dried and to him, he stopped crying. I felt like theworst mother! :<Well, thanks for listening! Yesterday and the daybefore, I got in a shower before my husband came homefrom work, and felt like I'd accomplished a lot. Butthis crying is really starting to get to me! What amI doing wrong? 12/29/2000=====Our Gang: http://members.home.net/leecookson/------------------------------------------------------"We will either find a way, or make one!" -- Hannibal__________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2001 Report Share Posted January 18, 2001 HI , No it is not unusual for a 3 week old to spend awake time only eating or crying. Unfortunately, when they cry a lot, they are using up energy so they have to eat a lot to make up for it. Sorry about the shower! At that age (or with a high needs baby as earlier discussed), showers are precious commodities for moms. Someone posted a website for a shower sling so that you can take him in the shower with you. That may be worth considering. Also, to minimize crying, are you using a sling? My baby would do the same thing, cry continuously. I found that putting her in the sling and wearing her pretty much all day was the only way to minimize the crying. She could eat & sleep there all she wanted. Even now, at 4 1/2 months old & 17 pounds, when she is upset & away from home the sling is where she will calm the fastest. I have also found that she sleeps best when she sleeps with me. I insist on her going down at first in her crib then after that she can come into bed with me. If you aren't doing this, you might want to consider it also. It certainly makes night time nursing 100% easier! I really hope that this helps! YOurs, Re: showers Hi,Today I tried leaving on my bed while Ishowered. I had to cut the shower short because I hada wailing baby. Is it unusual for a 3-week-old babyto spend most of his awake time either eating orcrying? There's a great article in Parenting mag about whatthe different cries mean. I tried to put it intopractice, but it seems that the ONLY thing I can offer to soothe him when he cries, is a breast. Ifeel that sometimes he's just tired, but have no cluehow to help him sleep. He often suckles himself tosleep but then wakes up to spit a bunch of it up. Anyway, I guess some of this is normal new-mom stuff. I hope it gets better soon, and his cries becomeeasier for me to understand and act on. I sure didfeel bad when I heard him wailing while I was in theshower, though. Naturally, by the time I got rinsed,dried and to him, he stopped crying. I felt like theworst mother! :<Well, thanks for listening! Yesterday and the daybefore, I got in a shower before my husband came homefrom work, and felt like I'd accomplished a lot. Butthis crying is really starting to get to me! What amI doing wrong? 12/29/2000=====Our Gang: http://members.home.net/leecookson/------------------------------------------------------"We will either find a way, or make one!" -- Hannibal__________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2001 Report Share Posted January 18, 2001 HI , No it is not unusual for a 3 week old to spend awake time only eating or crying. Unfortunately, when they cry a lot, they are using up energy so they have to eat a lot to make up for it. Sorry about the shower! At that age (or with a high needs baby as earlier discussed), showers are precious commodities for moms. Someone posted a website for a shower sling so that you can take him in the shower with you. That may be worth considering. Also, to minimize crying, are you using a sling? My baby would do the same thing, cry continuously. I found that putting her in the sling and wearing her pretty much all day was the only way to minimize the crying. She could eat & sleep there all she wanted. Even now, at 4 1/2 months old & 17 pounds, when she is upset & away from home the sling is where she will calm the fastest. I have also found that she sleeps best when she sleeps with me. I insist on her going down at first in her crib then after that she can come into bed with me. If you aren't doing this, you might want to consider it also. It certainly makes night time nursing 100% easier! I really hope that this helps! YOurs, Re: showers Hi,Today I tried leaving on my bed while Ishowered. I had to cut the shower short because I hada wailing baby. Is it unusual for a 3-week-old babyto spend most of his awake time either eating orcrying? There's a great article in Parenting mag about whatthe different cries mean. I tried to put it intopractice, but it seems that the ONLY thing I can offer to soothe him when he cries, is a breast. Ifeel that sometimes he's just tired, but have no cluehow to help him sleep. He often suckles himself tosleep but then wakes up to spit a bunch of it up. Anyway, I guess some of this is normal new-mom stuff. I hope it gets better soon, and his cries becomeeasier for me to understand and act on. I sure didfeel bad when I heard him wailing while I was in theshower, though. Naturally, by the time I got rinsed,dried and to him, he stopped crying. I felt like theworst mother! :<Well, thanks for listening! Yesterday and the daybefore, I got in a shower before my husband came homefrom work, and felt like I'd accomplished a lot. Butthis crying is really starting to get to me! What amI doing wrong? 12/29/2000=====Our Gang: http://members.home.net/leecookson/------------------------------------------------------"We will either find a way, or make one!" -- Hannibal__________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2001 Report Share Posted January 18, 2001 HI , No it is not unusual for a 3 week old to spend awake time only eating or crying. Unfortunately, when they cry a lot, they are using up energy so they have to eat a lot to make up for it. Sorry about the shower! At that age (or with a high needs baby as earlier discussed), showers are precious commodities for moms. Someone posted a website for a shower sling so that you can take him in the shower with you. That may be worth considering. Also, to minimize crying, are you using a sling? My baby would do the same thing, cry continuously. I found that putting her in the sling and wearing her pretty much all day was the only way to minimize the crying. She could eat & sleep there all she wanted. Even now, at 4 1/2 months old & 17 pounds, when she is upset & away from home the sling is where she will calm the fastest. I have also found that she sleeps best when she sleeps with me. I insist on her going down at first in her crib then after that she can come into bed with me. If you aren't doing this, you might want to consider it also. It certainly makes night time nursing 100% easier! I really hope that this helps! YOurs, Re: showers Hi,Today I tried leaving on my bed while Ishowered. I had to cut the shower short because I hada wailing baby. Is it unusual for a 3-week-old babyto spend most of his awake time either eating orcrying? There's a great article in Parenting mag about whatthe different cries mean. I tried to put it intopractice, but it seems that the ONLY thing I can offer to soothe him when he cries, is a breast. Ifeel that sometimes he's just tired, but have no cluehow to help him sleep. He often suckles himself tosleep but then wakes up to spit a bunch of it up. Anyway, I guess some of this is normal new-mom stuff. I hope it gets better soon, and his cries becomeeasier for me to understand and act on. I sure didfeel bad when I heard him wailing while I was in theshower, though. Naturally, by the time I got rinsed,dried and to him, he stopped crying. I felt like theworst mother! :<Well, thanks for listening! Yesterday and the daybefore, I got in a shower before my husband came homefrom work, and felt like I'd accomplished a lot. Butthis crying is really starting to get to me! What amI doing wrong? 12/29/2000=====Our Gang: http://members.home.net/leecookson/------------------------------------------------------"We will either find a way, or make one!" -- Hannibal__________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2001 Report Share Posted January 22, 2001 There's a few tricks for using a sling, 1 is to make sure the baby is comfy and the 2nd is to MOVE! my dd (5 mo now) has a fit if i'm not always on the move in the sling (she also has to be able to see what's going on). I found this site great for showing different sling positions http://www.thewigleys.net/how_to_babywear.html and always remember your not alone! My dd is very high need so I know how frustrating it can be! Re: Re: showers > Hi, , > > We do have a sling, but for us, it won't calm him if > he's already fussy. Actually, if I wear him while > he's calm, he becomes fussy, but if DH wears him while > he's calm, he stays calm. But if he's fussy going in, > he begins WAILING in the sling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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