Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Deb Im sorry that you're feeling so down about having to use the cane, but try and remember that the cane isnt what makes you and should only be considered as an extra " leg " It doesnt make you any less of a person and it doesnt define you. Unfortunately people can be so callous sometimes and dont realize how hurtful they are being. Ihope at least part of the wedding was enjoyable for you. Hugs my friend Donna > and Barbara, I read your posts and saw that all of us are going through the same kinds of reality adjustments. I got my cane this week and went to a wedding last night. It hit me when someone said somthing about my disability. I came home and cried all over again. It seems family members do not understand but to them if it helps it's good. Thank you both for sharing your feelings. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone feeling like this. > Love ya, > Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Deb Im sorry that you're feeling so down about having to use the cane, but try and remember that the cane isnt what makes you and should only be considered as an extra " leg " It doesnt make you any less of a person and it doesnt define you. Unfortunately people can be so callous sometimes and dont realize how hurtful they are being. Ihope at least part of the wedding was enjoyable for you. Hugs my friend Donna > and Barbara, I read your posts and saw that all of us are going through the same kinds of reality adjustments. I got my cane this week and went to a wedding last night. It hit me when someone said somthing about my disability. I came home and cried all over again. It seems family members do not understand but to them if it helps it's good. Thank you both for sharing your feelings. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone feeling like this. > Love ya, > Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Deb Im sorry that you're feeling so down about having to use the cane, but try and remember that the cane isnt what makes you and should only be considered as an extra " leg " It doesnt make you any less of a person and it doesnt define you. Unfortunately people can be so callous sometimes and dont realize how hurtful they are being. Ihope at least part of the wedding was enjoyable for you. Hugs my friend Donna > and Barbara, I read your posts and saw that all of us are going through the same kinds of reality adjustments. I got my cane this week and went to a wedding last night. It hit me when someone said somthing about my disability. I came home and cried all over again. It seems family members do not understand but to them if it helps it's good. Thank you both for sharing your feelings. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone feeling like this. > Love ya, > Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Dear Deb, You should never feel bad cause you need a cane. I use a power wheel chair to go to a lot of places. Then there are times that I have to use my walker. Then there are times yes my pride gets to me and I wont use any of them and then I fell and decided when I broke my are that I need to use what God helped someone create so that it would make my life easier. So when you get people that laugh at you for having to use those items remember that God gave you a bigger heart to deal with life then them. Sheri -- Re: Re-disabled DebIm sorry that you're feeling so down about having to use the cane, but try and remember that the cane isnt what makes you and should only be considered as an extra "leg" It doesnt make you any less of a person and it doesnt define you. Unfortunately people can be so callous sometimes and dont realize how hurtful they are being. Ihope at least part of the wedding was enjoyable for you. Hugs my friendDonna> and Barbara, I read your posts and saw that all of us are going through the same kinds of reality adjustments. I got my cane this week and went to a wedding last night. It hit me when someone said somthing about my disability. I came home and cried all over again. It seems family members do not understand but to them if it helps it's good. Thank you both for sharing your feelings. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone feeling like this.> Love ya,> Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Dear Deb, You should never feel bad cause you need a cane. I use a power wheel chair to go to a lot of places. Then there are times that I have to use my walker. Then there are times yes my pride gets to me and I wont use any of them and then I fell and decided when I broke my are that I need to use what God helped someone create so that it would make my life easier. So when you get people that laugh at you for having to use those items remember that God gave you a bigger heart to deal with life then them. Sheri -- Re: Re-disabled DebIm sorry that you're feeling so down about having to use the cane, but try and remember that the cane isnt what makes you and should only be considered as an extra "leg" It doesnt make you any less of a person and it doesnt define you. Unfortunately people can be so callous sometimes and dont realize how hurtful they are being. Ihope at least part of the wedding was enjoyable for you. Hugs my friendDonna> and Barbara, I read your posts and saw that all of us are going through the same kinds of reality adjustments. I got my cane this week and went to a wedding last night. It hit me when someone said somthing about my disability. I came home and cried all over again. It seems family members do not understand but to them if it helps it's good. Thank you both for sharing your feelings. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone feeling like this.> Love ya,> Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Dear Deb, You should never feel bad cause you need a cane. I use a power wheel chair to go to a lot of places. Then there are times that I have to use my walker. Then there are times yes my pride gets to me and I wont use any of them and then I fell and decided when I broke my are that I need to use what God helped someone create so that it would make my life easier. So when you get people that laugh at you for having to use those items remember that God gave you a bigger heart to deal with life then them. Sheri -- Re: Re-disabled DebIm sorry that you're feeling so down about having to use the cane, but try and remember that the cane isnt what makes you and should only be considered as an extra "leg" It doesnt make you any less of a person and it doesnt define you. Unfortunately people can be so callous sometimes and dont realize how hurtful they are being. Ihope at least part of the wedding was enjoyable for you. Hugs my friendDonna> and Barbara, I read your posts and saw that all of us are going through the same kinds of reality adjustments. I got my cane this week and went to a wedding last night. It hit me when someone said somthing about my disability. I came home and cried all over again. It seems family members do not understand but to them if it helps it's good. Thank you both for sharing your feelings. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone feeling like this.> Love ya,> Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Thanks Sheri, I am better now and ready to face the world. I know that there will be many other obstacles but I can overcome them I have confidence. God will not give me more than one person can handle. Sweet Dreams. Love ya, Debbie > > > Date: 2004/11/14 Sun PM 09:24:16 EST > To: <RSD-CRPSofAmerica > > Subject: Re: Re-disabled > > Dear Deb, You should never feel bad cause you need a cane. I use a power wheel chair to go to a lot of places. Then there are times that I have to use my walker. Then there are times yes my pride gets to me and I wont use any of them and then I fell and decided when I broke my are that I need to use what God helped someone create so that it would make my life easier. So when you get people that laugh at you for having to use those items remember that God gave you a bigger heart to deal with life then them. Sheri -- Re: Re-disabled DebIm sorry that you're feeling so down about having to use the cane, but try and remember that the cane isnt what makes you and should only be considered as an extra "leg" It doesnt make you any less of a person and it doesnt define you. Unfortunately people can be so callous sometimes and dont realize how hurtful they are being. Ihope at least part of the wedding was enjoyable for you. Hugs my friendDonna> and Barbara, I read your posts and saw that all of us are going through the same kinds of reality adjustments. I got my cane this week and went to a wedding last night. It hit me when someone said somthing about my disability. I came home and cried all over again. It seems family members do not understand but to them if it helps it's good. Thank you both for sharing your feelings. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone feeling like this.> Love ya,> Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Thanks Sheri, I am better now and ready to face the world. I know that there will be many other obstacles but I can overcome them I have confidence. God will not give me more than one person can handle. Sweet Dreams. Love ya, Debbie > > > Date: 2004/11/14 Sun PM 09:24:16 EST > To: <RSD-CRPSofAmerica > > Subject: Re: Re-disabled > > Dear Deb, You should never feel bad cause you need a cane. I use a power wheel chair to go to a lot of places. Then there are times that I have to use my walker. Then there are times yes my pride gets to me and I wont use any of them and then I fell and decided when I broke my are that I need to use what God helped someone create so that it would make my life easier. So when you get people that laugh at you for having to use those items remember that God gave you a bigger heart to deal with life then them. Sheri -- Re: Re-disabled DebIm sorry that you're feeling so down about having to use the cane, but try and remember that the cane isnt what makes you and should only be considered as an extra "leg" It doesnt make you any less of a person and it doesnt define you. Unfortunately people can be so callous sometimes and dont realize how hurtful they are being. Ihope at least part of the wedding was enjoyable for you. Hugs my friendDonna> and Barbara, I read your posts and saw that all of us are going through the same kinds of reality adjustments. I got my cane this week and went to a wedding last night. It hit me when someone said somthing about my disability. I came home and cried all over again. It seems family members do not understand but to them if it helps it's good. Thank you both for sharing your feelings. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone feeling like this.> Love ya,> Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Thanks Sheri, I am better now and ready to face the world. I know that there will be many other obstacles but I can overcome them I have confidence. God will not give me more than one person can handle. Sweet Dreams. Love ya, Debbie > > > Date: 2004/11/14 Sun PM 09:24:16 EST > To: <RSD-CRPSofAmerica > > Subject: Re: Re-disabled > > Dear Deb, You should never feel bad cause you need a cane. I use a power wheel chair to go to a lot of places. Then there are times that I have to use my walker. Then there are times yes my pride gets to me and I wont use any of them and then I fell and decided when I broke my are that I need to use what God helped someone create so that it would make my life easier. So when you get people that laugh at you for having to use those items remember that God gave you a bigger heart to deal with life then them. Sheri -- Re: Re-disabled DebIm sorry that you're feeling so down about having to use the cane, but try and remember that the cane isnt what makes you and should only be considered as an extra "leg" It doesnt make you any less of a person and it doesnt define you. Unfortunately people can be so callous sometimes and dont realize how hurtful they are being. Ihope at least part of the wedding was enjoyable for you. Hugs my friendDonna> and Barbara, I read your posts and saw that all of us are going through the same kinds of reality adjustments. I got my cane this week and went to a wedding last night. It hit me when someone said somthing about my disability. I came home and cried all over again. It seems family members do not understand but to them if it helps it's good. Thank you both for sharing your feelings. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone feeling like this.> Love ya,> Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2004 Report Share Posted November 15, 2004 Hi Deb, Yes I find it to that life and body changes are hard adjustments. I think I haven't seen my son in 4 years and he doesn't even know that I'm using wheelchair. He now is living here in my town. Just hasn't gotten around to see me yet. I fear the day he see's me. Laurie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2004 Report Share Posted November 17, 2004 Lin, I totally agree...most don't know what to say or how to act around me anymore. I went through the same thing when my son was dx with autism...most of my family would ignore me and my son or would say it was my fault that he was autistic..somthing I did or did not do when i was pregnant with him. It's hard for some to understand disorders they have never heard of or dealt with or make them uncomfortable. They don't realize it hurts the person who has it that they act like this more then the disorder sometimes. Hope you had a great day...Hugs..Ginny wrote: JoAnn, I think that the 55% is a bit low. I think the number should be around 75% or higher. I think probably the one that will get the most votes is the ignoring and or offering no support. I have had both family and friends ignore me and my disease. Why is this so confusing for you? It happens to cancer victims all the time, people don't know how to handle pain and suffering, so they just don't come around or call. take care, Lin LAURIE, WHY DO YOU FEAR WHEN YOUR SON SEE'S YOU? WOULD YOU MIND EXPLAINING WHAT MAKES YOU FEARFUL......YOU CAN WRITE ME DIRECT AT HOME....2XHAWKS@... EXCEPT THINK IS NOT IN LARGE CAPS, HECK IF I KNOW.....ANYWAY I AM SORRY LAURIE, I UNDERSTAND. I FIND MY HEART SADDENED BY WHAT I THINK MAY BE 55% OR MORE OF US WITH AT LEAST FAMILY, SPOUSE,FRIENDS THAT HAVE EITHER TURNED BACK ON US OR AT BEST IGNORE AND OR OFFER NO SUPPORT. I FIND IT CONFUSING THAT SO MANY STRUGGLE WITH AT LEAST ONE OF THESE SITUATIONS IN OUR LIVES. AM I IN ERROR THINKING IT IS THAT HIGH? HOPE I AM IN ERROR AS SURE MAKES ME SAD. JUST ASKING.....IS PAINFUL SO DON'T FEEL HAVE TO RESPOND IF ANYONE HAS THIS PROBLEM...NOT TRYING TO HURT PEOPLE BY ASKING TO TALK ABOUT IT BUT LAURIE YOUR WORDS JUST MAKE ME SO SAD FOR YOU. AND FOR ALL OTHERS IN SITUATIONS SIMILAR. PLEASE TAKE CARE LAURIE. JOANN KELLYS MOMMA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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