Guest guest Posted January 24, 2004 Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 No offense taken at all, TJ! I know LOTS of people who have sought counselors, and it didn't work! It depends on a lot of stuff, for sure, for it to work! In that case, would it help to tell the boys during a family meal, that since they don't want to listen to you and help you, that they can be responsible for their own laundry, and take their turn at making meals. Then I would quit doing all their laundry or helping them out in stuff that they can handle themselves, but probably expect and enjoy you doing...but don't appreciate it! They need to see all you do, and how important it is, how time consuming it all is, and how painful it can be for you. I'm not sure how you get that across to them - I'm far from being an expert on child rearing, that's for sure! I will certainly keep you in my prayers, as I know how painful it can be! Sorry I can't be of more help. Love Lana " 'Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.' " Dr. Suess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2004 Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 Oh by the way- the youngest is now seeing a counselor that has not contacted me- he lives with his dad- not because he wants to but because the courts are insane here in Tuscola County, Michigan and they are allowing him to have custody when in reality its just messed up- Ive done nothing to deserve this nor has the child........ so back to the point here- he is seeing one due to school recommending he does but the counselor wont contact ME- I have called several times- courts say its fine- she doesnt need to INVOLVE me....... ??????????????? I shouldnt have said anything, I am sorry- please everyone just ignore what I wrote- I took both boys by myself to counseling when their dad walked out the door due to the settlement money on the death of Kenny- and I fought tooth and nail to get the boys a fair amount of that money - and he got custody of both at the time ( they stated I was too over protective ?) but even though the age limit here for choosing is 18, (16) got kicked out of school over a dumb dream- and then ran from his dads to here- he see's all the crap his dad is doing- he wont even speak to the guy........ I am homeschooling him and ken didnt fight to get him back, guess he's afraid of the kid......... but yet last hearing threatened that if he had to pay child support he'd see to it that john was removed and put in another type of home....... which the courts are on his side, its all biasy as I see it, long story- but anyhow I dont want the creeps money............. and I made that quite clear........... but........... The friend of the court is saying its wrong so there is another hearing over the last hearing but this time due to the friend of the court soooooooooooooo end result may be they will say he has to pay child support - and then another battle will begin because he's not going to want to pay anything, he is greedy- and all of this mess began from money to begin with....... So- Until Feb 3rd- I have no idea what the next move is. did see a counselor and had mental evaluation done at the force of his dad- he thought it so wrong that the kid would want to live with his OWN mother! and that all turned on Ken- the kid is fine......... and they did not suggest more counseling and I know it wouldnt help him anyhow- he wouldnt do anything suggested. Anyhow I shouldnt have written....... Please ignore it, because I wrote that at wits end and counseling suggestions just get my goat more because I've tried that already and it didnt help.............. nothing personal against you lana........ its just one thing that most suggest and knowing it has been tried several times and not worked its like ughhhhhhhhhhh......... I am off to remove myself before I have possibly caused a problem here............ I sure did not mean to.............. Take care all/ Re: Does Anyone else? Hi TJ, I feel very badly for you! I would strongly suggest you try to find a counselor for all of you. If you can't afford one, there are places that I'm sure would see you for free. Have you ever tried counseling?? Love Lana " 'Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.' " Dr. Suess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2004 Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 Oh by the way- the youngest is now seeing a counselor that has not contacted me- he lives with his dad- not because he wants to but because the courts are insane here in Tuscola County, Michigan and they are allowing him to have custody when in reality its just messed up- Ive done nothing to deserve this nor has the child........ so back to the point here- he is seeing one due to school recommending he does but the counselor wont contact ME- I have called several times- courts say its fine- she doesnt need to INVOLVE me....... ??????????????? I shouldnt have said anything, I am sorry- please everyone just ignore what I wrote- I took both boys by myself to counseling when their dad walked out the door due to the settlement money on the death of Kenny- and I fought tooth and nail to get the boys a fair amount of that money - and he got custody of both at the time ( they stated I was too over protective ?) but even though the age limit here for choosing is 18, (16) got kicked out of school over a dumb dream- and then ran from his dads to here- he see's all the crap his dad is doing- he wont even speak to the guy........ I am homeschooling him and ken didnt fight to get him back, guess he's afraid of the kid......... but yet last hearing threatened that if he had to pay child support he'd see to it that john was removed and put in another type of home....... which the courts are on his side, its all biasy as I see it, long story- but anyhow I dont want the creeps money............. and I made that quite clear........... but........... The friend of the court is saying its wrong so there is another hearing over the last hearing but this time due to the friend of the court soooooooooooooo end result may be they will say he has to pay child support - and then another battle will begin because he's not going to want to pay anything, he is greedy- and all of this mess began from money to begin with....... So- Until Feb 3rd- I have no idea what the next move is. did see a counselor and had mental evaluation done at the force of his dad- he thought it so wrong that the kid would want to live with his OWN mother! and that all turned on Ken- the kid is fine......... and they did not suggest more counseling and I know it wouldnt help him anyhow- he wouldnt do anything suggested. Anyhow I shouldnt have written....... Please ignore it, because I wrote that at wits end and counseling suggestions just get my goat more because I've tried that already and it didnt help.............. nothing personal against you lana........ its just one thing that most suggest and knowing it has been tried several times and not worked its like ughhhhhhhhhhh......... I am off to remove myself before I have possibly caused a problem here............ I sure did not mean to.............. Take care all/ Re: Does Anyone else? Hi TJ, I feel very badly for you! I would strongly suggest you try to find a counselor for all of you. If you can't afford one, there are places that I'm sure would see you for free. Have you ever tried counseling?? Love Lana " 'Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.' " Dr. Suess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2004 Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 I wrote this before I read your 2nd post about how you first wrote in the heat of the moment. I know, I've done that many times, but, I still want to send this. As for the therapy, don't do it if it hasn't helped. You sometimes have to go through a lot of different people to find the right one, but you may be sick of trying to find the right one. Anyway, there are things you can do yourself. And, I know they can work, cause my dad has done them. Not just what I mention below either. My dad has been through numerous therapist, counselors, psychologist, psychiatrist, etc., and he says he will never go to another one. I understand this. You CAN help yourself in so many ways. I do say that you can't do it alone, meaning you can't just sit around and not do anything. You can get help from others, in tapes, and books. If you can't stand the thought of another therapist, then try something else. I will get the names of some tapes and books that have helped my dad, if you would like. It couldn't hurt, and it just may help. And, it's better than doing nothing. I know exactly how the stress from the kids affects pain. I deal with it all the time. In fact, I'm sure that my pain is worse from stress. I too believe my kids are testing what they can get away with cause I'm not well. I try to reason with them, but it doesn't work. I even smacked my daughter last week. That was very upsetting to me - and her. But, when you don't feel well, and they are pulling that crap, what are you to do? You are not superwoman!!!! I can't believe what my kids do and say sometimes. They are basically good kids, but man, can they blow it sometimes! It seems to go in waves at my house. My girls are under a lot of stress now because of their health problems. The anxiety in our house has hit the roof. My daughters lost a very good friend last year (1 year exactly on Tuesday). This has added to their stress. Nobody really knows how to deal with it, but I think it's even harder for kids. They seem to act out more when they've had to deal with a tragic event. It's almost like they don't know what to feel, so they get angry. What can you do? All you can do is tell them when they are wrong and get them psychological help. Aside from that, you have to try to take care of yourself. I am now taking a Mind/Body Clinic class through my health care office. They are teaching us this very thing - that stress makes everyone's health problem so much worse. It makes pain worse. I have only had one class so far. There are 9 to go. But, In the very first class, they gave us a relaxation tape that we signed a contract to listen to for at least 20 minutes every day. They taught us how to sit and relax. They know that a lot of people with health problems and chronic pain can't just go out for a walk. What they first taught us is this - Sit in a comfortable quiet place (don't lay down, or you will probably fall asleep). Close your eyes. Concentrate on your breathing. You may want to put your hand on your belly to remind you, and to make sure you are breathing fully. Lay your hands in your lap palm up (this is a physical thing that sort of reminds your brain that it's time to meditate). When you breath in, think of a work that is relaxing. My word is " calm " . When you breath out, think of another word, or use the same word. My word is " free " (for " pain free " but I didn't want to put that negative word in). I imagine that I am blowing the pain out of my body. This takes a lot of practice for most people. Just keep doing it. You may fall asleep at first. That's ok. You may not be able to get all the crap out of your mind at first. That's ok too. Just keep trying it every day. Try it when you lay down to go to sleep too. You may think it's not gonna work. But just keep doing it every day. Eventually, it will get easier. There are many relaxation tapes available to buy. I'm sure Amazon has a lot. Some are called hypnotherapy tapes. There is a guy called kson, who when he was alive, pioneered self hypnosis. He was a paraplegic his whole life from polio. He taught himself how to use his arms by watching his baby brother. He spent his whole life in terrible pain. He taught himself hypnotherapy, and was able to live the life he wanted, even though he was bound to a wheelchair. Anyway, you could get one of those tapes, or get a music tape that is very relaxing to you. Or, you could just do it in utter silence. I know that may be hard with the kids, but do it when they are in school, or when you go to bed. I'm finding it very hard to do because I keep falling asleep when I try. I have been able to do it in the past without falling asleep, so I know I can do it. But, My way to deal with stress has always been to sleep. I get stressed, I go to bed. I'm still trying though. You may even want to find someone to help you do this. There are some great therapists who can help you with it, if you want. My dad has been doing this for a while now, and has cut his pain meds in half. His anxiety is much less. He is agoraphobic, and can barely leave the house, but he isn't as anxious throughout the day. He has had this for about 35 years, so it's quite a challenge. I know how you feel - things would be easier if I would die. But I know you don't want to. You wouldn't have written your post if you did. If you are worried about that, you need to get help. Your feelings are so understandable. I've been there, so I know how it feels. I haven't lost a child, so I can't say I know how that feels. I can only imagine. I do know the desperation of your situation with your pain and your kids, though. You need help. You can't do it alone. Again, you aren't superwoman. I have put off therapy for so long, cause I don't want to deal with all the old crap in my life. But, I just started it because my dr wanted me to, and I'm at the point where I'll do anything to get better. I'm so sick and tired of being sick and tired. You've heard that saying, I'm sure. I think you should call your parents for help. Wouldn't you want your child to call you for help if they needed it? Just do it! As for your ex, well, I know it's hard, but try not to listen to him. Try not to even talk to him. Your kids will have to stop. Maybe your parents can talk with them? I don't know. I know how hard it is trying to deal with teenagers. They think they are so right in everything, never willing to admit they may be wrong. Someone has to tell them straight out that mom is gonna end up in the hospital if they don't cut out all their crap. And if it takes calling the police, then so be it. Maybe that would be a good idea next time they start hitting each other. Call the cops and say they are fighting. Maybe it will scare them enough to get some sense knocked in their heads. They are acting out, maybe because that's often what kids do when they have major grown up things they have to deal with. They need help too. You have probably already gotten them help, and I think you said once before you have a therapist. You are not the only one who has to deal with pain, and crap from the kids. I'm right there with you on that one. I'm so sorry, and I hope things will settle down. I also hope I haven't offended you with my swearing! I get so angry with my daughters when they swear, that I swear at them to stop it. How stupid is that? Then I apologize for swearing at them. It's just the most ridiculous thing ever! I think " how much does a person have to go through and deal with before they have a nervous breakdown? " I've had more than my share, and I still haven't broken down. Neither have you, (and you've been through hell and back) and you can thank your faith in God for that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2004 Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 I wrote this before I read your 2nd post about how you first wrote in the heat of the moment. I know, I've done that many times, but, I still want to send this. As for the therapy, don't do it if it hasn't helped. You sometimes have to go through a lot of different people to find the right one, but you may be sick of trying to find the right one. Anyway, there are things you can do yourself. And, I know they can work, cause my dad has done them. Not just what I mention below either. My dad has been through numerous therapist, counselors, psychologist, psychiatrist, etc., and he says he will never go to another one. I understand this. You CAN help yourself in so many ways. I do say that you can't do it alone, meaning you can't just sit around and not do anything. You can get help from others, in tapes, and books. If you can't stand the thought of another therapist, then try something else. I will get the names of some tapes and books that have helped my dad, if you would like. It couldn't hurt, and it just may help. And, it's better than doing nothing. I know exactly how the stress from the kids affects pain. I deal with it all the time. In fact, I'm sure that my pain is worse from stress. I too believe my kids are testing what they can get away with cause I'm not well. I try to reason with them, but it doesn't work. I even smacked my daughter last week. That was very upsetting to me - and her. But, when you don't feel well, and they are pulling that crap, what are you to do? You are not superwoman!!!! I can't believe what my kids do and say sometimes. They are basically good kids, but man, can they blow it sometimes! It seems to go in waves at my house. My girls are under a lot of stress now because of their health problems. The anxiety in our house has hit the roof. My daughters lost a very good friend last year (1 year exactly on Tuesday). This has added to their stress. Nobody really knows how to deal with it, but I think it's even harder for kids. They seem to act out more when they've had to deal with a tragic event. It's almost like they don't know what to feel, so they get angry. What can you do? All you can do is tell them when they are wrong and get them psychological help. Aside from that, you have to try to take care of yourself. I am now taking a Mind/Body Clinic class through my health care office. They are teaching us this very thing - that stress makes everyone's health problem so much worse. It makes pain worse. I have only had one class so far. There are 9 to go. But, In the very first class, they gave us a relaxation tape that we signed a contract to listen to for at least 20 minutes every day. They taught us how to sit and relax. They know that a lot of people with health problems and chronic pain can't just go out for a walk. What they first taught us is this - Sit in a comfortable quiet place (don't lay down, or you will probably fall asleep). Close your eyes. Concentrate on your breathing. You may want to put your hand on your belly to remind you, and to make sure you are breathing fully. Lay your hands in your lap palm up (this is a physical thing that sort of reminds your brain that it's time to meditate). When you breath in, think of a work that is relaxing. My word is " calm " . When you breath out, think of another word, or use the same word. My word is " free " (for " pain free " but I didn't want to put that negative word in). I imagine that I am blowing the pain out of my body. This takes a lot of practice for most people. Just keep doing it. You may fall asleep at first. That's ok. You may not be able to get all the crap out of your mind at first. That's ok too. Just keep trying it every day. Try it when you lay down to go to sleep too. You may think it's not gonna work. But just keep doing it every day. Eventually, it will get easier. There are many relaxation tapes available to buy. I'm sure Amazon has a lot. Some are called hypnotherapy tapes. There is a guy called kson, who when he was alive, pioneered self hypnosis. He was a paraplegic his whole life from polio. He taught himself how to use his arms by watching his baby brother. He spent his whole life in terrible pain. He taught himself hypnotherapy, and was able to live the life he wanted, even though he was bound to a wheelchair. Anyway, you could get one of those tapes, or get a music tape that is very relaxing to you. Or, you could just do it in utter silence. I know that may be hard with the kids, but do it when they are in school, or when you go to bed. I'm finding it very hard to do because I keep falling asleep when I try. I have been able to do it in the past without falling asleep, so I know I can do it. But, My way to deal with stress has always been to sleep. I get stressed, I go to bed. I'm still trying though. You may even want to find someone to help you do this. There are some great therapists who can help you with it, if you want. My dad has been doing this for a while now, and has cut his pain meds in half. His anxiety is much less. He is agoraphobic, and can barely leave the house, but he isn't as anxious throughout the day. He has had this for about 35 years, so it's quite a challenge. I know how you feel - things would be easier if I would die. But I know you don't want to. You wouldn't have written your post if you did. If you are worried about that, you need to get help. Your feelings are so understandable. I've been there, so I know how it feels. I haven't lost a child, so I can't say I know how that feels. I can only imagine. I do know the desperation of your situation with your pain and your kids, though. You need help. You can't do it alone. Again, you aren't superwoman. I have put off therapy for so long, cause I don't want to deal with all the old crap in my life. But, I just started it because my dr wanted me to, and I'm at the point where I'll do anything to get better. I'm so sick and tired of being sick and tired. You've heard that saying, I'm sure. I think you should call your parents for help. Wouldn't you want your child to call you for help if they needed it? Just do it! As for your ex, well, I know it's hard, but try not to listen to him. Try not to even talk to him. Your kids will have to stop. Maybe your parents can talk with them? I don't know. I know how hard it is trying to deal with teenagers. They think they are so right in everything, never willing to admit they may be wrong. Someone has to tell them straight out that mom is gonna end up in the hospital if they don't cut out all their crap. And if it takes calling the police, then so be it. Maybe that would be a good idea next time they start hitting each other. Call the cops and say they are fighting. Maybe it will scare them enough to get some sense knocked in their heads. They are acting out, maybe because that's often what kids do when they have major grown up things they have to deal with. They need help too. You have probably already gotten them help, and I think you said once before you have a therapist. You are not the only one who has to deal with pain, and crap from the kids. I'm right there with you on that one. I'm so sorry, and I hope things will settle down. I also hope I haven't offended you with my swearing! I get so angry with my daughters when they swear, that I swear at them to stop it. How stupid is that? Then I apologize for swearing at them. It's just the most ridiculous thing ever! I think " how much does a person have to go through and deal with before they have a nervous breakdown? " I've had more than my share, and I still haven't broken down. Neither have you, (and you've been through hell and back) and you can thank your faith in God for that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2004 Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 2 more things - I can tell that just by writing all that down and sending it to the board, it made you feel a little better. I do this also. I don't always send things to the board though. I write things down, and then I feel better. After my grandma died, I couldn't deal with it. I started writing. I ended up with a mini novel. With dialog and everything. After I read it a few times, I tore it up and threw it away. It really helps. Also - Maybe you could print out what you wrote to the board, and accidentaly leave it somewhere that the boys would see it. That may shock them into trying to behave a little more. Good luck, and Big hugs. Hang in there, and keep praying. Mon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2004 Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 Hi I am so sorry for all you are going through (and it really seems so much for one person) My advice to you is to get some counselling if you are able. Maybe for the kids as well. Its good to hear that you're faith is strong, I am still working on that after losing my 13 year old son 8 months ago and then finding out I have Type IV sometimes it does get so overwhelming at times. Thats what is good about this list ....its a great sounding board, however if you have friends, a minister or counsellor --talk talk talk. Hope this helps. My prayers are with you . Betty Does Anyone else? > I know I dont say a whole lot here on the board- but I do read all that goes through...... > > I am experiencing severe pain and am on quite a few medications....... which - to me- means- I shouldn't be so miserable........ Don't get me wrong- I know it could be much worse........ > > My EDS is type IV-and after all the surgeries etc that I've been through- which the information was on my site that I posted a while ago- ( the one with cell phone damage) .... > > I am on morphine, lorcet, wellbutrin, high blood pressure pill,, water pill, and a fewother things but must say- none help when STRESS IS HIGH....... I most times can handle stress but once I get the stress problem out of my mind- it goes to body parts - it seems........ > > My biggest stressor today is something we all have to deal with ( I think ? ) if we have kids. I have a 16 yr old and 11 yr old boy....... I can be getting around just fine with cane/or furniture but if these 2 start in with their bickering on top of all the other stressors- one being housebound for 2 years- not being able to go outside for a walk to walk off the stress or even go for a drive because I cant drive now - ugh.......... I resort to showers- web site making, sleep to relieve stress...... > > What I really want to know is- does this happen to others? I can be gettin around almost normally and when those 2 go at it, big time downfall- I am flat on my rear end for the rest of the day as my legs and body become so drenched in pain from the stress of their arguing and I instantly want to just close my eyes and go to sleep but cant due to the pain....... I end up on an amigo or wheelchair to get around and its basically from hollering at those 2. > > The disgusting language they use...... they know its not allowed - yet I feel they tend to test to the max even more because Mom is ill and they know Mom cant really do a whole lot of damage to them ( like chase them around and force them to sit etc )........ I am at wit's end....... > Tattling on eachother for swearing- yet swearing themselves.............. mercy.......... > > And my 11 yr old is a pretty good candidate in my eyes to have EDS as he is fair skinned and bruises easily too which Ive mentioned before but he's brave- he smacks the older one - the older one smacks him and I have explained to the older one ( not in front of the younger one ) that he needs to NOT HIT and just walk away- go to his room- anything to get away from eachother.......because he could possibly cause the younger one a lot more damage than he thinks ...... > > Both know they lost a 12 year old brother to aneurysm on kidney - yet does this cross either ones mind when they are smacking eachother and hollering bad language etc...... > > Im divorced, live with the older child but the younger one is here often as unjustifiably he was taken from moms care and placed in his dads care whom wants nothing except for me to have a miserable life, even to the point of calling me a faker etc when I even had a hole in my leg! I do have my parents - a field away- but why should I have to constantly call for help...... > > What will make these 2 understand they are tearing mom apart? They see me go from walkin to kitchen with cane to being almost not able to move and having to resort to the scooter or wheelchair and still it does not seem to wake them up! > > I asked them - is it going to take me being hospitalized or what to make you boys see that all this bickering is really hurting your mother! > > Please tell me Im not alone! > > I've not said it outloud- but - when this goes on - I think death would be better!!!!!!!!!!! And of course say to myself ( I HATE MY LIFE ).... > > Sorry for ranting on about this, Im at wits end and drained.......... Ive done everything- seperating them- grounding etc.......... whats left to do beside end up in an insane asylum.............. I have divorce/custody problems to deal with- trying to get SSI problems- etc......... how much am I suppsed to take.................. Thank God for my faith in HIM, if I didnt have that- I dont know what I'd do.......... > > A mom with EDS at wits End- > TJ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2004 Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 Hi I am so sorry for all you are going through (and it really seems so much for one person) My advice to you is to get some counselling if you are able. Maybe for the kids as well. Its good to hear that you're faith is strong, I am still working on that after losing my 13 year old son 8 months ago and then finding out I have Type IV sometimes it does get so overwhelming at times. Thats what is good about this list ....its a great sounding board, however if you have friends, a minister or counsellor --talk talk talk. Hope this helps. My prayers are with you . Betty Does Anyone else? > I know I dont say a whole lot here on the board- but I do read all that goes through...... > > I am experiencing severe pain and am on quite a few medications....... which - to me- means- I shouldn't be so miserable........ Don't get me wrong- I know it could be much worse........ > > My EDS is type IV-and after all the surgeries etc that I've been through- which the information was on my site that I posted a while ago- ( the one with cell phone damage) .... > > I am on morphine, lorcet, wellbutrin, high blood pressure pill,, water pill, and a fewother things but must say- none help when STRESS IS HIGH....... I most times can handle stress but once I get the stress problem out of my mind- it goes to body parts - it seems........ > > My biggest stressor today is something we all have to deal with ( I think ? ) if we have kids. I have a 16 yr old and 11 yr old boy....... I can be getting around just fine with cane/or furniture but if these 2 start in with their bickering on top of all the other stressors- one being housebound for 2 years- not being able to go outside for a walk to walk off the stress or even go for a drive because I cant drive now - ugh.......... I resort to showers- web site making, sleep to relieve stress...... > > What I really want to know is- does this happen to others? I can be gettin around almost normally and when those 2 go at it, big time downfall- I am flat on my rear end for the rest of the day as my legs and body become so drenched in pain from the stress of their arguing and I instantly want to just close my eyes and go to sleep but cant due to the pain....... I end up on an amigo or wheelchair to get around and its basically from hollering at those 2. > > The disgusting language they use...... they know its not allowed - yet I feel they tend to test to the max even more because Mom is ill and they know Mom cant really do a whole lot of damage to them ( like chase them around and force them to sit etc )........ I am at wit's end....... > Tattling on eachother for swearing- yet swearing themselves.............. mercy.......... > > And my 11 yr old is a pretty good candidate in my eyes to have EDS as he is fair skinned and bruises easily too which Ive mentioned before but he's brave- he smacks the older one - the older one smacks him and I have explained to the older one ( not in front of the younger one ) that he needs to NOT HIT and just walk away- go to his room- anything to get away from eachother.......because he could possibly cause the younger one a lot more damage than he thinks ...... > > Both know they lost a 12 year old brother to aneurysm on kidney - yet does this cross either ones mind when they are smacking eachother and hollering bad language etc...... > > Im divorced, live with the older child but the younger one is here often as unjustifiably he was taken from moms care and placed in his dads care whom wants nothing except for me to have a miserable life, even to the point of calling me a faker etc when I even had a hole in my leg! I do have my parents - a field away- but why should I have to constantly call for help...... > > What will make these 2 understand they are tearing mom apart? They see me go from walkin to kitchen with cane to being almost not able to move and having to resort to the scooter or wheelchair and still it does not seem to wake them up! > > I asked them - is it going to take me being hospitalized or what to make you boys see that all this bickering is really hurting your mother! > > Please tell me Im not alone! > > I've not said it outloud- but - when this goes on - I think death would be better!!!!!!!!!!! And of course say to myself ( I HATE MY LIFE ).... > > Sorry for ranting on about this, Im at wits end and drained.......... Ive done everything- seperating them- grounding etc.......... whats left to do beside end up in an insane asylum.............. I have divorce/custody problems to deal with- trying to get SSI problems- etc......... how much am I suppsed to take.................. Thank God for my faith in HIM, if I didnt have that- I dont know what I'd do.......... > > A mom with EDS at wits End- > TJ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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