Dealing with death, by Rion Sewell

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Dealing with Death

Everyone in the world, at one time or another,

will experience the loss of someone we love. There is no way to avoid the pain

completely, but we can find ways to cope, become stronger, and, eventually, to

find peace.

This page is in memory

of those who have passed over and for the people who have been left behind to

carry on with life.

..

Dealing with grief is something none of

us want to endure. Some people say dealing with grief is a waste of time. Not

me! I say ..

" Grief

is the proof we have loved and lived. "

The tears will come, it is a

natural reaction to an unpleasant situation. So just let them come. It is a

good cleansing procedure, both mentally and physically.

Tears are nothing to be ashamed of ..

just remember ..

" Tears

wash the heart and cleanse it of grief ..

allowing all the love you possess to shine

forth! "

© 2002 " Rion "

Sewell

Dealing with Death

Most of us at one time or another have

experienced the loss of someone we love. There is no way to avoid the pain

completely, but we can find ways to cope, to become stronger, and, eventually,

to find peace.

Dealing with death is a process we all must endure at

some time in our life. When we receive the notice of the death of a loved one,

the words crush our hearts and take our breath away. One message cannot stand

on its own as memories and thoughts rush through our minds in a flurry of

emotion. If the person was extremely close to us, we may even feel anger at the

person for leaving us alone to face the world.

In all walks of life, people have devised ways to help

them cope with the inevitability and finality of death. In all lifestyles,

talking is the best way to open your heart and allow the grief to subside.

Talking releases the emotions; it clears space in your heart and mind for a

touch of joy to enter your life.

If someone you know has suffered a loss, the best thing

you can do for that person is to listen. Face the person, don’t look

away, and give them your full attention. You did not cause the tears they shed;

neither did you cause the pain they are feeling. The

tears make the pain more visible to you, but you did not give them the

pain. It was already there.

When they cry, you may feel helpless and not know what to

do. Just remember, you don't need to do a thing, just be there for them. Allow

their tears to flow and it will help them to heal.

You need not speak, but do not turn away. Your silence as

they cry is all they need. Be patient and do not fear. Listening with your

heart to what they feel relieves their pain; for when the tears can freely come

and go, their heart will become lighter in spirit.

I believe when we have learned all the lessons we were

sent to Earth to learn, we are allowed to shed our physical body and return in

spirit. Our body imprisons our soul the way a cocoon encloses the future

butterfly. At the time of our physical death, we will be free of pain, free of

fears and free of worries. We will be as a beautiful butterfly returning home

to God.

The most important thing for you to remember is you are

never alone. There are people who can help you cope with your grief as deal with

it you must. For life goes on and you will continue to grow and to sing, to

love and to dance, even after your loved one has parted. We cannot avoid the

pain death brings into our life, but we can choose to not allow that pain to

overwhelm us to the point of a lifeless non-existence.

© May 2001

“Rion” Sewell

Lost

... a Friend

The phone rings in the middle of the night

and a voice on the other end

explains how, in the dead of

the night.

you have lost another friend.

Stunned you sit as anguish fills your heart

and the tears begin to fall.

You sit in the dark with the

phone in your hand

for you can't understand it all.

Vibrant and caring, and so full of love

an effervescent life is gone.

The body still lingers on

this great earth

while the spirit flew into the dawn.

It is never easy when a friend passes over

and leaves us here alone on the shore,

but we can take heart when we

realize

peace is theirs forever more.

© April 2002

“Rion” Sewell

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Deanna