Sad news

October 27, 2001

With the Parkinson list Pam?? I remember you from an ataxia list. I can't

remember when I signed on, I think in late 1995.

Gosh time does go by...........

later and hugs,

cindy

Re: Sad News: Phil Cuckson

> I read in one of Phil's posts yesterday that he had

> signed on the Vanderbilt list in 1995 about 2 weeks

> after it started up. I believe before that that there

> were several people, including Sylvia Dickson, who

> were corresponding on the Parkinsn list. I think I

> first subscribed around the summer of 1995.

>

> Hugs,

> Pam

> --- Werre b.werre@...> wrote:

> > Pam,

> >

> > I have been on since March 1999 but many including

> > you, the two Barbs )

> > (that sounds thorny), Anne, Annette, Becky,

> > Charmayne and Don have been on

> > longer. I don't want to leave anyone out, but

> > there were only about 60 of

> > us at that time. But remember that was before

> > e-groups. Note: Jeff still

> > has the pre-egroups archives in a readable format,

> > but it would take some

> > work to get them into a format that we could search

> > readily. I am not sure

> > if Phil was on before I came on the list.

> >

> > Take care, Bill and Charlotte

>

> _______________________________________________________

>

October 27, 2001

Hi Cindy,

I subscribed to the Shy-Drager list in the summer of

1995. I was co-owner of the Internaf ataxia list from

1996 to 1998. I browsed through the archives of the

Parkinsn list and saw where Sylvia and others were

first talking about starting the Vanderbilt Shy-Drager

list. Yes time does fly.

Hugs,

Pam

--- myelo myelo@...> wrote:

> With the Parkinson list Pam?? I remember you from

> an ataxia list. I can't

> remember when I signed on, I think in late 1995.

>

> Gosh time does go by...........

>

> later and hugs,

> cindy

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July 4, 2004

,

I just wanted to send my condolences to you and your family at this very

difficult time. It's these times in our lives that requires extra strength. I

hope your family gathers the strength they need and can find some peace. My

thoughts and prayers are with you.

Alice

July 4, 2004

,

I am so sorry to hear of the difficult week you and your family are

having. So often things are heaped upon us and it is hard to deal

with it all. I guess all any of us can do is the best we can. I

hope you all have the strength to be a comfort and support system to

each other and I hope for easier days ahead.

Adam

> My great uncle (with mito) died Wednesday, June 30............

My grandmother, bless her heart, was really upset, tho she has been

expecting it. To top it all off, July 1, a close friend of the

family who used to be married to a cousin of ours, died from lung

cancer. It has been one heck of a week!

>

March 26, 2005

Hi Francisco,

While I am sorry to hear your sad news, I know that you did not reach

this decision lightly. You have worked hard in healing your body, mind

and spirit and it is heartening to know that you are staying true to

your spirit. I respect you greatly for being so open and honest with

Zach.

Throughout our journeys, I have always been inspired by your wisdom and

courage. Leaving a long-standing relationship, even if it has become an

ill-suited one, is not an easy choice.

I'll keep both you and Zach in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that

your parting will be amicable and that the transition is smooth and free

of rancor.

All the best,

Kay

in San Leandro

open RNY 12/1/03

Francisco wrote:

>

> hello everyone:

>

> Today, Zach and I decided to end our 11-year relationship.

>

> I still love and care about him, but we've grown apart. I am no

> longer the person he fell in love with. And while he's been very

> patient and flexible with me, my life is going in a direction that

> diverges from his path. We want differnt things, we have different

> goals, and we see life differently now.

>

> Many of my true dreams and desires are only now coming out. The

> person I am now wants more of life. I don't need anyone to accompany

> me on any given activity because I have the confidence to do it on my

> own. Zach was invited to participate in my new life, but he really

> had no interest in it. He's starting a new business which requires

> so much time, just when I want to work less and enjoy life more.

>

> I'm 41 with a new life ahead of me; I've got limited time, and I want

> to make the most of it.

>

> When I finally broke the news to Zach, I literally thought he was

> having a heart attack. He started to shiver, sweat, and had an

> asthma attack. I took his blood pressure and it was 195 over 181,

> and his pulse was 114. I got on the line with the advice nurse at

> Kaiser, but by the time I got through to someone live, he was better

> and his blood pressure was back to normal.

>

> I feel horrible for having caused this. But I must live true to my

> needs. Maybe I will live to regret giving up the love of someone who

> supported me in really difficult times (not just WLS). He is a dear

> and loving man who deserves a partner who will make him happy. I

> wish it were me, but I no longer fit the bill. If I were to give up

> my new life and return to the isolation of before, that would make me

> resentful and bitter and not a very good partner. However, the

> activities that bring me true joy cause him to feel like I don't want

> to be with him. That is not a healthy situation for either of us.

>

> Well, now I've spilled my guts. You know, I was warned that WLS had

> a high rate of divorce. Now I'm part of that statistic.

>

> Thanks for listening,

>

> Francisco

> runner 0024

> www.aidsmarathon.com

March 26, 2005