Guest guest Posted October 28, 2000 Report Share Posted October 28, 2000 Hi All! My SIL is having twins (due 2/13/01) and our family is trying to come up with ways to help her out. I know that some of you have twins so I thought I would ask for suggestions. Should we expect that the babies will come early? We are trying to plan vacations so that we can have time to help her out. Also, should we plan to have 1 or 2 helpers at a time? She also have a daughter that will turn 2 right before the babies come so it will be a lot of work! LOL We are also planning on pitching in for a double stroller with a toddler step in the back and we can't find one. Does anyone else have one or know if they are made that way? I really want to give them a lot of support, especially with bfing two babies although she was a pro with the first one. Please let me know if there are any suggestions, books or websites on how to nurse 2 babies. Thanks! Mom to 12/10/98 and Mikayla 6/22/00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 31, 2000 Report Share Posted October 31, 2000 , I think it's great that you and your family are so willing to be extra hands when the new babies arrive. Just be sure that all that extra help is welcomed--I know I'd feel a little overwhelmed by having the babies, let alone having extra people around all the time. I actually prefered not to have anyone come *and help out* after Drake was born or during the miscarriages and also with the birth of this baby in March. My husband and I wanted to find our own way so to speak--would be a bit different having twin newborns and a 2yr old though!!! I'd say, do meals, laundry, errands, entertaining the 2yr old and let your sister (in-law?) get a feel for her new babies herself without too much interruption. I know I'd want to try to keep things as low key as possible so probably just one helper at a time would be best and again, let her tell you all when/what she needs done so that she doesn't feel overpowered! in her own home and in her new role. But this may also depend on her personality and if she likes a lot of people around doing a lot for her then fine too. Just make sure everyone is sensitive to what she wants. The stroller is a great idea--I can't think of where I've seen any but have you checked all the places online? Babies R Us, BabyGear.com, iBaby.....these are a couple that just come to mind. Take care and keep us posted on how it all goes for her! How exciting!! Fawn Drake 8-18-98 edd 03-05-01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 31, 2000 Report Share Posted October 31, 2000 LLL has a newly revised book on multiples "Mothering Multiples". LLL also has good books for the toddler to learn about a new bfing baby coming to her home. Handy equipment--nursing pillow designed for multiples; a larger rocking chair--rocking recliner, maybe--that will accommodate mom and babies for nursing. Depending on whether your SIL's husband will be around too, I would suggest one helper. This person could be for the older daughter, doing housework, or helping with the baby who isn't nursing. Two extra people at once could be okay or too many, depending on how the household run--stress levels, space to be alone, etc. Mostly, your SIL will be busy with the babies and need people to mother her and help with the toddler. HTH, Amy Lynnmother to 1-25-98 and 2-10-00Want great toys? Non-violent, educational, fun! E-mail me at morris@... for a catalog. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 31, 2000 Report Share Posted October 31, 2000 They also have "About Twins". Amy Lynn LLL has a newly revised book on multiples "Mothering Multiples". LLL also has good books for the toddler to learn about a new bfing baby coming to her home. Handy equipment--nursing pillow designed for multiples; a larger rocking chair--rocking recliner, maybe--that will accommodate mom and babies for nursing. Depending on whether your SIL's husband will be around too, I would suggest one helper. This person could be for the older daughter, doing housework, or helping with the baby who isn't nursing. Two extra people at once could be okay or too many, depending on how the household run--stress levels, space to be alone, etc. Mostly, your SIL will be busy with the babies and need people to mother her and help with the toddler. HTH, Amy Lynn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 31, 2000 Report Share Posted October 31, 2000 Thanks for all the suggestions on twins everyone! She is from Ethiopia and they do things a lot differently than we do here. In their country, the mother lays in bed for 60 days while the other women take care of her house and children. All the new mother does is nurse the baby! If she can't nurse, someone else does it for her. My SIL was nursed by her aunt until she was 8 years old. We are so excited about having twins in the family (it's a boy and a girl) and I know that by then I will need a baby fix. LOL Mom to 12/10/98 and Mikayla 6/22/00 , I think it's great that you and your family are so willing to be extra hands when the new babies arrive. Just be sure that all that extra help is welcomed--I know I'd feel a little overwhelmed by having the babies, let alone having extra people around all the time. I actually prefered not to have anyone come *and help out* after Drake was born or during the miscarriages and also with the birth of this baby in March. My husband and I wanted to find our own way so to speak--would be a bit different having twin newborns and a 2yr old though!!! I'd say, do meals, laundry, errands, entertaining the 2yr old and let your sister (in-law?) get a feel for her new babies herself without too much interruption. I know I'd want to try to keep things as low key as possible so probably just one helper at a time would be best and again, let her tell you all when/what she needs done so that she doesn't feel overpowered! in her own home and in her new role. But this may also depend on her personality and if she likes a lot of people around doing a lot for her then fine too. Just make sure everyone is sensitive to what she wants. The stroller is a great idea--I can't think of where I've seen any but have you checked all the places online? Babies R Us, BabyGear.com, iBaby.....these are a couple that just come to mind. Take care and keep us posted on how it all goes for her! How exciting!! Fawn Drake 8-18-98 edd 03-05-01 Give the Gift of Life Breastfeed!http://www.lactivist.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2000 Report Share Posted November 1, 2000 She is from Ethiopia and they do things a lot differently than we do here. In their country, the mother lays in bed for 60 days while the other women take care of her house and children. Wow! How interesting to learn about another culture. Fawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2000 Report Share Posted November 1, 2000 Wow!! 60 days to nurse, bond, and recover from l & d! What a dream!! Perhaps we have it ALL WRONG in this country with the 3 day hospitalization then 6 weeks back to work. We expect new moms to be back to 100% so quickly in this country. I am envious!!! Of course, I have an 8 week old & a three year old & would love a chance to stay in bed & get some rest!! Yours, Re: Twins Thanks for all the suggestions on twins everyone! She is from Ethiopia and they do things a lot differently than we do here. In their country, the mother lays in bed for 60 days while the other women take care of her house and children. All the new mother does is nurse the baby! If she can't nurse, someone else does it for her. My SIL was nursed by her aunt until she was 8 years old. We are so excited about having twins in the family (it's a boy and a girl) and I know that by then I will need a baby fix. LOL Mom to 12/10/98 and Mikayla 6/22/00 , I think it's great that you and your family are so willing to be extra hands when the new babies arrive. Just be sure that all that extra help is welcomed--I know I'd feel a little overwhelmed by having the babies, let alone having extra people around all the time. I actually prefered not to have anyone come *and help out* after Drake was born or during the miscarriages and also with the birth of this baby in March. My husband and I wanted to find our own way so to speak--would be a bit different having twin newborns and a 2yr old though!!! I'd say, do meals, laundry, errands, entertaining the 2yr old and let your sister (in-law?) get a feel for her new babies herself without too much interruption. I know I'd want to try to keep things as low key as possible so probably just one helper at a time would be best and again, let her tell you all when/what she needs done so that she doesn't feel overpowered! in her own home and in her new role. But this may also depend on her personality and if she likes a lot of people around doing a lot for her then fine too. Just make sure everyone is sensitive to what she wants. The stroller is a great idea--I can't think of where I've seen any but have you checked all the places online? Babies R Us, BabyGear.com, iBaby.....these are a couple that just come to mind. Take care and keep us posted on how it all goes for her! How exciting!! Fawn Drake 8-18-98 edd 03-05-01 Give the Gift of Life Breastfeed!http://www.lactivist.com Give the Gift of Life Breastfeed!http://www.lactivist.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2000 Report Share Posted November 1, 2000 3 day hospitalization? What about 24-48 hours? And I feel so sorry for moms that have to leave their babies when they are only 6 weeks. I sure admire those that stick with giving their babies mommy's milk regardless though. Joan S. ~ Wife, Mom, Teacher, Chief Cook and BreastfeederTo find out why I love Jesus, breastfeed, homeschool, adopted, don't spank, don't vaccinate and other radical information, go to: http://www.suite101.com/myhome.cfm/hsmomof4 or http://www.suite101.com/myhome.cfm/themestreamarticles "Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least." Goethe Re: Twins Thanks for all the suggestions on twins everyone! She is from Ethiopia and they do things a lot differently than we do here. In their country, the mother lays in bed for 60 days while the other women take care of her house and children. All the new mother does is nurse the baby! If she can't nurse, someone else does it for her. My SIL was nursed by her aunt until she was 8 years old. We are so excited about having twins in the family (it's a boy and a girl) and I know that by then I will need a baby fix. LOL Mom to 12/10/98 and Mikayla 6/22/00 , I think it's great that you and your family are so willing to be extra hands when the new babies arrive. Just be sure that all that extra help is welcomed--I know I'd feel a little overwhelmed by having the babies, let alone having extra people around all the time. I actually prefered not to have anyone come *and help out* after Drake was born or during the miscarriages and also with the birth of this baby in March. My husband and I wanted to find our own way so to speak--would be a bit different having twin newborns and a 2yr old though!!! I'd say, do meals, laundry, errands, entertaining the 2yr old and let your sister (in-law?) get a feel for her new babies herself without too much interruption. I know I'd want to try to keep things as low key as possible so probably just one helper at a time would be best and again, let her tell you all when/what she needs done so that she doesn't feel overpowered! in her own home and in her new role. But this may also depend on her personality and if she likes a lot of people around doing a lot for her then fine too. Just make sure everyone is sensitive to what she wants. The stroller is a great idea--I can't think of where I've seen any but have you checked all the places online? Babies R Us, BabyGear.com, iBaby.....these are a couple that just come to mind. Take care and keep us posted on how it all goes for her! How exciting!! Fawn Drake 8-18-98 edd 03-05-01 Give the Gift of Life Breastfeed!http://www.lactivist.com Give the Gift of Life Breastfeed!http://www.lactivist.com Give the Gift of Life Breastfeed!http://www.lactivist.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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