divorce

[Guest guest]

How ironic this be a topic of conversation today. I am in process of divorce

right now, as we speak. It is such an overwhelming and scary time in my

life. I've been with my husband for 8 years, we have 2 small children

together. I can honestly say that the surgery played a big part in the

split, but for the right reasons. I never knew when I was obese, how little

I respected myself. This all started when his sister moved in with us, and

started seeing the " stuff " I was putting up with. Passive aggressive button

pushing, irresponsibility, and expecting to be taken care of like a child,

while sitting on the couch with a remote control in hand... all the while

complaining about the things I didn't get done, and criticizing how what I

had done wasn't good enough. The dinner I made was ok, but NEXT time do this

instead.... When I lost my weight, I grew some self respect. His sister

would argue FOR me when he picked on me, and then I realized I ought to start

taking care of these things myself. I knew I didn't deserve to be torn

apart, but didn't know what to do about it. Now, I know I can't live with

it... and the papers are drawn ready to be signed. He at first agreed that

divorce was the best option... he wanted a spouse that was " smarter than me "

anyway... now he thinks he loves me again. What a rollercoaster! Anyway,

it's hard to tell how this will turn out, but I'll keep you posted.

sarah s

minneapolis

-105, size 14!