Sara, consultants

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Hi Sara,

I was touched by your last sentences about consultants offering real help

in difficult situations.

Therefore I would like to add that I have had the same good experience:

When shortly after my AS treatment my marriage broke I realized that it is

too much for my friends to listen over and over again to all those thoughts

I needed to express and discuss and that it was time to see someone who

would not only be willing to listen but would also have a few good ideas as

to what I could do better in order to handle the situation with my

ex-husband regarding our daughter. It has helped me to realize why our

marriage couldn´t work from the beginning and why it is me who has to

change if I don´t want to keep yelling at him for this disappointment.

All I can say is that if you find the right counsellor I think it is a

wonderful opportunity to learn about oneself and be sure that this person

is simply paid for discussing different matters with you in order to help.

Like you I can only encourage members who feel lost in this struggle for

fertility (which, of course, has tremendous effects on relationships, too)

to find help that way. Part of why this group is so wonderful is naturally

due to the fact that we altogether act as a counsellor: we listen to

whatever someone has to say, we grieve with them, we offer advice without

expecting it to be followed etc etc. But there are times when one needs

someone who knows about our personal life´s story and can work with us

accordingly.

Thanks for mentioning this, Corinna P.S. Would you believe, I still haven´t

got the T-shirt ....