Re: nosey strangers

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Just because he has brachy and not plagio, it's still not your

fault. Some babies just prefer to sleep looking straight up rather

than alternating sides. Since they sleep 16-20 hours a day as

newborns there's not much you can do about it. I felt really bad

about my son too, since he has brachy/plagio rather than just plagio,

but I recently looked at some photos taken the day he was born and he

was born with severe brachy. He had an extreme cone head, I just

didn't know the condition had a 'name'. My son was also the opposite

of most babies and he'd often be fussy if you were holding him and

would calm down if you put him down.

If anyone asks, just tell them he prefers to sleep looking straight

up rather than alternating sides and blame it on the 'back to sleep'

campaign. Tell them you were too worried about SIDS to put him on

his side or tummy and then you look like the 'good' mommy instead of

the 'bad' mommy.

Sheila, mom to , 13 months, STARband 3/5-8/5, DOCband 9/5-?

> > >

> > > Is anyone else experiencing this? How do you react?

> > >

> > > Today I was at the store waiting at the checkout line and my son

> > > (6mo.) was sitting in the carraige. This older lady

> came up

> > > behind us and started talking/playing with and telling

me

> > > about her grandkids. People randomly talk to me all the time so

> I am

> > > used to that...but then she asked how old he is and if he can

> sit up.

> > > I told her yes he can sit up although I sort of thought that

> was a

> > > strange question because he was already sitting in the

carraige.

> > > Anyway, a few minutes later she says " well, I asked if he could

> sit up

> > > because I thought maybe he had surgery or was in his crib on

his

> back

> > > alot because his head is flat. " So, I explained that he has

> > > torticollis and what it is and that he has PT which has more or

> less

> > > fixed all that and that he will be getting a helmet to round

out

> his

> > > head so in a few months it should be pretty round. Now I " m not

> a very

> > > private person so I don't mind telling people about his tort

and

> his

> > > head, but isn't that some nerve of her to ask? Does she think I

> don't

> > > know his head is flat? Does she think I just neglect him and

> let him

> > > lay on his back all day? And if he had had surgery is that any

> of her

> > > business? I didn't actually think this really bothered me but I

> guess

> > > it sort of does. I just don't really want to explain my son's

> tort

> > > and head everywhere I go....although maybe I should to raise

> awareness

> > > of it.

> > >

> > > What does everyone think? Does this happen alot? Should I get

> used to

> > > it? Is it going to happen alot more when he actually gets his

> helmet?

> > >

> > >

> > > 3/19/06, tort, brachycephaly, DOCband pending

> > > EDD 5/5/07

> > >

> >

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