Guest guest Posted July 23, 2003 Report Share Posted July 23, 2003 Hey guys. I’m waiting for my first visit with my surgeon (Aug. 15), and I am getting so nervous about this whole procedure. I have been reading this egroup for several weeks now trying to get a grasp on what it will be like just after the surgery, several months after surgery, and years after too. I saw a couple posts where the person said that they were about to back out of the whole thing. I bounce back and forth. One day I think that I will do it, and the next day I’m thinking of calling and canceling the appointment. I read about people throwing up every day for months, about not losing anything for weeks at a time, about having to be obsessed with counting protein and ounces of water EVERY day, about the inevitable hair loss-- when this happens, my family and friends will probably shake their fingers at me and say ‘I told you so!’. About never being able to taste a Hershey’s chocolate bar again? I can deal with a few days of pain and discomfort (if it isn’t too very bad). But will the rest of it be an OBSESSION that takes up my waking hours, that I have to figure and plan each day? Will I just live on protein the rest of my life, very little vegetables, and give up most all fruit? Will protein shakes be an every day MUST for the rest of my life also? I wrote a letter similar to this one a week or so ago, when I was in another “doom and despair” pit, and got very nice responses that lifted me up --- for a while. I know that no one can make this decision for me. My husband is for me 110 percent. He is just great. But I’m a worrier. There have been so many posts (maybe because I dwell on them) that say, “Why did I do this to myself?!!!” I don’t want to be sorry later. This isn’t just a little diet that I am going to try for a few months til I get tired of it or til I reach my goal. This is for the rest of my life. And there is no going back once it is done. I am 55 years old, 5’ 6” and weigh 263. People tell me that I don’t look like I weigh that much (is this a compliment???), but I am tired of being uncomfortable. Each day I take 3 hypertension meds, a thyroid pill, a cholesterol pill, an acid reflux pill, occasional Advil for pain in my knees and feet. I can’t walk very far without getting tired. I’ve been on numerous diets the last several years and have lost and regained the same dadgum 30-40 pounds over and over again. I’m sure this sounds very similar to most everyone on this list. I read and read but I just get scared-determined-scared-determined-etc. As I read back over this letter, it sounds so depressing. Sorry. But I just don’t know what to do. Most of you say that you would do it all over ‘in a heartbeat’. I pray for wisdom and guidance. I don’t know, maybe I just haven’t researched long enough. Thanks guys, Charlotte Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2003 Report Share Posted July 23, 2003 Charlotte, This is a decision you have to make by yourself and for yourself. I posted a weeek ago, " Why did I do this to myself??? " because I had just gotten out of surgery and come home. I was sick of jello and chicken broth. Today I started my protein shakes and food. I feel 100% better. I had Lap RNY and did awesome. Not ONE single complication. I credit this to my deep faith in God. I am also only 33 years old. Good luck with your decision, I am very glad I chose to do this. Best of luck ! Tammy 7/14/03 LAP RNY Lost to date 23 lbs > Hey guys. I'm waiting for my first visit with my surgeon (Aug. 15), and I > am getting so nervous about this whole procedure. I have been reading this > egroup for several weeks now trying to get a grasp on what it will be like > just after the surgery, several months after surgery, and years after too. > I saw a couple posts where the person said that they were about to back out > of the whole thing. I bounce back and forth. One day I think that I will > do it, and the next day I'm thinking of calling and canceling the > appointment. > > > > I read about people throwing up every day for months, about not losing > anything for weeks at a time, about having to be obsessed with counting > protein and ounces of water EVERY day, about the inevitable hair loss-- > when this happens, my family and friends will probably shake their fingers > at me and say `I told you so!'. About never being able to taste a > Hershey's chocolate bar again? I can deal with a few days of pain and > discomfort (if it isn't too very bad). But will the rest of it be an > OBSESSION that takes up my waking hours, that I have to figure and plan > each day? Will I just live on protein the rest of my life, very little > vegetables, and give up most all fruit? Will protein shakes be an every > day MUST for the rest of my life also? > > > > I wrote a letter similar to this one a week or so ago, when I was in > another " doom and despair " pit, and got very nice responses that lifted me > up --- for a while. I know that no one can make this decision for me. My > husband is for me 110 percent. He is just great. But I'm a worrier. > There have been so many posts (maybe because I dwell on them) that say, > " Why did I do this to myself?!!! " I don't want to be sorry later. This > isn't just a little diet that I am going to try for a few months til I get > tired of it or til I reach my goal. This is for the rest of my life. And > there is no going back once it is done. > > > > I am 55 years old, 5' 6 " and weigh 263. People tell me that I don't look > like I weigh that much (is this a compliment???), but I am tired of being > uncomfortable. Each day I take 3 hypertension meds, a thyroid pill, a > cholesterol pill, an acid reflux pill, occasional Advil for pain in my > knees and feet. I can't walk very far without getting tired. I've been on > numerous diets the last several years and have lost and regained the same > dadgum 30-40 pounds over and over again. I'm sure this sounds very similar > to most everyone on this list. > > > > I read and read but I just get scared-determined-scared-determined- etc. As > I read back over this letter, it sounds so depressing. Sorry. But I just > don't know what to do. Most of you say that you would do it all over `in a > heartbeat'. I pray for wisdom and guidance. I don't know, maybe I just > haven't researched long enough. > > > > Thanks guys, > > Charlotte > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2003 Report Share Posted July 23, 2003 Thanks Tammy for such a quick reply. Charlotte Pre-op (tomistic and pessimistic all at the same time!) Re: Worried about the surgery Charlotte, This is a decision you have to make by yourself and for yourself. I posted a weeek ago, " Why did I do this to myself??? " because I had just gotten out of surgery and come home. I was sick of jello and chicken broth. Today I started my protein shakes and food. I feel 100% better. I had Lap RNY and did awesome. Not ONE single complication. I credit this to my deep faith in God. I am also only 33 years old. Good luck with your decision, I am very glad I chose to do this. Best of luck ! Tammy 7/14/03 LAP RNY Lost to date 23 lbs > Hey guys. I'm waiting for my first visit with my surgeon (Aug. 15), and I > am getting so nervous about this whole procedure. I have been reading this > egroup for several weeks now trying to get a grasp on what it will be like > just after the surgery, several months after surgery, and years after too. > I saw a couple posts where the person said that they were about to back out > of the whole thing. I bounce back and forth. One day I think that I will > do it, and the next day I'm thinking of calling and canceling the > appointment. > > > > I read about people throwing up every day for months, about not losing > anything for weeks at a time, about having to be obsessed with counting > protein and ounces of water EVERY day, about the inevitable hair loss-- > when this happens, my family and friends will probably shake their fingers > at me and say `I told you so!'. About never being able to taste a > Hershey's chocolate bar again? I can deal with a few days of pain and > discomfort (if it isn't too very bad). But will the rest of it be an > OBSESSION that takes up my waking hours, that I have to figure and plan > each day? Will I just live on protein the rest of my life, very little > vegetables, and give up most all fruit? Will protein shakes be an every > day MUST for the rest of my life also? > > > > I wrote a letter similar to this one a week or so ago, when I was in > another " doom and despair " pit, and got very nice responses that lifted me > up --- for a while. I know that no one can make this decision for me. My > husband is for me 110 percent. He is just great. But I'm a worrier. > There have been so many posts (maybe because I dwell on them) that say, > " Why did I do this to myself?!!! " I don't want to be sorry later. This > isn't just a little diet that I am going to try for a few months til I get > tired of it or til I reach my goal. This is for the rest of my life. And > there is no going back once it is done. > > > > I am 55 years old, 5' 6 " and weigh 263. People tell me that I don't look > like I weigh that much (is this a compliment???), but I am tired of being > uncomfortable. Each day I take 3 hypertension meds, a thyroid pill, a > cholesterol pill, an acid reflux pill, occasional Advil for pain in my > knees and feet. I can't walk very far without getting tired. I've been on > numerous diets the last several years and have lost and regained the same > dadgum 30-40 pounds over and over again. I'm sure this sounds very similar > to most everyone on this list. > > > > I read and read but I just get scared-determined-scared-determined- etc. As > I read back over this letter, it sounds so depressing. Sorry. But I just > don't know what to do. Most of you say that you would do it all over `in a > heartbeat'. I pray for wisdom and guidance. I don't know, maybe I just > haven't researched long enough. > > > > Thanks guys, > > Charlotte > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2003 Report Share Posted July 23, 2003 Remember this lifestyle change for a healthier you! Everyone that post.....its just their experiences and yours will be different from ours and the next ones! Its a commitment! Think of the things you would like to do now and cant? Will the surgery change some of that? Does having that hershey bar really mean that much to you? Weigh your pros and cons........I know you'll do great!~~Vicki~~ > Hey guys. I'm waiting for my first visit with my surgeon (Aug. 15), and I > am getting so nervous about this whole procedure. I have been reading this > egroup for several weeks now trying to get a grasp on what it will be like > just after the surgery, several months after surgery, and years after too. > I saw a couple posts where the person said that they were about to back out > of the whole thing. I bounce back and forth. One day I think that I will > do it, and the next day I'm thinking of calling and canceling the > appointment. > > > > I read about people throwing up every day for months, about not losing > anything for weeks at a time, about having to be obsessed with counting > protein and ounces of water EVERY day, about the inevitable hair loss-- > when this happens, my family and friends will probably shake their fingers > at me and say `I told you so!'. About never being able to taste a > Hershey's chocolate bar again? I can deal with a few days of pain and > discomfort (if it isn't too very bad). But will the rest of it be an > OBSESSION that takes up my waking hours, that I have to figure and plan > each day? Will I just live on protein the rest of my life, very little > vegetables, and give up most all fruit? Will protein shakes be an every > day MUST for the rest of my life also? > > > > I wrote a letter similar to this one a week or so ago, when I was in > another " doom and despair " pit, and got very nice responses that lifted me > up --- for a while. I know that no one can make this decision for me. My > husband is for me 110 percent. He is just great. But I'm a worrier. > There have been so many posts (maybe because I dwell on them) that say, > " Why did I do this to myself?!!! " I don't want to be sorry later. This > isn't just a little diet that I am going to try for a few months til I get > tired of it or til I reach my goal. This is for the rest of my life. And > there is no going back once it is done. > > > > I am 55 years old, 5' 6 " and weigh 263. People tell me that I don't look > like I weigh that much (is this a compliment???), but I am tired of being > uncomfortable. Each day I take 3 hypertension meds, a thyroid pill, a > cholesterol pill, an acid reflux pill, occasional Advil for pain in my > knees and feet. I can't walk very far without getting tired. I've been on > numerous diets the last several years and have lost and regained the same > dadgum 30-40 pounds over and over again. I'm sure this sounds very similar > to most everyone on this list. > > > > I read and read but I just get scared-determined-scared-determined- etc. As > I read back over this letter, it sounds so depressing. Sorry. But I just > don't know what to do. Most of you say that you would do it all over `in a > heartbeat'. I pray for wisdom and guidance. I don't know, maybe I just > haven't researched long enough. > > > > Thanks guys, > > Charlotte > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 24, 2003 Report Share Posted July 24, 2003 Charlotte, First let me tell you that I love your name. My husband.. now ex.. that is another long story..lol but he always hoped we would have a daughter and wanted to name her Charlotte! I am pre-op also. My surgery is next friday. I too have moments of doubt, thinking why am I doing this to myself, why dont I just try one more diet. I am nervous about the upset stomach, not being able to eat more than 1/2 a cup at a time etc. Then I think about my sons, 14, 11 and 8 and all the grandchildren I will have one day. What am i going to be able to do with them? What about a trip to an amusment park and grandma has to keep sitting down, or having to ride in a scooter. That is something I dont want to live with!!! I want to be swimming with them when I am 80, and this surgery is my chance at that. I know I will not have chocolate anymore, but for me, I dont care. My life and LIFESTYLE are more important to me than food anymore. I can get my chocolate fix with my protien shake. I have moments of fear and crying and I come here for comfort and support. This is the place to let those fears out. These people are here for us, thru the thick and the thin.. You dont need to say sorry for your emotions, you get them out and deal with them. Many of us are in the position we are in because we refused to deal with our feelings. This is not healthy and I commend you for having the strength to lean the people here and share your darkest moments and ask for help. Bottom line, we have to give up our past lifestyle that got us here in the first place. We are giving up alot, going to go thru alot, entering unknown territory etc. That is why I feel we are the strong, brave, wonderful people that we are! We are looking a problem in the face and figuring out a way to fix it. So give yourself a break and feel what you are feeling. I dont know if you are religious, but I truly believe God is the one to turn to also. He will let you know if you are on the right path, not to say you wont have moments of doubt, fear, etc. You dont have to make any decisions right now. Keep going thru the process, keep reading, keep asking. If you want to try and diet one more time, do so. Whatever decision you make, it will be what is right for " YOU " This is about you and what your want out of your life. Best of luck! We support you! Lori Dr. Nizzi 8/1/03 Northern Michigan > Hey guys. I'm waiting for my first visit with my surgeon (Aug. 15), and I > am getting so nervous about this whole procedure. I have been reading this > egroup for several weeks now trying to get a grasp on what it will be like > just after the surgery, several months after surgery, and years after too. > I saw a couple posts where the person said that they were about to back out > of the whole thing. I bounce back and forth. One day I think that I will > do it, and the next day I'm thinking of calling and canceling the > appointment. > > > > I read about people throwing up every day for months, about not losing > anything for weeks at a time, about having to be obsessed with counting > protein and ounces of water EVERY day, about the inevitable hair loss-- > when this happens, my family and friends will probably shake their fingers > at me and say `I told you so!'. About never being able to taste a > Hershey's chocolate bar again? I can deal with a few days of pain and > discomfort (if it isn't too very bad). But will the rest of it be an > OBSESSION that takes up my waking hours, that I have to figure and plan > each day? Will I just live on protein the rest of my life, very little > vegetables, and give up most all fruit? Will protein shakes be an every > day MUST for the rest of my life also? > > > > I wrote a letter similar to this one a week or so ago, when I was in > another " doom and despair " pit, and got very nice responses that lifted me > up --- for a while. I know that no one can make this decision for me. My > husband is for me 110 percent. He is just great. But I'm a worrier. > There have been so many posts (maybe because I dwell on them) that say, > " Why did I do this to myself?!!! " I don't want to be sorry later. This > isn't just a little diet that I am going to try for a few months til I get > tired of it or til I reach my goal. This is for the rest of my life. And > there is no going back once it is done. > > > > I am 55 years old, 5' 6 " and weigh 263. People tell me that I don't look > like I weigh that much (is this a compliment???), but I am tired of being > uncomfortable. Each day I take 3 hypertension meds, a thyroid pill, a > cholesterol pill, an acid reflux pill, occasional Advil for pain in my > knees and feet. I can't walk very far without getting tired. I've been on > numerous diets the last several years and have lost and regained the same > dadgum 30-40 pounds over and over again. I'm sure this sounds very similar > to most everyone on this list. > > > > I read and read but I just get scared-determined-scared-determined- etc. As > I read back over this letter, it sounds so depressing. Sorry. But I just > don't know what to do. Most of you say that you would do it all over `in a > heartbeat'. I pray for wisdom and guidance. I don't know, maybe I just > haven't researched long enough. > > > > Thanks guys, > > Charlotte > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 24, 2003 Report Share Posted July 24, 2003 You’re so right Lori. Guess I’m just trying to hold on to the “other” lifestyle while making plans for the new me. And that just won’t work. My mind and body are already going through a grieving process of what it is going to have to give up. I can get through this with the grace of God. Everyone on this list has had such kind support for me and for other people’s problems too. Thanks. Charlotte Pre-op (tomistic) Re: Worried about the surgery Charlotte, First let me tell you that I love your name. My husband.. now ex.. that is another long story..lol but he always hoped we would have a daughter and wanted to name her Charlotte! I am pre-op also. My surgery is next friday. I too have moments of doubt, thinking why am I doing this to myself, why dont I just try one more diet. I am nervous about the upset stomach, not being able to eat more than 1/2 a cup at a time etc. Then I think about my sons, 14, 11 and 8 and all the grandchildren I will have one day. What am i going to be able to do with them? What about a trip to an amusment park and grandma has to keep sitting down, or having to ride in a scooter. That is something I dont want to live with!!! I want to be swimming with them when I am 80, and this surgery is my chance at that. I know I will not have chocolate anymore, but for me, I dont care. My life and LIFESTYLE are more important to me than food anymore. I can get my chocolate fix with my protien shake. I have moments of fear and crying and I come here for comfort and support. This is the place to let those fears out. These people are here for us, thru the thick and the thin.. You dont need to say sorry for your emotions, you get them out and deal with them. Many of us are in the position we are in because we refused to deal with our feelings. This is not healthy and I commend you for having the strength to lean the people here and share your darkest moments and ask for help. Bottom line, we have to give up our past lifestyle that got us here in the first place. We are giving up alot, going to go thru alot, entering unknown territory etc. That is why I feel we are the strong, brave, wonderful people that we are! We are looking a problem in the face and figuring out a way to fix it. So give yourself a break and feel what you are feeling. I dont know if you are religious, but I truly believe God is the one to turn to also. He will let you know if you are on the right path, not to say you wont have moments of doubt, fear, etc. You dont have to make any decisions right now. Keep going thru the process, keep reading, keep asking. If you want to try and diet one more time, do so. Whatever decision you make, it will be what is right for " YOU " This is about you and what your want out of your life. Best of luck! We support you! Lori Dr. Nizzi 8/1/03 Northern Michigan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 24, 2003 Report Share Posted July 24, 2003 You will do wonderful. I completely understand and it could be me tomorrow that needs the pick me up...lol I try to focus on the positive and not think about the negative. We will deal with that when it comes. Glad you are feeling better! Lori Northern Michigan > You're so right Lori. Guess I'm just trying to hold on to the " other " > lifestyle while making plans for the new me. And that just won't work. My > mind and body are already going through a grieving process of what it is > going to have to give up. I can get through this with the grace of God. > Everyone on this list has had such kind support for me and for other > people's problems too. Thanks. > > Charlotte > > Pre-op (tomistic) > > > > Re: Worried about the surgery > > > > Charlotte, > > First let me tell you that I love your name. My husband.. now ex.. > that is another long story..lol but he always hoped we would have a > daughter and wanted to name her Charlotte! > > I am pre-op also. My surgery is next friday. I too have moments of > doubt, thinking why am I doing this to myself, why dont I just try > one more diet. I am nervous about the upset stomach, not being able > to eat more than 1/2 a cup at a time etc. > > Then I think about my sons, 14, 11 and 8 and all the grandchildren I > will have one day. What am i going to be able to do with them? > What about a trip to an amusment park and grandma has to keep > sitting down, or having to ride in a scooter. That is something I > dont want to live with!!! I want to be swimming with them when I am > 80, and this surgery is my chance at that. > > I know I will not have chocolate anymore, but for me, I dont care. > My life and LIFESTYLE are more important to me than food anymore. I > can get my chocolate fix with my protien shake. > > I have moments of fear and crying and I come here for comfort and > support. This is the place to let those fears out. These people are > here for us, thru the thick and the thin.. > > You dont need to say sorry for your emotions, you get them out and > deal with them. Many of us are in the position we are in because we > refused to deal with our feelings. This is not healthy and I > commend you for having the strength to lean the people here and > share your darkest moments and ask for help. > > Bottom line, we have to give up our past lifestyle that got us here > in the first place. We are giving up alot, going to go thru alot, > entering unknown territory etc. That is why I feel we are the > strong, brave, wonderful people that we are! We are looking a > problem in the face and figuring out a way to fix it. So give > yourself a break and feel what you are feeling. > > I dont know if you are religious, but I truly believe God is the one > to turn to also. He will let you know if you are on the right path, > not to say you wont have moments of doubt, fear, etc. > > You dont have to make any decisions right now. Keep going thru the > process, keep reading, keep asking. If you want to try and diet one > more time, do so. Whatever decision you make, it will be what is > right for " YOU " This is about you and what your want out of your > life. > > Best of luck! We support you! > > Lori > Dr. Nizzi 8/1/03 > Northern Michigan > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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