Worried about the surgery

July 21, 2003

I understand your feelings Lynn, because I felt the same way. People told me

the exact same horror stories. Because I am a nurse, I was able to take

comfort in the realization that this surgery is no more risky than any other

major

surgery. If there is an increased risk it is only due to the fact that it is

sometimes done on people who are terribly unhealthy and super obese. You are

young and your BMI isnt that high compared to many other people who have the

surgery - mine was 46.2 and I was considered low risk for complications. In

the end I decided to have the surgery because I knew the chances of me losing

the weight on my own were slim to none. I also couldnt live the rest of my

life wondering what if. No one can make this decision for you and no one should

try to talk you into it or out of it. Its all up to you. You have to decide

if the chance of serious complications from the surgery outweighs the chance

of complications caused by your obesity. Personally, I decided that the

chances of a major complication from the surgery were slim, but the chances of

major

complications from my obesity were huge - plus not only was my life time

being limited by my weight, so was my quality of life. Thats what decided it

for

me - whatever helps you decide whether or not to have it is all up to you. We

will be here for you though - you arent alone

~ami~

LAP RNY 5-13-03

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In a message dated 7/21/2003 9:30:49 PM Central Standard Time,

emerald_eyes_1971@... writes:

> Hi everyone I just found this site and it seems to have alot of

> info. on it. I am going to speak to my surgeon tomorrow (Tuesday

> 22) and I am about to back out. I have heard so many horror

> stories. I hate I ever told anyone about wanting this done. My

> daughter (10 yrs.) has heard family memembers telling me about some

> scary things you know like I know someone who's brother's wife's

> sister's friend etc...you understand what I mean...well how did

> anyone who had this surgery done get thru all that I am totally

> scared to death! I am 31 (32 in August) BMI of 43. My surgeon does

> the open RNY. Any advice out there? Thanks,

> Lynn

July 21, 2003

Hi everyone I just found this site and it seems to have alot of

info. on it. I am going to speak to my surgeon tomorrow (Tuesday

22) and I am about to back out. I have heard so many horror

stories. I hate I ever told anyone about wanting this done. My

daughter (10 yrs.) has heard family memembers telling me about some

scary things you know like I know someone who's brother's wife's

sister's friend etc...you understand what I mean...well how did

anyone who had this surgery done get thru all that I am totally

scared to death! I am 31 (32 in August) BMI of 43. My surgeon does

the open RNY. Any advice out there? Thanks,

Lynn

July 21, 2003

Lynn-I had the surgery one week ago today. I feel WONDERFUL. I too

had heard all the horror stories. Somebody always know SOMEBODY that

has had it done and they died or almost died. I decided that this was

a chance I had to take. My parents didn't even support me, but my

husband has been awesome. I am still going through the post-op ups

and downs of major surgery, but so far, no regrets. Yes, it hurt,

it's surgery, but I am here to be a witness that I haven't even

sprung that deadly leak everybody gets. Good luck and make the

decision for yourself and no one else! Tammy