need to vent

[Guest guest]

Tabrin,

You sure have been under some stress. I'm happy that your husband is

home again. Your neighbor sounds like a real treat. You are right

that people like her are ignorant but that doesn't make their stupid

comments hurt any less. I'm sorry that you have had so much going on

with your family too. Take care and vent away. It sure does help to

have people to talk to who understand.

Roxie

[Guest guest]

Tabrin,

Do not appologise about your rant, it is justified and I would not be

apologising for it I would be screaming about it.

I'm sorry I know the polite thing to do would be to try and find a

positive turn on this but I can't, rant scream yell and know that she

will not have as much love in her life as you will in yours.

Sorry but your friend has made me angry so what must you be feeling.

Lesia

[Guest guest]

Jen C,

Don't feel bad about needing to vent and I don't think you are being

negative either. After all that you have been through, I think it is

called being realistic. It is so hard to explain to even the best

doctors how well we know our own bodies. I am really praying that

there is another reason and not rescarring. Please vent here anytime

that you need to. You are not alone in all of this. You are always

so kind and supportive to everyone else here. Good luck this weekend

and I hope that you get your period. (No where but here could we wish

that on someone and mean it!)

Roxie

[Guest guest]

Jen Cz,

I know the fear you are driving yourself into. How long does Dr.

Palter's office think you should wait? What's their next step with

you?

This is purely anecdotal, so I hope it helps, but I did rescar after

my first surgery (only because my OB was 1 year out of residency and

didn't know what she was doing) but had no indications as I continued

to have a period for a couple of months and it dwindled down rather

than suddenly stopping. I had no HSG or SHG or any follow up so

there was no way for me to know.

You're in good hands with Dr. Palter (though even he cannot give you

a glimpse of the future).

Let us know when you get to find out, and welcome back to the waiting

club (sorry you have to be here).

[Guest guest]

hello Ladies,

I've not had much chance to mail of late, because I recently returned

to work following sick leave (2 months off with " depression "

following AS diagnosis - i'm sure i don't have to elaborate any

further..)..

anyway, I normally work part-time, 3 days a week, in central london

(west end). At this point, I now just want to have a minor SCREAM. I

only returned to work 2 weeks ago. Today I got told that I'm being

made redundant. So now I'm feeling REALLY crap. I'd just been getting

myself together and my confidence restored, and now this happens.

arrrrggggggggghhhhhhhh..

Looking on the bright side, at least I'll be able to catch up on all

the posts which I'm very very behind on.. and at least I've only got

2 more weeks of commuting stress to deal with.

just wanted to let my frustration, anger and hurt out. I know that

work problems pale into insignificance when we all have to deal with

ashermans and its sometimes traumatic consequences, but this, on top

of everything else over recent months, still hurts..

thanks for listening. its much appreciated.

Helen K

[Guest guest]

Helen K,

I'm assuming " being made redundant " means losing your job? In any

case, I'm really sorry for your misfortunate with AS, depression,

and the work situation. Any way you look at it, it just sucks!

Pregnancy loss and AS has come with great loss. It's changed me. I

do believe that although there will always be sadness around it all,

I expect I will eventually recognize new insights or a new capacity

for compassion that I didn't have before. My mother is the eternal

optimist. It is one of her great qualities, however, throughout my

child life I never was allowed to show any emotions that might

appear less than positive. I was always to look at the bright side,

as in my Mom's world there was no gloomy side. Well, finally at age

34 I confronted her with my belief that's it's not in my best

interests to feel that I have to sugar coat everything. I told her

that sometimes things just suck. I told her that I think she holds

in her own bad feelings and denies their existence to her own

detriment. It was harsh, and hurtful, and productive in a postive

way! These days she will allow some for the range of feelings we

all experience without criticizing me if I show even the slightest

bit of grief. It's made a world of difference in our relationship.

Yes, I digressed to a story that perhaps offered you no solice. I

only wanted to express my sympathy, empathy, and the sentiment that

sometimes things just suck. The good part is that it will get

better! Of this I have no doubt. Hang in there as best you can!!

J in Seattle

[Guest guest]

Helen K,

Don't feel bad for needing to vent. I have done it many times.

Sometimes it is the little things that can finally push us over the

edge although I wouldn't say that losing your job is a little thing. I

hope things start to go better for you soon. Please vent anytime you

need to, that is what we are here for.

Roxie

[Guest guest]

Helen,

Feel free to vent whenever you need! That is what we are all here for, to listen

to each other and give support and advice and hugs! ANd sounds like you have a

reason to VENT!!

Hugs,

D.