Re: A day from hell

[Guest guest]

Dear Jo

First, HI! I don't think we've met, but as most say, we are family! We are

genetically connected, by something that makes us unconnected!

(I hope that made you smile, it did me, when someone once said it to me & I

sure needed it then!)

And yes, I read until the end. Something about it caught my eye & though I

don't read all mail, as no one can, I did yours.

You have every right to " vent " & that's why we are all here, for each other.

I wrote offline, as I felt this was a bit personal & not for everyone.

I am also a nurse, just like your Mom & I'm sure she'd agree that just about

the most important thing that one needs to be healthy, is complete & total

trust in their treating MD's. And if you don't have that & in fact it sounds

that not only don't you, but the effect that this person has had on you

emotionally has probably caused you even more physical damage. And it has

clearly been

physical & emotional, to my ear. Read your email, as though it were from

someone else & tell me what YOU think.

I could go on for hours here, but I just can't for a number of reasons,

including that my fingers really hurt now & I believe my blood pressure went up

a

great deal just reading your email & I'd probably have a stroke if I wrote

everything that was in my head right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But, here is most of it in a nutshell

I personally believe:

You have the right

To be taken at your word.

To be treated with respect & dignity.

To have your Dr. HEAR what you SAY (not just listen).

To have you complaints researched until there is an acceptable

diagnosis & proper plan of action.

To be helped & not hurt.

And, though I'm in the U.S. & don't know the law in England, I do know that

here, you are entitled to a complete & total copy of your entire medical

record. You may have to pay a fee per page (for it to be copied), but you are

legally entitled to it & if it were me, I'd want to see every single page in

their

file & I mean everything! Their personal writings, the nurses, every lab

report, every consult report, you name it. The last job I held before I

couldn't

work anymore, was as a nurse paralegal. I worked for malpractice lawyers,

always for the plaintiff (the patient) for almost 7 years & surely know how to

write a request for the info.

I wish I knew a Dr. to tell you about, but from New Jersey, I could hardly

tell you. I would also want to know for sure that any new Dr. that you might

see,, would do so without any influence from your current Dr. And, it's not

uncommon for them to exchange info, though I don't know how it's done there, but

believe me, there are ways to get your old info & keep most of it from a new

Dr. And I do think that having confindence in your Dr., without all of the

feelings that you do have for your current Dr., is extremely important to your

current & future well being. I would never continue with this Dr., but that's

just me. It's not advice. This is all my personal opinion.

And here, it is illegal for them to take out information that has been in

your records & replace it with new information. They can explain in a new

record, something about what they wrote before, but they can't " erase " anything.

They can add, they cannot take away.

I would really like to help you. I'd bet your Mom could read the doctors

records & I would actually sit down at my computer & transfer all of the

information, from day #1, until now, onto it, so I had a complete record. What

you do

is up to you. But remember that, as a patient, you have certain rights.

Don't give them up. Please write back offline if you'd like, as I'd love to

hear

soon, that you are doing well & being treated with respect, as you deserve to

be.

Good luck, be well,

[Guest guest]

Oh Jo, I'm so sorry. What a total loser of a doctor not to mention unethical,

mean, I could go on and on but you get the idea!! What a total creep! You're

right, it shouldn't be so hard. I hope that you can find someone caring who

treats you with the respect that you deserve!

[Guest guest]

Jo, May I ask how old you are? I am Cindy C., Dylan's Mom. We have been in the

same place as you, just recently. Dylan is almost 17 now. Our former GP didn't

get it either. Unfortunately I didn't know till the last day we saw her. I have

yet to find out what is written in the records. The last time we saw her, she

told us that she stopped all ER admitting, refused all ortho visits, (I wondered

why I was getting bills when the office said they had given a referral) She

would give me a script to see a specialist, but never signed the referral. She

refused all refusals to the pain Dr. she told us the last day, he needed to get

off all the meds and grin and bare it. Take it like a man. She made him walk

down the hall, then when he could not walk another step, she reticulated him,

for having me push him in his wheel chair, the big boy he was and me being

small. I gave her the look of death. She never said another word, but the damage

was done. I could never understand why when I would take him to the ER and ask

for him to be admitted, and they sent us home. That day I found out She said,

she didn't believe he was hurting. And had told the ER that. The damage that

woman has done to him is cruel. He trusts no Dr to help him now. I'm trying to

make him understand that it all came from her, but he has just lost trust.

I have received his medical records this week from her. 52 pages of a three inch

file from 3 years. Of course not one bad remark in it. I want the entire file!

Now Dylan has a new GP. One who stands behind him with understanding and caring.

I just want to let you know your not alone. If you can get your records repaired

before you leave that Dr, your probably better off. I'm filling out Dylan's SSA

papers now. I hate to think what is going to show up from that witch, when her

papers inter the file.

Sometimes I think I want to sue her for the mental anguish she has caused my

son. Time will tell. We have moved on, but it is not forgotten.

I can only hope this makes us stronger. Cindy C.

A day from hell

they conspired behind

my back to dub me a hypochondriac and claimed my over protective

parents were in fact encouraging my " illness behaviour " .