! Re: worst nightmare come true, surgery redo

[Guest guest]

, may I offer one more wee suggestion?

If you're in Gainesville, seeing your surgeon, with nobody to share

your frustrations and unhappiness, do not hesitate to tell him, or

someone on his staff, that you are upset and alone, and you need a

bit of help to compose yourself. There is no reason for you to feel

you have to sit alone in your car to make it through anything.

I know that's the natural inclination... When I saw my ortho for the

first time and he told me I'd need surgery (which is a tiny stress

compared to yours) I barely made it back to the car before I fell

apart in tears. I didn't know him or his office staff, it was my

first time in the office, and I didn't want them to have a lasting

memory of my blubbering... But his staff soon became friends, and

your surgeon and his staff are there to take care of you, and I'd bet

they'll be willing to help you, should, God forbid, you have another

session that leaves you upset and in distress. (Besides, if

Gainesville is anything like lower Alabama, this is no time of the

year to be sitting outside in a car, trying to deal with something!

Although I daresay you didn't notice the heat, particularly.)

Best,

Cammie

> Thank you Irish. I am crying as I read that and it does make me

feel

> better knowing that I am not the only one who " fell apart " when I

got

> the news. I have always thought how awful for you that they would

> put you through that again and I have been grateful all along that

I

> didn't have to go through that. Just when I let my guard down, I

get

> this slap in the face. The worst part is, my surgeons are in

> Gainesville Florida at the University of Florida, two hours from my

> home in ville. I have been making these constant trips for

> over a year now because I was told they were the best. My

insurance

> would pay for me to see surgeons here at UNF, but I was told the UF

> surgeons were top-notch. So here I am, in Gainesville all by

myself

> yesterday and they throw this at me so I had no choice but to go

sit

> in my car for an hour to calm down enough to make the drive home.

I

> called my orthodontist immediately on my cell and he said come in

> today to have a " private consult " (yes, I'm getting the private

> treatment like you did in the " special room " ), which tells me he is

> in agreement with my surgeon. Funny you would mention them taking

> you in a private room! Honestly, how did you handle this

emotionally

> and mentally? The hardest part of this whole surgery for me has

been

> the emotional aspect of it. It has done a number on me

> psychologically. And how did you feel about having your same

surgeon

> redo the surgery??? Thanks Irish. I know this is a lot of

blabber,

> but I'm just so devastated. Not to mention the $5000 my husband

and

> I had to pay for our insurance co-pay for this surgery crap!

Thanks,

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