Guest guest Posted July 7, 2003 Report Share Posted July 7, 2003 Hi Valorie, Your post really distressed me and I can understand your distress. Our surgery dates were only one day apart. Before I can answer you though, I need to know a few things. You mention sizes, but not weights. I was 386 prior to surgery and I'm 5'9 " tall. What have you been doing to enhance your weightloss? Are you trying to follow your surgeon's plan anymore? I'm not being judgemental in the slightest when I say this, but either you are a lot closer to your goal weight than I was (i.e. you started out much smaller than me) which would mean that you would lose a lot less than me or you've decided to jeopardize your chances to reach your goal by setting yourself up to fail at this. Are you getting in enough protein? Are you drinking the fluids? Taking vitamins and supplements? If you are not doing what is stressed by our doctors, you cannot hope to have but minimal success with this. The resection of your stomach is a tool to be used. They operated on our stomachs, not our brains. You need to change your way of thinking about food and how you deal with your issues that make you eat. This is the time during which you should be doing everything in your power to learn to eat properly and healthy. I understand the frustration of eating when depressed, hurt, angry, happy, etc. I was a mood eater. I have had radical surgery to change those old patterns. I cannot allow myself to get back into that mode because I've had friends who've had this surgery and gained back all their weight plus because they didn't adjust to the new lifestyle. If I had no plan to readjust myself, I would never have considered this surgery. Why go through all of this and add malabsorption etc., to my list of previous problems? My suggestion is to get more involved in support, both online and off. Get friends that can be sounding boards for you instead of turning to the food and the sweets. Go back to basics (i.e. the way you dealt with food when you first had the surgery). Go back to liquids and soft foods for a week or so and just start all over again. I've heard that this type of plan can jumpstart a weightloss again. I wish you the best of luck. I hope you don't take anything I've said the wrong way. I'm just reacting out of concern for you and I hope things get better for you quickly, that you're able to motivate yourself and get yourself started again. The longer you get away from your surgery date, the harder it will be to lose the weight (that's why it's called the " honeymoon " period). But it can be done. Get started. Good luck to you. Dear Adrienne, So glad to see you post your apologies all around. We are a very supportive group and, given time, you'll get more answers to any questions you ask than you'd probably want anyway. Where are you from? (I think I remember Michigan for some reason, but don't know why). Stick around. Your surgery date will be here quickly and if you think you've got questions now, just wait! Be well and hang in there. live each day like it's your last... love like you've never been hurt... Deb in Hazlet, NJ " Debbie Dancer " distal rny September 3, 2002 386/237/160? BMI 60/35/24? -149 -69.5 " Angel to Bill (8/14/03), Debbie (waiting for a date) Ilene (6/26/03), Roy (7/29/03) and Ro Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2003 Report Share Posted July 7, 2003 > Hi Valorie, > > Your post really distressed me and I can understand your distress. Our > surgery dates were only one day apart. Before I can answer you though, I > need to know a few things. You mention sizes, but not weights. I was 386 > prior to surgery and I'm 5'9 " tall. What have you been doing to enhance > your weightloss? Are you trying to follow your surgeon's plan anymore? I'm > not being judgemental in the slightest when I say this, but either you are a > lot closer to your goal weight than I was (i.e. you started out much smaller > than me) which would mean that you would lose a lot less than me or you've > decided to jeopardize your chances to reach your goal by setting yourself up > to fail at this. > > Are you getting in enough protein? Are you drinking the fluids? Taking > vitamins and supplements? If you are not doing what is stressed by our > doctors, you cannot hope to have but minimal success with this. The > resection of your stomach is a tool to be used. They operated on our > stomachs, not our brains. You need to change your way of thinking about > food and how you deal with your issues that make you eat. > > This is the time during which you should be doing everything in your power > to learn to eat properly and healthy. I understand the frustration of > eating when depressed, hurt, angry, happy, etc. I was a mood eater. I have > had radical surgery to change those old patterns. I cannot allow myself to > get back into that mode because I've had friends who've had this surgery and > gained back all their weight plus because they didn't adjust to the new > lifestyle. If I had no plan to readjust myself, I would never have > considered this surgery. Why go through all of this and add malabsorption > etc., to my list of previous problems? > > My suggestion is to get more involved in support, both online and off. Get > friends that can be sounding boards for you instead of turning to the food > and the sweets. Go back to basics (i.e. the way you dealt with food when > you first had the surgery). Go back to liquids and soft foods for a week or > so and just start all over again. I've heard that this type of plan can > jumpstart a weightloss again. I wish you the best of luck. I hope you > don't take anything I've said the wrong way. I'm just reacting out of > concern for you and I hope things get better for you quickly, that you're > able to motivate yourself and get yourself started again. The longer you > get away from your surgery date, the harder it will be to lose the weight > (that's why it's called the " honeymoon " period). But it can be done. Get > started. Good luck to you. > > > Dear Adrienne, > > So glad to see you post your apologies all around. We are a very supportive > group and, given time, you'll get more answers to any questions you ask than > you'd probably want anyway. Where are you from? (I think I remember > Michigan for some reason, but don't know why). Stick around. Your surgery > date will be here quickly and if you think you've got questions now, just > wait! Be well and hang in there. > > live each day like it's your last... love like you've never been hurt... > > Deb in Hazlet, NJ > " Debbie Dancer " > distal rny > September 3, 2002 > 386/237/160? > BMI 60/35/24? > -149 > -69.5 " > > Angel to Bill (8/14/03), Debbie (waiting for a date) Ilene (6/26/03), Roy > (7/29/03) and Ro Thank you for excepting my apology, I am from Abita Springs, LA, My surgery date is July the 14th wish me luck,, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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