Losing Interest in All things WLS

January 5, 2002

Thanks Vitalady, you said it all for me and a bunch of others too. I miss

certain people who are not here anymore for various reasons. I especially

always think of Tracey. And am glad to see our wild child Felicia back too

and Tig also! (I think he was trying to say though, sort of that life goes on

and the voids are filled and so it goes...and that is true... there is

someone to replace everyone, but just not the SAME EXACT darling, preciously

one-of-a-kind kind of someone.)

love,

ceep

In a message dated 1/5/02 6:35:17 AM, Graduate-OSSG writes:

<< >>>Given the population of this site, there

will always be someone to replace each of us as we fall away...if we

fall away to offer up news and views<<<

No sir, this is not true. I miss the fallen away ones. Each had something

special to add, even if it was a dose of insanity! But everyone has their

point of view And their unique way of expressing it.

And just in case I haven't mentioned it for 5 or 10 minutes, I know I would

not be in as good health as I am without the input from said variety of

crazies and moderately sane persons hereon! >>

January 5, 2002

In a message dated 1/5/2002 3:53:50 AM Eastern Standard Time,

vitalady@... writes:

> No sir, this is not true. I miss the fallen away ones. Each had something

> special to add, even if it was a dose of insanity! But everyone has their

> point of view And their unique way of expressing it.

>

> And just in case I haven't mentioned it for 5 or 10 minutes, I know I would

> not be in as good health as I am without the input from said variety of

> crazies and moderately sane persons hereon!

>

Well said ! I love to hear the full cacophony!

Carol

Shrinkin' in Philly

Open RNY - '99 Raper - HUP

Plastic Surgeries ''00 (arms and TT) Mirabile - Montgomery Hospital

Today:

Total loss of 135 lbs.

My numerous co-morbidities have disappeared,

my health has returned, and I feel great!

PS

As a family therapist going through this process I was appalled by the

widespread lack of good aftercare for the emotional side of this operation.

I recently began piloting a unique cognitive behavioral therapy program to

help people maximize their outcomes from WLS and improve their long term

stability and maintenance. Someday I hope a program like this will be

available to anyone who needs additional support.

You can check it out on www.myselfdesign.com.

January 5, 2002

In a message dated 1/5/2002 3:53:50 AM Eastern Standard Time,

vitalady@... writes:

> No sir, this is not true. I miss the fallen away ones. Each had something

> special to add, even if it was a dose of insanity! But everyone has their

> point of view And their unique way of expressing it.

>

> And just in case I haven't mentioned it for 5 or 10 minutes, I know I would

> not be in as good health as I am without the input from said variety of

> crazies and moderately sane persons hereon!

>

Well said ! I love to hear the full cacophony!

Carol

Shrinkin' in Philly

Open RNY - '99 Raper - HUP

Plastic Surgeries ''00 (arms and TT) Mirabile - Montgomery Hospital

Today:

Total loss of 135 lbs.

My numerous co-morbidities have disappeared,

my health has returned, and I feel great!

PS

As a family therapist going through this process I was appalled by the

widespread lack of good aftercare for the emotional side of this operation.

I recently began piloting a unique cognitive behavioral therapy program to

help people maximize their outcomes from WLS and improve their long term

stability and maintenance. Someday I hope a program like this will be

available to anyone who needs additional support.

You can check it out on www.myselfdesign.com.

January 5, 2002

In a message dated 1/5/2002 3:53:50 AM Eastern Standard Time,

vitalady@... writes:

> No sir, this is not true. I miss the fallen away ones. Each had something

> special to add, even if it was a dose of insanity! But everyone has their

> point of view And their unique way of expressing it.

>

> And just in case I haven't mentioned it for 5 or 10 minutes, I know I would

> not be in as good health as I am without the input from said variety of

> crazies and moderately sane persons hereon!

>

Well said ! I love to hear the full cacophony!

Carol

Shrinkin' in Philly

Open RNY - '99 Raper - HUP

Plastic Surgeries ''00 (arms and TT) Mirabile - Montgomery Hospital

Today:

Total loss of 135 lbs.

My numerous co-morbidities have disappeared,

my health has returned, and I feel great!

PS

As a family therapist going through this process I was appalled by the

widespread lack of good aftercare for the emotional side of this operation.

I recently began piloting a unique cognitive behavioral therapy program to

help people maximize their outcomes from WLS and improve their long term

stability and maintenance. Someday I hope a program like this will be

available to anyone who needs additional support.

You can check it out on www.myselfdesign.com.

January 5, 2002

I was never gone, I just couldn't type due to that dumb gout. Has

anyone heard from Tracey recently? I haven't seen a post in months,

but the last time she updated, she seemed to indicate that she was

nearing the end

As far as staying on the lists, I have become even much more involved

since I made it to goal. Strange, huh? I went the other way.

If research is right, though, like Docs Wetter and Flanagan say,

those who stay involved are the most successful in the long run. I'm

keeping my fingers crossed on that one

> Thanks Vitalady, you said it all for me and a bunch of others too.

I miss

> certain people who are not here anymore for various reasons. I

especially

> always think of Tracey. And am glad to see our wild child Felicia

back too

> and Tig also! (I think he was trying to say though, sort of that

life goes on

> and the voids are filled and so it goes...and that is true... there

is

> someone to replace everyone, but just not the SAME EXACT darling,

preciously

> one-of-a-kind kind of someone.)

> love,

> ceep

January 5, 2002

I was never gone, I just couldn't type due to that dumb gout. Has

anyone heard from Tracey recently? I haven't seen a post in months,

but the last time she updated, she seemed to indicate that she was

nearing the end

As far as staying on the lists, I have become even much more involved

since I made it to goal. Strange, huh? I went the other way.

If research is right, though, like Docs Wetter and Flanagan say,

those who stay involved are the most successful in the long run. I'm

keeping my fingers crossed on that one

> Thanks Vitalady, you said it all for me and a bunch of others too.

I miss

> certain people who are not here anymore for various reasons. I

especially

> always think of Tracey. And am glad to see our wild child Felicia

back too

> and Tig also! (I think he was trying to say though, sort of that

life goes on

> and the voids are filled and so it goes...and that is true... there

is

> someone to replace everyone, but just not the SAME EXACT darling,

preciously

> one-of-a-kind kind of someone.)

> love,

> ceep

January 5, 2002

Oooooooo, I love a challenge!

Oh, I love the fresh " meat " , so to speak, each individual a package to be

opened. I just miss the others, each one individual, special in some way.

New ones are great, oldies are great.

I just WANT IT ALL.

Thanks,

www.vitalady.com

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Losing Interest in All things WLS

>

> > My opinion would be that it may be a good sign that we're not losing

> > interest as much as we've either adapted and living life (not so)

> > large in the final format after this length of time. I'm not one for

> > hanging out here that much, that often...and I gave up on a few other

> > list-groups within months of my surgery. And if asked, I advise

> > folks to go someplace where other folks won't make you crazy...as in

> > some WLS sites.

> >

> > I know that Sue R. was a regular at one site that we met prior to our

> > surgery dates that were relatively close together. I was trying to

> > get all the information to keep up my nerve and a head of steam as I

> > had for the previous year in the sites...but it became apparent that

> > there are a lot of opinions floating around as if they were directly

> > from the " burning bush. " Mine being the exception...of course.

> >

> > There was a feeding frenzy of bad information being passed;

> > conjecture and between the shoulder blades back-biting-fighting that

> > went on. Compound that with member of NAAFP poking in their heads to

> > opine about how " stupid " or " ignorant " everyone on these lists were

> > and it became bedlam...most especially when I didn't need nor wanted

> > the conflicting information before or after surgery.

> >

> > I think I parted company when the squabble came about for coming up

> > with a Gold Pin design so that other WLS patients could be recognized

> > without having to go through the process. The ones doing the arguing

> > were not yet approved or post surgery...they were hoping for the best

> > and in the interim posted their needs and wishes; sorrows & tears;

> > fears and jeers...and it just became too much. Sue R. stayed on as

> > she was the high priestress (or just high) and I bowed out within

> > weeks of surgery and started to lurk in the post modes to see what

> > was in store.

> >

> > I got all the pre-surgery information I could ever absorb and I

> > continually learn new things from others in the Post phase...but,

> > I've seen a lot of tracks getting crossed and it's not that I've lost

> > interest, but the " fire " just isn't there having hit a goal and

> > working at staying there for more than a year.

> >

> > Soooo...I can empathize with overdosing on input, especially now that

> > I've seen the " other side " and lived to tell the tale...much less

> > write this little missive. Given the population of this site, there

> > will always be someone to replace each of us as we fall away...if we

> > fall away to offer up news and views. But, the " pioneer " aspect of

> > something so radically different is not the major concern or worry

> > that it once was. It's just like flying...I either keep up my

> > airspeed or I'm going to auger into the ground; it's a maxim that

> > parrallels WLS posties...you either keep up the momentum or recover

> > your momentum or strap in for a crash.

> >

> > Hey...if I haven't said it in a while...I do appreciate each and

> > every one of youse guys...and the mods...for the invaluable part each

> > tidbit has played into my maintenance, success and reality checks for

> > the past couple of years. It's a priviledge to have overcome some

> > lifelong obstacles with a surgical procedure that was in part the

> > success to date; the rest comes from having been able to debrief and

> > find inspiration & alliance with a great bunch of kindred spirits.

> >

> > Someone once asked how I felt about having lost so much weight and

> > getting to this point...and the only great reply that came to mind

> > was ripped off from the movie...Arthur:

> >

> > " it doesn't suck! "

> >

> > Happy New Year, Ya'll!!

> >

> > Dan

> > rny 10.13.98

> > EdWaits,MD-Atlanta

> >

> > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

> >

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> >

January 5, 2002