ANNETTE - Daughters

[Guest guest]

Hi Annette..

Giving the packets to the kids is a great idea... especially to the ones

who don't want to have a conversation about it at all. At least they can

read it at their own leasure and not have to look that parent in the

face. I do believe that it is hard for some kids to face. It took a

long while for it to sink in with my own daughter. I thought at first

she didn't care, which hurt me a lot. But, as it turned out, she was

just plain scared to death. Her theory was... if we don't talk about

it, I'll live longer.. Kids! Anyway, since our dreaded talk

everything is very much out in the open and we're back to talking about

things that matter once again. I'm always sad that she lives 9000 miles

away from me... but in the long run, I think God new what he was doing

when he put her there. We had such a tight bond when she was living

here... maybe her moving away was the only way for us to accept all of

this that's happening to me and much, much easier to leave when that

time comes. I know that both of us would be basket cases if she still

lived here. It's made her appreciate her children all the more (if

that's possible) and is starting to take better care of herself. She's

a work-a-holic, like her mother. And she also has to have things done

right now, not tomorrow or next week... that's also like her mother.

Gosh, I think I've given the poor child my worst traits...lol

Have you survived your Christmas dinner? I hope you've decided to just

rest now.... that must have been fun though.

Take care,

Vicki

[Guest guest]

Yes, Vicki, I survived my Christmas dinner, and more importantly, my guests survived it too!!! :-) I've done very little since Christmas Day...catching up on some reading, spending time with grandchildren, helping my Mom get settled after her two-month stay with my sister in San Francisco. Gotta get off my butt at some point soon and square this apartment away...what a mess! I really hate cleaning up after holidays, but then who doesn't, huh? Annette

-----Original Message-----From: anzavic@... Sent: Sunday, December 29, 2002 12:05 PMTo: OurMyositis Subject: ANNETTE - DaughtersHi Annette..Giving the packets to the kids is a great idea... especially to the oneswho don't want to have a conversation about it at all. At least they canread it at their own leasure and not have to look that parent in theface. I do believe that it is hard for some kids to face. It took along while for it to sink in with my own daughter. I thought at firstshe didn't care, which hurt me a lot. But, as it turned out, she wasjust plain scared to death. Her theory was... if we don't talk aboutit, I'll live longer.. Kids! Anyway, since our dreaded talkeverything is very much out in the open and we're back to talking aboutthings that matter once again. I'm always sad that she lives 9000 milesaway from me... but in the long run, I think God new what he was doingwhen he put her there. We had such a tight bond when she was livinghere... maybe her moving away was the only way for us to accept all ofthis that's happening to me and much, much easier to leave when thattime comes. I know that both of us would be basket cases if she stilllived here. It's made her appreciate her children all the more (ifthat's possible) and is starting to take better care of herself. She'sa work-a-holic, like her mother. And she also has to have things doneright now, not tomorrow or next week... that's also like her mother.Gosh, I think I've given the poor child my worst traits...lolHave you survived your Christmas dinner? I hope you've decided to justrest now.... that must have been fun though.Take care,Vicki

[Guest guest]

Yes, Vicki, I survived my Christmas dinner, and more importantly, my guests survived it too!!! :-) I've done very little since Christmas Day...catching up on some reading, spending time with grandchildren, helping my Mom get settled after her two-month stay with my sister in San Francisco. Gotta get off my butt at some point soon and square this apartment away...what a mess! I really hate cleaning up after holidays, but then who doesn't, huh? Annette

-----Original Message-----From: anzavic@... Sent: Sunday, December 29, 2002 12:05 PMTo: OurMyositis Subject: ANNETTE - DaughtersHi Annette..Giving the packets to the kids is a great idea... especially to the oneswho don't want to have a conversation about it at all. At least they canread it at their own leasure and not have to look that parent in theface. I do believe that it is hard for some kids to face. It took along while for it to sink in with my own daughter. I thought at firstshe didn't care, which hurt me a lot. But, as it turned out, she wasjust plain scared to death. Her theory was... if we don't talk aboutit, I'll live longer.. Kids! Anyway, since our dreaded talkeverything is very much out in the open and we're back to talking aboutthings that matter once again. I'm always sad that she lives 9000 milesaway from me... but in the long run, I think God new what he was doingwhen he put her there. We had such a tight bond when she was livinghere... maybe her moving away was the only way for us to accept all ofthis that's happening to me and much, much easier to leave when thattime comes. I know that both of us would be basket cases if she stilllived here. It's made her appreciate her children all the more (ifthat's possible) and is starting to take better care of herself. She'sa work-a-holic, like her mother. And she also has to have things doneright now, not tomorrow or next week... that's also like her mother.Gosh, I think I've given the poor child my worst traits...lolHave you survived your Christmas dinner? I hope you've decided to justrest now.... that must have been fun though.Take care,Vicki

[Guest guest]

Yes, Vicki, I survived my Christmas dinner, and more importantly, my guests survived it too!!! :-) I've done very little since Christmas Day...catching up on some reading, spending time with grandchildren, helping my Mom get settled after her two-month stay with my sister in San Francisco. Gotta get off my butt at some point soon and square this apartment away...what a mess! I really hate cleaning up after holidays, but then who doesn't, huh? Annette

-----Original Message-----From: anzavic@... Sent: Sunday, December 29, 2002 12:05 PMTo: OurMyositis Subject: ANNETTE - DaughtersHi Annette..Giving the packets to the kids is a great idea... especially to the oneswho don't want to have a conversation about it at all. At least they canread it at their own leasure and not have to look that parent in theface. I do believe that it is hard for some kids to face. It took along while for it to sink in with my own daughter. I thought at firstshe didn't care, which hurt me a lot. But, as it turned out, she wasjust plain scared to death. Her theory was... if we don't talk aboutit, I'll live longer.. Kids! Anyway, since our dreaded talkeverything is very much out in the open and we're back to talking aboutthings that matter once again. I'm always sad that she lives 9000 milesaway from me... but in the long run, I think God new what he was doingwhen he put her there. We had such a tight bond when she was livinghere... maybe her moving away was the only way for us to accept all ofthis that's happening to me and much, much easier to leave when thattime comes. I know that both of us would be basket cases if she stilllived here. It's made her appreciate her children all the more (ifthat's possible) and is starting to take better care of herself. She'sa work-a-holic, like her mother. And she also has to have things doneright now, not tomorrow or next week... that's also like her mother.Gosh, I think I've given the poor child my worst traits...lolHave you survived your Christmas dinner? I hope you've decided to justrest now.... that must have been fun though.Take care,Vicki