to have something in common

[Guest guest]

I am so glad to have found you guys. I havent had my

surgery yet but I have a visit to the surgeon coming

up November 9th. I have struggled with the thought of

WLS for 2 years going back and forth do it or not and

finally decided that if I am to have any life with my

kids I have to do this. I still have my concerns

though one of which is my husband being less than

supportive of this than I had hoped. Although I really

think its only his own insecurities that hinder his

excitement for me. I still cannot imagine being thin

having lived my whole life overweight. It seems like a

dream to imagine myself thin. To be able to sit

comfortable at the theater, ride a rollercoaster, not

worry about breaking a chair. However painfull it has

been being overweight its scarry to imagine not being

overweight,It has become part of who I identify myself

as. I have always been the funny fat girl. Wow I cant

belive I said that but painfull as it is its the

truth.Anyway thanks so much for being here its nice to

be able to talk with outers who understand you

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I am glad you found us too and yes we ALL know how you feel believe me. I

went back and forth on my surgery for 4 years. Finally it got so bad I figured

ANYTHING was better then watching myself and letting my family watch me die

inside and before I knew it, it would be outside as well. Had my surgery Jan

19, 2006. Since then I have regained my life and cannot recall a time I was this

happy with myself. Of course therapy helps a lot with that too. You have to deal

with the emotional side of this just as much as the physical, if your not seeing

someone, I HIGHLY suggest it. Especially if you feel you are going to deal with

other's negative support on any of this. I have lost 110 lbs. I was just at the

park Sunday morning with my kids and chased them like never before. I was

sliding down those tunnel slides head first, swinging, and running around like a

fool haha. It was awesome!!!!! My kids LOVED IT! I couldn't do that before and

we are creating memories to last a

lifetime (that sounded like a commercial, haha). Anyways, I would not change

this for the world. I am so grateful to God that he let me get through it and be

here better then ever for my family and friends.

As you were saying about the chairs and the roller coasters and stuff, I

cannot tell you how AWESOME it is to not worry about a chair anymore. The stress

that went along with that worry was sooo intense for me. I remember I would give

my self a headache with worry over these things. It's amazing the difference in

my stress levels now days. I now can worry about more important things.

A support system is so important in this. You will have us here for sure. My

family supported me, but as the time came closer many of them were stepping back

with doubt. They were just so scared for me. The moment they all knew I was ok,

they stepped up and continued to support me through and through. Another thing I

believe as well is that they may feel that you might change. Well, you are going

to, but it is all up to you how positive that change will be. You diserve the

best you can give yourself, no reason why you shouldn't go for it no matter

what. Even if you should decide not to have the surgery!!

As they say, dreams do come true, they may not end as perfect as you wanted,

but close enough is good for me. We here are all walking proof of that. Have you

checked out the photos section? If not do so when you get a chance. The

transformations are amazing. People would look miserable in their before pics

and smiling BIG in some of their after pics.

You will not feel that you are the fat funny girl, just the funny girl. That

again is going to take time to change your mind set... some of us here have been

discussing how we have lost weight but still see that old us in the mirror.. it

is something we have to work on. That will take longer to change then the

weight.

I know this is long, but I hope some of this helps. Weigh all the pros and

cons and make sure this is something you want and are ready for mentally and

physically. Be sure to know all the negatives as you will know the positives. I

wish you the very best in this journey and look forward to sharing more with

you.

Shauna

343/110/233

Pittsburgh, Pa.

cookie monster wrote:

I am so glad to have found you guys. I havent had my

surgery yet but I have a visit to the surgeon coming

up November 9th. I have struggled with the thought of

WLS for 2 years going back and forth do it or not and

finally decided that if I am to have any life with my

kids I have to do this. I still have my concerns

though one of which is my husband being less than

supportive of this than I had hoped. Although I really

think its only his own insecurities that hinder his

excitement for me. I still cannot imagine being thin

having lived my whole life overweight. It seems like a

dream to imagine myself thin. To be able to sit

comfortable at the theater, ride a rollercoaster, not

worry about breaking a chair. However painfull it has

been being overweight its scarry to imagine not being

overweight,It has become part of who I identify myself

as. I have always been the funny fat girl. Wow I cant

belive I said that but painfull as it is its the

truth.Anyway thanks so much for being here its nice to

be able to talk with outers who understand you

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Been there done that! I was the funny fat girl too! Now I'm going to

be the funny skinny girl! :-) WLS was the 2nd best thing I've ever

done...my daughter being the 1st. :-)

W

380/284/160

cookie monster wrote:

> I am so glad to have found you guys. I havent had my

> surgery yet but I have a visit to the surgeon coming

> up November 9th. I have struggled with the thought of

> WLS for 2 years going back and forth do it or not and

> finally decided that if I am to have any life with my

> kids I have to do this. I still have my concerns

> though one of which is my husband being less than

> supportive of this than I had hoped. Although I really

> think its only his own insecurities that hinder his

> excitement for me. I still cannot imagine being thin

> having lived my whole life overweight. It seems like a

> dream to imagine myself thin. To be able to sit

> comfortable at the theater, ride a rollercoaster, not

> worry about breaking a chair. However painfull it has

> been being overweight its scarry to imagine not being

> overweight,It has become part of who I identify myself

> as. I have always been the funny fat girl. Wow I cant

> belive I said that but painfull as it is its the

> truth.Anyway thanks so much for being here its nice to

> be able to talk with outers who understand you

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Been there done that! I was the funny fat girl too! Now I'm going to

be the funny skinny girl! :-) WLS was the 2nd best thing I've ever

done...my daughter being the 1st. :-)

W

380/284/160

cookie monster wrote:

> I am so glad to have found you guys. I havent had my

> surgery yet but I have a visit to the surgeon coming

> up November 9th. I have struggled with the thought of

> WLS for 2 years going back and forth do it or not and

> finally decided that if I am to have any life with my

> kids I have to do this. I still have my concerns

> though one of which is my husband being less than

> supportive of this than I had hoped. Although I really

> think its only his own insecurities that hinder his

> excitement for me. I still cannot imagine being thin

> having lived my whole life overweight. It seems like a

> dream to imagine myself thin. To be able to sit

> comfortable at the theater, ride a rollercoaster, not

> worry about breaking a chair. However painfull it has

> been being overweight its scarry to imagine not being

> overweight,It has become part of who I identify myself

> as. I have always been the funny fat girl. Wow I cant

> belive I said that but painfull as it is its the

> truth.Anyway thanks so much for being here its nice to

> be able to talk with outers who understand you

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Been there done that! I was the funny fat girl too! Now I'm going to

be the funny skinny girl! :-) WLS was the 2nd best thing I've ever

done...my daughter being the 1st. :-)

W

380/284/160

cookie monster wrote:

> I am so glad to have found you guys. I havent had my

> surgery yet but I have a visit to the surgeon coming

> up November 9th. I have struggled with the thought of

> WLS for 2 years going back and forth do it or not and

> finally decided that if I am to have any life with my

> kids I have to do this. I still have my concerns

> though one of which is my husband being less than

> supportive of this than I had hoped. Although I really

> think its only his own insecurities that hinder his

> excitement for me. I still cannot imagine being thin

> having lived my whole life overweight. It seems like a

> dream to imagine myself thin. To be able to sit

> comfortable at the theater, ride a rollercoaster, not

> worry about breaking a chair. However painfull it has

> been being overweight its scarry to imagine not being

> overweight,It has become part of who I identify myself

> as. I have always been the funny fat girl. Wow I cant

> belive I said that but painfull as it is its the

> truth.Anyway thanks so much for being here its nice to

> be able to talk with outers who understand you

>

>

>

>