What you tell them when they ask ...What CAN I do.... (wondered by those we love).

[Guest guest]

Hello Folks:

The hour is late but I had a thought and wanted to ~put it to screen~ before it

floated away (sic. again)....

Most of us have assorted people in our lives, relatives, family, friends,

husbands, wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, acquaintances, any and all

combinations of the above... hopefully. When we have this illness this disease,

in truth there is little they are ABLE to do, for us, with us because of the

nature of the illness. They are sentenced to be voyeurs, watchers of our

journey.... because of their love. The discussion with different folks has made

me wonder specifically about the conversations that surely must take place... at

some point, with at least one or two of us <wg>!

That being what DO you tell your partner, your spouse, your lover, your young

kids, whomever/whomever that allows them TO be helpful to us? Consider the

following generic beginnings of a conversation....

" ...Hon, I know its scary sweetie, I know that, probably more so for you than

me.... in some ways... I have diabetes, I am a diabetic.... you are forced to

watch the trip but can do so little about it... " that type of conversation, or

some variation on it.

Exactly, precisely what DO YOU tell those people whom we love as to HOW they CAN

help us.... ) despite the limits of their " role " )

J

[Guest guest]

One thing that I try to tell my husband is if I say something like " gee, I don't

feel like exercising tonite " , he will say " then don't " . Now some people would

like that. I don't. I want him to say, oh come on you know it is good for you

and it will get those sugars down (you know, a little cheer). He is a great

supporter in buying great grocery items (even bought another fridge for all my

vegetables!) but he likes to try to tell me to " cheat " - come on lets go get

pizza or the exercise thing and that is not helpful. He knows I'm very strict

with myself with all of this so perhaps he feels I need a break.

I also told him it would be nice if he would pick up a book and read a bit about

this disease (Lord knows, there is enough reading material around this house!).

Sandy

What you tell them when they ask " ...What CAN I do....

(wondered by those we love). "

Hello Folks:

Exactly, precisely what DO YOU tell those people whom we love as to HOW they

CAN help us.... ) despite the limits of their " role " )

J

[Guest guest]

One thing that I try to tell my husband is if I say something like " gee, I don't

feel like exercising tonite " , he will say " then don't " . Now some people would

like that. I don't. I want him to say, oh come on you know it is good for you

and it will get those sugars down (you know, a little cheer). He is a great

supporter in buying great grocery items (even bought another fridge for all my

vegetables!) but he likes to try to tell me to " cheat " - come on lets go get

pizza or the exercise thing and that is not helpful. He knows I'm very strict

with myself with all of this so perhaps he feels I need a break.

I also told him it would be nice if he would pick up a book and read a bit about

this disease (Lord knows, there is enough reading material around this house!).

Sandy

What you tell them when they ask " ...What CAN I do....

(wondered by those we love). "

Hello Folks:

Exactly, precisely what DO YOU tell those people whom we love as to HOW they

CAN help us.... ) despite the limits of their " role " )

J