Oh my goodness!

[Guest guest]

Wow, a lot has happened in the 2 days I haven't read any posts!

I just need to say -

Jeff, what you said was very hurtful to the mom's (me included) who

are trying to do what's best for our children. Yes, it is important

to have a good outlook on life, and yes, injuries are gonna happen

anyway -

But - You must know that each person is different.

What you said made me think of what some doctors have said to me.

You don't know these people, you don't live in their home. You

don't see what goes on from hour to hour, day to day. Forming an

opinion from e-mails, or as some doctors have done - from 5 minutes

with a patient, is wrong.

I am facing getting a home tutor for my 2 daughters. I have to

decide which is best - go to school on the good days, and have loads

of make-up work from the days when they are hurting or ill, or stay

home and have a teacher come to my house. In the long run, which is

best for my girls? I think having the teacher come to our house.

It probably won't last forever, and if the doctor agrees, then so be

it. Even the school nurse told me it works better for the child if

they get the home tutor - so it will be consistent.

That's not to say that they can't go and be with their friends when

they are feeling up to it. Or, have their friends come over to our

house.

I know that it is sometime hard to interpet an e-mail. But, if you

decide to post them, you need to learn how to write them so that a

negative impression is not made.

This board is for support - just like Mike said. If you don't have

anything supportive to say, then you shouldn't post. Or, figure out

how to get your point across in a way that nobody is offended. Be

supportive. Not combative.

Can't you read the agony these mom's are going through? They don't

want their kids at home, suffering, away from their friends. They

want them in school, playing, doing all the stuff kids want and need

to do. It breaks our hearts that they are ill and in pain.

Your post actually made it sound like you think we are all enabling

our children to be in pain - just like 2 different doctors told me.

It's insulting and disrespectful.

We are here to support one another. Help each other through all the

pain we suffer, and our children suffer. We are not here to get

lectures on how we should be caring for our children.

I'm sorry that you suffered so as a child, and I'm so glad that you

have overcome all that. But that just means you should be that much

more supportive. You've been there. And, just because you are

feeling better now, doesn't mean that you can just tell everyone how

they should be living their lives, because you are ok now. It

doesn't work that way.

You have to understand that your posts have offended people so much

that they want to leave the group. Don't you see that? I think

not, because you keep writing more and more, and not once an

apology.

I hope they reconsider, and stay.

I need them. I need them terribly. Every single day.

Mom's know what's best for their own children. What is good for one

child, may not be good for another. I know that is the case in my

own 3 children. Each one needs a different approach. And their

mom's are the ones who know what that approach should be. Not you,

not any doctor who doesn't even know them.