Guest guest Posted April 9, 2002 Report Share Posted April 9, 2002 Hi , Thought I would let you know that I, too, have lost a daughter. She died of non-hodgkins lymphoma in 1984 just six months after she had her first baby. She was only 23 years old. The only way I could accept it, after a great deal of time, was to believe she was still with me..in spirit if nothing else. Not a day goes by that I do not think of her and sometimes tearfully. Her son will graduate from high school this year. There is nothing anyone can say to me to ease the pain of her loss, it is like a part of me has been amputated. I understand your loss and hope you will be able to come to terms with accepting that she is with you always. I talk to my daughter and tell her about my day and that might seem silly to someone who has not lost a child but it helps me accept. God bless you. Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2002 Report Share Posted April 9, 2002 Hi , Thought I would let you know that I, too, have lost a daughter. She died of non-hodgkins lymphoma in 1984 just six months after she had her first baby. She was only 23 years old. The only way I could accept it, after a great deal of time, was to believe she was still with me..in spirit if nothing else. Not a day goes by that I do not think of her and sometimes tearfully. Her son will graduate from high school this year. There is nothing anyone can say to me to ease the pain of her loss, it is like a part of me has been amputated. I understand your loss and hope you will be able to come to terms with accepting that she is with you always. I talk to my daughter and tell her about my day and that might seem silly to someone who has not lost a child but it helps me accept. God bless you. Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2002 Report Share Posted April 9, 2002 Hi , Joan, Just to let you know I too lost my son 10 months ago (just a few months before being diagnosed with chronic pancreatitis). Life just isn't fair sometimes A parent is not suppose to bury a child, but vise versa) If I can be of any help to you .. please don't hesitate to email me. We can get through this " One day at a time " . God Bless Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2002 Report Share Posted April 9, 2002 Hi ya'll! Sorry but I live right outside of Augusta GA and we have that little golf tournament in town this week, i think they call it The Masters (lol) - Arrrrgh! So everyone here is suppose to be on their best behavior-yeah right. I call it the week I most want to leave town. but anyway I'm just trying to display a little Southern Hospitality. So I hope ya'll are doing OK. I am getting by. This is the 5th night in a row I have gone to bed only to get up because I couldn't sleep. Not that I hurt or anything I just can't sleep. So here I am. I am wanting some feedback on infertility treatments. ie should I or shouldn't I? first let me explain a little. As some know I suffered a miscarriage at 26 weeks into a pregnancy. I was devastated-still am. I have not been able to conceive again since. Honestly that was a opps... but I had been married for 5 years and we wanted it more than anything. It s just my docs didn't want me to because I was having major probs with Mr. CP. Since that time I have tried IUI once and was going to do it again but that is when I developed the endocarditis. I had decided then to " let go and let God " whatever happens happens. This week was the 5 year mark of my daughters death. I have been praying so much about what to do. Should I give it one more try? Do I have it in me to go through the stress of all of it again? Originally I was seeing a doc at the Medical College of Georgia in Augusta but here was a big breakup and they all left for private practice. I had another Repro Endo doc in town but he stays so busy and doesn't do IVF anyway. So if that is what I wanted I would have to switch doctors. Anyway like I said I had really been praying over this. today I got a letter in the mail from MCG saying that they had reopened their dept. and now had 3 doctors all I have to do is call for an appt. The letter was dated and postmarked April 2 but I just got it today. Is this a sign or wishful thinking. AM i making to much out of this? ANy comments? thoughts? ideas? ANYTHING??? thanks for reading this long post. Maybe i can get some rest now. thanks, _________________________________________________________________ Join the world’s largest e-mail service with MSN Hotmail. http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2002 Report Share Posted April 10, 2002 Dear , This is not meant in any way to take your situation lightly or to diminish your anguish or need. I'm simply voicing an alternative that I'm sure you've given great thought to already and might consider once again. One alternative, of course, is adoption. There are millions of glorious, wonderfully remarkable children out there who are in desperate need of a parent to care for them and a home that might provide love and some degree of stability. This disease has often made me feel a bit of an " outcast " or a " less desirable " . I'm physically flawed and no longer have the genetic markings that I once felt important. There are lots and lots of kids who might fit that same " profile " , perhaps even considered " damaged goods " , who have the capacity to be the quintessential " perfect child " to the right parent who has the ability to appreciate those whom are perhaps a bit " differently abled " . Just one person's humble perspective for your consideration. Peace, Terry in KC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2002 Report Share Posted April 10, 2002 > Hi , Joan, > Just to let you know I too lost my son 10 months ago (just a few > months before being diagnosed with chronic pancreatitis). Life just isn't > fair sometimes A parent is not suppose to bury a child, but vise versa) If > I can be of any help to you .. please don't hesitate to email me. We can get > through this " One day at a time " . > God Bless > Kim > > > , Joan, Kim I, too, lost my daughter 22 years ago. She was only 5 days old. To look at her you would never have believed that she wouldn't live. She had a heart defect, actually did not have the left side of her heart at all. We were lucky to have her with us for 5 days. It is something I don't think I will ever get over, I just had to accept it and get on with my life. Luckily, I had two sons and they are what I lived for. I, also, talk to my daughter everyday. I keep her picture on my mantle along with the rest of the family pictures. She was and still is a big part of our life. The worst thing for me has been when I am asked how many children I have. If I say two sons, I always feel like I am not acknowledging my daughter, but if I mention her I get really strange looks. The only ones who understand are the people who have lost a child, they know just how I feel. I always feel that I have 2 sons and a daughter, my daughter just isn't with me right now. This has turned out longer that I thought it would, just wanted you to know that there is someone else who really does understand how you feel. , you have to do what you and your husband feels is right. I was able to go through two pregnancies with pancreatitis, it was hard at times, but well worth it to me. My daughters problems had nothing to do with my pancreatits. My son and his wife are having problems conceiving right now, I know the decision is hard and the process timely. My thoughts will be with you. Sharon in Michigan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2002 Report Share Posted April 10, 2002 > Hi , Joan, > Just to let you know I too lost my son 10 months ago (just a few > months before being diagnosed with chronic pancreatitis). Life just isn't > fair sometimes A parent is not suppose to bury a child, but vise versa) If > I can be of any help to you .. please don't hesitate to email me. We can get > through this " One day at a time " . > God Bless > Kim > > > , Joan, Kim I, too, lost my daughter 22 years ago. She was only 5 days old. To look at her you would never have believed that she wouldn't live. She had a heart defect, actually did not have the left side of her heart at all. We were lucky to have her with us for 5 days. It is something I don't think I will ever get over, I just had to accept it and get on with my life. Luckily, I had two sons and they are what I lived for. I, also, talk to my daughter everyday. I keep her picture on my mantle along with the rest of the family pictures. She was and still is a big part of our life. The worst thing for me has been when I am asked how many children I have. If I say two sons, I always feel like I am not acknowledging my daughter, but if I mention her I get really strange looks. The only ones who understand are the people who have lost a child, they know just how I feel. I always feel that I have 2 sons and a daughter, my daughter just isn't with me right now. This has turned out longer that I thought it would, just wanted you to know that there is someone else who really does understand how you feel. , you have to do what you and your husband feels is right. I was able to go through two pregnancies with pancreatitis, it was hard at times, but well worth it to me. My daughters problems had nothing to do with my pancreatits. My son and his wife are having problems conceiving right now, I know the decision is hard and the process timely. My thoughts will be with you. Sharon in Michigan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2002 Report Share Posted April 11, 2002 Dear Sharon, Thankyou for your reply! I will keep you and everyone else posted. HUGS, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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