Starting to get a little scared

[Guest guest]

Missy,

Peace and Comfort to you. You are in my prayers.

The day came the risk to remain a caterpillar was more painful than the risk

to become a butterfly.

Newlifeforme

Sandy

Dr. Rutledge (www.clos.net/)

[Guest guest]

Bless you Amy, I to can feel you're pain, my children are grown now and I

wish so bad this had been available long ago as I feel I missed out on a lot

with them always being to tired or feeling bad, but i have small

grandchildren now that I can have a second chance with and a wonderful

husband whom has been here for me for 30 years now and deserves to have a

better me for what life we have left so I'm getting up my nerve for this

(trying to stop smoking first) and have the mindset to keep looking forward

at what I can and will be and not looking back as I can't change that.

A Little Scared, but wanting

to be on the other side,

Cathy in Lenoir, NC

[Guest guest]

Bless you Amy, I to can feel you're pain, my children are grown now and I

wish so bad this had been available long ago as I feel I missed out on a lot

with them always being to tired or feeling bad, but i have small

grandchildren now that I can have a second chance with and a wonderful

husband whom has been here for me for 30 years now and deserves to have a

better me for what life we have left so I'm getting up my nerve for this

(trying to stop smoking first) and have the mindset to keep looking forward

at what I can and will be and not looking back as I can't change that.

A Little Scared, but wanting

to be on the other side,

Cathy in Lenoir, NC

[Guest guest]

Bless you Amy, I to can feel you're pain, my children are grown now and I

wish so bad this had been available long ago as I feel I missed out on a lot

with them always being to tired or feeling bad, but i have small

grandchildren now that I can have a second chance with and a wonderful

husband whom has been here for me for 30 years now and deserves to have a

better me for what life we have left so I'm getting up my nerve for this

(trying to stop smoking first) and have the mindset to keep looking forward

at what I can and will be and not looking back as I can't change that.

A Little Scared, but wanting

to be on the other side,

Cathy in Lenoir, NC

[Guest guest]

or Steve, Do you know when they are changing clinic to Tuesdays?

Trish

[Guest guest]

or Steve, Do you know when they are changing clinic to Tuesdays?

Trish

[Guest guest]

or Steve, Do you know when they are changing clinic to Tuesdays?

Trish

[Guest guest]

Amy my children are grown but still need their mom and I know, I lost my

mother in 88, I'm 48 years old and still miss that I cannot ask my mom for

advice. She waited to long to see a doctor about her complain. Thanks for

that post-------Joy

[Guest guest]

Amy my children are grown but still need their mom and I know, I lost my

mother in 88, I'm 48 years old and still miss that I cannot ask my mom for

advice. She waited to long to see a doctor about her complain. Thanks for

that post-------Joy

[Guest guest]

Hi, guys... haven't had much time to post since last

Thursday. Hello to all the " newbies " who joined since

my last post. I see that several of us already had

the surgery since last Thursday. Hope you are all

doing well... you are in my prayers.

Does anyone else (pre-ops or post-ops) get scared

and wonder if you're doing the right thing? I

sometimes feel like I'm being weak and maybe I should

try a little harder. I look at my children and try to

imagine what their lives would be like without their

mommy. My daughter is four. She would definitely

remember. My son is seven months, and though he would

hear a lot about me if something happened, I doubt he

would have a memory of spending any time with me. I

have waited so long that now I am getting scared....

I wonder how different my life will be afterwards...

will I develop other health problems? (Like needing

my gall bladder out?) I could handle that. They

could take it. After all, I don't need it, do I? I

will take my vitamins religiously. So this should

prevent any vitamin loss or malnutrition, right? Just

wanted to hear your thoughts........

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Hi Missie,

Your children are a LOT more likely to end up motherless if you DON'T do

this than if you DO, so put it out of your mind. You're making the best

decision for yourself AND your family, so take comfort in knowing you're

doing the right thing. As a mother you'd probably throw yourself in front

of a train for your babies--so the MGB is a piece of cake then, right?

Pax,

E. Parsons

Clinical Data Manager

Parexel International

1000 Park Forty Plaza, Suite 500

Durham NC 27713

Phone: x5012

Fax:

> Starting to get a little scared

>

>

> Hi, guys... haven't had much time to post since last

> Thursday. Hello to all the " newbies " who joined since

> my last post. I see that several of us already had

> the surgery since last Thursday. Hope you are all

> doing well... you are in my prayers.

> Does anyone else (pre-ops or post-ops) get scared

> and wonder if you're doing the right thing? I

> sometimes feel like I'm being weak and maybe I should

> try a little harder. I look at my children and try to

> imagine what their lives would be like without their

> mommy. My daughter is four. She would definitely

> remember. My son is seven months, and though he would

> hear a lot about me if something happened, I doubt he

> would have a memory of spending any time with me. I

> have waited so long that now I am getting scared....

> I wonder how different my life will be afterwards...

> will I develop other health problems? (Like needing

> my gall bladder out?) I could handle that. They

> could take it. After all, I don't need it, do I? I

> will take my vitamins religiously. So this should

> prevent any vitamin loss or malnutrition, right? Just

> wanted to hear your thoughts........

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Missie,

Your children are a LOT more likely to end up motherless if you DON'T do

this than if you DO, so put it out of your mind. You're making the best

decision for yourself AND your family, so take comfort in knowing you're

doing the right thing. As a mother you'd probably throw yourself in front

of a train for your babies--so the MGB is a piece of cake then, right?

Pax,

E. Parsons

Clinical Data Manager

Parexel International

1000 Park Forty Plaza, Suite 500

Durham NC 27713

Phone: x5012

Fax:

> Starting to get a little scared

>

>

> Hi, guys... haven't had much time to post since last

> Thursday. Hello to all the " newbies " who joined since

> my last post. I see that several of us already had

> the surgery since last Thursday. Hope you are all

> doing well... you are in my prayers.

> Does anyone else (pre-ops or post-ops) get scared

> and wonder if you're doing the right thing? I

> sometimes feel like I'm being weak and maybe I should

> try a little harder. I look at my children and try to

> imagine what their lives would be like without their

> mommy. My daughter is four. She would definitely

> remember. My son is seven months, and though he would

> hear a lot about me if something happened, I doubt he

> would have a memory of spending any time with me. I

> have waited so long that now I am getting scared....

> I wonder how different my life will be afterwards...

> will I develop other health problems? (Like needing

> my gall bladder out?) I could handle that. They

> could take it. After all, I don't need it, do I? I

> will take my vitamins religiously. So this should

> prevent any vitamin loss or malnutrition, right? Just

> wanted to hear your thoughts........

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Missie,

Your children are a LOT more likely to end up motherless if you DON'T do

this than if you DO, so put it out of your mind. You're making the best

decision for yourself AND your family, so take comfort in knowing you're

doing the right thing. As a mother you'd probably throw yourself in front

of a train for your babies--so the MGB is a piece of cake then, right?

Pax,

E. Parsons

Clinical Data Manager

Parexel International

1000 Park Forty Plaza, Suite 500

Durham NC 27713

Phone: x5012

Fax:

> Starting to get a little scared

>

>

> Hi, guys... haven't had much time to post since last

> Thursday. Hello to all the " newbies " who joined since

> my last post. I see that several of us already had

> the surgery since last Thursday. Hope you are all

> doing well... you are in my prayers.

> Does anyone else (pre-ops or post-ops) get scared

> and wonder if you're doing the right thing? I

> sometimes feel like I'm being weak and maybe I should

> try a little harder. I look at my children and try to

> imagine what their lives would be like without their

> mommy. My daughter is four. She would definitely

> remember. My son is seven months, and though he would

> hear a lot about me if something happened, I doubt he

> would have a memory of spending any time with me. I

> have waited so long that now I am getting scared....

> I wonder how different my life will be afterwards...

> will I develop other health problems? (Like needing

> my gall bladder out?) I could handle that. They

> could take it. After all, I don't need it, do I? I

> will take my vitamins religiously. So this should

> prevent any vitamin loss or malnutrition, right? Just

> wanted to hear your thoughts........

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Missie, I do know what you mean. I have 3 kids (6,4,8 mo) and I wouldn't do

anything that would jeopardize my life, and possibly leave them behind. I

guess I feel that if I don't have the surgery, I'm taking more of a risk!

Especially now while I'm young (32) and relatively healthy. I'm already

unable to do things that I want/need to do to be their mom, so I can't be as

good of a mom as I want to be - and they deserve.

I feel the risk of having this surgery is minimal compared to the certain

disability/death of morbid obesity. I live in constant pain - how does that

affect my patience and ability to cope with three small kids? I'm always

exhausted - I can't do the things that other families do without much

preparation and rest both before and afterward. I had my 4 yr. old's

birthday party here Saturday. I'm still in physical pain from the stuff I

did, and would love dearly to go upstairs and take a nap. I missed Easter

mass yesterday for the first time in my life because I was just too

exhausted to get up, dressed, get the kids dressed and go. I'm feeling

terribly guilty about it, but I hope God will understand.

I want to be able to be the wife my husband deserves. I love him dearly,

more than he'll ever know, and want so much to do fun things again and be

able to have sex without embarrassment and discomfort. I can barely

remember those days. I want to keep the house, run the laundry upstairs,

pick up toys, play at the park, sit on the lawn outside without needing help

to get back up...

Anyway, I do understand. I wish you the best on your journey. I'm

dissolving into tears, so I need to go.

Blessings,

~Amy.

____________________________________

Amy S. Poe

Help Desk Manager

onHealth.com

Starting to get a little scared

Hi, guys... haven't had much time to post since last

Thursday. Hello to all the " newbies " who joined since

my last post. I see that several of us already had

the surgery since last Thursday. Hope you are all

doing well... you are in my prayers.

Does anyone else (pre-ops or post-ops) get scared

and wonder if you're doing the right thing? I

sometimes feel like I'm being weak and maybe I should

try a little harder. I look at my children and try to

imagine what their lives would be like without their

mommy. My daughter is four. She would definitely

remember. My son is seven months, and though he would

hear a lot about me if something happened, I doubt he

would have a memory of spending any time with me. I

have waited so long that now I am getting scared....

I wonder how different my life will be afterwards...

will I develop other health problems? (Like needing

my gall bladder out?) I could handle that. They

could take it. After all, I don't need it, do I? I

will take my vitamins religiously. So this should

prevent any vitamin loss or malnutrition, right? Just

wanted to hear your thoughts........

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

This is just a question.....My family has become alarmed at the loss of .

My parents and I were at a clinic visit a spent time speaking with her. Even

though the events of her passing are alarming for me they have not detered me in

my pursuit of the operation. My mother asked me to sending a posting as to

weather there are any details as to the cause, where the pre-existing

conditions. I realize that this may not be an easy subject to discuss, but both

my parents and members of my support group in this process they they will better

if the know more details. They feel it will allow for a more informed decision.

I too am anxious to know more details. I hope that this note dosen't come

across crass, but I feel that we all need to know since we are all in this

together.

[Guest guest]

This is just a question.....My family has become alarmed at the loss of .

My parents and I were at a clinic visit a spent time speaking with her. Even

though the events of her passing are alarming for me they have not detered me in

my pursuit of the operation. My mother asked me to sending a posting as to

weather there are any details as to the cause, where the pre-existing

conditions. I realize that this may not be an easy subject to discuss, but both

my parents and members of my support group in this process they they will better

if the know more details. They feel it will allow for a more informed decision.

I too am anxious to know more details. I hope that this note dosen't come

across crass, but I feel that we all need to know since we are all in this

together.

[Guest guest]

Dear Missie,

I'm not scared, I want to LIVE!!!!!!! I know that if I don't do

something drastic NOW, I will end up dying from diabetes and heart disease

like both my parents and this terrifies me. As far as dying from the

surgery, my faith in God tells me that He is the only one that will

determine my fate. If it is my time to go then so be it. I can think of a

lot worse ways to die. I just can't stand the thought of just sitting here

and allowing myself to be consumed by morbid obesity for the rest of my

life. I REFUSE TO LET THAT HAPPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This surgery is a very personal decision. The more I research MGB and other

types of weight loss surgery, the more I understand that God sent me to Dr.

R's website for a reason. I honestly feel that God was holding my hand and

guiding me to Dr. R.

As far as Dr. Rutledge is concerned, I have never met the man but I

certainly plan to.

I am going to entrust him with my life but I have no fear. His track record

and his patients

undying support is all I need. This man has saved the lives of his patients

and improved the quality of those lives not to mention the lives of their

families. He has positively impacted hundreds maybe even thousands of lives

with his crusade to eradicate mobid obesity from his patients. What a

comforting thought to place my life in his hands. I can't wait.........

Sincerely,

Genz ( Genzel from Texas )

Missie Gooden wrote:

> Hi, guys... haven't had much time to post since last

> Thursday. Hello to all the " newbies " who joined since

> my last post. I see that several of us already had

> the surgery since last Thursday. Hope you are all

> doing well... you are in my prayers.

> Does anyone else (pre-ops or post-ops) get scared

> and wonder if you're doing the right thing? I

> sometimes feel like I'm being weak and maybe I should

> try a little harder. I look at my children and try to

> imagine what their lives would be like without their

> mommy. My daughter is four. She would definitely

> remember. My son is seven months, and though he would

> hear a lot about me if something happened, I doubt he

> would have a memory of spending any time with me. I

> have waited so long that now I am getting scared....

> I wonder how different my life will be afterwards...

> will I develop other health problems? (Like needing

> my gall bladder out?) I could handle that. They

> could take it. After all, I don't need it, do I? I

> will take my vitamins religiously. So this should

> prevent any vitamin loss or malnutrition, right? Just

> wanted to hear your thoughts........

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Missie,

I'm not scared, I want to LIVE!!!!!!! I know that if I don't do

something drastic NOW, I will end up dying from diabetes and heart disease

like both my parents and this terrifies me. As far as dying from the

surgery, my faith in God tells me that He is the only one that will

determine my fate. If it is my time to go then so be it. I can think of a

lot worse ways to die. I just can't stand the thought of just sitting here

and allowing myself to be consumed by morbid obesity for the rest of my

life. I REFUSE TO LET THAT HAPPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This surgery is a very personal decision. The more I research MGB and other

types of weight loss surgery, the more I understand that God sent me to Dr.

R's website for a reason. I honestly feel that God was holding my hand and

guiding me to Dr. R.

As far as Dr. Rutledge is concerned, I have never met the man but I

certainly plan to.

I am going to entrust him with my life but I have no fear. His track record

and his patients

undying support is all I need. This man has saved the lives of his patients

and improved the quality of those lives not to mention the lives of their

families. He has positively impacted hundreds maybe even thousands of lives

with his crusade to eradicate mobid obesity from his patients. What a

comforting thought to place my life in his hands. I can't wait.........

Sincerely,

Genz ( Genzel from Texas )

Missie Gooden wrote:

> Hi, guys... haven't had much time to post since last

> Thursday. Hello to all the " newbies " who joined since

> my last post. I see that several of us already had

> the surgery since last Thursday. Hope you are all

> doing well... you are in my prayers.

> Does anyone else (pre-ops or post-ops) get scared

> and wonder if you're doing the right thing? I

> sometimes feel like I'm being weak and maybe I should

> try a little harder. I look at my children and try to

> imagine what their lives would be like without their

> mommy. My daughter is four. She would definitely

> remember. My son is seven months, and though he would

> hear a lot about me if something happened, I doubt he

> would have a memory of spending any time with me. I

> have waited so long that now I am getting scared....

> I wonder how different my life will be afterwards...

> will I develop other health problems? (Like needing

> my gall bladder out?) I could handle that. They

> could take it. After all, I don't need it, do I? I

> will take my vitamins religiously. So this should

> prevent any vitamin loss or malnutrition, right? Just

> wanted to hear your thoughts........

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Missie,

I'm not scared, I want to LIVE!!!!!!! I know that if I don't do

something drastic NOW, I will end up dying from diabetes and heart disease

like both my parents and this terrifies me. As far as dying from the

surgery, my faith in God tells me that He is the only one that will

determine my fate. If it is my time to go then so be it. I can think of a

lot worse ways to die. I just can't stand the thought of just sitting here

and allowing myself to be consumed by morbid obesity for the rest of my

life. I REFUSE TO LET THAT HAPPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This surgery is a very personal decision. The more I research MGB and other

types of weight loss surgery, the more I understand that God sent me to Dr.

R's website for a reason. I honestly feel that God was holding my hand and

guiding me to Dr. R.

As far as Dr. Rutledge is concerned, I have never met the man but I

certainly plan to.

I am going to entrust him with my life but I have no fear. His track record

and his patients

undying support is all I need. This man has saved the lives of his patients

and improved the quality of those lives not to mention the lives of their

families. He has positively impacted hundreds maybe even thousands of lives

with his crusade to eradicate mobid obesity from his patients. What a

comforting thought to place my life in his hands. I can't wait.........

Sincerely,

Genz ( Genzel from Texas )

Missie Gooden wrote:

> Hi, guys... haven't had much time to post since last

> Thursday. Hello to all the " newbies " who joined since

> my last post. I see that several of us already had

> the surgery since last Thursday. Hope you are all

> doing well... you are in my prayers.

> Does anyone else (pre-ops or post-ops) get scared

> and wonder if you're doing the right thing? I

> sometimes feel like I'm being weak and maybe I should

> try a little harder. I look at my children and try to

> imagine what their lives would be like without their

> mommy. My daughter is four. She would definitely

> remember. My son is seven months, and though he would

> hear a lot about me if something happened, I doubt he

> would have a memory of spending any time with me. I

> have waited so long that now I am getting scared....

> I wonder how different my life will be afterwards...

> will I develop other health problems? (Like needing

> my gall bladder out?) I could handle that. They

> could take it. After all, I don't need it, do I? I

> will take my vitamins religiously. So this should

> prevent any vitamin loss or malnutrition, right? Just

> wanted to hear your thoughts........

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

I don't know, sorry.

Pax,

E. Parsons

Clinical Data Manager

Parexel International

1000 Park Forty Plaza, Suite 500

Durham NC 27713

Phone: x5012

Fax:

> RE: Starting to get a little scared

>

>

> or Steve, Do you know when they are changing clinic

> to Tuesdays?

> Trish

>

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[Guest guest]

I don't know, sorry.

Pax,

E. Parsons

Clinical Data Manager

Parexel International

1000 Park Forty Plaza, Suite 500

Durham NC 27713

Phone: x5012

Fax:

> RE: Starting to get a little scared

>

>

> or Steve, Do you know when they are changing clinic

> to Tuesdays?

> Trish

>

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[Guest guest]

I don't know, sorry.

Pax,

E. Parsons

Clinical Data Manager

Parexel International

1000 Park Forty Plaza, Suite 500

Durham NC 27713

Phone: x5012

Fax:

> RE: Starting to get a little scared

>

>

> or Steve, Do you know when they are changing clinic

> to Tuesdays?

> Trish

>

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[Guest guest]

Hey Missie~~

I think it's natural to be a little scared----after all the MGB is major

surgery, our bodies will be " forever " altered. But like everything in life,

you must way the positives against the negatives and see which list is

longer. You have to evaluate the track record of the surgeon, and the

infection rate of the facility in which you will be hospitalized (even

though being in for a short stay helps). If the MGB allows you to be a

better mom, be more energetic and be able to spend more quality time with

your children (such as participating in a baseball game or going on carnival

rides with them instead of just dropping them off at the ballpark/amusement

center gate) then I certainly feel that it would be more advantageous to

have surgery than to go on with the lifestyle you have now. We have all

talked to dozen's of post ops, we've heard the best that can happen, we've

heard the worst that can happen. I think now is when we are able to really

weigh the pros and the cons and decide with assurity that this surgery is

what we need.

I look at myself and yes, at times I think I could try harder, or I could

avoid eating certain things, but the thing is, in the past, I HAVE avoided

eating those things, I have dieted until the cows came home, but every time

I just wind up putting the weight (plus more) back on faster than I ever did

with the last diet. Why would I want to go through that horrible experience

another time?? As far as needing your GB out, Dr R has post ops who have

normal gallbladders take Actigall for several months following surgery

during the greatest weight loss. That prevents stones from forming and also

dissolves any other bile acid stones if they are present. The thing is,

with Actigall, if you resume your old eating habits, those stones can

re-form and you're right back at square one. But a person who's had an MGB,

their eating habits have changed and they are eating healthy, so there's

much less chance of the stones developing.

For myself, I think the benefits far exceed the risks involved. Now if I

could just get my insurance company to agree.........LOL

fg

At 07:44 AM 04/24/2000 -0700, you wrote:

>Hi, guys... haven't had much time to post since last

>Thursday. Hello to all the " newbies " who joined since

>my last post. I see that several of us already had

>the surgery since last Thursday. Hope you are all

>doing well... you are in my prayers.

> Does anyone else (pre-ops or post-ops) get scared

>and wonder if you're doing the right thing? I

>sometimes feel like I'm being weak and maybe I should

>try a little harder. I look at my children and try to

>imagine what their lives would be like without their

>mommy. My daughter is four. She would definitely

>remember. My son is seven months, and though he would

>hear a lot about me if something happened, I doubt he

>would have a memory of spending any time with me. I

>have waited so long that now I am getting scared....

>I wonder how different my life will be afterwards...

>will I develop other health problems? (Like needing

>my gall bladder out?) I could handle that. They

>could take it. After all, I don't need it, do I? I

>will take my vitamins religiously. So this should

>prevent any vitamin loss or malnutrition, right? Just

>wanted to hear your thoughts........

>

[Guest guest]

Hey Missie~~

I think it's natural to be a little scared----after all the MGB is major

surgery, our bodies will be " forever " altered. But like everything in life,

you must way the positives against the negatives and see which list is

longer. You have to evaluate the track record of the surgeon, and the

infection rate of the facility in which you will be hospitalized (even

though being in for a short stay helps). If the MGB allows you to be a

better mom, be more energetic and be able to spend more quality time with

your children (such as participating in a baseball game or going on carnival

rides with them instead of just dropping them off at the ballpark/amusement

center gate) then I certainly feel that it would be more advantageous to

have surgery than to go on with the lifestyle you have now. We have all

talked to dozen's of post ops, we've heard the best that can happen, we've

heard the worst that can happen. I think now is when we are able to really

weigh the pros and the cons and decide with assurity that this surgery is

what we need.

I look at myself and yes, at times I think I could try harder, or I could

avoid eating certain things, but the thing is, in the past, I HAVE avoided

eating those things, I have dieted until the cows came home, but every time

I just wind up putting the weight (plus more) back on faster than I ever did

with the last diet. Why would I want to go through that horrible experience

another time?? As far as needing your GB out, Dr R has post ops who have

normal gallbladders take Actigall for several months following surgery

during the greatest weight loss. That prevents stones from forming and also

dissolves any other bile acid stones if they are present. The thing is,

with Actigall, if you resume your old eating habits, those stones can

re-form and you're right back at square one. But a person who's had an MGB,

their eating habits have changed and they are eating healthy, so there's

much less chance of the stones developing.

For myself, I think the benefits far exceed the risks involved. Now if I

could just get my insurance company to agree.........LOL

fg

At 07:44 AM 04/24/2000 -0700, you wrote:

>Hi, guys... haven't had much time to post since last

>Thursday. Hello to all the " newbies " who joined since

>my last post. I see that several of us already had

>the surgery since last Thursday. Hope you are all

>doing well... you are in my prayers.

> Does anyone else (pre-ops or post-ops) get scared

>and wonder if you're doing the right thing? I

>sometimes feel like I'm being weak and maybe I should

>try a little harder. I look at my children and try to

>imagine what their lives would be like without their

>mommy. My daughter is four. She would definitely

>remember. My son is seven months, and though he would

>hear a lot about me if something happened, I doubt he

>would have a memory of spending any time with me. I

>have waited so long that now I am getting scared....

>I wonder how different my life will be afterwards...

>will I develop other health problems? (Like needing

>my gall bladder out?) I could handle that. They

>could take it. After all, I don't need it, do I? I

>will take my vitamins religiously. So this should

>prevent any vitamin loss or malnutrition, right? Just

>wanted to hear your thoughts........

>

[Guest guest]

Hey Missie~~

I think it's natural to be a little scared----after all the MGB is major

surgery, our bodies will be " forever " altered. But like everything in life,

you must way the positives against the negatives and see which list is

longer. You have to evaluate the track record of the surgeon, and the

infection rate of the facility in which you will be hospitalized (even

though being in for a short stay helps). If the MGB allows you to be a

better mom, be more energetic and be able to spend more quality time with

your children (such as participating in a baseball game or going on carnival

rides with them instead of just dropping them off at the ballpark/amusement

center gate) then I certainly feel that it would be more advantageous to

have surgery than to go on with the lifestyle you have now. We have all

talked to dozen's of post ops, we've heard the best that can happen, we've

heard the worst that can happen. I think now is when we are able to really

weigh the pros and the cons and decide with assurity that this surgery is

what we need.

I look at myself and yes, at times I think I could try harder, or I could

avoid eating certain things, but the thing is, in the past, I HAVE avoided

eating those things, I have dieted until the cows came home, but every time

I just wind up putting the weight (plus more) back on faster than I ever did

with the last diet. Why would I want to go through that horrible experience

another time?? As far as needing your GB out, Dr R has post ops who have

normal gallbladders take Actigall for several months following surgery

during the greatest weight loss. That prevents stones from forming and also

dissolves any other bile acid stones if they are present. The thing is,

with Actigall, if you resume your old eating habits, those stones can

re-form and you're right back at square one. But a person who's had an MGB,

their eating habits have changed and they are eating healthy, so there's

much less chance of the stones developing.

For myself, I think the benefits far exceed the risks involved. Now if I

could just get my insurance company to agree.........LOL

fg

At 07:44 AM 04/24/2000 -0700, you wrote:

>Hi, guys... haven't had much time to post since last

>Thursday. Hello to all the " newbies " who joined since

>my last post. I see that several of us already had

>the surgery since last Thursday. Hope you are all

>doing well... you are in my prayers.

> Does anyone else (pre-ops or post-ops) get scared

>and wonder if you're doing the right thing? I

>sometimes feel like I'm being weak and maybe I should

>try a little harder. I look at my children and try to

>imagine what their lives would be like without their

>mommy. My daughter is four. She would definitely

>remember. My son is seven months, and though he would

>hear a lot about me if something happened, I doubt he

>would have a memory of spending any time with me. I

>have waited so long that now I am getting scared....

>I wonder how different my life will be afterwards...

>will I develop other health problems? (Like needing

>my gall bladder out?) I could handle that. They

>could take it. After all, I don't need it, do I? I

>will take my vitamins religiously. So this should

>prevent any vitamin loss or malnutrition, right? Just

>wanted to hear your thoughts........

>