Guest guest Posted October 14, 2004 Report Share Posted October 14, 2004 Bev, Pam, and Lin Just want to say that you are three incredibly strong women that need to be commended for going through what you did and being able to go on and even talk about it! I admire the three of you very much for being so strong and taking back your lives when you could have just given up! I send all of you my LOVE, GOOD THOUGHTS, AND LOTS OF HAPPINESS!!! Take Care Dawn wrote: Pam and Bev, Well I was molested by a relative when I was a child and I think you never get over it but learn to survive and live after it. When I was younger and Dwight would be gone I would always go and spend the night at their house because I was scared to stay home alone, I also double check the doors to make sure they are locked, I tend to avoid movies and books that have rape in them and Dwight learned the hard way not to sneak up behind me and grab me, poor guy he must of thought I was going nuts until I told him. We had a horrible thing happen a 10 years ago, our Pastor turned out to be a pedophile. We tried not to tell who the children were because she babysat one of the little boys, when she found out, thank the Lord she couldn't drive at the time because I saw a look come over her that scared me! She wanted to go kill him, I really think at the time she meant it. Anyway they had a church wide meeting and Dwight wouldn't let me go because he knew the people were in shock and were saying that we need to pray for Pastor and his family. We went to a bible study and these people were still saying things like oh poor Pastor Steve. we must pray for him and his family.Well I kept silent for about5 minutes then I exploded I said okay I have no problem praying for his family, and even praying for him. But I have sat here and no one has brought up that we need to pray for the children that he did this awful things to, because believe me it will never go away, they will never get over it. When I got through there was complete silence and they had to agree with me. Okay sorry to write a novel about all this but it is good therapy to do so. so thanks for "listening". Lin -- Re: REPLY FROM BEV PAM, I'M ALWAYS A DAY LATE & A DOLLAR SHORT SORRY THIS IS SOOOOO LATE BUT HAVE HAD SOME REALLY BAD STUFF HAPPENING LATELY (RSD & STEROID STUFF) BUT I'M HERE AGAIN UNTIL IT HITS AGAIN. I FEEL SO BAD THAT THE RSD WAS STARTED FROM ALL THE ABUSE, BUT WITH EVERYTHING I HAVE GONE THROUGH, (AND I HOPE YOU CAN LOOK AT THIS THE SAME WAY TOO MAYBE SOMEDAY) I HAVE FOUND IT'S MADE ME STRONGER TO HANDLE THE NEXT LEVEL THAT HIT'S ME. DOESN'T MEAN I DON'T GET LAID UP & PUT OUT OF COMMISSION FOR A WHILE, IT MEAN'S I SURVIVE FOR THE NEXT ROUND OF THINGS TO COME NO MATTER WHAT!!!! JUST READING WHAT I CAN WHEN I CAN WE ALL ARE SURVIVOR'S & BY THE GRACE OF GOD WE KEEP GOING!!! I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN ABOUT THE NIGHTMARE'S IT'S BEEN 13 YEARS SINCE I WAS RAPED BY A CO-WORKER & I STILL HAVE NIGHTMARES & FIGHT MY HUSBAND IN THE BED DURING THESE NIGHTMARES THINKING HE'S THE ONE WHO DID IT. THANK GOD HE UNDERSTANDS OR HE WOULD HAVE GOTTEN ME FOR ABUSE BY NOW!!! I DON'T HAVE A SECURITY SYSTEM (CAN'T AFFORD ONE) BUT I DO LOCK THE DOORS LIKE CRAZY EVERYTIME SOMEONE GOES IN & OUT OF THEM. I KNOW YOUR PROBABLY THINKING SHE SHOULD BE OVER SOME OF THIS BY NOW, AND I AM TO SOME DEGREE, BUT I SOMETIMES WONDER IF I WILL BE COMPLETELY OVER IT. I'M SO GLAD YOUR IN THE GROUP & FEEL COMFORTABLE IN TALKING ABOUT WHAT YOU'VE GONE THROUGH I FIND IT IS THERAPUTIC TO TALK ABOUT THESE THINGS. GOD BLESS BEV FRM GAPAM, I'M VERY SAD YOU HAD TO GO THROUGH ALL OF THAT & STILL HAVE > FLASHBACKS. BEING IT'S BEEN A WHILE SINCE I'VE POSTED MAY I ASK YOU > A PERSONAL QUESTION? DID THE ABUSE CAUSE YOUR RSD TO SPREAD > THROUGHOUT YOUR BODY?? NOW THAT I LOOK AT THAT QUESTION IT SOUNDS SO > STUPID, BECAUSE I KNOW INJURY CAUSES THE RSD TO FLARE. GOD BLESS & > TAKE CARE BEV> > > --- In RSD-CRPSofAmerica , Pamela Fredette > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2004 Report Share Posted October 15, 2004 Thank you for such high praise Dawn, however and I am sure Pam and Bev feel the same way. I don't consider myself as strong but I do believe that I am a survivor. I am sure it is a little easier for me because it happened such a long time ago, even though I can still feel all the feelings of helplessness when I talk to people, for awhile the fear of another attack was strong, but as I go on with life those have eased up. I will say a prayer for Holly and you that you both get a good night's sleep. Lin -- Re: REPLY FROM BEV PAM, I'M ALWAYS A DAY LATE & A DOLLAR SHORT SORRY THIS IS SOOOOO LATE BUT HAVE HAD SOME REALLY BAD STUFF HAPPENING LATELY (RSD & STEROID STUFF) BUT I'M HERE AGAIN UNTIL IT HITS AGAIN. I FEEL SO BAD THAT THE RSD WAS STARTED FROM ALL THE ABUSE, BUT WITH EVERYTHING I HAVE GONE THROUGH, (AND I HOPE YOU CAN LOOK AT THIS THE SAME WAY TOO MAYBE SOMEDAY) I HAVE FOUND IT'S MADE ME STRONGER TO HANDLE THE NEXT LEVEL THAT HIT'S ME. DOESN'T MEAN I DON'T GET LAID UP & PUT OUT OF COMMISSION FOR A WHILE, IT MEAN'S I SURVIVE FOR THE NEXT ROUND OF THINGS TO COME NO MATTER WHAT!!!! JUST READING WHAT I CAN WHEN I CAN WE ALL ARE SURVIVOR'S & BY THE GRACE OF GOD WE KEEP GOING!!! I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN ABOUT THE NIGHTMARE'S IT'S BEEN 13 YEARS SINCE I WAS RAPED BY A CO-WORKER & I STILL HAVE NIGHTMARES & FIGHT MY HUSBAND IN THE BED DURING THESE NIGHTMARES THINKING HE'S THE ONE WHO DID IT. THANK GOD HE UNDERSTANDS OR HE WOULD HAVE GOTTEN ME FOR ABUSE BY NOW!!! I DON'T HAVE A SECURITY SYSTEM (CAN'T AFFORD ONE) BUT I DO LOCK THE DOORS LIKE CRAZY EVERYTIME SOMEONE GOES IN & OUT OF THEM. I KNOW YOUR PROBABLY THINKING SHE SHOULD BE OVER SOME OF THIS BY NOW, AND I AM TO SOME DEGREE, BUT I SOMETIMES WONDER IF I WILL BE COMPLETELY OVER IT. I'M SO GLAD YOUR IN THE GROUP & FEEL COMFORTABLE IN TALKING ABOUT WHAT YOU'VE GONE THROUGH I FIND IT IS THERAPUTIC TO TALK ABOUT THESE THINGS. GOD BLESS BEV FRM GAPAM, I'M VERY SAD YOU HAD TO GO THROUGH ALL OF THAT & STILL HAVE > FLASHBACKS. BEING IT'S BEEN A WHILE SINCE I'VE POSTED MAY I ASK YOU > A PERSONAL QUESTION? DID THE ABUSE CAUSE YOUR RSD TO SPREAD > THROUGHOUT YOUR BODY?? NOW THAT I LOOK AT THAT QUESTION IT SOUNDS SO > STUPID, BECAUSE I KNOW INJURY CAUSES THE RSD TO FLARE. GOD BLESS & > TAKE CARE BEV> > > --- In RSD-CRPSofAmerica , Pamela Fredette > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2004 Report Share Posted October 15, 2004 Thank you for such high praise Dawn, however and I am sure Pam and Bev feel the same way. I don't consider myself as strong but I do believe that I am a survivor. I am sure it is a little easier for me because it happened such a long time ago, even though I can still feel all the feelings of helplessness when I talk to people, for awhile the fear of another attack was strong, but as I go on with life those have eased up. I will say a prayer for Holly and you that you both get a good night's sleep. Lin -- Re: REPLY FROM BEV PAM, I'M ALWAYS A DAY LATE & A DOLLAR SHORT SORRY THIS IS SOOOOO LATE BUT HAVE HAD SOME REALLY BAD STUFF HAPPENING LATELY (RSD & STEROID STUFF) BUT I'M HERE AGAIN UNTIL IT HITS AGAIN. I FEEL SO BAD THAT THE RSD WAS STARTED FROM ALL THE ABUSE, BUT WITH EVERYTHING I HAVE GONE THROUGH, (AND I HOPE YOU CAN LOOK AT THIS THE SAME WAY TOO MAYBE SOMEDAY) I HAVE FOUND IT'S MADE ME STRONGER TO HANDLE THE NEXT LEVEL THAT HIT'S ME. DOESN'T MEAN I DON'T GET LAID UP & PUT OUT OF COMMISSION FOR A WHILE, IT MEAN'S I SURVIVE FOR THE NEXT ROUND OF THINGS TO COME NO MATTER WHAT!!!! JUST READING WHAT I CAN WHEN I CAN WE ALL ARE SURVIVOR'S & BY THE GRACE OF GOD WE KEEP GOING!!! I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN ABOUT THE NIGHTMARE'S IT'S BEEN 13 YEARS SINCE I WAS RAPED BY A CO-WORKER & I STILL HAVE NIGHTMARES & FIGHT MY HUSBAND IN THE BED DURING THESE NIGHTMARES THINKING HE'S THE ONE WHO DID IT. THANK GOD HE UNDERSTANDS OR HE WOULD HAVE GOTTEN ME FOR ABUSE BY NOW!!! I DON'T HAVE A SECURITY SYSTEM (CAN'T AFFORD ONE) BUT I DO LOCK THE DOORS LIKE CRAZY EVERYTIME SOMEONE GOES IN & OUT OF THEM. I KNOW YOUR PROBABLY THINKING SHE SHOULD BE OVER SOME OF THIS BY NOW, AND I AM TO SOME DEGREE, BUT I SOMETIMES WONDER IF I WILL BE COMPLETELY OVER IT. I'M SO GLAD YOUR IN THE GROUP & FEEL COMFORTABLE IN TALKING ABOUT WHAT YOU'VE GONE THROUGH I FIND IT IS THERAPUTIC TO TALK ABOUT THESE THINGS. GOD BLESS BEV FRM GAPAM, I'M VERY SAD YOU HAD TO GO THROUGH ALL OF THAT & STILL HAVE > FLASHBACKS. BEING IT'S BEEN A WHILE SINCE I'VE POSTED MAY I ASK YOU > A PERSONAL QUESTION? DID THE ABUSE CAUSE YOUR RSD TO SPREAD > THROUGHOUT YOUR BODY?? NOW THAT I LOOK AT THAT QUESTION IT SOUNDS SO > STUPID, BECAUSE I KNOW INJURY CAUSES THE RSD TO FLARE. GOD BLESS & > TAKE CARE BEV> > > --- In RSD-CRPSofAmerica , Pamela Fredette > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2004 Report Share Posted October 15, 2004 DAWN, I TOO THANK YOU FOR THOSE KIND WORDS, BUT ALSO AGREE WITH THE OTHER LADIES I'M A SURVIVOR JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE IN THE GROUP. WE ALL ARE VERY STRONG LIVING THE LIVES THAT WE LEAD EVERYDAY. THE PAST IS THE PAST NO MATTER HOW HORRIBLE IT WAS & I DO GOOD JUST TO GET THROUGH TODAY WITHOUT YESTERDAY HANGING OVER ME LIKE A DARK CLOUD. TAKE CARE BEV > Dawn , thank you so much for all your kind words and I agree with lin that we are all survivors. You are a very strong woman your self and I hope that your ex stays gone for ever. I hope that holly feels better today and I know she will be o.k. also I hope that you are having a pain free day you are a great lady. SOFT HUGS TO YOU AND HOLLY TODAY PAM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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