Re: gawn

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hello. thanks for the kind words. my parents have always been the kind

to bury your head in the sand and the problem will go away. when i had

real bad cancer my mom did not tell my dad. when he came up to visit

me he asked er why was i on the cancer floor and she tod him that was

the only place they had. jpoe told me this and he told my dad that i

had real bad cancer. now i tell my dad myself if there is something i

want him to know. a while back my docotr told joe to call my parents.

i have one hour to live. this was 2 a.m. my om told him that she was

not going to wake my dad up and she would see him later. he callapsed.

i did pull through and when he asked why you didn't come to hopsital she

said it was to early in the moning. she does nt knpow that i have bone

cancer. why tell her. she will just say not again. and do not tell

your father because i do not want himup set. she is jealous of the

relationship i have with my dad. she doesn't wnt me to talk to him,

take a walk with him or anything. oh well. the sky is absolutely

beautiful. it is pink and blue and white and the sun is trying to come

through. bad day again. dumping syndrome is acting up violentely. why

lord. what did i do wrong to deserve this. soryy for whining but just

cannot take another second of this monster. thanks for caring and

for listening. i am going to be a bear today. love ya cathy

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Gee, Cathy, while I know that you have tried to find reasonable emotional space in which to dwell between your your parent's relationship, it just seems like it keeps you in a situation where you not only lose out on the relationship that you have with your father and you don't get the supposrt that both need and deserve. I'm tempted to hightail it up there and remind your mother that life is all too short for this kind of crap and that she needs to get her act together. I wouldn't ever hesitate to share things with your father that you believe he should know. If your mother has an issue with that well then that's her problem. You all are grown-ups and it sounds like your mom needs a continuous infusion of medication that will help her act her age. Venting here, but I just can't stand hearing that you aren't getting the support. My heart goes out to you. Barbarafishthatsmiles@... wrote:

hello. thanks for the kind words. my parents have always been the kindto bury your head in the sand and the problem will go away. when i hadreal bad cancer my mom did not tell my dad. when he came up to visitme he asked er why was i on the cancer floor and she tod him that wasthe only place they had. jpoe told me this and he told my dad that ihad real bad cancer. now i tell my dad myself if there is something iwant him to know. a while back my docotr told joe to call my parents.i have one hour to live. this was 2 a.m. my om told him that she wasnot going to wake my dad up and she would see him later. he callapsed.i did pull through and when he asked why you didn't come to hopsital shesaid it was to early in the moning. she does nt knpow that i have bonecancer. why tell her. she will just say not again. and do not tellyour father

because i do not want himup set. she is jealous of therelationship i have with my dad. she doesn't wnt me to talk to him,take a walk with him or anything. oh well. the sky is absolutelybeautiful. it is pink and blue and white and the sun is trying to comethrough. bad day again. dumping syndrome is acting up violentely. whylord. what did i do wrong to deserve this. soryy for whining but justcannot take another second of this monster. thanks for caring andfor listening. i am going to be a bear today. love ya cathy

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Cathy,

Either I am completely stupid or just had no idea that you had bone cancer. I know that we are not aloud to use the S word, but do not care at this point. I am so very, very SORRY that you have to go through this with your Mom acting the way she is. This is the way my sister acts with the relationship that I have with my Mom and also the way she acted when I was close to my Dad! Honestly I would tell your Mom that you love her, but that you need to spend time with your Dad and you really do not care what she thinks right now. It sounds like jealousy and she needs to get over it fast! Right now you need both your parents in your life for support and to help you be strong and fight this Cancer. What you are going through is extremely rough and I know this because my Aunt had the same cancer! Are the doctors considering bone marrow transplant? If they are maybe some of us in the group can see if we are a match for you? I would

be willing to see. Cathy do not ever feel like you are alone fighting this horrible disease, because I will always be here for you and you know that God will always be watching over you. I could never understand why any of us get the illnesses that we do, but let me tell you that I do not believe that God gives them to us, but he does give us the strength to go on and to fight this! I know that you are a very strong women and will come out of this healthy and strong with even a more positive attitude and will be able to be all of our strengths!!! If you ever feel the need to vent or talk please write to me and we can exchange phone numbers and talk. Just started talking to Ginny and Joann and last night Ginny and I were on the phone until 2am. It was so great talking to someone that understands! Please Cathy feel free to lean on me all you want! You have been very supportive of me and I want to be there for you! I do know what it is like when you have family that does not

understand. I have a sister that is a miserable human being and only thinks about herself!!!! The only time she is ever nice to me is Christmas when I send her a gift! How sad is that. I am closer to people in this group than I am to my own sister! So you see I do understand about your Mom. You do need to talk to her though. Just clear the air and hope for the best!!!!!! Well I will say a prayer that the pain gets better for you today and know that you will be in my prayers!!! LOL and Best Wishes Always!!!!!!

Dawnfishthatsmiles@... wrote:

hello. thanks for the kind words. my parents have always been the kindto bury your head in the sand and the problem will go away. when i hadreal bad cancer my mom did not tell my dad. when he came up to visitme he asked er why was i on the cancer floor and she tod him that wasthe only place they had. jpoe told me this and he told my dad that ihad real bad cancer. now i tell my dad myself if there is something iwant him to know. a while back my docotr told joe to call my parents.i have one hour to live. this was 2 a.m. my om told him that she wasnot going to wake my dad up and she would see him later. he callapsed.i did pull through and when he asked why you didn't come to hopsital shesaid it was to early in the moning. she does nt knpow that i have

bonecancer. why tell her. she will just say not again. and do not tellyour father because i do not want himup set. she is jealous of therelationship i have with my dad. she doesn't wnt me to talk to him,take a walk with him or anything. oh well. the sky is absolutelybeautiful. it is pink and blue and white and the sun is trying to comethrough. bad day again. dumping syndrome is acting up violentely. whylord. what did i do wrong to deserve this. soryy for whining but justcannot take another second of this monster. thanks for caring andfor listening. i am going to be a bear today. love ya cathy

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the sky is absolutelybeautiful. it is pink and blue and white and the sun is trying to comethrough. bad day again. dumping syndrome is acting up violentely. whylord. what did i do wrong to deserve this. soryy for whining but justcannot take another second of this monster. thanks for caring andfor listening. i am going to be a bear today. love ya cathy

naughty naughty you said the *S* word. I am with you in the whining department I am hurting more than I have hurt in a long time, My left leg is having the burning pain all the way from my hip to my toes, I will have to probably go back on something like Neurontin, but I don't want back on it.

So you be a bear and I will be a wolverine another critter not known for its desposition.

Did you see what you wrote about the sky, that is so great as much pain you were in you still could appreciate the beauty of the sky.

take care,

Lin

-- Re: gawn

hello. thanks for the kind words. my parents have always been the kindto bury your head in the sand and the problem will go away. when i hadreal bad cancer my mom did not tell my dad. when he came up to visitme he asked er why was i on the cancer floor and she tod him that wasthe only place they had. jpoe told me this and he told my dad that ihad real bad cancer. now i tell my dad myself if there is something iwant him to know. a while back my docotr told joe to call my parents.i have one hour to live. this was 2 a.m. my om told him that she wasnot going to wake my dad up and she would see him later. he callapsed.i did pull through and when he asked why you didn't come to hopsital shesaid it was to early in the moning. she does nt knpow that i have bonecancer. why tell her. she will just say not again. and do not tellyour father because i do not want himup set. she is jealous of therelationship i have with my dad. she doesn't wnt me to talk to him,take a walk with him or anything. oh well. the sky is absolutelybeautiful. it is pink and blue and white and the sun is trying to comethrough. bad day again. dumping syndrome is acting up violentely. whylord. what did i do wrong to deserve this. soryy for whining but justcannot take another second of this monster. thanks for caring andfor listening. i am going to be a bear today. love ya cathy