Guest guest Posted April 11, 2004 Report Share Posted April 11, 2004 I hope you all had a great Easter! I went to my youngest brothers for dinner. My other brother and my sister and their families were all there. It was really nice. Outisde was nice enough for everybody to hand out outside and enjoy the sunshine! I ate enough for ten people, but it was sooo good. I passed on the goodies afterwards though! There wasn't any room for it! IMPORTANT NOTICE: This message and any attachments are solely for the intended recipient and may contain confidential information which is, or may be, legally privileged or otherwise protected by law from further disclosure. If you are not the intended recipient, any disclosure, copying, use, or distribution of the information included in this e-mail and any attachments is prohibited. If you have received this communication in error, please notify the sender by reply e-mail and immediately and permanently delete this e-mail and any attachments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 26, 2006 Report Share Posted March 26, 2006 You might be able to do some things to moderate this, such as whole wheat pasta, low carb breads, etc. But if he doesn't want those, it might not make any difference. You can see what you can do (and what he will listen to) from the diabetes education side of things too.. However, you need to realize that he is a grown man and will make his own decisions. If he wants to eat like this, he will do so, regardless of your efforts. After all, if he were an alcoholic, simply not buying alcohol wouldn't keep him from drinking... Somehow he is going to need something to happen to wake him up to modify his diet and exercise habits. It sounds like 'nagging' isn't going to do it. At least, from your post it appears that you have been unsuccessful so far, right? So I wouldn't hold out hope that more of the same will make a difference... after 3 years I would guess he pretty much blocks it out, right? If you increase your current stance, refuse to cook the 'bad' foods and take a more agressive approach towards this, how do you think he will react? Will it do any good? Will he continue to ignore you or will he become resentful and will it negatively impact your relationship? You are the only one who can answer those questions. How strong are you willing to push things and what consequenceses are you willing to suffer through if you do (or don't) become more agressive? Bottom line, it's his body, his disease and ultimately his responsibility to modify his behavior. You can help him, but you can't do it for him. Mike > > Hi everyone. I just joined; my husband has had Type 2 Diabetes for > about 3 years now. He is your typical couch potato and only on rare > occasions can I get him to go for a walk with me ( " it's too > hot/cold/windy " " I'm too tired " etc). He will not eat things he > doesn't like. And he only really eats 1 meal a day. He works 2nd > shift (4-midnight) so doesn't get up til 11am or so. I do my best to > make him low-carb meals but sometimes all he wants to eat is > spaghetti, and when corn-on-the-cob comes in season, he'll want 4 ears > (plus bread) for a meal! I am just beside myself; I can't do this for > him and am hoping you all can encourage me and advise me on what to > do. I'm really afraid he's gonna need a wake-up call before he really > starts taking better care of himself. > I hope to make lotsa new friends here! > Peni Jo > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 26, 2006 Report Share Posted March 26, 2006 You might be able to do some things to moderate this, such as whole wheat pasta, low carb breads, etc. But if he doesn't want those, it might not make any difference. You can see what you can do (and what he will listen to) from the diabetes education side of things too.. However, you need to realize that he is a grown man and will make his own decisions. If he wants to eat like this, he will do so, regardless of your efforts. After all, if he were an alcoholic, simply not buying alcohol wouldn't keep him from drinking... Somehow he is going to need something to happen to wake him up to modify his diet and exercise habits. It sounds like 'nagging' isn't going to do it. At least, from your post it appears that you have been unsuccessful so far, right? So I wouldn't hold out hope that more of the same will make a difference... after 3 years I would guess he pretty much blocks it out, right? If you increase your current stance, refuse to cook the 'bad' foods and take a more agressive approach towards this, how do you think he will react? Will it do any good? Will he continue to ignore you or will he become resentful and will it negatively impact your relationship? You are the only one who can answer those questions. How strong are you willing to push things and what consequenceses are you willing to suffer through if you do (or don't) become more agressive? Bottom line, it's his body, his disease and ultimately his responsibility to modify his behavior. You can help him, but you can't do it for him. Mike > > Hi everyone. I just joined; my husband has had Type 2 Diabetes for > about 3 years now. He is your typical couch potato and only on rare > occasions can I get him to go for a walk with me ( " it's too > hot/cold/windy " " I'm too tired " etc). He will not eat things he > doesn't like. And he only really eats 1 meal a day. He works 2nd > shift (4-midnight) so doesn't get up til 11am or so. I do my best to > make him low-carb meals but sometimes all he wants to eat is > spaghetti, and when corn-on-the-cob comes in season, he'll want 4 ears > (plus bread) for a meal! I am just beside myself; I can't do this for > him and am hoping you all can encourage me and advise me on what to > do. I'm really afraid he's gonna need a wake-up call before he really > starts taking better care of himself. > I hope to make lotsa new friends here! > Peni Jo > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 26, 2006 Report Share Posted March 26, 2006 You might be able to do some things to moderate this, such as whole wheat pasta, low carb breads, etc. But if he doesn't want those, it might not make any difference. You can see what you can do (and what he will listen to) from the diabetes education side of things too.. However, you need to realize that he is a grown man and will make his own decisions. If he wants to eat like this, he will do so, regardless of your efforts. After all, if he were an alcoholic, simply not buying alcohol wouldn't keep him from drinking... Somehow he is going to need something to happen to wake him up to modify his diet and exercise habits. It sounds like 'nagging' isn't going to do it. At least, from your post it appears that you have been unsuccessful so far, right? So I wouldn't hold out hope that more of the same will make a difference... after 3 years I would guess he pretty much blocks it out, right? If you increase your current stance, refuse to cook the 'bad' foods and take a more agressive approach towards this, how do you think he will react? Will it do any good? Will he continue to ignore you or will he become resentful and will it negatively impact your relationship? You are the only one who can answer those questions. How strong are you willing to push things and what consequenceses are you willing to suffer through if you do (or don't) become more agressive? Bottom line, it's his body, his disease and ultimately his responsibility to modify his behavior. You can help him, but you can't do it for him. Mike > > Hi everyone. I just joined; my husband has had Type 2 Diabetes for > about 3 years now. He is your typical couch potato and only on rare > occasions can I get him to go for a walk with me ( " it's too > hot/cold/windy " " I'm too tired " etc). He will not eat things he > doesn't like. And he only really eats 1 meal a day. He works 2nd > shift (4-midnight) so doesn't get up til 11am or so. I do my best to > make him low-carb meals but sometimes all he wants to eat is > spaghetti, and when corn-on-the-cob comes in season, he'll want 4 ears > (plus bread) for a meal! I am just beside myself; I can't do this for > him and am hoping you all can encourage me and advise me on what to > do. I'm really afraid he's gonna need a wake-up call before he really > starts taking better care of himself. > I hope to make lotsa new friends here! > Peni Jo > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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