Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 Hi - I'm Sherlyn and we have a lot in common! I will be 40 on my next birthday - in April - and stand 5'8 " and I weigh 192 pounds. My children are much younger than yours though - I have twin boys that will turn 4 right before Christmas. My hubby isn't a big help when it comes to weight loss either. For different reasons though - mine is as plump as I am, and I think he feels threatened if I try to lose weight. I think he fears what I'll think of him if I'm thin, and I know he feels lazy when I'm working out regularly. I've talked to him about it - that I wish he would join me in my weight loss journey instead of trying to sabotage it. But either way I'm doing this journey, so either join me or get out of my way! Sherlyn http://community.webshots.com/user/spudberry Hello!!!!!! Okay...here goes... sorry it's so long....... Good Morning all. My name is . I'm joining this group because I've had an epiphany. I finally realized after how many years, that you can't do this alone, well, at least I can't. I just turned 40, ugh. I have two children 19 and 16 and on my second husband. I was at a healthy weight until I met my second husband when I was 33. I am 5' 8 " and currently weigh 195. When I met him I was 145. Imagine, at that time I thought I was fat! My biggest problem is support. My kids tell me I'm perfect, of course, but my husband. Oh brother, where do I start? Basically he 'loves me the way I am' , which translates into control. He is insecure and figures if I'm fat, who will want me? Even though I know this, it still is very self defeating. He never supports me in my weight loss attempts and will bring me sweets after dinner even though I tell him I don't want it. At that point, it's like 'oh well, I'm a fat cow anyways, so one bowl of ice cream can't hurt " . I eat pretty healthy, don't drink to excess and don't drink canned soda. I need exercise and I know it, but I don't have the oomph to do it. Yes, Yes I know, I'll feel better in the long run, but sometimes that isn't enough. I've been reading the posts for the last couple days and feel you guys(girls) are a great group. Well, thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to your replies. Thanks!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 Welcome to the group You say your husband is insecure and wants you to not loose weight?? has he said this to you?? or are you just thinking that is what's going on with him? What is his eating habbits like and weight. maybe he just doesn't want to have to give things up because you do?? Anywho glad you joined us Rhonda In weightlossbuddies2 , NANCY DILLINGHAM wrote: > Okay...here goes... sorry it's so long....... > > Good Morning all. My name is . I'm joining this group because I've had an epiphany. I finally realized after how many years, that you can't do this alone, well, at least I can't. > > I just turned 40, ugh. I have two children 19 and 16 and on my second husband. I was at a healthy weight until I met my second husband when I was 33. I am 5' 8 " and currently weigh 195. When I met him I was 145. Imagine, at that time I thought I was fat! > > My biggest problem is support. My kids tell me I'm perfect, of course, but my husband. Oh brother, where do I start? Basically he 'loves me the way I am' , which translates into control. He is insecure and figures if I'm fat, who will want me? Even though I know this, it still is very self defeating. He never supports me in my weight loss attempts and will bring me sweets after dinner even though I tell him I don't want it. At that point, it's like 'oh well, I'm a fat cow anyways, so one bowl of ice cream can't hurt " . > > I eat pretty healthy, don't drink to excess and don't drink canned soda. I need exercise and I know it, but I don't have the oomph to do it. Yes, Yes I know, I'll feel better in the long run, but sometimes that isn't enough. > > I've been reading the posts for the last couple days and feel you guys(girls) are a great group. > > Well, thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to your replies. > > Thanks!!! > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 Welcome to the group You say your husband is insecure and wants you to not loose weight?? has he said this to you?? or are you just thinking that is what's going on with him? What is his eating habbits like and weight. maybe he just doesn't want to have to give things up because you do?? Anywho glad you joined us Rhonda In weightlossbuddies2 , NANCY DILLINGHAM wrote: > Okay...here goes... sorry it's so long....... > > Good Morning all. My name is . I'm joining this group because I've had an epiphany. I finally realized after how many years, that you can't do this alone, well, at least I can't. > > I just turned 40, ugh. I have two children 19 and 16 and on my second husband. I was at a healthy weight until I met my second husband when I was 33. I am 5' 8 " and currently weigh 195. When I met him I was 145. Imagine, at that time I thought I was fat! > > My biggest problem is support. My kids tell me I'm perfect, of course, but my husband. Oh brother, where do I start? Basically he 'loves me the way I am' , which translates into control. He is insecure and figures if I'm fat, who will want me? Even though I know this, it still is very self defeating. He never supports me in my weight loss attempts and will bring me sweets after dinner even though I tell him I don't want it. At that point, it's like 'oh well, I'm a fat cow anyways, so one bowl of ice cream can't hurt " . > > I eat pretty healthy, don't drink to excess and don't drink canned soda. I need exercise and I know it, but I don't have the oomph to do it. Yes, Yes I know, I'll feel better in the long run, but sometimes that isn't enough. > > I've been reading the posts for the last couple days and feel you guys(girls) are a great group. > > Well, thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to your replies. > > Thanks!!! > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 Welcome to the group You say your husband is insecure and wants you to not loose weight?? has he said this to you?? or are you just thinking that is what's going on with him? What is his eating habbits like and weight. maybe he just doesn't want to have to give things up because you do?? Anywho glad you joined us Rhonda In weightlossbuddies2 , NANCY DILLINGHAM wrote: > Okay...here goes... sorry it's so long....... > > Good Morning all. My name is . I'm joining this group because I've had an epiphany. I finally realized after how many years, that you can't do this alone, well, at least I can't. > > I just turned 40, ugh. I have two children 19 and 16 and on my second husband. I was at a healthy weight until I met my second husband when I was 33. I am 5' 8 " and currently weigh 195. When I met him I was 145. Imagine, at that time I thought I was fat! > > My biggest problem is support. My kids tell me I'm perfect, of course, but my husband. Oh brother, where do I start? Basically he 'loves me the way I am' , which translates into control. He is insecure and figures if I'm fat, who will want me? Even though I know this, it still is very self defeating. He never supports me in my weight loss attempts and will bring me sweets after dinner even though I tell him I don't want it. At that point, it's like 'oh well, I'm a fat cow anyways, so one bowl of ice cream can't hurt " . > > I eat pretty healthy, don't drink to excess and don't drink canned soda. I need exercise and I know it, but I don't have the oomph to do it. Yes, Yes I know, I'll feel better in the long run, but sometimes that isn't enough. > > I've been reading the posts for the last couple days and feel you guys(girls) are a great group. > > Well, thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to your replies. > > Thanks!!! > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 You're right Rhonda. He never actually said that, it's just a feeling I get. He's always oogling the thin girls. He is about 30 pounds overweight and has terrible eating habits. But he's OK with that. I wouldn't impose my restrictions on him, but maybe I'll get lucky and he'd pick up a few good habits. Thanks for your reply. rhondageier rhondageier@...> wrote: Welcome to the group You say your husband is insecure and wants you to not loose weight?? has he said this to you?? or are you just thinking that is what's going on with him? What is his eating habbits like and weight. maybe he just doesn't want to have to give things up because you do?? Anywho glad you joined us Rhonda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 You're right Rhonda. He never actually said that, it's just a feeling I get. He's always oogling the thin girls. He is about 30 pounds overweight and has terrible eating habits. But he's OK with that. I wouldn't impose my restrictions on him, but maybe I'll get lucky and he'd pick up a few good habits. Thanks for your reply. rhondageier rhondageier@...> wrote: Welcome to the group You say your husband is insecure and wants you to not loose weight?? has he said this to you?? or are you just thinking that is what's going on with him? What is his eating habbits like and weight. maybe he just doesn't want to have to give things up because you do?? Anywho glad you joined us Rhonda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 You're right Rhonda. He never actually said that, it's just a feeling I get. He's always oogling the thin girls. He is about 30 pounds overweight and has terrible eating habits. But he's OK with that. I wouldn't impose my restrictions on him, but maybe I'll get lucky and he'd pick up a few good habits. Thanks for your reply. rhondageier rhondageier@...> wrote: Welcome to the group You say your husband is insecure and wants you to not loose weight?? has he said this to you?? or are you just thinking that is what's going on with him? What is his eating habbits like and weight. maybe he just doesn't want to have to give things up because you do?? Anywho glad you joined us Rhonda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 Wow! You sound like you have your hands full. Hopefully we can do this together. What is your goal? What is your plan? I could use all the input I can get. Sherlyn Carberry SCarberry@...> wrote: Hi - I'm Sherlyn and we have a lot in common! I will be 40 on my next birthday - in April - and stand 5'8 " and I weigh 192 pounds. My children are much younger than yours though - I have twin boys that will turn 4 right before Christmas. My hubby isn't a big help when it comes to weight loss either. For different reasons though - mine is as plump as I am, and I think he feels threatened if I try to lose weight. I think he fears what I'll think of him if I'm thin, and I know he feels lazy when I'm working out regularly. I've talked to him about it - that I wish he would join me in my weight loss journey instead of trying to sabotage it. But either way I'm doing this journey, so either join me or get out of my way! Sherlyn http://community.webshots.com/user/spudberry Hello!!!!!! Okay...here goes... sorry it's so long....... Good Morning all. My name is . I'm joining this group because I've had an epiphany. I finally realized after how many years, that you can't do this alone, well, at least I can't. I just turned 40, ugh. I have two children 19 and 16 and on my second husband. I was at a healthy weight until I met my second husband when I was 33. I am 5' 8 " and currently weigh 195. When I met him I was 145. Imagine, at that time I thought I was fat! My biggest problem is support. My kids tell me I'm perfect, of course, but my husband. Oh brother, where do I start? Basically he 'loves me the way I am' , which translates into control. He is insecure and figures if I'm fat, who will want me? Even though I know this, it still is very self defeating. He never supports me in my weight loss attempts and will bring me sweets after dinner even though I tell him I don't want it. At that point, it's like 'oh well, I'm a fat cow anyways, so one bowl of ice cream can't hurt " . I eat pretty healthy, don't drink to excess and don't drink canned soda. I need exercise and I know it, but I don't have the oomph to do it. Yes, Yes I know, I'll feel better in the long run, but sometimes that isn't enough. I've been reading the posts for the last couple days and feel you guys(girls) are a great group. Well, thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to your replies. Thanks!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 Wow! You sound like you have your hands full. Hopefully we can do this together. What is your goal? What is your plan? I could use all the input I can get. Sherlyn Carberry SCarberry@...> wrote: Hi - I'm Sherlyn and we have a lot in common! I will be 40 on my next birthday - in April - and stand 5'8 " and I weigh 192 pounds. My children are much younger than yours though - I have twin boys that will turn 4 right before Christmas. My hubby isn't a big help when it comes to weight loss either. For different reasons though - mine is as plump as I am, and I think he feels threatened if I try to lose weight. I think he fears what I'll think of him if I'm thin, and I know he feels lazy when I'm working out regularly. I've talked to him about it - that I wish he would join me in my weight loss journey instead of trying to sabotage it. But either way I'm doing this journey, so either join me or get out of my way! Sherlyn http://community.webshots.com/user/spudberry Hello!!!!!! Okay...here goes... sorry it's so long....... Good Morning all. My name is . I'm joining this group because I've had an epiphany. I finally realized after how many years, that you can't do this alone, well, at least I can't. I just turned 40, ugh. I have two children 19 and 16 and on my second husband. I was at a healthy weight until I met my second husband when I was 33. I am 5' 8 " and currently weigh 195. When I met him I was 145. Imagine, at that time I thought I was fat! My biggest problem is support. My kids tell me I'm perfect, of course, but my husband. Oh brother, where do I start? Basically he 'loves me the way I am' , which translates into control. He is insecure and figures if I'm fat, who will want me? Even though I know this, it still is very self defeating. He never supports me in my weight loss attempts and will bring me sweets after dinner even though I tell him I don't want it. At that point, it's like 'oh well, I'm a fat cow anyways, so one bowl of ice cream can't hurt " . I eat pretty healthy, don't drink to excess and don't drink canned soda. I need exercise and I know it, but I don't have the oomph to do it. Yes, Yes I know, I'll feel better in the long run, but sometimes that isn't enough. I've been reading the posts for the last couple days and feel you guys(girls) are a great group. Well, thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to your replies. Thanks!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 Wow! You sound like you have your hands full. Hopefully we can do this together. What is your goal? What is your plan? I could use all the input I can get. Sherlyn Carberry SCarberry@...> wrote: Hi - I'm Sherlyn and we have a lot in common! I will be 40 on my next birthday - in April - and stand 5'8 " and I weigh 192 pounds. My children are much younger than yours though - I have twin boys that will turn 4 right before Christmas. My hubby isn't a big help when it comes to weight loss either. For different reasons though - mine is as plump as I am, and I think he feels threatened if I try to lose weight. I think he fears what I'll think of him if I'm thin, and I know he feels lazy when I'm working out regularly. I've talked to him about it - that I wish he would join me in my weight loss journey instead of trying to sabotage it. But either way I'm doing this journey, so either join me or get out of my way! Sherlyn http://community.webshots.com/user/spudberry Hello!!!!!! Okay...here goes... sorry it's so long....... Good Morning all. My name is . I'm joining this group because I've had an epiphany. I finally realized after how many years, that you can't do this alone, well, at least I can't. I just turned 40, ugh. I have two children 19 and 16 and on my second husband. I was at a healthy weight until I met my second husband when I was 33. I am 5' 8 " and currently weigh 195. When I met him I was 145. Imagine, at that time I thought I was fat! My biggest problem is support. My kids tell me I'm perfect, of course, but my husband. Oh brother, where do I start? Basically he 'loves me the way I am' , which translates into control. He is insecure and figures if I'm fat, who will want me? Even though I know this, it still is very self defeating. He never supports me in my weight loss attempts and will bring me sweets after dinner even though I tell him I don't want it. At that point, it's like 'oh well, I'm a fat cow anyways, so one bowl of ice cream can't hurt " . I eat pretty healthy, don't drink to excess and don't drink canned soda. I need exercise and I know it, but I don't have the oomph to do it. Yes, Yes I know, I'll feel better in the long run, but sometimes that isn't enough. I've been reading the posts for the last couple days and feel you guys(girls) are a great group. Well, thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to your replies. Thanks!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 My goal is to be around 150ish. I don't really have a set number in sight - just to have my waist be 33 inches or less. I read in a Consumers Report that people with waists that small or smaller had a huge percentage of being less likely to get all kinds of cancer and other diseases - so that is my actual goal. As for my plan. So far I'm trying to exercise myself crazy! I swim for an hour every week day, then on MWF I go back to the YMCA & use the treadmill and weights. I'm also trying to drink lots of water, stop eating after 7 PM, eat healthier in general, and get lots of sleep. I'm definitely on the slower track around here for losing weight, but I'm sticking it to it. I've lost 16 pounds since last spring, 12 of that being since I started with this group around the end of August. Sherlyn http://community.webshots.com/user/spudberry Hello!!!!!! Okay...here goes... sorry it's so long....... Good Morning all. My name is . I'm joining this group because I've had an epiphany. I finally realized after how many years, that you can't do this alone, well, at least I can't. I just turned 40, ugh. I have two children 19 and 16 and on my second husband. I was at a healthy weight until I met my second husband when I was 33. I am 5' 8 " and currently weigh 195. When I met him I was 145. Imagine, at that time I thought I was fat! My biggest problem is support. My kids tell me I'm perfect, of course, but my husband. Oh brother, where do I start? Basically he 'loves me the way I am' , which translates into control. He is insecure and figures if I'm fat, who will want me? Even though I know this, it still is very self defeating. He never supports me in my weight loss attempts and will bring me sweets after dinner even though I tell him I don't want it. At that point, it's like 'oh well, I'm a fat cow anyways, so one bowl of ice cream can't hurt " . I eat pretty healthy, don't drink to excess and don't drink canned soda. I need exercise and I know it, but I don't have the oomph to do it. Yes, Yes I know, I'll feel better in the long run, but sometimes that isn't enough. I've been reading the posts for the last couple days and feel you guys(girls) are a great group. Well, thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to your replies. Thanks!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 My goal is to be around 150ish. I don't really have a set number in sight - just to have my waist be 33 inches or less. I read in a Consumers Report that people with waists that small or smaller had a huge percentage of being less likely to get all kinds of cancer and other diseases - so that is my actual goal. As for my plan. So far I'm trying to exercise myself crazy! I swim for an hour every week day, then on MWF I go back to the YMCA & use the treadmill and weights. I'm also trying to drink lots of water, stop eating after 7 PM, eat healthier in general, and get lots of sleep. I'm definitely on the slower track around here for losing weight, but I'm sticking it to it. I've lost 16 pounds since last spring, 12 of that being since I started with this group around the end of August. Sherlyn http://community.webshots.com/user/spudberry Hello!!!!!! Okay...here goes... sorry it's so long....... Good Morning all. My name is . I'm joining this group because I've had an epiphany. I finally realized after how many years, that you can't do this alone, well, at least I can't. I just turned 40, ugh. I have two children 19 and 16 and on my second husband. I was at a healthy weight until I met my second husband when I was 33. I am 5' 8 " and currently weigh 195. When I met him I was 145. Imagine, at that time I thought I was fat! My biggest problem is support. My kids tell me I'm perfect, of course, but my husband. Oh brother, where do I start? Basically he 'loves me the way I am' , which translates into control. He is insecure and figures if I'm fat, who will want me? Even though I know this, it still is very self defeating. He never supports me in my weight loss attempts and will bring me sweets after dinner even though I tell him I don't want it. At that point, it's like 'oh well, I'm a fat cow anyways, so one bowl of ice cream can't hurt " . I eat pretty healthy, don't drink to excess and don't drink canned soda. I need exercise and I know it, but I don't have the oomph to do it. Yes, Yes I know, I'll feel better in the long run, but sometimes that isn't enough. I've been reading the posts for the last couple days and feel you guys(girls) are a great group. Well, thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to your replies. Thanks!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 My goal is to be around 150ish. I don't really have a set number in sight - just to have my waist be 33 inches or less. I read in a Consumers Report that people with waists that small or smaller had a huge percentage of being less likely to get all kinds of cancer and other diseases - so that is my actual goal. As for my plan. So far I'm trying to exercise myself crazy! I swim for an hour every week day, then on MWF I go back to the YMCA & use the treadmill and weights. I'm also trying to drink lots of water, stop eating after 7 PM, eat healthier in general, and get lots of sleep. I'm definitely on the slower track around here for losing weight, but I'm sticking it to it. I've lost 16 pounds since last spring, 12 of that being since I started with this group around the end of August. Sherlyn http://community.webshots.com/user/spudberry Hello!!!!!! Okay...here goes... sorry it's so long....... Good Morning all. My name is . I'm joining this group because I've had an epiphany. I finally realized after how many years, that you can't do this alone, well, at least I can't. I just turned 40, ugh. I have two children 19 and 16 and on my second husband. I was at a healthy weight until I met my second husband when I was 33. I am 5' 8 " and currently weigh 195. When I met him I was 145. Imagine, at that time I thought I was fat! My biggest problem is support. My kids tell me I'm perfect, of course, but my husband. Oh brother, where do I start? Basically he 'loves me the way I am' , which translates into control. He is insecure and figures if I'm fat, who will want me? Even though I know this, it still is very self defeating. He never supports me in my weight loss attempts and will bring me sweets after dinner even though I tell him I don't want it. At that point, it's like 'oh well, I'm a fat cow anyways, so one bowl of ice cream can't hurt " . I eat pretty healthy, don't drink to excess and don't drink canned soda. I need exercise and I know it, but I don't have the oomph to do it. Yes, Yes I know, I'll feel better in the long run, but sometimes that isn't enough. I've been reading the posts for the last couple days and feel you guys(girls) are a great group. Well, thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to your replies. Thanks!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 Hi I am not sure if you read about my weekend and the stuff I have been going thru with the hubby. But I can sort of relate. What I slowly learning is you gotta talk to him about it till he gets it. I don't think men operate like we do and are not as emotional and it is hard for them to understand weight issues even if they have them. Sometimes they don't even realize they do things that are upsetting or set our frame of mind. But that doesn't mean we should let them know. Rhonda > Welcome to the group You say your husband is insecure and > wants you to not loose weight?? has he said this to you?? or are you > just thinking that is what's going on with him? What is his eating > habbits like and weight. maybe he just doesn't want to have to give > things up because you do?? > > Anywho glad you joined us > > Rhonda > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 You are not a fat cow. I'm sorry you're husband isn't supportive. Mine wasn't in the beginning because he thought that if he was supportive I would think he thought I was fat and he didn't. He is very supportive now because he understands that I am doing it for me, and not because I think he thinks I should. We are very supportive here and are happy to have you join us. You will find lots of support, motivation and information. I also wanted to say I can't wait to get to where you are at 195. I am currently 210. Was at 214 just one and a half weeks ago. You can do this with the rest of us. Ice cream really won't hurt once in a while, but not every night. That was my problem was i ate it every night. But now I've tried the ice cream made with splenda and the weight watchers deserts and i love them, i will have them or like a fruit popsicle (dole made with strawberries and other stuff of course) and that will conquer my feeling to have desert because I am but in a moderated portion, and I know that the rest of the day i did well on my eating so it is okay. good luck and we are here > Okay...here goes... sorry it's so long....... > > Good Morning all. My name is . I'm joining this group because I've had an epiphany. I finally realized after how many years, that you can't do this alone, well, at least I can't. > > I just turned 40, ugh. I have two children 19 and 16 and on my second husband. I was at a healthy weight until I met my second husband when I was 33. I am 5' 8 " and currently weigh 195. When I met him I was 145. Imagine, at that time I thought I was fat! > > My biggest problem is support. My kids tell me I'm perfect, of course, but my husband. Oh brother, where do I start? Basically he 'loves me the way I am' , which translates into control. He is insecure and figures if I'm fat, who will want me? Even though I know this, it still is very self defeating. He never supports me in my weight loss attempts and will bring me sweets after dinner even though I tell him I don't want it. At that point, it's like 'oh well, I'm a fat cow anyways, so one bowl of ice cream can't hurt " . > > I eat pretty healthy, don't drink to excess and don't drink canned soda. I need exercise and I know it, but I don't have the oomph to do it. Yes, Yes I know, I'll feel better in the long run, but sometimes that isn't enough. > > I've been reading the posts for the last couple days and feel you guys(girls) are a great group. > > Well, thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to your replies. > > Thanks!!! > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2003 Report Share Posted November 25, 2003 Thanks !! I just want to say that this group already has inspired me to get up and get moving. Ate great today, drank tons of water and did 25 minutes on the treadmill... And guess what...Hubby is on there now!!!! Thanks for making me feel so welcome.... --- jennifer bodaddiesbaby@...> wrote: --------------------------------- You are not a fat cow. I'm sorry you're husband isn't supportive. Mine wasn't in the beginning because he thought that if he was supportive I would think he thought I was fat and he didn't. He is very supportive now because he understands that I am doing it for me, and not because I think he thinks I should. We are very supportive here and are happy to have you join us. You will find lots of support, motivation and information. I also wanted to say I can't wait to get to where you are at 195. I am currently 210. Was at 214 just one and a half weeks ago. You can do this with the rest of us. Ice cream really won't hurt once in a while, but not every night. That was my problem was i ate it every night. But now I've tried the ice cream made with splenda and the weight watchers deserts and i love them, i will have them or like a fruit popsicle (dole made with strawberries and other stuff of course) and that will conquer my feeling to have desert because I am but in a moderated portion, and I know that the rest of the day i did well on my eating so it is okay. good luck and we are here > Okay...here goes... sorry it's so long....... > > Good Morning all. My name is . I'm joining this group because I've had an epiphany. I finally realized after how many years, that you can't do this alone, well, at least I can't. > > I just turned 40, ugh. I have two children 19 and 16 and on my second husband. I was at a healthy weight until I met my second husband when I was 33. I am 5' 8 " and currently weigh 195. When I met him I was 145. Imagine, at that time I thought I was fat! > > My biggest problem is support. My kids tell me I'm perfect, of course, but my husband. Oh brother, where do I start? Basically he 'loves me the way I am' , which translates into control. He is insecure and figures if I'm fat, who will want me? Even though I know this, it still is very self defeating. He never supports me in my weight loss attempts and will bring me sweets after dinner even though I tell him I don't want it. At that point, it's like 'oh well, I'm a fat cow anyways, so one bowl of ice cream can't hurt " . > > I eat pretty healthy, don't drink to excess and don't drink canned soda. I need exercise and I know it, but I don't have the oomph to do it. Yes, Yes I know, I'll feel better in the long run, but sometimes that isn't enough. > > I've been reading the posts for the last couple days and feel you guys(girls) are a great group. > > Well, thanks for letting me ramble. I look forward to your replies. > > Thanks!!! > > > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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