I just lost it

[Guest guest]

I called EFMP to see who I should make a complaint to about DA taking their time

with the orders. They told me to go to the IG here. She said that we should

have been out of here already. So I went ahead and called her and she wasn't

very helpful saying that it usually takes this long and that this is actually

the fastest she has seen it go through which is probably because of me. Well,

she had a bit of an attitude and I just lost it. She was going on about what I

needed to understand about the military and the military not acting on things

fast and she wouldn't let me get a word in edge wise so I just yelled over her

that she needed to understand that I will sue the military if something happens

to my daughter over here. And I had some few choice words for her attitude with

me. I'll tell you my tongue is like a two edge sword and once it's out, it's

out. She then said that she was going to call DA this afternoon (the time

difference between us and the states) and find out what is taking so long and

try to light a fire up under them and then get back to me, funny considering

before I gave the attitude she couldn't do anything. Well, a little while

afterwards I felt so bad that I had been so cruel to her that I called back and

apologized for my not so nice words. She said that there was no need for an

apology and that people in charge of this stuff do need to realize the severity

of Abby's problems and realize that she could die over here without the

treatment and then the military would have to pay for it. She also apologized

for her attitude with me and she said that it wasn't warranted, that I was just

trying to take care of my child and that she didn't know that we started the

whole process back in December, she thought that it was just started a month

ago. And she admitted that if I wasn't so persist and the attitude to boot then

she probably wouldn't call to check on it and that it wouldn't already be up at

DA. I still feel kinda bad though. It's just a shame that it has to come down

to this. Does anyone in the military know how to go about requesting that

regulations be put in place or changed? I think that compassionate reassignment

request need to have a time limit on how long they take to get approved so that

a tragedy doesn't happen and so that the process doesn't take this long. I

mean, a curtailment request only takes 45 days to hear back about. That is the

maximum amount of time the military has to get back to you on it but a

compassionate request doesn't have one. If we put in for a curtailment then we

would be out of here already and everything. But we couldn't put in for that

because Abby's condition is not going to be resolved in a year or less. I just

want to scream!!! Oh wait I already did at IG, lol. We better be on orders

soon I will be writing a letter to the Stars and Stripes. That's what I should

have a long time ago. We would probably already have our orders by now.

Karrie mother to Chasity age 6 1/2, normal and healthy and Abby age 4 1/2

microcephaly, severe developmental and physical delays, epilepsy, pachygyria,

Congenital CMV and possible Cystic Fibrosis. The list is growing.

www.clik.to/abigail

[Guest guest]

I sure do hope something happens soon for you all. It is very hard to stand

by & see this happen to your precious child. At home , at least you will

feel you did all you can & will continue to try. Bless your heart and those

of your precious family. Please know I am keeping you in my daily thoughts

with good wishes as well..

LOVE & HUGS,

grandmomBEV

I just lost it

I called EFMP to see who I should make a complaint to about DA taking their

time with the orders. They told me to go to the IG here. She said that we

should have been out of here already. So I went ahead and called her and

she wasn't very helpful saying that it usually takes this long and that this

is actually the fastest she has seen it go through which is probably because

of me. Well, she had a bit of an attitude and I just lost it. She was

going on about what I needed to understand about the military and the

military not acting on things fast and she wouldn't let me get a word in

edge wise so I just yelled over her that she needed to understand that I

will sue the military if something happens to my daughter over here. And I

had some few choice words for her attitude with me. I'll tell you my tongue

is like a two edge sword and once it's out, it's out. She then said that

she was going to call DA this afternoon (the time difference between us and

the states) and find out what is taking so long and try to light a fire up

under them and then get back to me, funny considering before I gave the

attitude she couldn't do anything. Well, a little while afterwards I felt

so bad that I had been so cruel to her that I called back and apologized for

my not so nice words. She said that there was no need for an apology and

that people in charge of this stuff do need to realize the severity of

Abby's problems and realize that she could die over here without the

treatment and then the military would have to pay for it. She also

apologized for her attitude with me and she said that it wasn't warranted,

that I was just trying to take care of my child and that she didn't know

that we started the whole process back in December, she thought that it was

just started a month ago. And she admitted that if I wasn't so persist and

the attitude to boot then she probably wouldn't call to check on it and that

it wouldn't already be up at DA. I still feel kinda bad though. It's just

a shame that it has to come down to this. Does anyone in the military know

how to go about requesting that regulations be put in place or changed? I

think that compassionate reassignment request need to have a time limit on

how long they take to get approved so that a tragedy doesn't happen and so

that the process doesn't take this long. I mean, a curtailment request only

takes 45 days to hear back about. That is the maximum amount of time the

military has to get back to you on it but a compassionate request doesn't

have one. If we put in for a curtailment then we would be out of here

already and everything. But we couldn't put in for that because Abby's

condition is not going to be resolved in a year or less. I just want to

scream!!! Oh wait I already did at IG, lol. We better be on orders soon I

will be writing a letter to the Stars and Stripes. That's what I should

have a long time ago. We would probably already have our orders by now.

Karrie mother to Chasity age 6 1/2, normal and healthy and Abby age 4 1/2

microcephaly, severe developmental and physical delays, epilepsy,

pachygyria, Congenital CMV and possible Cystic Fibrosis. The list is

growing.

www.clik.to/abigail

[Guest guest]

grandmomBEV,

Thanks for keeping us in your thoughts. I hope to have orders by this

afternoon or at least be told to expect them by the end of the week. If not

then I will go to my home state Senator. I'll keep you guys updated.

Karrie mother to Chasity age 6 1/2, normal and healthy and Abby age 4 1/2

microcephaly, severe developmental and physical delays, epilepsy,

pachygyria, Congenital CMV and possible Cystic Fibrosis. The list is

growing.

www.clik.to/abigail

I just lost it

>

>

> I called EFMP to see who I should make a complaint to about DA taking

their

> time with the orders. They told me to go to the IG here. She said that we

> should have been out of here already. So I went ahead and called her and

> she wasn't very helpful saying that it usually takes this long and that

this

> is actually the fastest she has seen it go through which is probably

because

> of me. Well, she had a bit of an attitude and I just lost it. She was

> going on about what I needed to understand about the military and the

> military not acting on things fast and she wouldn't let me get a word in

> edge wise so I just yelled over her that she needed to understand that I

> will sue the military if something happens to my daughter over here. And

I

> had some few choice words for her attitude with me. I'll tell you my

tongue

> is like a two edge sword and once it's out, it's out. She then said that

> she was going to call DA this afternoon (the time difference between us

and

> the states) and find out what is taking so long and try to light a fire up

> under them and then get back to me, funny considering before I gave the

> attitude she couldn't do anything. Well, a little while afterwards I felt

> so bad that I had been so cruel to her that I called back and apologized

for

> my not so nice words. She said that there was no need for an apology and

> that people in charge of this stuff do need to realize the severity of

> Abby's problems and realize that she could die over here without the

> treatment and then the military would have to pay for it. She also

> apologized for her attitude with me and she said that it wasn't warranted,

> that I was just trying to take care of my child and that she didn't know

> that we started the whole process back in December, she thought that it

was

> just started a month ago. And she admitted that if I wasn't so persist

and

> the attitude to boot then she probably wouldn't call to check on it and

that

> it wouldn't already be up at DA. I still feel kinda bad though. It's

just

> a shame that it has to come down to this. Does anyone in the military

know

> how to go about requesting that regulations be put in place or changed? I

> think that compassionate reassignment request need to have a time limit on

> how long they take to get approved so that a tragedy doesn't happen and so

> that the process doesn't take this long. I mean, a curtailment request

only

> takes 45 days to hear back about. That is the maximum amount of time the

> military has to get back to you on it but a compassionate request doesn't

> have one. If we put in for a curtailment then we would be out of here

> already and everything. But we couldn't put in for that because Abby's

> condition is not going to be resolved in a year or less. I just want to

> scream!!! Oh wait I already did at IG, lol. We better be on orders soon

I

> will be writing a letter to the Stars and Stripes. That's what I should

> have a long time ago. We would probably already have our orders by now.

>

> Karrie mother to Chasity age 6 1/2, normal and healthy and Abby age 4 1/2

> microcephaly, severe developmental and physical delays, epilepsy,

> pachygyria, Congenital CMV and possible Cystic Fibrosis. The list is

> growing.

> www.clik.to/abigail

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

GREAT. want to hear that soonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

LOVE, GRDMBEV

Re: I just lost it

grandmomBEV,

Thanks for keeping us in your thoughts. I hope to have orders by this

afternoon or at least be told to expect them by the end of the week. If not

then I will go to my home state Senator. I'll keep you guys updated.

Karrie mother to Chasity age 6 1/2, normal and healthy and Abby age 4 1/2

microcephaly, severe developmental and physical delays, epilepsy,

pachygyria, Congenital CMV and possible Cystic Fibrosis. The list is

growing.

www.clik.to/abigail

I just lost it

>

>

> I called EFMP to see who I should make a complaint to about DA taking

their

> time with the orders. They told me to go to the IG here. She said that we

> should have been out of here already. So I went ahead and called her and

> she wasn't very helpful saying that it usually takes this long and that

this

> is actually the fastest she has seen it go through which is probably

because

> of me. Well, she had a bit of an attitude and I just lost it. She was

> going on about what I needed to understand about the military and the

> military not acting on things fast and she wouldn't let me get a word in

> edge wise so I just yelled over her that she needed to understand that I

> will sue the military if something happens to my daughter over here. And

I

> had some few choice words for her attitude with me. I'll tell you my

tongue

> is like a two edge sword and once it's out, it's out. She then said that

> she was going to call DA this afternoon (the time difference between us

and

> the states) and find out what is taking so long and try to light a fire up

> under them and then get back to me, funny considering before I gave the

> attitude she couldn't do anything. Well, a little while afterwards I felt

> so bad that I had been so cruel to her that I called back and apologized

for

> my not so nice words. She said that there was no need for an apology and

> that people in charge of this stuff do need to realize the severity of

> Abby's problems and realize that she could die over here without the

> treatment and then the military would have to pay for it. She also

> apologized for her attitude with me and she said that it wasn't warranted,

> that I was just trying to take care of my child and that she didn't know

> that we started the whole process back in December, she thought that it

was

> just started a month ago. And she admitted that if I wasn't so persist

and

> the attitude to boot then she probably wouldn't call to check on it and

that

> it wouldn't already be up at DA. I still feel kinda bad though. It's

just

> a shame that it has to come down to this. Does anyone in the military

know

> how to go about requesting that regulations be put in place or changed? I

> think that compassionate reassignment request need to have a time limit on

> how long they take to get approved so that a tragedy doesn't happen and so

> that the process doesn't take this long. I mean, a curtailment request

only

> takes 45 days to hear back about. That is the maximum amount of time the

> military has to get back to you on it but a compassionate request doesn't

> have one. If we put in for a curtailment then we would be out of here

> already and everything. But we couldn't put in for that because Abby's

> condition is not going to be resolved in a year or less. I just want to

> scream!!! Oh wait I already did at IG, lol. We better be on orders soon

I

> will be writing a letter to the Stars and Stripes. That's what I should

> have a long time ago. We would probably already have our orders by now.

>

> Karrie mother to Chasity age 6 1/2, normal and healthy and Abby age 4 1/2

> microcephaly, severe developmental and physical delays, epilepsy,

> pachygyria, Congenital CMV and possible Cystic Fibrosis. The list is

> growing.

> www.clik.to/abigail

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

You have all ready been far to patient for my liking.

The time for letter writing and lawyer hiring is here.

You have to realize that even a letter from your

lawyer will get their butts in gear much faster than a

tantrum on the phone. And I do approve tantrums over

the phone. :-) I have pulled quite a few myself with

insurance companies and the like. :-)

All that your lawyer has to do on his official letter

head is to state what you have applied for, the

seriousness of Abby's condition, that you needed to

leave YESTERDAY, and that if you don't have an answer

with in " x " amount of time a legal suit will be

brought against them.

Dawn mom of 4, 6 and under, the youngest wcf

--- & Karrie mpwife00@...> wrote:

> I called EFMP to see who I should make a complaint

> to about DA taking their time with the orders. They

> told me to go to the IG here. She said that we

> should have been out of here already. So I went

> ahead and called her and she wasn't very helpful

> saying that it usually takes this long and that this

> is actually the fastest she has seen it go through

> which is probably because of me. Well, she had a

> bit of an attitude and I just lost it. She was

> going on about what I needed to understand about the

> military and the military not acting on things fast

> and she wouldn't let me get a word in edge wise so I

> just yelled over her that she needed to understand

> that I will sue the military if something happens to

> my daughter over here. And I had some few choice

> words for her attitude with me. I'll tell you my

> tongue is like a two edge sword and once it's out,

> it's out. She then said that she was going to call

> DA this afternoon (the time difference between us

> and the states) and find out what is taking so long

> and try to light a fire up under them and then get

> back to me, funny considering before I gave the

> attitude she couldn't do anything. Well, a little

> while afterwards I felt so bad that I had been so

> cruel to her that I called back and apologized for

> my not so nice words. She said that there was no

> need for an apology and that people in charge of

> this stuff do need to realize the severity of Abby's

> problems and realize that she could die over here

> without the treatment and then the military would

> have to pay for it. She also apologized for her

> attitude with me and she said that it wasn't

> warranted, that I was just trying to take care of my

> child and that she didn't know that we started the

> whole process back in December, she thought that it

> was just started a month ago. And she admitted that

> if I wasn't so persist and the attitude to boot then

> she probably wouldn't call to check on it and that

> it wouldn't already be up at DA. I still feel kinda

> bad though. It's just a shame that it has to come

> down to this. Does anyone in the military know how

> to go about requesting that regulations be put in

> place or changed? I think that compassionate

> reassignment request need to have a time limit on

> how long they take to get approved so that a tragedy

> doesn't happen and so that the process doesn't take

> this long. I mean, a curtailment request only takes

> 45 days to hear back about. That is the maximum

> amount of time the military has to get back to you

> on it but a compassionate request doesn't have one.

> If we put in for a curtailment then we would be out

> of here already and everything. But we couldn't put

> in for that because Abby's condition is not going to

> be resolved in a year or less. I just want to

> scream!!! Oh wait I already did at IG, lol. We

> better be on orders soon I will be writing a letter

> to the Stars and Stripes. That's what I should have

> a long time ago. We would probably already have our

> orders by now.

>

> Karrie mother to Chasity age 6 1/2, normal and

> healthy and Abby age 4 1/2 microcephaly, severe

> developmental and physical delays, epilepsy,

> pachygyria, Congenital CMV and possible Cystic

> Fibrosis. The list is growing.

> www.clik.to/abigail

>

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Karrie,

I know how you feel about the military. Hubby is retired so we deal with

them every time we need any kind of doctor for anything!

I am so glad we arent dealing with them in a situation like yours.

Just to get approval to see my heart specialist it takes an act of

congress--------almost! And to get the polyp removed from my sinus

cavity it did take congress-------------they paid for sinus meds for years

and just didnt understand why i should need surgery for

anything------------so------we went to the local senator's office which is

just around the corner from their referral office.

By the time we drove around the block to the referral office we had approval

for the surgery----------in writing! Got a write up in the local

newspaper about how bad they are at that office too! YEAH!!!!!!!!!

Maybe you should write, call, email, fax your congressmen----------or the

white house or something!

Good luck. I will let ya know if hubby has any suggestions.

Aunt B ------------------ to Rodney 11wcf

[Guest guest]

Aunt B,

I think it takes an act of congress to get pretty much anything done in the

military. It certainly took an act of congress for me to get the orders,

lol. I did write a letter to Bush and Cheney on my what policies I think

need to be put in place for compassionate reassignments. I'll look up my

Senator's email and write him also. Families should have to go through so

much to get help for their family members and have to wait so long to hear

anything back. They have a time line set for curtailments which are not

emergency situations but not for compassionate. And if it's a condition not

expect to improve within a year you have to use the compassionate. I would

have already been out of here if we were able to apply for a curtailment. I

even asked about an AROD, being sent back without my husband and found that

would take months to go through. Of course one good thing about the

military is that we don't have to pay for any medications or doctors.

Karrie mother to Chasity age 6 1/2, normal and healthy and Abby age 4 1/2

microcephaly, severe developmental and physical delays, epilepsy,

pachygyria, Congenital CMV and possible Cystic Fibrosis. The list is

growing.

www.clik.to/abigail

Re: I just lost it

> Karrie,

> I know how you feel about the military. Hubby is retired so we deal with

> them every time we need any kind of doctor for anything!

> I am so glad we arent dealing with them in a situation like yours.

> Just to get approval to see my heart specialist it takes an act of

> congress--------almost! And to get the polyp removed from my sinus

> cavity it did take congress-------------they paid for sinus meds for years

> and just didnt understand why i should need surgery for

> anything------------so------we went to the local senator's office which is

> just around the corner from their referral office.

> By the time we drove around the block to the referral office we had

approval

> for the surgery----------in writing! Got a write up in the local

> newspaper about how bad they are at that office too! YEAH!!!!!!!!!

> Maybe you should write, call, email, fax your congressmen----------or the

> white house or something!

> Good luck. I will let ya know if hubby has any suggestions.

> Aunt B ------------------ to Rodney 11wcf

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Karrie,

You are right about the military paying but before I quit working I kept my

own insurance because I had heard it was a pain to deal with. But, at least

they do pay---just not what the other insurance companies pay and that causes

doc's to have an indifferent attitude toward military insurance patients.

I am a big mouth so I tend to take up for the other patients too whenever I

find out about them having problems. I have also found that being a bit

bitchy seems to help a whole lot. Like----------dont make me be a bitch

people! lol

Anyway, I know you will be glad to be back home. And, since you already have

a home there you will really enjoy!

Being able to get the testing and treatment you daughter needs will make you

feel lots and lots better, too!

Good luck.

Aunt B ------------------ to Rodney 11 wcf

[Guest guest]

Karrie,

You just keep up that attitude with the military! Good luck with Abby. I

know it will be all better when you get back here!

Aunt B ------------ to Rodney 11 wcf

[Guest guest]

Aunt B,

I have found that being bitchy does get things done in the military. I

always try to be nice first but then find that only makes it easier for them

to put you off and everything and then when I give my attitude things start

happening. Probably so they don't have to deal with me anymore, lol. I

have also found that the military tends to take their time about paying

medical bills and then you have the doctor or hospital calling and harassing

you about it. That has happened to me before. But we'll be home soon so I

am happy about that. And Abby will start to get the help that she needs. I

already feel much better.

Karrie mother to Chasity age 6 1/2, normal and healthy and Abby age 4 1/2

microcephaly, severe developmental and physical delays, epilepsy,

pachygyria, Congenital CMV and possible Cystic Fibrosis. The list is

growing.

www.clik.to/abigail

Re: I just lost it

> Karrie,

> You are right about the military paying but before I quit working I kept

my

> own insurance because I had heard it was a pain to deal with. But, at

least

> they do pay---just not what the other insurance companies pay and that

causes

> doc's to have an indifferent attitude toward military insurance patients.

> I am a big mouth so I tend to take up for the other patients too whenever

I

> find out about them having problems. I have also found that being a bit

> bitchy seems to help a whole lot. Like----------dont make me be a bitch

> people! lol

> Anyway, I know you will be glad to be back home. And, since you already

have

> a home there you will really enjoy!

> Being able to get the testing and treatment you daughter needs will make

you

> feel lots and lots better, too!

> Good luck.

> Aunt B ------------------ to Rodney 11 wcf

>

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