Guest guest Posted March 13, 2004 Report Share Posted March 13, 2004 You both are really giving me a wakeup call here. Stupid me never thought about these things until reading your posts about your children. These kids troubles are really adult sized, aren't they. Kids shouldn't have such problems! A part of their childhood has already been taken away because of the non thinking, non caring, selfish parents. Alot more adjectives comes to mind right now but I'm gonna say them. This is such a CRIME! You know what I think........the world needs more as and Mikes.......lots more! ((((Hugs to you both)))) Karol Re: To MM: further update on my house... In a message dated 3/12/2004 2:07:46 AM Central Standard Time, minniemyno@... writes: Mike, you are so very right. When we first started doing this I was very sympathetic to the birth parents, but I get angry when I see these kids trying to survive, just trying to pick up the pieces and put them back together. When I hold this tiny five month old baby and listen to him gasping for his breath until the medication in the svn machine kick in because she smoked to many drugs during pregnancy and made him breathe it afterward secondhand. When I see poor baby Keyone with reactive airway disease, asthma, irritable bowel, and gerd at the age of two just getting used to being able to eat without throwing half or more of it back up I want to SCREAM! He used to wake up three and four times a night crying to hard holding his little tummy saying owie, owie, and now that they have him on Zantac, he doesn't have them anymore. The specialist said that all of these issues are from breathing the crack smoked by four and five family members around him from birth and some of it is from weighing four pounds at birth because she got herself so high on pcp that it put her in premature labor. And that's just the physical stuff, we have Bridget who was perfect and then beaten at 16 months because of what?? What could a 16 month old baby do to deserve spending the rest of her life in a wheelchair while her Mom goes out a pops out three more babies?? That's not even getting in to the older ones who like your little guys have mental health issues from all of the abuse. I am sorry, it's just that hearing about your poor son and living with mine, I guess I am a little sensitive about all of this right now. Sorry this got so long, it just burns my butt! I sure hope they can get him stable and home soon, poor guy. a C > DAMN these birth mothers who are so > sick on drugs and alcohol when they are carrying this innocents. I am torn > between wanting to help > them, and wanting to wring their ignorant necks. Not a happy place to be > right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2004 Report Share Posted March 13, 2004 Hi MM, I don't really know what to say except that it seems to me you are doing all the right things for all the right reasons. Hugs..... Karol Re: To MM and a Karol, Thanks, but you know my motives were purely selfish. I wanted children, and when I couldn'tbear my own, I went out and got "OP's" (other people's). My goal was twelve, but my health got toobad to fake my way through a homestudy and physical exam for the adoption process. It's a lengthyand invasive process at best, and when you have unpredictable flares, impossible. So, I stopped atfour. In spite of all the troubles my children have, and poor decisions that the adult ones have made,I don't regret taking them. They have survived to adulthood, and I'm a firm believer in where life ispresent, hope is also.My wish is that the need for adoptive parents for special kids is no longer there because we find away to prevent people from self-medicating with illicit drugs and alcohol. While I can find it in myheart to sympathize with the adults emotional and mental problems, I cannot find it in my heart tosympathize with their continued thoughtless procreation of sick and injured babies. True, I wouldnot have children at all, if these kids didn't exist, but my need to be a mother is nothing comparedto the suffering of these children. It's a complicated and sad situation, isn't it? I know there is nomagic answer, but it doesn't keep me from praying for one. Must be the optimist in me. LOLTake care, honey. Loving hugs, MM "The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/gallery/view?username=lupies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2004 Report Share Posted March 13, 2004 Thank you Karol, but for my husbnd and I, we feel like it's the kids that have the toughest job. We just offer a safe, loving environment for them to succeed in and they take it from there a You both are really giving me a wakeup call here. Stupid me never thought about these things until reading your posts about your children. These kids troubles are really adult sized, aren't they. Kids shouldn't have such problems! A part of their childhood has already been taken away because of the non thinking, non caring, selfish parents. Alot more adjectives comes to mind right now but I'm gonna say them. This is such a CRIME! You know what I think........the world needs more as and Mikes.......lots more! ((((Hugs to you both)))) Karol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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