Guest guest Posted March 4, 2004 Report Share Posted March 4, 2004 >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Hi, Wow, you have every right to be upset! I have family trouble too. It is a big drag partly because you want your family to understand you more than anyone else. I hope you are feeling better today Sincerely, Cheryl in CA 666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666 I hope everyone having birthdays lately have had good ones! We had my grandson's B-day party Saturday. He was 3. We had 20 something people there. Fortunately, it was a gorgeous day, sunny & temps in the 60's, so the kids (old & young) got to be outside! That leads me to my problem. My mom was there also, of course. I love her dearly, but she always manages to get everyone riled up over something. Told my son-in-law that the lattice around their porch was " ugly " . Had my daughter nearly in tears. She thinks she's helping by telling us what we're doing wrong if it's not what she thinks is the right way. She drives us all crazy! How do you guys handle close family members who treat you as if this is all in your head? I've learned to say I'm just fine when she asks, because if I say how I really feel, she tells me I'm just not trying or I'm " giving in " . She thinks since she's older, I can't be sicker than she is. I'm just lazy when I sleep & can't wake up or when my back, hips, knees or feet are so painful every step is hard. She was told many years ago that she tested " borderline " for lupus. So, to her, that means she knows I can't feel bad because it isn't bothering her. She has fibro & several other health problems & she " goes to work every day " . It's not like I've always been this way. I've always been an active, outdoorsy type person. I was very involved in sports growing up & until I married. I've always worked right along side my husband doing a mans work with cattle. Coached the girls softball teams, got all 4 kids to all their various practices & games, school activities, etc. Kept up with an aviary full of birds, did ( & still do) educational programs for schools, nursing homes, civic groups, etc. It just makes me mad & hurt to be treated this way. She's even got our younger daughter believing her. Jess calls to ask about her daddy, but never asks how I feel & if I try to talk to her about anything pertaining to my health she changes the subject. I'm sorry to ramble on so long. Guess I just needed to vent a little. I saw my primary care doc today. She changed my Relafen & Flexaril to Robaxin & Feldine (sp). She's not much for giving out pain meds. Not narcotics anyway. I would love to have something to get rid of this headache I've had for weeks now. Not to mention all the other aches & pains! again for rambling! Express yourself with over 6,000 FREE Email Smileys - click here! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2004 Report Share Posted March 4, 2004 -You have described my mother to a t!! It is hard to have someone second guessing everything u do. It is obviously her personality. My mom drove me apeshit for many years, partic. with the medical stuff. She's one of those folks if u tell her u broke one leg, well she broke two and was still able to grocery shop and care for 6 kids. Has anyone ever had a heart to heart with her, or is it better off left alone? I had this heart to heart with mom..things have improved a bit, I just don't show it when she hurts my feelings, or I call her on it when it happens. She haas come a long way, but some folks are just built that way. I feel your pain and wish u the best...and we ALL know this condition is not in our heads! Who in their right mind would choose this horrible illness..no thanks, I would JUST SAY NO!!! Again, good luck and your pals here are always ready for u to vent! Take Care and gentle hugs, Pam-- In LUPIES , " lyle- cheryl " <lyle-cheryl@c...> wrote: > >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Hi, > > Wow, you have every right to be upset! I have family trouble too. It is a > big drag partly because you want your family to understand you more than > anyone else. I hope you are feeling better today Sincerely, Cheryl in CA > <http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001> Sun 2 > > 6666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666666 666666 > 66666 > > I hope everyone having birthdays lately have had good ones! We had my > grandson's B-day party Saturday. He was 3. We had 20 something people there. > Fortunately, it was a gorgeous day, sunny & temps in the 60's, so the kids > (old & young) got to be outside! > > That leads me to my problem. My mom was there also, of course. I love her > dearly, but she always manages to get everyone riled up over something. Told > my son-in-law that the lattice around their porch was " ugly " . Had my > daughter nearly in tears. She thinks she's helping by telling us what we're > doing wrong if it's not what she thinks is the right way. She drives us all > crazy! > > How do you guys handle close family members who treat you as if this is all > in your head? I've learned to say I'm just fine when she asks, because if I > say how I really feel, she tells me I'm just not trying or I'm " giving in " . > She thinks since she's older, I can't be sicker than she is. I'm just lazy > when I sleep & can't wake up or when my back, hips, knees or feet are so > painful every step is hard. She was told many years ago that she tested > " borderline " for lupus. So, to her, that means she knows I can't feel bad > because it isn't bothering her. She has fibro & several other health > problems & she " goes to work every day " . It's not like I've always been this > way. I've always been an active, outdoorsy type person. I was very involved > in sports growing up & until I married. I've always worked right along side > my husband doing a mans work with cattle. Coached the girls softball teams, > got all 4 kids to all their various practices & games, school activities, > etc. Kept up with an aviary full of birds, did ( & still do) educational > programs for schools, nursing homes, civic groups, etc. It just makes me mad > & hurt to be treated this way. She's even got our younger daughter believing > her. Jess calls to ask about her daddy, but never asks how I feel & if I try > to talk to her about anything pertaining to my health she changes the > subject. > > I'm sorry to ramble on so long. Guess I just needed to vent a little. > > I saw my primary care doc today. She changed my Relafen & Flexaril to > Robaxin & Feldine (sp). She's not much for giving out pain meds. Not > narcotics anyway. I would love to have something to get rid of this headache > I've had for weeks now. Not to mention all the other aches & pains! > > again for rambling! > > > > > > > > > > _____ > > Express yourself with over 6,000 FREE Email Smileys - click here! > <http://www.smileycentral.com/> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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