Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 In a message dated 3/31/00 12:22:52 PM Eastern Standard Time, MiniGastricBypass (AT) onelist (DOT) com writes: > I truly believe that I am ready > to go. I had planned to call Debbie today and rescheldule for April > 10th but I got an e-mail this morning from Dr. Rutledge saying that > he requires a 3 month waiting period before you can rescheldule. , I don't mean to sound judgmental, but I agree with Dr. R. For whatever reason, you chose not to go through with it. He told us at clinic about another patient who had cancelled hers. All the tools were opened and had to be thrown away, because once opened they cannot be reused.(Maybe that wasn't the case with you if there were several patients and the next patient just moved up the line.) The cost was over $6,000, just in the materials they lost, not to count the cost of his time and the hospitals. Someone has to pay that expense. He wasn't telling the story to say, wow, look what happened, but to point out that the instruments used are expensive and this is one of the reasons this is a very expensive surgery. Are you prepared to pay for the costs that were incurred if your insurance company doesn't? Do you expect Dr. R or the hospital to cover it? Over time, it will hurt his reputation with the hospital, and others, if he has two operating rooms ready to go and regularly cancelling patients. Two operating rooms is nearly unheard of. It would appear that he is not preparing patients well enough for surgery and we know he can't be accused of that. Be glad that he is WILLING to do the surgery again, at a later date. I hope this doesn't sound mean, because I really don't intend it that way or feel mean about it, I just want to point out some of the issues I think you should think about. I think you cancelled for some significant reason and now you are regretting it. I can understand all of that. There are consequences to the decisions we make. What if you had had the surgery and had a leak. Maybe you would be saying, " I knew I wasn't ready and should have waited... " I think you need the time so you can be sure, really sure, that this is what you want. I really suggest that you find a psychologist to talk it out with. You could really find out some helpful stuff to help you on your journey later on, as well. You know if someone walked into Dr. R's office today and said I want to self pay and have surgery next week, he wouldn't do it. He would require them to go through the steps we have all gone through because they have a purpose. I think he feels like having you wait for 3 months isn't to punish you (although I am sure it feels like that) but is because it has a purpose. He is doing what he believes to be in your best interest. That is all any of us can ask for. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I know this is a really tough time for you. But remember, " Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God's world by mistake! " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 In a message dated 3/31/00 12:22:52 PM Eastern Standard Time, MiniGastricBypass (AT) onelist (DOT) com writes: > He said of > course! I was so shocked - I didn't have anything prepared, no paperwork > with me, or anything. The only comment he made was to make sure my > insurance would cover it! (It does). I am so thrilled! So now I've learned > not to " pre-judge " how someone might react. The two people I most feared > discussing this with - my mom and my doctor are both wholly supportive, and > will do whatever necessary! The person I thought would be most > understanding (my best friend who is bigger than me, has more health > problems, and has 4 children) thinks I'm nuts. Go figure! YEAH AMY... That had to feel great. It is nice to hear there are some sweet docs out there. As for your friend... I am not surprised, I reacted the same way the first person suggested that I have a bypass. Like...are you out of your MIND!!! But, that was the first seed and it has taken root. The person who suggested it was a nurse at a doctor's office and I don't even particularly LIKE her, but I will always be grateful for that suggestion. I'll bet your friend watches you like a hawk and ends up doing it herself when she sees how well it works for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 In a message dated 3/31/00 12:22:52 PM Eastern Standard Time, MiniGastricBypass (AT) onelist (DOT) com writes: > And this is a > 40y/o man who has been a size 30 waist since 7th grade. Now le, if you were EVER going to dump him THAT would be the reason!!!! Kiddingly, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 In a message dated 03/31/2000 1:36:41 PM Central Standard Time, valmaboyz@... writes: << And this is a > 40y/o man who has been a size 30 waist since 7th grade. Now le, if you were EVER going to dump him THAT would be the reason!!!! >> , I missed the joke. I didn't get it. But, I love slim, well toned hard bodied men, so I got my first choice. LOL le Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 << , I don't mean to sound judgmental, but I agree with Dr. R. For whatever reason, you chose not to go through with it. etc. etc. >> , Very well said. I could not agree with you more. Dr. Rutledge is a very wise and extremely compassionate man. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 That's what I'm hoping - that she'll see me being able to live life instead of this tired existence! It would just be so nice to have someone to go through it with, since I'm not in NC to attend support meetings and such. Thank goodness for this list! I hope when my time comes I get some good " littermates " ! Blessings ~Amy. YEAH AMY... That had to feel great. It is nice to hear there are some sweet docs out there. As for your friend... I am not surprised, I reacted the same way the first person suggested that I have a bypass. Like...are you out of your MIND!!! But, that was the first seed and it has taken root. The person who suggested it was a nurse at a doctor's office and I don't even particularly LIKE her, but I will always be grateful for that suggestion. I'll bet your friend watches you like a hawk and ends up doing it herself when she sees how well it works for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2000 Report Share Posted March 31, 2000 I'm sorry but compassionate is not an adjective I would use to describe Dr. Rutledge today. My husband had his surgery yesterday morning and we were all but pushed out the door today even though my husband really felt like he needed another day. I was extremely impressed with Dr. Rutledge during the pre-operative phase and at the clinic visit, however his bedside manner leave quite a bit to be desired. Although, I have to agree with his decision regarding the waiting period for the patient who backed out. We heard she backed out not once, but twice. I agree she should re-evaluate and give it some time. Re: Digest Number 995 << , I don't mean to sound judgmental, but I agree with Dr. R. For whatever reason, you chose not to go through with it. etc. etc. >> , Very well said. I could not agree with you more. Dr. Rutledge is a very wise and extremely compassionate man. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Get a NextCard Visa, in 30 seconds! 1. Fill in the brief application 2. Receive approval decision within 30 seconds 3. Get rates as low as 2.9% Intro or 9.9% Fixed APR Apply NOW! http://click.egroups.com/1/975/1/_/453517/_/954542598/ ------------------------------------------------------------------------ This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com Please visit our web site at http://clos.net Get the Patient Manual at http://clos.net/get_patient_manual.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2003 Report Share Posted June 20, 2003 In a message dated 6/18/2003 8:56:23 PM Central Daylight Time, Gastric_Bypass_Family writes: > Subject: Re: Womens Clothes sizes 26 &24. > > Girl if your like me you can have a really successful yard sale with the > clothes you shrink out of. I still have sweaters from Lane that have > never > been worn. I know some of them Ill be wearing breifly but after that they > are > yard sale bound, lol, and I will be so thrilled! WOLFIE I actually just sold a whole bunch of clothes to one of my co-workers. She took home a full trash bag for $30. Worked out wellfor me (more room in the closet for new clothes) and for her. She had probably $700 worthof clothes in that bag...but I can't wear them anymore so might as well get some money out of them Chrissy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2003 Report Share Posted June 20, 2003 In a message dated 6/18/2003 8:56:23 PM Central Daylight Time, Gastric_Bypass_Family writes: > Subject: Re: Womens Clothes sizes 26 &24. > > Girl if your like me you can have a really successful yard sale with the > clothes you shrink out of. I still have sweaters from Lane that have > never > been worn. I know some of them Ill be wearing breifly but after that they > are > yard sale bound, lol, and I will be so thrilled! WOLFIE I actually just sold a whole bunch of clothes to one of my co-workers. She took home a full trash bag for $30. Worked out wellfor me (more room in the closet for new clothes) and for her. She had probably $700 worthof clothes in that bag...but I can't wear them anymore so might as well get some money out of them Chrissy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2003 Report Share Posted June 20, 2003 In a message dated 6/18/2003 8:56:23 PM Central Daylight Time, Gastric_Bypass_Family writes: > Subject: Re: Womens Clothes sizes 26 &24. > > Girl if your like me you can have a really successful yard sale with the > clothes you shrink out of. I still have sweaters from Lane that have > never > been worn. I know some of them Ill be wearing breifly but after that they > are > yard sale bound, lol, and I will be so thrilled! WOLFIE I actually just sold a whole bunch of clothes to one of my co-workers. She took home a full trash bag for $30. Worked out wellfor me (more room in the closet for new clothes) and for her. She had probably $700 worthof clothes in that bag...but I can't wear them anymore so might as well get some money out of them Chrissy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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