Re: What I forgot to add about my daughter!!!!!

[Guest guest]

Hang on Lori...take it slow...don't let this overwhelm you.

Another idea is to talk to the therapist, and get her advice on dealing with

the teacher/principal. At the VERY least, I would demand a different

teacher.

You may also want to talk to the therapist about your stress issues. She

may have some helpful advice.

HJ

----- Original Message -----

> I just wanted to add that I do NOT believe my daughter " made up " this

> accusation in an effort to be bad. She is only 5 yrs old but has been

> through more than I think a child her age should be. I think that for

> so long she held so many feelings inside and now they are all coming

> out. She IS seeing a therapist for her immense fear of the weather

> and for her behavior. She is not a bad child. She is a hurt and

> confused child who has so many emotions to deal with and isnt' sure

> how to.

[Guest guest]

Is her therapist someone whom you can call after hours? If so, I'd call

tonight and let him/her know what is going on. If not call first thing in the

morning.

This is a serious situation. Maybe the therapist can see her sooner than her

next appointment, if it's a good deal of time away. If the therapist suspects

that it is true then they would be bound to report it to the propper

authorities.

--- Lori MsLeo75@...> wrote:

> I just wanted to add that I do NOT believe my daughter " made up " this

> accusation in an effort to be bad. She is only 5 yrs old but has been

> through more than I think a child her age should be. I think that for

> so long she held so many feelings inside and now they are all coming

> out. She IS seeing a therapist for her immense fear of the weather

> and for her behavior. She is not a bad child. She is a hurt and

> confused child who has so many emotions to deal with and isnt' sure

> how to.

>

> I just had to say that....I really didn't want anyone thinking my

> child is mean or malicious.

>

> Lori

>

>

=====

Kathy

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[Guest guest]

If the therapist suspects

> that it is true then they would be bound to report it to the propper

> authorities.

From what she is saying now, I don't think it happened. She says she

was so scared by the fire alarm that she wasn't sure if it happened

or not. I don't know if maybe it really did scare her so bad that she

got confused....maybe the teacher did bump her or grab her to prevent

her from running outside and Ashlyn...being frightened...was not sure

what happened. I dont know....

[Guest guest]

well then instead of asking your daughter over again and making her upset

and confused just let the therapist handle it and see where it goes

catherine

[Guest guest]

well then instead of asking your daughter over again and making her upset

and confused just let the therapist handle it and see where it goes

catherine

[Guest guest]

well then instead of asking your daughter over again and making her upset

and confused just let the therapist handle it and see where it goes

catherine

[Guest guest]

Lori

you don't have to tell us what a great kid your daughter is....we already

know that...after all, SHE HAS A GREAT MOM!!!!!!

sorry to shout, just wanted you to know :-)

[Guest guest]

> She is not a bad child. She is a hurt and

> confused child who has so many emotions to deal with and isnt'

sure

> how to.

>

>

Lori, just hug your child,

Give her lots and lots of cuddles.

If need be, even let her sleep with you tonight.

Tell her it's a special treat.

That should calm both of you down.

My children were allowed to sleep with me ( they used to take it in

turns) when DH was away on business.

They used to be on their best behaviour in case I withdrew that

treat.

Try , and I know it's hard, not to let her see you stressed.

Chin up

Tania

Australia

[Guest guest]

Lori,

I have to say that I also think your next step would be to talk to her therapist about it. Her therapist may be able to help your daughter sort out her feelings to find out whether it was a bump or a slap (not to say your daughter is lying). I would call the principal at the school and raise heck for talking to your daughter without you being present. Kids this young can be influenced to say anything to avoid trouble and being called to the principal's office could make a child feel like they were in trouble. Just my 2 cents. Hang in there.

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On Thu, 8 Nov 2001 19:55:32 -0500 "Brook6" writes:

Hang on Lori...take it slow...don't let this overwhelm you.Another idea is to talk to the therapist, and get her advice on dealing withthe teacher/principal. At the VERY least, I would demand a differentteacher.You may also want to talk to the therapist about your stress issues. Shemay have some helpful advice.HJ

[Guest guest]

> I just had to say that....I really didn't want anyone thinking my

> child is mean or malicious.

>

Lori,

Anybody who thinks that a fearful 5-year-old is mean or malicious is

the one with the problem - not you. We know you love her, and that

she is a wonderful little girl who's having a rough time. It's not

hard to understand, given your situation, but it will work out.

Your daughter is a baby, and she's being mistreated by the school.

And I am NOT talking about a single incident - whether or not she was

deliberately slapped, or carelessly shoved into line, or whatever.

She is NOT getting the emotional support and caring that she needs to

cope, and she is entitled to that much.

Do you have a strong-willed friend, neighbor or relative you can get

to help you with this situation ? A meeting with the principal and

the teacher, in the company of a someone who is not emotionally

fragile (as you are right now), might have the best chance of

improving the situation. The therapist will do, if that person is

willing and trustworthy.

Your daughter will be OK, as long as she knows you love her and you

are on her side. You can do this - one baby step at a time.

[Guest guest]

>

Hi Lori,

I am deeply sorry for your child's situation.

I just want to tell you that there are many good and caring teachers

out there.

My daughter, who is relatively young - 27, is one of those.

She has been teaching in London for nearly 2 years.

She teaches littlies.

She had seen the movie To Sir With Love, so when she was posted to

a very low, socio economic area she did not mind.

She thought she could make a difference to the lives of these

children.

Not only did she have to deal with children who were not interested

in learning, she had to play Mother Confessor to the mothers - many

of whom were older than her.

She has heard stories that shock me.

Every one advised her not to teach in that area, but she KNEW BETTER.

Well after 1 term she had to get out.

She now teaches at a small boutique, private school in a very

wealthy area.

She has a great rapport with the children, parents and the rest of

the staff.

Yet some problems are the same.

She told me yesterday about one mother, many years her senior , who

had recently been bashed by her partner. She thought that the child

may have witnessed it, or certainly heard it.

As this child is in another class now. all DD could do was alert his

teacher that there might be some behavioural problems.

As I've said to you before, just show your daughter that you love

her.

I hope it all resolves itself soon.

Hugs

Tania