So I didn't say Hello, now I'm a racist OT

[Guest guest]

I work part-time as a clerk in a convenience store besides working on

the ambulance. This morning at the store, A white man walked in,

then a black man, then another white man. Both white men are regular

customers, the black man I never seen in my life. I said hello to

the first guy, and when the third guy walked in, I said HI HI HI HI

HI, basically to cover everyone who walked in. After the two white

guys checked out and left, the black guy came up to the counter and

began SCREAMING at me about being racist. I tried to talk and he

screamed at me to shut up. I was in tears and shaking, my manager

came up to talk to him. He said, " honestly sir, she's about the

least racist person I know. " He huffed off. I felt so horrible

about the whole thing, and I guess I can sortof understand how he

perceived that to be the case but the more I thought about it, the

madder I got about it too.

We live in a very small town where there aren't a whole lot of

blacks. My black cousins were the first non-whites who lived here.

I've kicked other family and friends out of my home for making racist

comments. I went out of my way to get the manager of the apartments

behind me to do something about the Nazi flag hanging in one of the

tenants apartments. (I lived there and I knew that it was in the

handbook that they couldn't display provocative items). I've spanked

my daughter for calling a black child a N___. I've dated 4 black men

in my life.

It's people who cry racism at every turn for something so menial like

this, that people who really are discriminated against are

disregarded. A similar situation happened to me one other time. My

daughter was 4 and at the grocery store said " mom that woman is

black " . She whipped around and accused me of teaching my daughter to

be a racist!

I am thinking about writing an editorial to the paper, but I don't

know if I should. I found out this guy beats his white wife, and now

I really DON'T want to say hi to him if I ever see him again. Pisses

me off that I have to feel like I gotta bend over backwards to not be

accused of being racist. I also think people should come here

legally or be shipped out...does that make me racist too?

What do you all think?

[Guest guest]

,

I say go for it, write it. I feel a bit bad for the guy that yelled at you.

He must have been through something to cause him to lose it like that, or he was

raised to think all " Whites " are racist.

I don't know my children have never even asked why someone is darker then we

are. To them they are humans.

A little side note story of something that made me cry. Hattie is the

housekeeper at my mother's job. We went to visit one day and walked in

and said Hi and then started asking her questions, How are you? What are you

doing? This is what I did blah blah blah, just what he'd do normally. Hattie,

later told my mother that was a wonderful child and he treated her with

respect and kindness. I cried at hearing this, not because did what comes

natural to him but just thinking what this sweet elderly women must have inured

through her life to have to even say that in the first place

So I didn't say Hello, now I'm a racist OT

I work part-time as a clerk in a convenience store besides working on

the ambulance. This morning at the store, A white man walked in,

then a black man, then another white man. Both white men are regular

customers, the black man I never seen in my life. I said hello to

the first guy, and when the third guy walked in, I said HI HI HI HI

HI, basically to cover everyone who walked in. After the two white

guys checked out and left, the black guy came up to the counter and

began SCREAMING at me about being racist. I tried to talk and he

screamed at me to shut up. I was in tears and shaking, my manager

came up to talk to him. He said, " honestly sir, she's about the

least racist person I know. " He huffed off. I felt so horrible

about the whole thing, and I guess I can sortof understand how he

perceived that to be the case but the more I thought about it, the

madder I got about it too.

We live in a very small town where there aren't a whole lot of

blacks. My black cousins were the first non-whites who lived here.

I've kicked other family and friends out of my home for making racist

comments. I went out of my way to get the manager of the apartments

behind me to do something about the Nazi flag hanging in one of the

tenants apartments. (I lived there and I knew that it was in the

handbook that they couldn't display provocative items). I've spanked

my daughter for calling a black child a N___. I've dated 4 black men

in my life.

It's people who cry racism at every turn for something so menial like

this, that people who really are discriminated against are

disregarded. A similar situation happened to me one other time. My

daughter was 4 and at the grocery store said " mom that woman is

black " . She whipped around and accused me of teaching my daughter to

be a racist!

I am thinking about writing an editorial to the paper, but I don't

know if I should. I found out this guy beats his white wife, and now

I really DON'T want to say hi to him if I ever see him again. Pisses

me off that I have to feel like I gotta bend over backwards to not be

accused of being racist. I also think people should come here

legally or be shipped out...does that make me racist too?

What do you all think?

[Guest guest]

> It's people who cry racism at every turn for something so menial like this,

that people who really are discriminated against are disregarded. <

mike always played the race card with me too. i never understood it.

> My daughter was 4 and at the grocery store said " mom that woman is black " .

She whipped around and accused me of teaching my daughter to be a racist! <

that's not racist. it's fact

> I am thinking about writing an editorial to the paper, but I don't know if I

should. <

what would you say?

> I also think people should come here legally or be shipped out...does that

make me racist too? <

well, no, but that's quite a broad statement. surely you make allowances for

refugees?

" Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr.

[Guest guest]

> Hattie, later told my mother that was a wonderful child and he treated

her with respect and kindness. I cried at hearing this, not because did

what comes natural to him but just thinking what this sweet elderly women must

have inured through her life to have to even say that in the first place

<

aww, that's sweet. that reminds me of when kailey referred to mike's grandfather

as " that black guy " and i told her he had a name. then i asked him his name

(cause i didn't know it) and he told me it was will and she said " hi will! " it's

not that she was being racist, she just didn't know his name and he was calling

him by what she saw. it's like when my sister was little, she and a neighbor boy

were arguing about something and she got so mad at him that she called him a

" zipper head " cause he had on a hooded sweatshirt with a zipper on it

" Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr.

[Guest guest]

> > I am thinking about writing an editorial to the paper, but I

don't know if I should. <

>

> what would you say?

Pretty much what I said in my initial post, minus the part about him

being a wife beater.

>

>

> > I also think people should come here legally or be shipped

out...does that make me racist too? <

>

> well, no, but that's quite a broad statement. surely you make

allowances for refugees?

Oh absolutely, I believe that if anyone wants to come here, fine,

just do the paperwork, live by the laws, pay taxes and be legal.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I think the guy totally over-reacted...and if he beats his wife, well, then

he obviously has problems.

Thats' what I think.

Penny

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What do you all think?

[Guest guest]

>> I think the guy totally over-reacted...and if he beats his wife, well,

then

he obviously has problems.

Thats' what I think. <<

Me too. People can be really stupid. (Regardless of what color they are.)

-Sara.

[Guest guest]

Reminds me of something that happened to me several

years ago.

I was working as a librarian in a small branch

library. About 50% of the population here is Native.

It was 15 minutes to closing time when a group of 12

or so people walk in and arrange themselves at one of

the large tables. Because there was so many and it was

so close to closing, I went over and told them that

we'd be closing soon, to give them enough time to get

their books or whatever. Well, the whole group got up

and left. Then one of them came back and started

yelling at me for throwing them out! He said that

obviously I hated Native people and I must think they

are stupid for not knowing when the library closed. He

ranted for 15 minutes and the stalked out. Another

patron came up and told me she had seen the whole

thing and left her name and number in case I needed to

talk to her later. I was so upset. It's normal

prodecure to announce closing time, here I thought I

was being nice for going over and talking to them

personally. I called my boss the next day to tell her

what had happened. She said the patron who had been

there had already called her and told her what had

happened. My boss said I had acted correctly, but the

whole thing bothered me for a long time.

Sorry this happened to you,

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After the two white guys checked out and left, the

black guy came up to the counter and began SCREAMING

at me about being racist. I tried to talk and he

screamed at me to shut up. I was in tears and

shaking, my manager came up to talk to him. He said,

" honestly sir, she's about the least racist person I

know. " He huffed off. I felt so horrible about the

whole thing, and I guess I can sortof understand how

he perceived that to be the case but the more I

thought about it, the madder I got about it too.

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

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You can learn many things from children.

How much patience you have, for instance.

- lin P.

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[Guest guest]

I was married to a black man and my daughter is biracial and I have

had this happen to me. I had to ask some very roudy teenagers to

leave when I worked as a manager at a 's years ago. They went

way off on me saying that I was a racist b**ch, etc, etc, etc. It is

obvious that a small minority of the minorities use racism as an

excuse to act however they want to. They use it to justify their

actions and their failures.

I am happy to say though, that it is a minority. Just like there is

a minority of white people who feel that it is because of the

minorities that they are failures. There are just some people who

cannot take responsability for their own actions, they must find some

thing to blame.

It is upsetting. Just try to put it into perspective. Is this man

worth your upset? Is he worth you feeling anger? He is not worth

the time it takes to think about him.

Take care of yourself.

Tamara

> Reminds me of something that happened to me several

> years ago.

>

> I was working as a librarian in a small branch

> library. About 50% of the population here is Native.

> It was 15 minutes to closing time when a group of 12

> or so people walk in and arrange themselves at one of

> the large tables. Because there was so many and it was

> so close to closing, I went over and told them that

> we'd be closing soon, to give them enough time to get

> their books or whatever. Well, the whole group got up

> and left. Then one of them came back and started

> yelling at me for throwing them out! He said that

> obviously I hated Native people and I must think they

> are stupid for not knowing when the library closed. He

> ranted for 15 minutes and the stalked out. Another

> patron came up and told me she had seen the whole

> thing and left her name and number in case I needed to

> talk to her later. I was so upset. It's normal

> prodecure to announce closing time, here I thought I

> was being nice for going over and talking to them

> personally. I called my boss the next day to tell her

> what had happened. She said the patron who had been

> there had already called her and told her what had

> happened. My boss said I had acted correctly, but the

> whole thing bothered me for a long time.

>

>

> Sorry this happened to you,

>

> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

> After the two white guys checked out and left, the

> black guy came up to the counter and began SCREAMING

> at me about being racist. I tried to talk and he

> screamed at me to shut up. I was in tears and

> shaking, my manager came up to talk to him. He said,

> " honestly sir, she's about the least racist person I

> know. " He huffed off. I felt so horrible about the

> whole thing, and I guess I can sortof understand how

> he perceived that to be the case but the more I

> thought about it, the madder I got about it too.

> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

>

>

>

>

> =====

> You can learn many things from children.

> How much patience you have, for instance.

>

> - lin P.

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Thanks for everyone who responded and shared their own stories. The

more information I found out about this guy, the more I'm mad. He

came back to the store tonight, and the girl working there knew him

personally from working with him at a previous job. She said he is

horribly mean and was fired for an outburst of rage at work. Now

he's also a liar, because he told her that he never said he was upset

about racism, he said he was upset that he didn't get a greeting.

As my daughter would say " what ever!!! " (holding my fingers in the W

shape). I wish our cameras had sound.

> Reminds me of something that happened to me several

> years ago.

>

> I was working as a librarian in a small branch

> library. About 50% of the population here is Native.

> It was 15 minutes to closing time when a group of 12

> or so people walk in and arrange themselves at one of

> the large tables. Because there was so many and it was

> so close to closing, I went over and told them that

> we'd be closing soon, to give them enough time to get

> their books or whatever. Well, the whole group got up

> and left. Then one of them came back and started

> yelling at me for throwing them out! He said that

> obviously I hated Native people and I must think they

> are stupid for not knowing when the library closed. He

> ranted for 15 minutes and the stalked out. Another

> patron came up and told me she had seen the whole

> thing and left her name and number in case I needed to

> talk to her later. I was so upset. It's normal

> prodecure to announce closing time, here I thought I

> was being nice for going over and talking to them

> personally. I called my boss the next day to tell her

> what had happened. She said the patron who had been

> there had already called her and told her what had

> happened. My boss said I had acted correctly, but the

> whole thing bothered me for a long time.

>

>

> Sorry this happened to you,

>

> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

> After the two white guys checked out and left, the

> black guy came up to the counter and began SCREAMING

> at me about being racist. I tried to talk and he

> screamed at me to shut up. I was in tears and

> shaking, my manager came up to talk to him. He said,

> " honestly sir, she's about the least racist person I

> know. " He huffed off. I felt so horrible about the

> whole thing, and I guess I can sortof understand how

> he perceived that to be the case but the more I

> thought about it, the madder I got about it too.

> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

>

>

>

>

> =====

> You can learn many things from children.

> How much patience you have, for instance.

>

> - lin P.

>

>

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[Guest guest]

He sounds like a jerk who happens to be black.

If he didn't have his color to browbeat the world with, he'd think of

something else.

Sissi

[Guest guest]

Poor ! Sorry about the whole upsetting event. Years ago, when I

lived in the Bronx, Enrique (aged six) managed to insult my landlady by

singing that silly Happy Birthday version that says " Happy Birthday to you,

you belong in a zoo, you look like a monkey and you smell like one too. "

Granted it was not a tactful thing to sing, I guess, although I had grown up

with it as a piece of kid nonsense, but she was Jamaican and had apparently

never heard this stuff at all. She chose to think we were being racist.

I do think that people should avoid being insulted by small children.

Particularly small AS children, but we didn't know that then.

Sorry the guy was so awful. My landlady was really nice normally. Must

have been a bad day for her. Sounds as if this guy is always having a bad

day.

Salli