Guest guest Posted August 28, 2001 Report Share Posted August 28, 2001 I have a personal question to all that have children with CF. How many single parents are there? My husband just left us because he said that their was to much stress and responsibility that comes with having children but especially having a CF child. I was just wondering how the single parents get everything done and stay sane. I quit school and am working full time but with meds and cpt I feel like there is no time for anything. I haven't worked for over two years, I have been attending school. Also, does anyone put their children in daycare? Sorry for any inconvience but any answers or suggestions would be really appreciated. mama to Hannah 3 1/2 and h 18 months w/CF Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2001 Report Share Posted August 28, 2001 Great post! Thank you so much! Love, n wcf, mom of 3 adults, the youngest wcf; I am widowed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2001 Report Share Posted August 28, 2001 , You are probably better off if anyone can just walk away from there own child doesn't deserve to be call Dad. I'm sorry but that's CRAP! Everyone has stress in there lives with or without sick kids if he could handle it he wasn't much of a man. I think most of the things that have to be done for a child with CF is done by the mother. So what stress did he have? I at met things were really stressful that first year we found out but once we got into a regular routine of doing treatments and going to the doctor you get use to doing the things you have to do and its just routine. Deb mom of w/CF, Lynzie wo/CF and Natalynn w/CF Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2001 Report Share Posted August 28, 2001 Hi , can't say much about your runaway husband :-(( Hope he realizes what he's giving up and you can get together again. We had a rough time with our marriage too, but finally found out that there's nothing like happy family life. We spent the day at the zoo and Fiona had such a ball! Is your husband really going to skip all of this? And of course I have no idea how the single parents manage everything, we have our hands full with just one kid. Bye Torsten, dad of Fiona 4wcf e-mail: aberdeen95@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2001 Report Share Posted August 28, 2001 , I find that after becoming a single mom - I take things in stride more. Day to day is a lot better than worrying about what is (or is not) going to happen a month from now. After being on my own (a year now) I don't stress out 'as' much because my focus is directly on her - not a failing relationship/marriage. Not to dog men (still love'em!) - there is to much proof on this list that there are exceptional fathers...unfortunately, 's father didn't fall into that category and I feel sorry for him because of it. He doesn't get to see the day to day miracles of . It's sad to think of the regret he may/may not feel when in about 20 years when she doesn't have much to do with him. It is his loss, but I still get angry that my child is being cheated by not having a father present when she wakes up and goes to sleep. As for responsibility - sometimes people want to skim on to first base before they step up to the plate. I know folks that love 'babies' and can't stand 'kids'...I want to scream, " Sorry 'bout your luck, but you took on the *responsibility* of a LIFE, which may or may not be perfect...get over it and go on! " Life doesn't stop just because of CF or any other disease or disability. I work full-time for a health insurance company, goes to a baby-sitter that is about 5 minutes from my work. She is around other children and thrives from it. In fact, as far a colds and snotty noses go, she is one of the healthiest children there. As far as being sane...I think I am...but there are those who would debate me. If you want to talk some more, please do so. Take care! , Momma to (3 yow/cf) tjhtriggs@... on 08/28/2001 02:24:57 PM Please respond to cfparents To: cfparents cc: Subject: Re: Family Question I have a personal question to all that have children with CF. How many single parents are there? My husband just left us because he said that their was to much stress and responsibility that comes with having children but especially having a CF child. I was just wondering how the single parents get everything done and stay sane. I quit school and am working full time but with meds and cpt I feel like there is no time for anything. I haven't worked for over two years, I have been attending school. Also, does anyone put their children in daycare? Sorry for any inconvience but any answers or suggestions would be really appreciated. mama to Hannah 3 1/2 and h 18 months w/CF Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2001 Report Share Posted August 28, 2001 My heart goes out to you. It must be very scary for you right now. Have you considered finding someone to watch your son in their home, rather than in a typical day care enviroment? There would be less children, and the care provider would be able to notify you immediately of any other sick childen that may be at her home. You may even be able to find someone that does not have school aged children that would be bringing home other germs. Hang in there and try to be strong for your children. I know that it's difficult to keep up with all of your responsibilites right now, but once you get a routine going, things will seem more normal to you and everything will fall into place. Your children are very lucky to have you to care and provide for them. It's unfortunate that your husband doesn't feel he can handle CF. These are precious children that have more love to give than we can imagine. They are very strong and we can learn from them. If they can handle it, so can we! Re: Family Question I have a personal question to all that have children with CF. How many single parents are there? My husband just left us because he said that their was to much stress and responsibility that comes with having children but especially having a CF child. I was just wondering how the single parents get everything done and stay sane. I quit school and am working full time but with meds and cpt I feel like there is no time for anything. I haven't worked for over two years, I have been attending school. Also, does anyone put their children in daycare? Sorry for any inconvience but any answers or suggestions would be really appreciated. mama to Hannah 3 1/2 and h 18 months w/CF Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2001 Report Share Posted August 28, 2001 - sorry for the blank mail. I am not single but I have a good friend who is that may be of help to you. She has two teens with C.F. She is a very optimistic person and an inspiration to me. Let me know if you would like her e-mail address. I'm sure she'd be happy to talk with you. I'm sorry that you and your family are struggling so much right now. I hope things look up soon. Carey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 29, 2001 Report Share Posted August 29, 2001 , Im not single so cant comment. The only thing I wanted to say is that when Eilish was dx 4years ago on 8/9/97( I'll never forget that date) the social worker mentioned that 80% of cfers have split families due to the stress, so I think there is alot out there. Having one good parent is better than two fighting ones! Re: Family Question > I have a personal question to all that have children with CF. How many > single parents are there? My husband just left us because he said that their > was to much stress and responsibility that comes with having children but > especially having a CF child. I was just wondering how the single parents > get everything done and stay sane. I quit school and am working full time > but with meds and cpt I feel like there is no time for anything. I haven't > worked for over two years, I have been attending school. Also, does anyone > put their children in daycare? Sorry for any inconvience but any answers or > suggestions would be really appreciated. > > mama to Hannah 3 1/2 and h 18 months w/CF > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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