Guest guest Posted February 9, 2003 Report Share Posted February 9, 2003 >these things i could handle. i would not expect my children - especially rowan, to do so. That would be my MAIN area of concern. How would handle someone coming into the home with a LOT of issues and needs right off the bat. I'm not sure he could handle sharing my attention to the extent that would be necessary, and I don't want to take anything away that he needs. > on the other hand, it may be wonderful for you. eric is quite high functioning and has a level of independence that means you would have additional time to devote to another child. i know eric craves a sibling. i know that it would dangerous for you to provide him with one in the conventional way. i know this little girl would certainly be lucky to have you for a mum! > Aw, thanks! And DOES crave a sibling -- but I don't know how he'd feel about a grown one just coming and taking up residence. Especially one with so many needs. > i would definitely suggest you try fostering and see how that fits with your family. that would be a good way of " sampling adoption " without the permanent no turning back factor. just my humble opinion. > That's a good idea, . I've turned down the whole idea of fostering before, because I didn't think I could handle giving the children back...but I think if I wanted to actually adopt, I'd better foster first. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2003 Report Share Posted February 9, 2003 > I don't think I've answered your question. > > Tuna No, but you've summed up my own thoughts beautifully! :-) Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2003 Report Share Posted February 9, 2003 > Regardless of the decision you make, I hope you will pat yourself on the > back and feel good about just entertaining the idea of adopting a special > needs child. I think that is an extraordinary thing to do. You must have > an enormous heart. Me? Oh, no. Believe me, my reasons are completely selfish. I've always wanted more than one child. Birth is no longer a reasonable option. Babies cost too much to adopt -- and I'm not willing to go down the no-sleep-smelling-like-puke route again. Once was enough for me, thanks. (turns out I don't like babies all that much, LOL) I KNOW autism. I know I can DO autism. So adopting an autistic kid, or kid with autistic-like behaviours, is logically the best thing to do! It's nice of you to think of me as altruistic and wonderful, but I have to disabuse you of that one. :-) Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 11, 2003 Report Share Posted February 11, 2003 Thanks, everybody, for anwering this hypothetical question and giving me so many things to think about -- important things, things I'd missed or wouldn't have thought of! Marc discovered I'd been thinking about this again, and we sat and talked about it and agreed that until he finds a new job and we move the hell away from this village, we should just put the adoption/fostering issue on a back burner. No fair bringing an ASD kid into a new environment, new school, new everything -- and then MOVING and forcing them to go through it all over again! So now I have lots of time to mull over all the wonderful points you guys brought up before I'm even in a position to make a decision -- it worked out wonderfully. Thanks so much! Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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