Guest guest Posted August 15, 2003 Report Share Posted August 15, 2003 Ladies, I went for my visit to my OB?GYN yesterday and he informed me that the rep at my insurance company mislead me, my insurance will NOT cover the reversal, I am SOO upset, I cried all afternoon, we want this so bad, now I am finding myself doing some serious soul searching because my neice ( the irresponsible one that had the preemie) well, she is not sure if she wants to keep Chelsea, I have had her here for days now and she has been such a blessing to us, my fiancee and I have offeredto adopt her, but her mom isnt sure if she wants to keep her or not. This baby was in Childrens Hospital for 2 weeks by herself before her mom even went up to see her!! I just cant imagine what she went through, and was all alone with no one to comfort her!! She is soo precious and tiny, 4lbs. 12oz now 25 days old and since hse came home on the 8th she has spent most of her time here. I am wondering, would it be the right thing to abandon the reversal idea, and just adopt this baby if her mom will allow it, her answer right now is " my b/f (not the babies father) loves her " NOT " I love her " hse really doesnt seem to miss her at all, stops down long enough to bring diapers, would this be the right way to have a baby, what if she changes her mind 2 years down the road? I would not be able to stand the heartache!! Or do I just chug along trying to save up money for a TR or do both?? Any advice here would be GREATLY appreciated. BTW my fiancee doesnt have any biological children of his own and I would love for us to be able to have one otgether, but he says if we adopt Chelsea then I didnt have to go through the pain!! We also dont know if we should keep her name the same, and just change the last name to , or give her a whole new name Ladies??? Her name now is Chelsea Any advice is appreciated!! Sorry so long!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2003 Report Share Posted August 15, 2003 Terri, Who is your insurance company? The reason I am asking is that we have bc/bs and when we first began this quest, we called the insurance company and they told us that it was covered so we started all the testing and ended up scheduling surgery. When the Dr.'s office called for an authorization code, they were told that we weren't covered. I was devastated to say the least!! I called the ins co. to find out why we were misled and was assured that we were covered. So I called the Dr.'s office back and told them who I spoke to and to call back. Well they did and of course couldn't talk to the same person, but were told that we were not covered. Well to make a long story short, after a few days of going back and forth, we were covered and they finally gave an authorization code to the quack.(That is another story in itself) I think it was someone's way of telling us that we needed to seek out a professional Dr. in this field, but when we were so stubborn, we got to find out for ourselves. Call the insurance company yourself and find out what they tell you. Don't just take the Dr.'s office word for it. Good luck. SOOOO Disappointed!! Ladies, I went for my visit to my OB?GYN yesterday and he informed me that the rep at my insurance company mislead me, my insurance will NOT cover the reversal, I am SOO upset, I cried all afternoon, we want this so bad, now I am finding myself doing some serious soul searching because my neice ( the irresponsible one that had the preemie) well, she is not sure if she wants to keep Chelsea, I have had her here for days now and she has been such a blessing to us, my fiancee and I have offeredto adopt her, but her mom isnt sure if she wants to keep her or not. This baby was in Childrens Hospital for 2 weeks by herself before her mom even went up to see her!! I just cant imagine what she went through, and was all alone with no one to comfort her!! She is soo precious and tiny, 4lbs. 12oz now 25 days old and since hse came home on the 8th she has spent most of her time here. I am wondering, would it be the right thing to abandon the reversal idea, and just adopt this baby if her mom will allow it, her answer right now is " my b/f (not the babies father) loves her " NOT " I love her " hse really doesnt seem to miss her at all, stops down long enough to bring diapers, would this be the right way to have a baby, what if she changes her mind 2 years down the road? I would not be able to stand the heartache!! Or do I just chug along trying to save up money for a TR or do both?? Any advice here would be GREATLY appreciated. BTW my fiancee doesnt have any biological children of his own and I would love for us to be able to have one otgether, but he says if we adopt Chelsea then I didnt have to go through the pain!! We also dont know if we should keep her name the same, and just change the last name to , or give her a whole new name Ladies??? Her name now is Chelsea Any advice is appreciated!! Sorry so long!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2003 Report Share Posted August 15, 2003 I agree with . Go for both. Because are you REALLY concerned about the pain of surgery anyway? Although you love this baby and want to treat her as your own, will that take care of your wanting to have a baby? Many women here are on the payment plan, but DO find out for sure if the insurance covers it. i had my insurance rep that told me it was covered email me verification to show the doc. Dena > Ladies, > I went for my visit to my OB?GYN yesterday and he informed me that the > rep at my insurance company mislead me, my insurance will NOT cover > the reversal, I am SOO upset, I cried all afternoon, we want this so > bad, now I am finding myself doing some serious soul searching because > my neice ( the irresponsible one that had the preemie) well, she is > not sure if she wants to keep Chelsea, I have had her here for days > now and she has been such a blessing to us, my fiancee and I have > offeredto adopt her, but her mom isnt sure if she wants to keep her or > not. This baby was in Childrens Hospital for 2 weeks by herself before > her mom even went up to see her!! I just cant imagine what she went > through, and was all alone with no one to comfort her!! She is soo > precious and tiny, 4lbs. 12oz now 25 days old and since hse came home > on the 8th she has spent most of her time here. I am wondering, would > it be the right thing to abandon the reversal idea, and just adopt > this baby if her mom will allow it, her answer right now is " my b/f > (not the babies father) loves her " NOT " I love her " hse really doesnt > seem to miss her at all, stops down long enough to bring diapers, > would this be the right way to have a baby, what if she changes her > mind 2 years down the road? I would not be able to stand the > heartache!! Or do I just chug along trying to save up money for a TR > or do both?? Any advice here would be GREATLY appreciated. BTW my > fiancee doesnt have any biological children of his own and I would > love for us to be able to have one otgether, but he says if we adopt > Chelsea then I didnt have to go through the pain!! We also dont know > if we should keep her name the same, and just change the last name to > , or give her a whole new name Ladies??? Her name now is Chelsea > Any advice is appreciated!! Sorry so long!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2003 Report Share Posted August 15, 2003 Terri: Don't give up. God can open door and bless you with a way to get the finances to pay for the surgery. Also, trust Him in making your decision to adopt Chelsea. He can give you enough love in your heart for Chelsea and many other children. Everything will work out - just give it to the Lord! -- > Ladies, > I went for my visit to my OB?GYN yesterday and he informed me that the > rep at my insurance company mislead me, my insurance will NOT cover > the reversal, I am SOO upset, I cried all afternoon, we want this so > bad, now I am finding myself doing some serious soul searching because > my neice ( the irresponsible one that had the preemie) well, she is > not sure if she wants to keep Chelsea, I have had her here for days > now and she has been such a blessing to us, my fiancee and I have > offeredto adopt her, but her mom isnt sure if she wants to keep her or > not. This baby was in Childrens Hospital for 2 weeks by herself before > her mom even went up to see her!! I just cant imagine what she went > through, and was all alone with no one to comfort her!! She is soo > precious and tiny, 4lbs. 12oz now 25 days old and since hse came home > on the 8th she has spent most of her time here. I am wondering, would > it be the right thing to abandon the reversal idea, and just adopt > this baby if her mom will allow it, her answer right now is " my b/f > (not the babies father) loves her " NOT " I love her " hse really doesnt > seem to miss her at all, stops down long enough to bring diapers, > would this be the right way to have a baby, what if she changes her > mind 2 years down the road? I would not be able to stand the > heartache!! Or do I just chug along trying to save up money for a TR > or do both?? Any advice here would be GREATLY appreciated. BTW my > fiancee doesnt have any biological children of his own and I would > love for us to be able to have one otgether, but he says if we adopt > Chelsea then I didnt have to go through the pain!! We also dont know > if we should keep her name the same, and just change the last name to > , or give her a whole new name Ladies??? Her name now is Chelsea > Any advice is appreciated!! Sorry so long!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2003 Report Share Posted August 15, 2003 : You say you had BC/BS? I have them too! I wonder it my policy would cover this, I just assumed it didn't so I did not bother checking. Maybe I should look into this? All they can do is say no, right? Did you have your TR done? Was it by Dr. Levin? -- > Terri, > Who is your insurance company? The reason I am asking is that we have bc/bs and when we first began this quest, we called the insurance company and they told us that it was covered so we started all the testing and ended up scheduling surgery. When the Dr.'s office called for an authorization code, they were told that we weren't covered. I was devastated to say the least!! I called the ins co. to find out why we were misled and was assured that we were covered. So I called the Dr.'s office back and told them who I spoke to and to call back. Well they did and of course couldn't talk to the same person, but were told that we were not covered. Well to make a long story short, after a few days of going back and forth, we were covered and they finally gave an authorization code to the quack. (That is another story in itself) I think it was someone's way of telling us that we needed to seek out a professional Dr. in this field, but when we were so stubborn, we got to find out for ourselves. Call the insurance company yourself and find out what they tell you. Don't just take the Dr.'s office word for it. Good luck. > SOOOO Disappointed!! > > > Ladies, > I went for my visit to my OB?GYN yesterday and he informed me that the > rep at my insurance company mislead me, my insurance will NOT cover > the reversal, I am SOO upset, I cried all afternoon, we want this so > bad, now I am finding myself doing some serious soul searching because > my neice ( the irresponsible one that had the preemie) well, she is > not sure if she wants to keep Chelsea, I have had her here for days > now and she has been such a blessing to us, my fiancee and I have > offeredto adopt her, but her mom isnt sure if she wants to keep her or > not. This baby was in Childrens Hospital for 2 weeks by herself before > her mom even went up to see her!! I just cant imagine what she went > through, and was all alone with no one to comfort her!! She is soo > precious and tiny, 4lbs. 12oz now 25 days old and since hse came home > on the 8th she has spent most of her time here. I am wondering, would > it be the right thing to abandon the reversal idea, and just adopt > this baby if her mom will allow it, her answer right now is " my b/f > (not the babies father) loves her " NOT " I love her " hse really doesnt > seem to miss her at all, stops down long enough to bring diapers, > would this be the right way to have a baby, what if she changes her > mind 2 years down the road? I would not be able to stand the > heartache!! Or do I just chug along trying to save up money for a TR > or do both?? Any advice here would be GREATLY appreciated. BTW my > fiancee doesnt have any biological children of his own and I would > love for us to be able to have one otgether, but he says if we adopt > Chelsea then I didnt have to go through the pain!! We also dont know > if we should keep her name the same, and just change the last name to > , or give her a whole new name Ladies??? Her name now is Chelsea > Any advice is appreciated!! Sorry so long!! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2003 Report Share Posted August 15, 2003 First thing, if you adopt her legally, mom can't change her mind in 2 years but she could make your lives tough. We were supposed to adopt our niece's baby a few years ago and she changed her mind last minute(very hard emotionally and we had already had quite a bit of money into it.. not that that mattered). But now that we look back, I really think it would have been hard because we believe that our niece and her mom would have been trying to undermine us all the time. However, it doesn't sound like she is interested anyway. Personally, if you do adopt her, I would change her last name just so mom has less claim to her. JMHO. Who knows, you may decide to adopt her and in a few years, have the TR and have another one anyway. Good Luck in whatever you decide! SOOOO Disappointed!! Ladies, I went for my visit to my OB?GYN yesterday and he informed me that the rep at my insurance company mislead me, my insurance will NOT cover the reversal, I am SOO upset, I cried all afternoon, we want this so bad, now I am finding myself doing some serious soul searching because my neice ( the irresponsible one that had the preemie) well, she is not sure if she wants to keep Chelsea, I have had her here for days now and she has been such a blessing to us, my fiancee and I have offeredto adopt her, but her mom isnt sure if she wants to keep her or not. This baby was in Childrens Hospital for 2 weeks by herself before her mom even went up to see her!! I just cant imagine what she went through, and was all alone with no one to comfort her!! She is soo precious and tiny, 4lbs. 12oz now 25 days old and since hse came home on the 8th she has spent most of her time here. I am wondering, would it be the right thing to abandon the reversal idea, and just adopt this baby if her mom will allow it, her answer right now is " my b/f (not the babies father) loves her " NOT " I love her " hse really doesnt seem to miss her at all, stops down long enough to bring diapers, would this be the right way to have a baby, what if she changes her mind 2 years down the road? I would not be able to stand the heartache!! Or do I just chug along trying to save up money for a TR or do both?? Any advice here would be GREATLY appreciated. BTW my fiancee doesnt have any biological children of his own and I would love for us to be able to have one otgether, but he says if we adopt Chelsea then I didnt have to go through the pain!! We also dont know if we should keep her name the same, and just change the last name to , or give her a whole new name Ladies??? Her name now is Chelsea Any advice is appreciated!! Sorry so long!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2003 Report Share Posted August 15, 2003 Terri, Hi. Sorry to hear about the insurance. Adoption can be great. I am adopted. I also had an Aunt & Uncle who adopted a boy who would have other wise been their Nephew. I think you & your husband really need to think about how it could be if you adopt within your own family as I'm sure you probably have. I think it is wonderful that you can love this baby and give her what she deserves. Would it be an open adoption where the baby will grow to know the birth mother? Being adopted myself I think the most important thing is for this child to not be put in the middle where she would feel guilty for the love she will hold for you guys or the birth mom if in touch with her or even if it comes much later in her life. This could be especially hard for the birth mom as if she shows jelousy it would effect the child. On the same hand if it worked out well an open adoption can prevent alot of things I went through having my birth parents in the picture when I turned 18. My birth mom understandably had all this love for me she never lost yet for me she was still a stranger and I felt a lil' guilty to not share the same feelings. I think had I known her a had a relationship with her it would have all been different as far as that goes. I guess there's just alot to think about and one never knows. I have always thought I want to adopt someday and it's funny because I looked up an adoption site just a week ago - soon after my TR. Best of luck.--- Macky TubalLigationReversal , " Terri Marvin (Cline) " <terr_bear2003@y...> wrote: > Ladies, > I went for my visit to my OB?GYN yesterday and he informed me that the > rep at my insurance company mislead me, my insurance will NOT cover > the reversal, I am SOO upset, I cried all afternoon, we want this so > bad, now I am finding myself doing some serious soul searching because > my neice ( the irresponsible one that had the preemie) well, she is > not sure if she wants to keep Chelsea, I have had her here for days > now and she has been such a blessing to us, my fiancee and I have > offeredto adopt her, but her mom isnt sure if she wants to keep her or > not. This baby was in Childrens Hospital for 2 weeks by herself before > her mom even went up to see her!! I just cant imagine what she went > through, and was all alone with no one to comfort her!! She is soo > precious and tiny, 4lbs. 12oz now 25 days old and since hse came home > on the 8th she has spent most of her time here. I am wondering, would > it be the right thing to abandon the reversal idea, and just adopt > this baby if her mom will allow it, her answer right now is " my b/f > (not the babies father) loves her " NOT " I love her " hse really doesnt > seem to miss her at all, stops down long enough to bring diapers, > would this be the right way to have a baby, what if she changes her > mind 2 years down the road? I would not be able to stand the > heartache!! Or do I just chug along trying to save up money for a TR > or do both?? Any advice here would be GREATLY appreciated. BTW my > fiancee doesnt have any biological children of his own and I would > love for us to be able to have one otgether, but he says if we adopt > Chelsea then I didnt have to go through the pain!! We also dont know > if we should keep her name the same, and just change the last name to > , or give her a whole new name Ladies??? Her name now is Chelsea > Any advice is appreciated!! Sorry so long!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2003 Report Share Posted August 15, 2003 Yes!!! You should always check! I think a lot of people that have bc/bs are covered for the tr. The procedure code is 58750. All you have to do is call them and ask them if you are covered. I was going to a Dr. who didn't really care to do the tr for me for whatever reason, but he was certainly ready to take the insurance company's money. So far the bill has cost them $20,000.00!!!! I ended up having the tr by Dr. Levin which meant that I had to pay for it up front and submit the receipt, but that was ok. The Dr. I had gone to in the first place only did a Laparoscopy and told me that I didn't have any tubes!!! He said that they were cut off at the fimbria. I knew that nothing was removed because I had rings!! Dr. Levin did a wonderful job!! SOOOO Disappointed!! > > > Ladies, > I went for my visit to my OB?GYN yesterday and he informed me that the > rep at my insurance company mislead me, my insurance will NOT cover > the reversal, I am SOO upset, I cried all afternoon, we want this so > bad, now I am finding myself doing some serious soul searching because > my neice ( the irresponsible one that had the preemie) well, she is > not sure if she wants to keep Chelsea, I have had her here for days > now and she has been such a blessing to us, my fiancee and I have > offeredto adopt her, but her mom isnt sure if she wants to keep her or > not. This baby was in Childrens Hospital for 2 weeks by herself before > her mom even went up to see her!! I just cant imagine what she went > through, and was all alone with no one to comfort her!! She is soo > precious and tiny, 4lbs. 12oz now 25 days old and since hse came home > on the 8th she has spent most of her time here. I am wondering, would > it be the right thing to abandon the reversal idea, and just adopt > this baby if her mom will allow it, her answer right now is " my b/f > (not the babies father) loves her " NOT " I love her " hse really doesnt > seem to miss her at all, stops down long enough to bring diapers, > would this be the right way to have a baby, what if she changes her > mind 2 years down the road? I would not be able to stand the > heartache!! Or do I just chug along trying to save up money for a TR > or do both?? Any advice here would be GREATLY appreciated. BTW my > fiancee doesnt have any biological children of his own and I would > love for us to be able to have one otgether, but he says if we adopt > Chelsea then I didnt have to go through the pain!! We also dont know > if we should keep her name the same, and just change the last name to > , or give her a whole new name Ladies??? Her name now is Chelsea > Any advice is appreciated!! Sorry so long!! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2003 Report Share Posted August 15, 2003 : Thank you!! This information is very helpful and even if I have to pay for it up front and get reimbursed that will work too! I'll try it, I have nothing to loose. Either way, we are gonna have it done. -- > > Terri, > > Who is your insurance company? The reason I am asking is that > we have bc/bs and when we first began this quest, we called the > insurance company and they told us that it was covered so we started > all the testing and ended up scheduling surgery. When the Dr.'s > office called for an authorization code, they were told that we > weren't covered. I was devastated to say the least!! I called the > ins co. to find out why we were misled and was assured that we were > covered. So I called the Dr.'s office back and told them who I spoke > to and to call back. Well they did and of course couldn't talk to > the same person, but were told that we were not covered. Well to > make a long story short, after a few days of going back and forth, we > were covered and they finally gave an authorization code to the quack. > (That is another story in itself) I think it was someone's way of > telling us that we needed to seek out a professional Dr. in this > field, but when we were so stubborn, we got to find out for > ourselves. Call the insurance company yourself and find out what > they tell you. Don't just take the Dr.'s office word for it. Good > luck. > > SOOOO Disappointed!! > > > > > > Ladies, > > I went for my visit to my OB?GYN yesterday and he informed me > that the > > rep at my insurance company mislead me, my insurance will NOT > cover > > the reversal, I am SOO upset, I cried all afternoon, we want this > so > > bad, now I am finding myself doing some serious soul searching > because > > my neice ( the irresponsible one that had the preemie) well, she > is > > not sure if she wants to keep Chelsea, I have had her here for > days > > now and she has been such a blessing to us, my fiancee and I have > > offeredto adopt her, but her mom isnt sure if she wants to keep > her or > > not. This baby was in Childrens Hospital for 2 weeks by herself > before > > her mom even went up to see her!! I just cant imagine what she > went > > through, and was all alone with no one to comfort her!! She is soo > > precious and tiny, 4lbs. 12oz now 25 days old and since hse came > home > > on the 8th she has spent most of her time here. I am wondering, > would > > it be the right thing to abandon the reversal idea, and just > adopt > > this baby if her mom will allow it, her answer right now is " my > b/f > > (not the babies father) loves her " NOT " I love her " hse really > doesnt > > seem to miss her at all, stops down long enough to bring diapers, > > would this be the right way to have a baby, what if she changes > her > > mind 2 years down the road? I would not be able to stand the > > heartache!! Or do I just chug along trying to save up money for a > TR > > or do both?? Any advice here would be GREATLY appreciated. BTW my > > fiancee doesnt have any biological children of his own and I would > > love for us to be able to have one otgether, but he says if we > adopt > > Chelsea then I didnt have to go through the pain!! We also dont > know > > if we should keep her name the same, and just change the last > name to > > , or give her a whole new name Ladies??? Her name now is > Chelsea > > Any advice is appreciated!! Sorry so long!! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2003 Report Share Posted August 15, 2003 Well ....I tried. It is not covered. Oh well, back to plan A!! Thanks anyway!!! -- > > Terri, > > Who is your insurance company? The reason I am asking is that > we have bc/bs and when we first began this quest, we called the > insurance company and they told us that it was covered so we started > all the testing and ended up scheduling surgery. When the Dr.'s > office called for an authorization code, they were told that we > weren't covered. I was devastated to say the least!! I called the > ins co. to find out why we were misled and was assured that we were > covered. So I called the Dr.'s office back and told them who I spoke > to and to call back. Well they did and of course couldn't talk to > the same person, but were told that we were not covered. Well to > make a long story short, after a few days of going back and forth, we > were covered and they finally gave an authorization code to the quack. > (That is another story in itself) I think it was someone's way of > telling us that we needed to seek out a professional Dr. in this > field, but when we were so stubborn, we got to find out for > ourselves. Call the insurance company yourself and find out what > they tell you. Don't just take the Dr.'s office word for it. Good > luck. > > SOOOO Disappointed!! > > > > > > Ladies, > > I went for my visit to my OB?GYN yesterday and he informed me > that the > > rep at my insurance company mislead me, my insurance will NOT > cover > > the reversal, I am SOO upset, I cried all afternoon, we want this > so > > bad, now I am finding myself doing some serious soul searching > because > > my neice ( the irresponsible one that had the preemie) well, she > is > > not sure if she wants to keep Chelsea, I have had her here for > days > > now and she has been such a blessing to us, my fiancee and I have > > offeredto adopt her, but her mom isnt sure if she wants to keep > her or > > not. This baby was in Childrens Hospital for 2 weeks by herself > before > > her mom even went up to see her!! I just cant imagine what she > went > > through, and was all alone with no one to comfort her!! She is soo > > precious and tiny, 4lbs. 12oz now 25 days old and since hse came > home > > on the 8th she has spent most of her time here. I am wondering, > would > > it be the right thing to abandon the reversal idea, and just > adopt > > this baby if her mom will allow it, her answer right now is " my > b/f > > (not the babies father) loves her " NOT " I love her " hse really > doesnt > > seem to miss her at all, stops down long enough to bring diapers, > > would this be the right way to have a baby, what if she changes > her > > mind 2 years down the road? I would not be able to stand the > > heartache!! Or do I just chug along trying to save up money for a > TR > > or do both?? Any advice here would be GREATLY appreciated. BTW my > > fiancee doesnt have any biological children of his own and I would > > love for us to be able to have one otgether, but he says if we > adopt > > Chelsea then I didnt have to go through the pain!! We also dont > know > > if we should keep her name the same, and just change the last > name to > > , or give her a whole new name Ladies??? Her name now is > Chelsea > > Any advice is appreciated!! Sorry so long!! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2003 Report Share Posted August 16, 2003 Sorry I am a day late as always, but just playing devils advocate here....How would the ob/gyn no more about your policy than the guy that works for your insurance? Request a benefits book and look it up, you may have to go through human resources at your employer to get it but demand it!!!!! I had to when we were fighting with my dr's office. Even after I had it in writing, they still insisted that I sign an IOU that stated I would pay in full, immediately if the ins. didn't pay right up. (Thankfully they did pay right away) you can email me privately if you have any questions, I am sure the others are tired of hearing about my fight with the girls in my dr's office. Thank God, my dr is so awesome (course he may be sick of me soon cause I am going to refuse to see anyone but him for the rest of my pg. Good luck Jody > First thing, if you adopt her legally, mom can't change her mind in 2 years but she could make your lives tough. We were supposed to adopt our niece's baby a few years ago and she changed her mind last minute(very hard emotionally and we had already had quite a bit of money into it.. not that that mattered). But now that we look back, I really think it would have been hard because we believe that our niece and her mom would have been trying to undermine us all the time. However, it doesn't sound like she is interested anyway. Personally, if you do adopt her, I would change her last name just so mom has less claim to her. JMHO. Who knows, you may decide to adopt her and in a few years, have the TR and have another one anyway. Good Luck in whatever you decide! > > > SOOOO Disappointed!! > > > Ladies, > I went for my visit to my OB?GYN yesterday and he informed me that the > rep at my insurance company mislead me, my insurance will NOT cover > the reversal, I am SOO upset, I cried all afternoon, we want this so > bad, now I am finding myself doing some serious soul searching because > my neice ( the irresponsible one that had the preemie) well, she is > not sure if she wants to keep Chelsea, I have had her here for days > now and she has been such a blessing to us, my fiancee and I have > offeredto adopt her, but her mom isnt sure if she wants to keep her or > not. This baby was in Childrens Hospital for 2 weeks by herself before > her mom even went up to see her!! I just cant imagine what she went > through, and was all alone with no one to comfort her!! She is soo > precious and tiny, 4lbs. 12oz now 25 days old and since hse came home > on the 8th she has spent most of her time here. I am wondering, would > it be the right thing to abandon the reversal idea, and just adopt > this baby if her mom will allow it, her answer right now is " my b/f > (not the babies father) loves her " NOT " I love her " hse really doesnt > seem to miss her at all, stops down long enough to bring diapers, > would this be the right way to have a baby, what if she changes her > mind 2 years down the road? I would not be able to stand the > heartache!! Or do I just chug along trying to save up money for a TR > or do both?? Any advice here would be GREATLY appreciated. BTW my > fiancee doesnt have any biological children of his own and I would > love for us to be able to have one otgether, but he says if we adopt > Chelsea then I didnt have to go through the pain!! We also dont know > if we should keep her name the same, and just change the last name to > , or give her a whole new name Ladies??? Her name now is Chelsea > Any advice is appreciated!! Sorry so long!! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2003 Report Share Posted August 16, 2003 -ok, I know I am a pain in the butt but I have to add to this one tooo. I recieved documentation from my ins. everytime they paid something breaking it all down. Dr. charged x amt., ins. says this is amt is reasonable (usually much lower than the charge) and patient is only responsible for x amt. (usually 0 in my case except where they initially refused to cover anesthesia as they don't cover weight reduction stuff. When I explained to the woman, that I really didn't feel I could have gone through the surgery with out it she agreed to resubmitt. So any way the point I am trying to make here is maybe the dr. you went to didn't count on your tr sis's having a clue and would rather just charge you and make a bigger profit? Just my theory. Jody -- In TubalLigationReversal , " diana " <dadams@s...> wrote: > Terri, > Who is your insurance company? The reason I am asking is that we have bc/bs and when we first began this quest, we called the insurance company and they told us that it was covered so we started all the testing and ended up scheduling surgery. When the Dr.'s office called for an authorization code, they were told that we weren't covered. I was devastated to say the least!! I called the ins co. to find out why we were misled and was assured that we were covered. So I called the Dr.'s office back and told them who I spoke to and to call back. Well they did and of course couldn't talk to the same person, but were told that we were not covered. Well to make a long story short, after a few days of going back and forth, we were covered and they finally gave an authorization code to the quack. (That is another story in itself) I think it was someone's way of telling us that we needed to seek out a professional Dr. in this field, but when we were so stubborn, we got to find out for ourselves. Call the insurance company yourself and find out what they tell you. Don't just take the Dr.'s office word for it. Good luck. > SOOOO Disappointed!! > > > Ladies, > I went for my visit to my OB?GYN yesterday and he informed me that the > rep at my insurance company mislead me, my insurance will NOT cover > the reversal, I am SOO upset, I cried all afternoon, we want this so > bad, now I am finding myself doing some serious soul searching because > my neice ( the irresponsible one that had the preemie) well, she is > not sure if she wants to keep Chelsea, I have had her here for days > now and she has been such a blessing to us, my fiancee and I have > offeredto adopt her, but her mom isnt sure if she wants to keep her or > not. This baby was in Childrens Hospital for 2 weeks by herself before > her mom even went up to see her!! I just cant imagine what she went > through, and was all alone with no one to comfort her!! She is soo > precious and tiny, 4lbs. 12oz now 25 days old and since hse came home > on the 8th she has spent most of her time here. I am wondering, would > it be the right thing to abandon the reversal idea, and just adopt > this baby if her mom will allow it, her answer right now is " my b/f > (not the babies father) loves her " NOT " I love her " hse really doesnt > seem to miss her at all, stops down long enough to bring diapers, > would this be the right way to have a baby, what if she changes her > mind 2 years down the road? I would not be able to stand the > heartache!! Or do I just chug along trying to save up money for a TR > or do both?? Any advice here would be GREATLY appreciated. BTW my > fiancee doesnt have any biological children of his own and I would > love for us to be able to have one otgether, but he says if we adopt > Chelsea then I didnt have to go through the pain!! We also dont know > if we should keep her name the same, and just change the last name to > , or give her a whole new name Ladies??? Her name now is Chelsea > Any advice is appreciated!! Sorry so long!! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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