Re: Hi, venting and questions

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Hey ,

Just wanted to let you know something that Jen and I did to remember our

babies. There is a Catholic church in NY with the shrine for unborn

children. The site's address is:

http://www.innocents.com/Bookoflife.html

They also have a form that you fill out with your names, the baby/ies

names, and your address info. They said they hold a mass on the

first Friday of each month in honor of all those unborn children.

So, even if you are not near the city, your child can be in

their " Book of Life " .

Jen and I actually went to the city to see the names... it was amazing and

after your register your baby, they send you a beautiful certificate....

This helped us a lot.

lisa r

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Thank you, that is great to know!!! Come to think of it there is a shrine at the

catholic church here in our town but I will have to look into if they do

anything or not thanks!!!

Re: Hi, venting and questions

Hey ,

Just wanted to let you know something that Jen and I did to remember our

babies. There is a Catholic church in NY with the shrine for unborn

children. The site's address is:

http://www.innocents.com/Bookoflife.html

They also have a form that you fill out with your names, the baby/ies

names, and your address info. They said they hold a mass on the

first Friday of each month in honor of all those unborn children.

So, even if you are not near the city, your child can be in

their " Book of Life " .

Jen and I actually went to the city to see the names... it was amazing and

after your register your baby, they send you a beautiful certificate....

This helped us a lot.

lisa r

[Guest guest]

,

thanks!! and I would love to visit Sammi-Gayle's site what is the url? As for

sharinfg your experience...I havre written and rewritten mine and it is still

here in my pc not ready yet!!! Thank you for the ideas I do have a angel pin

and a candle anda precious moments figurine but nothing that seems right? do you

know what I mean? I dont know how to explaine it! Anyhow thanks!

laurfie

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I forgot to mention. My daughter Sammi-Gayle died due

to a ruptured ectopic preg. I had nothing to remember

her. I received nothing from the hospital. When I

found these online groups people gave me wonderful

ideas. IF you'd like, go to Trees for the Holy Land.

There you can pay only $18 per tree (of course you can

order more) they send you a beautiful colorful

certificate and plant a tree for whomever you wish in

Israel. It is so nice to be able to do this, and in

the most holiest of places. I did it and when I

received my certificate it came in a beautiful hand

made natural paper envelope that you can keep. I have

it framed on my bookcase with a little baby lamb I

bought for Sammi-Gayle, a gold candle and a ribbon I

made to wear at work yesterday. I also have a knitted

baby blanket that my grandmother gave me that I will

put in her memorial box. I am going to actually have

a remembrance service for her and release butterflies.

Sammi-Gayles nickname is Summer Butterfly because she

flew away in the summer 3 days before my 20th

birthday. Whenever you see a little trinket buy it if

you can. I bought a colorful butterfly keyring with a

cross and rainbow on it, and of course an angel lapel

pin. I also printed a little picture that says I'm an

Angels Mommy and have it on my desk taped beside a

pink and blue ribbon. I plan on doing lots more but I

hope I was able to help you get some ideas. Please

visit Sammi-Gayles site if you haven't already. I

will be trying to get her story up soon.

Unfortunatley it's kind of long, but I need to share

it and my horrible experience.

Good luck and I will be thinking of you and your

angel.

--- ? laurfie@...> wrote:

> Hi all!

> Here I am again with questions galore!!! Any good

> ideas on how NOT too over stress about this

> upcomming hsg test? I dream about it I wake up

> saying the name, hysterosalpingogram, over and over

> and etc. I am driving myself nuts!!!!! I have

> briefly looked into IVF because I am scared to death

> of what I will find, I have thought that if there is

> a blockage, that I will just have them yank the

> stinkin tube out right then and there......anyone

> else relate to all this? I have talked with my dh

> and he keeps saying not to worry, we will conquer

> this when we cross it, and I know he understands,

> but I am still stressing!! He lets me talk about it

> constantly and pop up with ideas about what to do,

> but I am still stressing major!!! Then I think

> maybe I am giving up too easily. and in all reality

> I think I am too scared to try IVF even if we could

> afford it, which we probably really cant but....I

> know I will have some sort of an answer next week

> but man this waiting is awful I am constantly

> thinking about it and I think that makes everything

> seem worse. I keep thinking of all the possible

> outcomes of any possible situation and

> AAAUUUUUGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! Ok I think I am done

> with that for the moment.

>

> Anyone what to share ideas of how to memorial? I

> have a web site memorial but I want something I can

> " have " something physical, I never had anything to

> remember the baby, I have the nursery but I am

> hoping to still use it, All I have is the medical

> papers from the hospital stating I had an ectopic pg

> removed....yea that iswhat I want ina memorial, NOT.

> although I have kept them so they probably will

> anyhow but, I have Precious Moments figurine that

> my dh got me and it is called " our loss is Heavens

> gain " it is an Angel holding a baby Angel in its

> arms... I have my candle, I have the rose my mom

> gave me in the hosp, I have had lots of thoughts

> and am wondering what some of you did to

> memorialize. SOmeone mentioned a scrapbook, what

> kind of things did you put into it? See I think I

> would like to do a scrapbook, but I dont know what

> to put in it I really dont have anything but my own

> thoughts and what dr apts took place and results

> etc, I dont have an ultrasound that proves I had a

> baby I just dont know what I would put in one.

> I have thought about planting a rose bush or a

> flower or something, I have thought about making a

> stone to place in my garden, any ideas?

>

> Thanks for listening to me vent and all!!

> Love Ya

> laura t

>

> mom to

> 3 Angels in Heaven

> and 2 here on EarthGet more from the Web. FREE MSN

> Explorer download : http://explorer.msn.com

>

>

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>

>

=====

Sincerely~

Mommy Sammi-Gayle Lynn, Born into the arms of

Angels 7-28-1988 &

http://geocities.com/manthasmom2000

http://angelcities.com/members/manthasmom

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[Guest guest]

,

I know I stressed about my HSG last week, so I have no real

strategies for not doing so. Well, okay, I did the same things I have

been doing to take care of myself and be gentle with myself, and

probably it did help. Man, I sure hate to think what it would be like

if I >weren't< doing anything!! I really did feel much better after

the HSG, even though the result was that one of my tubes was blocked.

If I could have that tube just gone, without having surgery, I would

do it. But they can't " yank it then and there " because they aren't

inside, so don't worry about reacting rashly . And the

HSG really didn't hurt that much. It sounds as if your husband is

being wonderful! Lucky both of you!

So, what I did/do to relieve stress (in no particular order): vent

here (you did that!), talk to anyone who will remotely listen, get

counseling, exercise, drink relaxing tea (chamomile, lavender, lemon

balm, etc.) listen to music that makes me feel better, make love with

my husband, play with the dogs, play with little kids (not my own,

unfortunately, but still lots of fun!), read about ectopic

pregnancies, read funny books (I could get you a list if you want)

and mysteries, watch funny movies (Monty Python, Wallace and Gromit,

What's Up Doc?), buy beautiful things for myself (I have on these new

earrings that I got from an Artist's Open Studio last weekend. The

are enameled and have on them what I am calling bluebirds of

happiness) make myself a shrine for my baby.

I had struggled with how to memorialize my baby, too. Because, like

you I didn't have much. A couple positive pregnancy tests was about

it. What I did was buy a little clay shrine (from another art

festival) and put in it a little broken songbird egg and a little egg

painted with Pooh and Piglet, from an artist friend of mine. And then

2 candles (beeswax, so they smell good). The broken egg is for my

last baby, and the Pooh egg is for the next. When I bought the shrine

I really didn't know what I was going to put into it besides candles,

but I had the two eggs and the ideas just came to me. I have since

added some fall leaves (rub them with hand cream or glycerin and they

will stay soft and colored) and a tiny marble with stars and a moon

(for my starbaby!) and a fortune cookie fortune saying " happy events

will soon happen in your home " . And I'm sure there will be more. I

burn the candles and send love to and talk to my babies every night

with my tea. And it really helps.

Sending you lots of love and hugs and healing, calming energy,