Re: chrissy

[Guest guest]

Dear Chrissy: Well, you have hit my lawyer nerve - Please go to see a

lawyer IMMEDIATELY!!! And, don't talk to the insurance company!

Lovette

[Guest guest]

Hi Lovette,

Thank you for the advice. I am not normally a " sue-happy " kind of person,

but this time I must sue. My life is already full of pain and fatigue and

stress. This accident was a result of a careless 19-year-old. I feel I must

pursue this legally, and we have a good lawyer with whom we will meet on

Monday. I've already been to the chiropractor, and I'm a mess, naturally. I

have pretty bad whiplash, which is causing its own problems and exacerbating

my other symptoms from the Lyme/Fibromyalgia/Myofascial Pain.

Thank you for being here for me!

Hugs,

Chrissy Ü

In a message dated 11/29/98 11:03:24 AM Eastern Standard Time,

smott@... writes:

<< Dear Chrissy: Well, you have hit my lawyer nerve - Please go to see a

lawyer IMMEDIATELY!!! And, don't talk to the insurance company!

Lovette >>

[Guest guest]

If you are going to litigate.... don't discuss the case nor your medical

problems.

Especially not on line where you have no privacy....and e-mails last forever.

Best wishes,

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

This is great advice for all of us to remember, not just litigation, but

doctor names and information too, the archives are supposed to be private on

this list, only for members, but anyone can join the list....so you never

know.

Thanks,

Marta

>From: Magic2626@...

>

>If you are going to litigate.... don't discuss the case nor your medical

>problems.

>

>Especially not on line where you have no privacy....and e-mails last

forever.

>

>

>Best wishes,

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Thank you for the reminder. It's a shame, but we do have to be so careful

with what we say since everyone is always looking over our shoulders,

especially for a way out of responsibility. Thanks again!

Hugs,

Chrissy Ü

In a message dated 12/2/98 12:47:24 PM Eastern Standard Time,

Magic2626@... writes:

<< If you are going to litigate.... don't discuss the case nor your medical

problems.

Especially not on line where you have no privacy....and e-mails last forever.

Best wishes,

>>

[Guest guest]

Hey there Suz; I have been so busy and didn't answer you mail that it is so

good to hear you got moved and like it where you are. I've thought of you

often, thank you for letting us know your family and Chrissy are doing well.

Maybe we shall say hi at Chat some eve. Till soon, Pattymelt

[Guest guest]

Sorry Suz, we have been having Chat on Monday and Thursday eves and

Wednesday daytime as we did. They are now through the chat and

are held at these times, I'm not sure if you are mst or central:

10:00 AM/PST WED DAYTIME

11:00 AM/MST

12:00 PM/CST

1:00 PM/EST

6:00 PM/PST MON & THURS EVENINGS

7:00 PM/MST

8:00 PM/CST

9:00 PM/EST

[Guest guest]

Dear Chrissy,

Just follow your heart and intuition. And if, for some reason, you make a

mistake in judgment like my mom did, don't ever beat yourself up for it some

time in the future. I love my mom and I never blame her for any of the pain

I had gone through. No one has control over this disease. You are a loving

mother, and when your daughter grows up, she will still love you, as I love

my mom, and won't blame you for any of this. Trust in your motherly

instinct, trust in your love for your child, and trust in your child's love

for you. Most of all trust in the bond that a mother and child form in the

first moments of birth. That is what matters for life.

With Love,

Meg.

Re: fear

Hi Meg,

I find the 12 steps to be similar to teachings from many faiths. I

have listed the steps below. Each is followed with some writing

about my perspective. While I am not an alcoholic, I have many

friends, family-members and colleagues who struggle with different

addictions. People with disabilities are twice as likely to be

alcoholics as the general population. Knowing this encouraged me to

take note of how alcoholics in recovery learn to survive and even

thrive. My political and social beliefs are deeply rooted in a

commitment to peer-mentoring and self-help. Bill W. & Dr. Bob S.

established quite a foundation in 1935 (A.A) upon which the

independent living movement has grown and better defined it's self-

help emphasis.

The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous

1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-that our lives had

become unmanageable.

-- I am powerless over my genetics and many aspects of my physical

condition. When I feel that many disability-related things are

disruptive, I try not to fret about those things I can't control so I

can have more energy for the things over which I might have some

influence.

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore

us to sanity.

-- I am an agnostic who is content with not knowing either way if

there is a higher power in terms of a god. On a more practical

level, I believe " good " things are as likely to happen as " bad "

things. It's more about how we choose to respond.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of

God as we understood Him.

-- Speaking in terms of " god " for the purpose of this step, I have

committed to live in the best way that I know how, by following my

ethics and values. I am constantly evaluating my will and desires in

order to live closer to my ethics. This requires me to admit my

weaknesses, mistakes, inconsistencies, etc. It's a commitment to

always strive for growth and more compassion.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

-- Acknowledging that it is a lifelong journey to reach through

reactions to the pure emotions I feel. I used to cry when I was

angry because my anger was muddied with fear. I was afraid that if I

expressed anger to someone who assisted with my care, they would hurt

or abandon me. Bottling up my anger made it get out of proportion.

An example: I know that it's disproportionate to get angry when an

attendant makes a mistake unless it is a repeated mistake and is done

without care. I discuss with them the practical details about the

mistake separate from another aspect such as my hurt feelings from

feeling ignored. Poor dish-washing is simply annoying. Ignoring

that cleanliness is important to me is probably closer to the heart

of my feelings of anger.

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the

exact nature of our wrongs.

-- Constantly re-evalutating how I treat others better. This has

been very helpful working with my attendants. I'm getting better at

owning my part in conflict. I am less and less ashamed of my

mistakes, and so spend less time on shame and more on resolution.

6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of

character.

-- This one isn't relevant to me.

7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

-- Take responsibility for my shortcomings and live committed to

lifelong improvement.

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to

make amends to them all.

-- I've been doing this for a long time. I used to be very afraid of

admitting how hurtful I can be. I feel better emotionally and

physically when I " own my shit. "

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when

to do so would injure them or others.

-- It's become easier, and now if I do or say something I regret, I

try to be as honest to myself first, so I can then be honest with

others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong

promptly admitted it.

-- As I do this more and more, I hesitate less or not at all to make

reparations. It's liberating to do the right thing.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious

contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of

His will for us and the power to carry that out.

-- I lean heavily on the first part of the Serenity Prayer,

especially when life feels very difficult and am learning the rest of

the poem so it can always be with me.

The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity

to accept the things I cannot change;

courage to change the things I can;

and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;

Enjoying one moment at a time;

Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;

Taking, as He did, this sinful world

as it is, not as I would have it;

Trusting that He will make all things right

if I surrender to His Will;

That I may be reasonably happy in this life

and supremely happy with Him

Forever in the next.

Amen.

--Reinhold Niebuhr

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we

tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these

principles in all our affairs.

-- I feel very open to learning how people with disabilities, as well

as non-disabled folks, cope with the vast complexities that life

hands us. I try not to judge others as wrong when I disagree. I

work to be a better person and take responsibility to myself. I've

seen this especially within my family and amongst my attendants.

>

> Alana,

>

> Please tell me how you use the 12-step tradition to deal with

living with

> SMA.

>

> Meg.

>

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[Guest guest]

thanks chrissy, we'll need it

chris

christine rowe <chrissylionhearted@...> wrote:

Hi Chris

I do hope you will be able to find the right treatment for your Son and gentle

hugs too

Chrissy

[Guest guest]

Hi Chris

You are very welcome. I do hope you have a lovely day and you are very

welcome to IM me anytime you want to chat, I am at

chrissylionhearted@... or christinerowe63976@...

hugs

Chrissy

Rome <christinerome@...> wrote:

thanks chrissy, we'll need it

chris

christine rowe <chrissylionhearted@...> wrote:

Hi Chris

I do hope you will be able to find the right treatment for your Son and gentle

hugs too

Chrissy

[Guest guest]

thanks. loooove the email name.

chris

christine rowe <chrissylionhearted@...> wrote:

Hi Chris

You are very welcome. I do hope you have a lovely day and you are very

welcome to IM me anytime you want to chat, I am at

chrissylionhearted@... or christinerowe63976@...

hugs

Chrissy

Rome <christinerome@...> wrote:

thanks chrissy, we'll need it

chris

christine rowe <chrissylionhearted@...> wrote:

Hi Chris

I do hope you will be able to find the right treatment for your Son and gentle

hugs too

Chrissy

[Guest guest]

Hi Chris

Thank you for your kind words, my email name was from a choice of ID's and I

am a Leo, I try and help people and I like being called Chrissy LOL!!!

Take care and have a lovely day

hugs

Chrissy

Rome <christinerome@...> wrote:

thanks. loooove the email name.

chris