Guest guest Posted February 21, 2003 Report Share Posted February 21, 2003 WOW IS RIGHT! Oh, Jacquie this is so WONDERFUL. Here's to friendship! Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 24, 2003 Report Share Posted February 24, 2003 > Don't make what he wants just because he's asking. You can always tell him > you'll get them something when you're done with what you're doing but you're > not making popcorn this time. And go right ahead and refuse to hand out > soda if you don't want to share. Yes to this. I have had all varieties of greedy kids in my house and sometimes I let them have something (Sophie had a herd of little girls in here today making frozen pizza) and sometimes I do not. It's my stuff, my house and I don't even feel I need to offer explanations to little kids. I do remember that I told my kids that they could not eat a treat outside in the yard with a friend without offering something to the friend and that one summer kept asking for popsicles far far more than he usually did. It turned out that the little girl who lived behind us had caught on to the fact that she could get a popsicle by asking to ask for one. Once I learned that the little popsicle gold mine just dried right up. I think I just quit buying them. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 Sniff sniff Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh Hugs and lets throw in a high five too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 Aww, Jacquie, that is so sweet and cool for . Can I borrow Ben when you're done with him? Maggie ________________________________________________________________ Sign Up for Juno Platinum Internet Access Today Only $9.95 per month! Visit www.juno.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 WOO HOO ERIC!!!!! That's SOOOO cool Jacquie. Absolutely wonderful. Debbie with twins - Jordan (ASD) 2.5yo - (NT) 2.5yo I THINK has a friend!!! I think, I think, I think.... Tonight Ben came over at 5 and said he had to be home at 6pm. He hadn't been here, or there, since a week ago -- so I'd sort of written it all off as a one-time thing. Needless to say, I was glad to see him. It went pretty well, even though Marc was at work -- I managed to keep my nose OUT of the boys' business except for once calling aside and reminding him to PLAY with Ben, for pete's sake! Anyway, 6pm rolled around and Ben and asked if Ben could stay til 6:30 because Spongebob was on. I said yes, and that at 6:30 we'd walk Ben home. So they IMMEDIATELY started planning for to stay at BEN's for a while after that. Yikes! So at 6:20, Ben's mom knocked on the door. She was going uptown and was fetching Ben to come with. Well, you'd think the child's feet had been cemented to the floor, so she asked if I could keep him for 20 more minutes. Sure! While she was gone, I told the boys that couldn't go to Ben's tonight, but how about tomorrow after school? Yup, that was great. When Ben's mom came back, I asked her if that was okay with her, and she said yes. Then came up and asked her her name, (Debbie), and told her his name was . " I know, " she said to him, and to me she said: " All I HEAR is his name! 'Mom, can I go to 's?' 'Mom, I want to go to 's.' 'Can I go to 's house now?' ' lives at the second house from the end, Mom, I can walk there myself.' " " That's so nice to hear, " I replied, choking back a big lump of tears. So tomorrow I'm picking up both boys at school, and Ben's older brother, and dropping them off at Ben's house. WOW. Jacquie -who is amazed that can act as freaky as he likes around Ben and Ben doesn't seem to give a shit! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 Happy for you and k. That is so amazing. I would like to have a window to the future and see Dessiree at 6 years. <http://skins.hotbar.com/skins/mailskins/em/080402/080402cool_prv.gif> Cecilia from Perú, mom to Dessirée (05/07/99) Lovely husband -----Mensaje original----- De: The Hunny Family Enviado el: Martes, 04 de Marzo de 2003 09:43 p.m. Para: parenting_autism Asunto: I THINK has a friend!!! I think, I think, I think.... Tonight Ben came over at 5 and said he had to be home at 6pm. He hadn't been here, or there, since a week ago -- so I'd sort of written it all off as a one-time thing. Needless to say, I was glad to see him. It went pretty well, even though Marc was at work -- I managed to keep my nose OUT of the boys' business except for once calling aside and reminding him to PLAY with Ben, for pete's sake! Anyway, 6pm rolled around and Ben and asked if Ben could stay til 6:30 because Spongebob was on. I said yes, and that at 6:30 we'd walk Ben home. So they IMMEDIATELY started planning for to stay at BEN's for a while after that. Yikes! So at 6:20, Ben's mom knocked on the door. She was going uptown and was fetching Ben to come with. Well, you'd think the child's feet had been cemented to the floor, so she asked if I could keep him for 20 more minutes. Sure! While she was gone, I told the boys that couldn't go to Ben's tonight, but how about tomorrow after school? Yup, that was great. When Ben's mom came back, I asked her if that was okay with her, and she said yes. Then came up and asked her her name, (Debbie), and told her his name was . " I know, " she said to him, and to me she said: " All I HEAR is his name! 'Mom, can I go to 's?' 'Mom, I want to go to 's.' 'Can I go to 's house now?' ' lives at the second house from the end, Mom, I can walk there myself.' " " That's so nice to hear, " I replied, choking back a big lump of tears. So tomorrow I'm picking up both boys at school, and Ben's older brother, and dropping them off at Ben's house. WOW. Jacquie -who is amazed that can act as freaky as he likes around Ben and Ben doesn't seem to give a shit! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 Do Ben and Debbie know about the " A " word? Sissi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2003 Report Share Posted March 3, 2003 Cool!!!!! Sounds like you have an Andre too! Jacquie H I THINK has a friend!!! I think, I think, I think.... Tonight Ben came over at 5 and said he had to be home at 6pm. He hadn't been here, or there, since a week ago -- so I'd sort of written it all off as a one-time thing. Needless to say, I was glad to see him. It went pretty well, even though Marc was at work -- I managed to keep my nose OUT of the boys' business except for once calling aside and reminding him to PLAY with Ben, for pete's sake! Anyway, 6pm rolled around and Ben and asked if Ben could stay til 6:30 because Spongebob was on. I said yes, and that at 6:30 we'd walk Ben home. So they IMMEDIATELY started planning for to stay at BEN's for a while after that. Yikes! So at 6:20, Ben's mom knocked on the door. She was going uptown and was fetching Ben to come with. Well, you'd think the child's feet had been cemented to the floor, so she asked if I could keep him for 20 more minutes. Sure! While she was gone, I told the boys that couldn't go to Ben's tonight, but how about tomorrow after school? Yup, that was great. When Ben's mom came back, I asked her if that was okay with her, and she said yes. Then came up and asked her her name, (Debbie), and told her his name was . " I know, " she said to him, and to me she said: " All I HEAR is his name! 'Mom, can I go to 's?' 'Mom, I want to go to 's.' 'Can I go to 's house now?' ' lives at the second house from the end, Mom, I can walk there myself.' " " That's so nice to hear, " I replied, choking back a big lump of tears. So tomorrow I'm picking up both boys at school, and Ben's older brother, and dropping them off at Ben's house. WOW. Jacquie -who is amazed that can act as freaky as he likes around Ben and Ben doesn't seem to give a shit! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2003 Report Share Posted March 4, 2003 > Jacquie -who is amazed that can act as freaky as he likes around Ben and Ben doesn't seem to give a shit! < hey, that's what real friends are for Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2003 Report Share Posted March 4, 2003 Jacquie, This is so cool for !! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2003 Report Share Posted March 4, 2003 Andre's parents didnt know until last soccer season. I felt almost strange when it came out. I wasnt really telling her and she hadnt asked me. We were at soccer practice together and a mom asked me if I was Greggory's mom. She wanted to know why he called me Jacquie. So I explained it to her. Then I wondered all weekend if that would make any differnce to Tonya(andre's mom). Jeff tried to reassure me it would make no differnce. But I wondered if I should have told her sooner. The next week Andre invited Greggory over again and everything seemed fine. She later told me she would have never guessed Greggory was autistic. I still wonder if I should have told her sooner but it seems to be ok that I didnt. Jacquie H Re: I THINK has a friend!!! > Do Ben and Debbie know about the " A " word? > > Sissi I just asked Marc that -- turned away from the screen and said, " did you tell ben's mom about 's autism? " -- because he was the first one in contact with their family. I just didn't even think to mention it last night, figuring he had. He hadn't! I guess I'll wait and see how this goes. He was over at their house for an hour last week with no problems; so I think I'll just play it by ear for now. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2003 Report Share Posted March 4, 2003 YEAH ERIC! YEAH JACQUIE! YEAH BEN! YEAH DEBBIE! WooHoo! Penny :-D I THINK has a friend!!! I think, I think, I think.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2003 Report Share Posted March 4, 2003 i haven't replyed to this post yet. i am really pleased for you and for eric jacquie but i have to tell you this whole scenario frightens the shit out of me. i just can't imagine rowan ever going to play at another childs house on his own - EVER! the thought of it sends chills up my spine. rowan's not eric though. i'll just crawl back into my isolation chamber now ;o) M.G.mum to Sebastian, 11 kinda quirky(NT) Rowan, 6 extra quirky (ASD) married to and living in Northern Ontario Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2003 Report Share Posted March 4, 2003 I think, I think, I think.... Tonight Ben came over at 5 and said he had to be home at 6pm. He hadn't been here, or there, since a week ago -- so I'd sort of written it all off as a one-time thing. Needless to say, I was glad to see him. It went pretty well, even though Marc was at work -- I managed to keep my nose OUT of the boys' business except for once calling aside and reminding him to PLAY with Ben, for pete's sake! Anyway, 6pm rolled around and Ben and asked if Ben could stay til 6:30 because Spongebob was on. I said yes, and that at 6:30 we'd walk Ben home. So they IMMEDIATELY started planning for to stay at BEN's for a while after that. Yikes! So at 6:20, Ben's mom knocked on the door. She was going uptown and was fetching Ben to come with. Well, you'd think the child's feet had been cemented to the floor, so she asked if I could keep him for 20 more minutes. Sure! While she was gone, I told the boys that couldn't go to Ben's tonight, but how about tomorrow after school? Yup, that was great. When Ben's mom came back, I asked her if that was okay with her, and she said yes. Then came up and asked her her name, (Debbie), and told her his name was . " I know, " she said to him, and to me she said: " All I HEAR is his name! 'Mom, can I go to 's?' 'Mom, I want to go to 's.' 'Can I go to 's house now?' ' lives at the second house from the end, Mom, I can walk there myself.' " " That's so nice to hear, " I replied, choking back a big lump of tears. So tomorrow I'm picking up both boys at school, and Ben's older brother, and dropping them off at Ben's house. WOW. Jacquie -who is amazed that can act as freaky as he likes around Ben and Ben doesn't seem to give a shit! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2003 Report Share Posted March 5, 2003 > Do Ben and Debbie know about the " A " word? > > Sissi I just asked Marc that -- turned away from the screen and said, " did you tell ben's mom about 's autism? " -- because he was the first one in contact with their family. I just didn't even think to mention it last night, figuring he had. He hadn't! I guess I'll wait and see how this goes. He was over at their house for an hour last week with no problems; so I think I'll just play it by ear for now. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2003 Report Share Posted March 5, 2003 > Oh, Jacquie this is so WONDERFUL. > > Here's to friendship! Yeah, well...they're HERE now, and Ben is once again refusing to go home! So I set the kitchen timer and came up here, and when the timer goes off, WE " RE WALKING HIM HOME. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2003 Report Share Posted March 7, 2003 OMG, Jacque are you complaining? Maybe k is making you enter into the NT world too fast. Cecilia from Perú, mom to Dessirée (05/07/99) Lovely husband -----Mensaje original----- De: The Hunny Family Enviado el: Sábado, 08 de Marzo de 2003 11:26 a.m. Para: parenting_autism Asunto: Re: I THINK has a friend!!! > Aww, Jacquie, that is so sweet and cool for . Can I borrow Ben when > you're done with him? > > Maggie I'm done with him. He never goes away. I NEED to work on being assertive. He's only 6, for pete's sake! Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2003 Report Share Posted March 7, 2003 Sorry, Jacque. I mean Jacquie. Cecilia from Perú, mom to Dessirée (05/07/99) Lovely husband -----Mensaje original----- De: Cecilia Enviado el: Viernes, 07 de Marzo de 2003 10:34 a.m. Para: parenting_autism Asunto: RE: I THINK has a friend!!! Importancia: Alta OMG, Jacque are you complaining? Maybe k is making you enter into the NT world too fast. Cecilia from Perú, mom to Dessirée (05/07/99) Lovely husband -----Mensaje original----- De: The Hunny Family Enviado el: Sábado, 08 de Marzo de 2003 11:26 a.m. Para: parenting_autism Asunto: Re: I THINK has a friend!!! > Aww, Jacquie, that is so sweet and cool for . Can I borrow Ben when > you're done with him? > > Maggie I'm done with him. He never goes away. I NEED to work on being assertive. He's only 6, for pete's sake! Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2003 Report Share Posted March 7, 2003 > Jacquie > -whose own routine is being messed up and is having a HARD time dealing with it! Ah ha!! So that's the problem. It's not Ben exactly, it's just that his presence is throwing off your need for sameness! Sorry Sweetie, if 's going to make friends and fit more into the nt world, your routines are going to suffer. Sucks, doesn't it? ;-p Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2003 Report Share Posted March 7, 2003 Now, I have a question: > > When NT kids go to other houses, do they generally ask for food? Like, say, > WAFFLES? And for a can of the good soda? Or am I being played, here? > > Jacquie Oh YES...they do...when joshua (now almost 15, nt) was little he had friends over, and all they seemed to do was EAT! But, not waffles..lol....usually they wanted soda, koolaid, and mostly snacks type things, like cookies, crackers..etc. I think they try to find the house that has the GOOD food!!! I loved it tho, i would sometimes make chocolate chip cookies when he had friends over to play... good luck to you all week!!! nancy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2003 Report Share Posted March 7, 2003 I know some kids do and some dont. Jeff had a friend who would just go into their fridge and get stuff out. One day Mikey(the friend) woke up before the rest of the family and cooked up an entire package of bacon and carton of eggs for his breakfast! :-O He is totally nt but a bit...ummm....weird? I love him personally but he wasnt opening MY fridge. And some of Greggory's friends will ask for things but usually Greggory feds them before he gets a chance. I know that Greggory told Tonya(Andre's mom) that he was hungry. Jacquie H Re: I THINK has a friend!!! > > Ah ha!! So that's the problem. It's not Ben exactly, it's just that his > presence is throwing off your need for sameness! AND for reasonable expectations of my expectations being met! ie: when Ben said he was going to Florida for March Break, I mentall assimilated he was going away for March break. So WHY is he in my living room right now? Because he's going to Florida on March 25th! AFTER March break! <sigh> Now, I have a question: When NT kids go to other houses, do they generally ask for food? Like, say, WAFFLES? And for a can of the good soda? Or am I being played, here? Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2003 Report Share Posted March 7, 2003 > When NT kids go to other houses, do they generally ask for food? Like, say, > WAFFLES? And for a can of the good soda? Or am I being played, here? Often yes. Especially the soda. Tell them they may have a waffle or an apple and a glass of milk. No soda. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2003 Report Share Posted March 7, 2003 I hand out the soda. But that is just me. In fact most anything in the house is fair game. But you need to set your limits. Whatever you want to give Ben should be what he gets and no more. I just realised that my Ben(Benny) is alot like your Ben. Jacquie H Re: I THINK has a friend!!! > When NT kids go to other houses, do they generally ask for food? Like, say, > WAFFLES? And for a can of the good soda? Or am I being played, here? Often yes. Especially the soda. Tell them they may have a waffle or an apple and a glass of milk. No soda. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2003 Report Share Posted March 7, 2003 Yeah, some kids do. I think it depends on how well they were taught. At that age, they might not have been told about that part of manners yet. Maybe you could keep something inexpensive on hand (koolaide and some snack crackers maybe) so you can offer them something when he's got company? Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2003 Report Share Posted March 7, 2003 Jacquie, Don't make what he wants just because he's asking. You can always tell him you'll get them something when you're done with what you're doing but you're not making popcorn this time. And go right ahead and refuse to hand out soda if you don't want to share. You don't have to with a 6 year old! ;-) Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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