Re: Navigating life's changes

[Guest guest]

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Sorry about your husband's job. And also sorry that n is having

trouble adjusting to Phoebe. It was very very hard for Putter when Robbie

was born, and hard for me too. The fact that I was still nursing Putter made

things both easier and harder. Easier because I let Putter nurse very

freely and he did not feel as put aside as he might have, but harder because

I do not actually enjoy nursing two kids at once, but nursing was

practically Putter's only human connection and I was worried about losing

it. It was SO hard.

But it did get better and right now as I sit typing Robbie and Putter are

chasing each other and laughing and obviously enjoying each other.

Unfortunately Robbie is naked and I am not sure why as he was dressed in his

pajamas just a few minutes ago...

Salli

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry about your husband. You need this like a hole in your head.

Are you able to file for unemployment? My best friend has a two month old

and things aren't pretty there either. I wish I had some tips for you. My

husband found a new job by visiting all the websites online.

Best of luck to you both.

[Guest guest]

Well the poop has hit the fan. n has finally realized that his new

baby sister is a permanent fixture in our household, and he is not happy

about it.

What began with simple ambivalence has escalated to outrage. n is

clearly feeling utterly betrayed that I would supplant him with a new baby.

He cries inconsolably and can barely stand to be near me. When I pick up

the baby, he falls apart. His obnoxious behaviors have intensified. It is

a bit much to handle on so little sleep.

Poor little guy. I know it must be tough for him, but his language delay

makes it difficult to address.

Oh, and (dh) was laid off this afternoon.

As if having a new baby weren't enough : (

(n 31 mo, ASD?/hyperlexic?)

(Phoebe, 2 weeks)

[Guest guest]

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Blech.

What a sucky day...

I don't know what else to say...but have a (((hug)))

We're here to listen.

Penny

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Well the poop has hit the fan. n has finally realized that his new

baby sister is a permanent fixture in our household, and he is not happy

about it.

What began with simple ambivalence has escalated to outrage. n is

clearly feeling utterly betrayed that I would supplant him with a new baby.

He cries inconsolably and can barely stand to be near me. When I pick up

the baby, he falls apart. His obnoxious behaviors have intensified. It is

a bit much to handle on so little sleep.

Poor little guy. I know it must be tough for him, but his language delay

makes it difficult to address.

Oh, and (dh) was laid off this afternoon.

As if having a new baby weren't enough : (

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[Guest guest]

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I'm so sorry that n is having difficulties with the baby and your

husband got laid off. The last thing you need, especially on such little

sleep. I only have one child, , but when I babysat my friend's

baby when was two, he wasn't a happy camper either. He cried all

the time, I couldn't trust him any where near the baby....but at least it

was only temporary. My sympathy is with you.

Maggie

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[Guest guest]

((((()))))

Sorry about 's job. I hope it's only temporary. On the good side,

maybe he'll be able to help you get some sleep?

I hope n adjusts to Phoebe quickly for you.

Sue

[Guest guest]

Ack!! OMG... I am so sorry to hear that . Hopes and

prayers for work soon for dh. The baby adjustment thing can be

difficult, especially on no sleep. Everything is difficult with no

sleep! needed lots of mommy time and he did act out some.

Fortunately we have enough people in our house that someone is

practically always available for baby holding. That wasn't

necessarily the case when I just had little ones.

When Phoebe eats, could he sit with you and let you read him a

story? After she eats and presumably falls asleep as that is what

most wee ones do would he be receptive to some 1:1 time with you? If

Phoebe is somewhat predictable at all maybe you could try to schedule

a bit of time with him before feeding Phoebe? Or is there an

activity he would like to do that would be something special to do

while Phoebe is eating, and then maybe sit with you after?

Not sure if any of that will work, but hopefully you might get an

idea from this that will be helpful.

[Guest guest]

Thanks to all who responded to my lament about new baby and 's lay off.

The company is going under so this is definitely the end. However we are

getting 60 days' severance, so things aren't immediately dire. is also

a computer programmer, and we are in the Atlanta area, so I'm hopeful he

will find something soon. We came to Atlanta three years ago at the height

of the tech bubble, and we have been fortunate that 's start-up lasted

this long ... It isn't a huge emergency yet, just unsettling and naturally

I can't help but be a little anxious.

As for n adjusting to his baby sister ... I think only time will tell.

I have showered him in one-on-one time, but it doesn't seem to be enough.

So I'm just taking it day to day.

I could say more, but it will have to wait for another post - - baby is

crying ...

Thanks to all for your support!

(n 31 mo, ASD?/hyperlexic?)

(Phoebe, 2 weeks)

[Guest guest]

Big hugs to you guys! I know when I broguth Alec home Greggory was just

thrilled. I was very lucky. Greggory was dx'd 6 months later at 2.5 yrs. This

time I wasn't worried about how Alec would react to the new baby. And I wasn't

worried about Greggory either. I was lucky again. Greggory adores her. Probably

too much. Drives me crazy sometimes. And Alec just ignores her. Still does

for the most part. But then why should he acknowlege her. She doesnt do anything

for him. Sorry about your husband. any jobs out there for him.

Jacquie H

Re: Navigating life's changes

Well the poop has hit the fan. n has finally realized that his new

baby sister is a permanent fixture in our household, and he is not happy

about it.

What began with simple ambivalence has escalated to outrage. n is

clearly feeling utterly betrayed that I would supplant him with a new baby.

He cries inconsolably and can barely stand to be near me. When I pick up

the baby, he falls apart. His obnoxious behaviors have intensified. It is

a bit much to handle on so little sleep.

Poor little guy. I know it must be tough for him, but his language delay

makes it difficult to address.

Oh, and (dh) was laid off this afternoon.

As if having a new baby weren't enough : (

(n 31 mo, ASD?/hyperlexic?)

(Phoebe, 2 weeks)